Bursted out crying in the middle of class as I realized everything I do is pointless

[pr0teinfart]

don't be so negative bro. There is a light at the end of the tunnel but you're not gonna see it if you keep your eyes closed.

[Mj23foreva]

you should try taking some oxycontin OP. When I take it I dont give a **** what I say and beleive it or not I talk a lot more and people are attracted to what I say. I hear a lot of people just feel "right" when they take it and the world suddenly seems OK. Give it a try bro. Maybe you will see the light.

Also one time I took a **** load of mushrooms when I was 16 or something. I used to have pretty low self esteem because my father and mother both molested me. Anyways, I tripped so hard and lost my ego and I saw the world was beautiful and that I was fuking fantastic even though I had been violated by those closest to me (they even let the dog get in on it )

wut?

[wake_me]

You know, it is not always the hand that you are dealt that is bad, but how you chose to play that hand.

i.e. internal vs. external locus of control.

[johnbugara]

1. Mental health is no different than finding a primary care physician. Sometimes you have to try a few therapists before you find one that works with you. Your mindset seems very ingrained and it will take a lot of work to get out of it, perhaps with the help of a different antidepressant or even ECT as a last resort.

2. Stop assuming everyone is happy but you. Just because that girl in class was all smiles doesn't mean she hasn't been through serious issues and periods of sadness in her life.

This, especially number two. Everyones got issues man you just don't see them, those people that you think are so happy with their significant others might have to go through more on a day to day basis than you've gone through in your life. Also stop focusing on yourself, pick something and work towards it.

[NYY]

Woe is me is not going to get you where you need to be, OP.

Of course we told you this over 9000 times.

[ThisRealLife]

Holy crap that must have been unbelievably awkward. Crying in middle of class?

[Guardian]

My life has been a waste of 20 years and it seems all efforts I put into girls and getting a social life are useless. Ended up embarassing myself today at school as I cried heavily in the middle of class so I just ended up leaving, seeing people with their friends and girls who care about them and I can't get any of that.

I have seen you post before and alot of folks rip on you. Let me chime in here, I did not read everything you said cause chances are it doesn't matter anyway I get the overall picture.

Girls are not success, nor are they even that important. It takes many hours and even years to can an education, get good grades, save money, build your physique, etc.

How long does it take to get laid? An hour, for some guys much less lol. You could literally within weeks get as many girls as other guys you see as "successfull" have gotten their whole lives. However, nobody can within a week get a degree, or have a stunning physique, or climb up the corporate ladder.

Focus on other areas besides women, and in doing so you will naturally make friends, but only if you develope passion. Passion always meets passion, if you love training at the gym and researching nutrition, you will meet guys who also.

And as your skills improve from male friends and your overall success mounts, sooner or later the women will come.

The best cure for people like you is a single word anyone that is breathing should have, hope.

[RealAssanova]

bring me to raptors games *******

As for getting a girl, I don't think that should be your goal right now. If you marry the first girl that will have sex with you, it'll only lead to trouble. Gotta just focus on yourself, finish this semester and then reassess. A GF would be a shock to your life right now. Trust me, it's nice to have someone care for you, but you have to care back. It will consume you. Not worth it right now. After school's done, just get involved in a lot of **** and make lots of friends. Don't play video games, go play sports and chill in your hood. Don't worry about girls in specific. Flirt with ones you find attractive, but disregard any disrespectful bishes. Since you have no problem getting numbers, just flirt more and take off your ****ing shirt in the summer, you'll be getting laid in no time. Stick to ONS, FB, or FWB at first. You need practice. Once you've been with a lot of women, you will be able to pick one for gf status, knowing exactly what you want in a woman.

homie here nailed it.

a girlfriend is an energy-draining, havoc-reeking fcukin expense.

once you done exams, go out a lot. Force yourself (key word being FORCE) to adapt to different situations and approach all sorts of women.

you're a beginner, so expect a shyt-load of rejections. You'll eventually then get your foot in the door with the basics when it comes to da heux's. Heck, you'll probably a gf, get laid, and then become one happy sonovagun cuz you lost your virginity.

but in order for all of this to happen, you gotta tell your inner-self to shut the f-ck up, grab your balls to confirm if you have any and begin to haul ass.

[Buckwildish]

I have seen you post before and alot of folks rip on you. Let me chime in here, I did not read everything you said cause chances are it doesn't matter anyway I get the overall picture.

Girls are not success, nor are they even that important. It takes many hours and even years to can an education, get good grades, save money, build your physique, etc.

How long does it take to get laid? An hour, for some guys much less lol. You could literally within weeks get as many girls as other guys you see as "successfull" have gotten their whole lives. However, nobody can within a week get a degree, or have a stunning physique, or climb up the corporate ladder.

Focus on other areas besides women, and in doing so you will naturally make friends, but only if you develope passion. Passion always meets passion, if you love training at the gym and researching nutrition, you will meet guys who also.

And as your skills improve from male friends and your overall success mounts, sooner or later the women will come.

The best cure for people like you is a single word anyone that is breathing should have, hope.

One of the best posts in RH ever

[rammstein2k]

Take beta blockers. It seems like you get the fight or flight response when put into (by your own standards) intense social interaction.

[Weekling]

Let me make sure I got this. You say you get anxiety in public and get embarassed and what not, then proceed to CRY in the MIDDLE OF CLASS?

Take comfort in the fact that you just did the most embarassing public display ever. A jacked dude crying in class because he cant talk to people. You hit rock bottom man, there's no going lower than this other than to start masturbating with your tears in public.

Take comfort in the fact that no matter how bad an approach goes, it can never result in something that embarassing. Congrats OP.

[Violator009]

You idiots keep feeding this fuken troll giving him advice when it falls on deaf ears, and he keep cryin bout the same **** over and over... youre jus wasting your breath..

[Swanky]

You idiots keep feeding this fuken troll giving him advice when it falls on deaf ears, and he keep cryin bout the same **** over and over... youre jus wasting your breath..

What makes you think he's a troll. I think this guy's legit, unfortunately.

OP, at least you're not me. If this is a bad as your problems go, you would have knocked yourself a long time ago if you were in my shoes.

[Swanky]

By the way, OP, I don't think getting a girlfriend or even getting a one-night stand is a good idea given your current position. The girl you date or bang will become not the center of your life, she'll become your life. And when it ends, you'll feel infinitely worse than you do right now.

Also, switch therapists. If she's a good-looking chick, and you have antagonistic feelings towards her, it won't help, you won't progress. Yeah, she may be hot, and she's probably banged a bus load of guys, so she can't truly relate to your position, no matter what impressive academic credentials she holds. While your talking to her about your life's irks, she's thinking about what new, adventerous sex position to try with her man when she gets home.

[Swanky]

I still can't believe that a guy with your physique can't even bed an average-looking female. Young females (under 20) are superficial beings. Most care about these things: Looks, popularity, personality. For the real superficial females, looks triumph all, as long as you can string together a somewhat coherent sentence and don't act like a sex-starved creeper.

****, I'm socially maladaptive and I've banged 6 girls between the ages of 18 and 24. I'd really like to meet you in person, to see just how socially inept you are. Because that's what it is, your social inepitude. If you had a shred of social ability you would have had at least SOME success by now. Thus, work on your social skills, and that in turn will lead to friendships being formed; and that in turn will lead to networking, and networking leads to females... and what's under their skirts.

[endofdays89]

I still can't believe that a guy with your physique can't even bed an average-looking female. Young females (under 20) are superficial beings. Most care about these things: Looks, popularity, personality. For the real superficial females, looks triumph all, as long as you can string together a somewhat coherent sentence and don't act like a sex-starved creeper.

****, I'm socially maladaptive and I've banged 6 girls between the ages of 18 and 24. I'd really like to meet you in person, to see just how socially inept you are. Because that's what it is, your social inepitude. If you had a shred of social ability you would have had at least SOME success by now. Thus, work on your social skills, and that in turn will lead to friendships being formed; and that in turn will lead to networking, and networking leads to females... and what's under their skirts.

I don't think it's really social ineptitude it's just what your faced with when you don't go out much or have any friends. You can appear as a normal person to most people passing by, but when you try to hang out you are just lost because everyone else is so far ahead of you. I know i have social skills but there's a lot of stuff i haven't experienced and i have nothing to talk about so when those things pop up i'm just ****ed. If you met me on walking on the street you would think i have a ton of friends and banged a lot of sloots but i'm a foreveralone ***got.

[Bonetana]

OP make friends with bonetana

phuck you *******, I am not on any of that sh*t, plus you suck with women unless you provide evidence otherwise, got a date tonight, you mad *******?

And now to the OP

It seems like personality is your major issue. You look okay and you are trying. My advice to you would be to travel abroad, save up some money, go to Thailand or Brazil or something. Dating and sex cultures in those places are a lot more lenient and it is not as hard to get play there. For now, I don't see you having major success in the western dating market where even the Whales want a David Beckham.

[Uncle Bob]

Sure I will take my cipralex but all it will do is make me happy but really it is just delusional happiness.

No, your thoughts of everyone being happy and everyone else getting what they want with no work is delusional. Your brain being transfixed on the need for female approval is delusional. The whole point of proper medication is to help quiet your negative thinking enough so that you are able to start making some clearer choices with your life.

You talk about people you see but don't know and you automatically put them up on a pedistal and assume they are way better than you because they have friends, a girlfriend, ect. Stop getting in your own way. And keep a journal of your thoughts so you (or a therapist) can see thinking patterns. And for some people things don't come together for them till later in life so instead of being "I'm 20 and suck" be patient, take small steps, and set age 25 or 30 for trying to get it all together. **** didn't come together for me till 26 and after lots of quick catch up I feel pretty good for 28.

[Punisher1012]

phuck you *******, I am not on any of that sh*t, plus you suck with women unless you provide evidence otherwise, got a date tonight, you mad *******?

And now to the OP

It seems like personality is your major issue. You look okay and you are trying. My advice to you would be to travel abroad, save up some money, go to Thailand or Brazil or something. Dating and sex cultures in those places are a lot more lenient and it is not as hard to get play there. For now, I don't see you having major success in the western dating market where even the Whales want a David Beckham.

lol a date with what? blow up dolls dont count *******

[Punisher1012]

That **** ain't funny dude...

[Bonetana]

lol a date with what? blow up dolls dont count *******

pfft, well phuck you too then b*tch

if you have closed yourself off from everything and convinced yourself that some guy is what you think they are from past experiences, go for it, eat it, waste your life away phuckin escorts while some of us actually get it together

phuck you, phuck fraudin paki, and phuck everybody who wants to hate on a man trying to get his sh*t together, f*ck all of you f*ckin *******s who had it easy as h3ll growing up and wanna start sh*t with those that didn't

[Bonetana]

and for all of you *******s in here getting mad, a few words

1. Did not read pages 2 and 3 but if that ******* Shepherd came in, GTFO b*tch. Seriously, you live in a phuckin dorm and you are still foreveralone. You got ripped and still can't get laid. Have a nice cup of man the phuck up and MAN THE PHUCK UP. Quit starting a fight with other guys who have issues when you have too many issues of your own boy!

2. Punisher - already said it, phuck you

3. NoFXN - you are a fraudin ******* who probably phucked some cheap pakistani hookers and is living to brag about it, GTFO b*tch

To all who tried to help the guy, ADMIRABLE.

To Revolutionbrah, I know life can be rough at times, but be PROACTIVE man, don't be REACTIVE.

[Errorist]

Whoever told you "success = girls" was setting you up for failure. Focus completely on yourself, your career, your hobbies, getting to know yourself, and where you fit into society. The girls will come eventually. I didn't get my first gf or lose my virginity until I was 23, and didn't have a real social circle until I was 24-25.

And stop crying like a ****ing *******. I quit crying about all that sh!t when I was 17.

[Punisher1012]

pfft, well phuck you too then b*tch

if you have closed yourself off from everything and convinced yourself that some guy is what you think they are from past experiences, go for it, eat it, waste your life away phuckin escorts while some of us actually get it together

phuck you, phuck fraudin paki, and phuck everybody who wants to hate on a man trying to get his sh*t together, f*ck all of you f*ckin *******s who had it easy as h3ll growing up and wanna start sh*t with those that didn't

and for all of you *******s in here getting mad, a few words

1. Did not read pages 2 and 3 but if that ******* Shepherd came in, GTFO b*tch. Seriously, you live in a phuckin dorm and you are still foreveralone. You got ripped and still can't get laid. Have a nice cup of man the phuck up and MAN THE PHUCK UP. Quit starting a fight with other guys who have issues when you have too many issues of your own boy!

2. Punisher - already said it, phuck you

3. NoFXN - you are a fraudin ******* who probably phucked some cheap pakistani hookers and is living to brag about it, GTFO b*tch

To all who tried to help the guy, ADMIRABLE.

To Revolutionbrah, I know life can be rough at times, but be PROACTIVE man, don't be REACTIVE.

looks like you're the only one that's mad.. easily trolled

[damlurker]

That **** ain't funny dude...

Don't even dignify that guy with a response. He's been going around RH desperately flame baiting for awhile now.. quiet sad cos everyone basically ignores his sad little comments.

[Punisher1012]

Don't even dignify that guy with a response. He's been going around RH desperately flame baiting for awhile now.. quiet sad cos everyone basically ignores his sad little comments.

[Weekling]

and for all of you *******s in here getting mad, a few words

1. Did not read pages 2 and 3 but if that ******* Shepherd came in, GTFO b*tch. Seriously, you live in a phuckin dorm and you are still foreveralone. You got ripped and still can't get laid. Have a nice cup of man the phuck up and MAN THE PHUCK UP. Quit starting a fight with other guys who have issues when you have too many issues of your own boy!

2. Punisher - already said it, phuck you

3. NoFXN - you are a fraudin ******* who probably phucked some cheap pakistani hookers and is living to brag about it, GTFO b*tch

To all who tried to help the guy, ADMIRABLE.

To Revolutionbrah, I know life can be rough at times, but be PROACTIVE man, don't be REACTIVE.

You seem mad bruh

[Punisher1012]

You seem mad bruh

lol this

[rackpullxtreme]

ya I know I just got cipralex today from a doctor in my plaza (anti-depressant), but will probably see my family doctor next week since he knows my situation better and prescribed it originally. I was on cipralex before but stopped taking it in January after a couple months because I felt better but just recently, last night my depression hit me hard and I have started having suicidal thoughts again and have been crying for most of today and last night.

Family doctors don't understand anti-depressants like psychiatrists do. IMO they shouldn't even be allowed to prescribe them. Family drs will prescribe anti-ds for PMS, WTF!

The problem with anti-depressants is that people will stop taking them as you said when they feel better, and then the depression hits back hard again. Not sure if you are bipolar (I can't diagnose someone over the internet) or what, but I can say that finding the right meds will help. Especially if you are suicidal brah, you need to get help asap. Even call a hotline if needed.

[Gris419]