Sup brahs, seen the thread bumped a few times but finally plucked up the courage to upload pics to BodySpace / Gallery.
Obviously main issue - being bald. I've lucked into two relationships previously, just out of one and the thought of having to date again isn't good. Gives me anxiety - which i clearly must address first.
So yeah I know I also need to work on confidence. But nights out etc and in general I don't get the vibe chicks would welcome an approach. I think being bald and slap bang average dude I'm lost in the shuffle so to speak.
Guess I'm looking some feedback from dudes that have worked on confidence etc and any advice on how to try make being bald work. Trying to lose more weight per from BodySpace pics. Was 14 st 8 at start of year and work on confidence at the min.
Thanks in advance dudes
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06-04-2018, 03:15 PM #3391*Stand by Your Own Trial & Not What Others Say* ~ Gudmundur Jonsson
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06-04-2018, 03:15 PM #3392
https://i.imgur.com/0e9KCVl.jpg
Personality of a potato.
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06-04-2018, 03:19 PM #3393
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06-04-2018, 03:24 PM #3394
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06-04-2018, 03:44 PM #3395
honestly my man and i'm being complete honest my man if you don't fck a chick and spread those genes your ancestors are going to disown u in valhalla for forsaking their genetic blessing
no homo
Get a tan, maybe a tattoo, work on your beard a little bit more. You need a lil grit to roughen out that smooth cueball of yours. U got this
no homo
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06-04-2018, 03:50 PM #3396
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06-04-2018, 04:19 PM #3397
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06-04-2018, 04:21 PM #3398
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06-04-2018, 04:33 PM #3399
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06-04-2018, 05:01 PM #3400
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06-04-2018, 05:04 PM #3401
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06-04-2018, 11:24 PM #3402
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06-04-2018, 11:27 PM #3403
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06-04-2018, 11:50 PM #3404
was never bald but being very experienced in building confidence and social aptitude - number 1 thing is being comfortable and happy with yourself.
you can only fake confidence so long before it starts to show. obviously if your goal is to just hit/quit then whatever, learn to fake it.
first tip for you would be to cut and get tan. like get a tanning membership asap. also grow stubble
when you are finally happy with yourself, you legit just need to get out there and fail - several 100 times. this sounds absolutely ridiculous but what you will start to see and feel is that the more and more you do it, the easier it becomes and the more comfortable you get just approaching and throwing yourself out there. once you beat your fears, you will be able to date/hit well above what you were doing before, and well above what you thought you were worth.
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06-05-2018, 12:09 AM #3405
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06-05-2018, 01:15 AM #3406
Thanks for taking the time to respond man. Cutting is number one on the priority now. Had also contemplated growing a short beard and that seems to be the consensus ITT. So I'm going for that.
Confidence is the big one and what you said it does make sense. I just gotta try and fail. It's more a mental thing cause I'm setting myself up for a fail before hand so I'm like no point. So gotta work on this aspect in other areas and go from there. But yeah hit the nail on the head fear is the big thing for me. Thanks again man, really appreciate it.*Stand by Your Own Trial & Not What Others Say* ~ Gudmundur Jonsson
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06-05-2018, 01:16 AM #3407
That's something I'll have to keep in mind.. you're totally right. I just lack the confidence and experience to just approach girls like that.. It's also not a usual custom in switzerland unless you're out partying. Which I never do because that makes me anxious as hell..
Anyway, I probably shouldn't care too much about this at just 22 years of age. Instead I should focus on university and improving myself. So if I'm rejected, it's no big deal at all right? I guess it all comes down to a low self esteem.. I somehow wouldn't be able to handle a rejection without seriously doubting myself.
Your sister is an ass.. sorry lol. You have a thick neck and a beard from what I can see. Those are huge points already. I'm sure you look decent!
Thanks for the compliment, I appreciate it.
If you're being serious, that really meant a lot to me. I can't get to like my face at all. Especially when laughing.
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06-05-2018, 01:58 AM #3408
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06-05-2018, 06:35 AM #3409
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06-05-2018, 08:44 AM #3410
Here's another picture of me. Again, not "forcing" the smile.
https://imgur.com/a/7LtKxF3Ad astra per aspera
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06-05-2018, 10:12 AM #3411
You just gave me a lot more confidence man. I really appreciate it. I kinda doubt you'd truly mean this but then again, I'd love to believe that. And you're not the first one to say that so I guess it's all in my head.
Thanks a bunch I was afraid posting in here but I'm happy I did. I feel a little better already.
You look like a real fun dude man! I see you're not confident with yourself but honestly I could see you scoring girls. Charisma does a lot too. I'd be instantly happy if someone approached me smiling like that.
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06-05-2018, 12:31 PM #3412
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06-05-2018, 12:32 PM #3413
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06-05-2018, 03:44 PM #3414
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06-05-2018, 04:27 PM #3415
The thing is me and my sister have always been cool. I don't find my sister annoying and she sometimes she tries to cheer me up and hug me and we make each other laugh. That's why it hurt when she says this because I don't think my sister would say something like that just to be an ass. I would think it's just because she's brutally honest. Some people are born unattractive or ugly just got to deal with the cards you're dealt with.
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06-05-2018, 09:20 PM #3416
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06-06-2018, 01:08 AM #3417
Like Pondus_levo said: You won't be attractive to every woman in the word and you wont be unattractive to every woman in the world. Your sister thinking you're ugly is not representative of the world's population. I can imagine that hurt a lot.. But I'm sure there are plenty of girls who'd think you're good looking.
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06-06-2018, 06:58 AM #3418
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06-06-2018, 01:59 PM #3419
You look really fine, man ! I remember everyone telling you to grow your hair, I agree with them.
Also, if you're going out often with Bayern Munchen's shirt as in your pictures, it lowers your chances with women. Nothing against Bayern, but in general, wearing football (or sports) kits for casual doesn't make you look good, it's not cool.
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06-06-2018, 04:30 PM #3420
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