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Thread: Going to propose soon....
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01-24-2014, 06:43 AM #31
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01-24-2014, 06:45 AM #32
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01-24-2014, 06:46 AM #33
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01-24-2014, 06:46 AM #34
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01-24-2014, 06:47 AM #35
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01-24-2014, 06:47 AM #36
"I have been emotionally where you are many times, long term relationships with great women, cried from intense love, women have cried telling me how much they love me many times.
My advice... if you really want to get married to her, live with her for 2-3 years at least before you ask her. Living with a women is a nightmare after a while.
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01-24-2014, 06:49 AM #37
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01-24-2014, 06:51 AM #38
I was giving myself living with her for a year before I asked...which is very close. I would think if you dont know the type of person she is after living with her for a year then something isnt right.
I have been in serious relationships before and they have ended - you learn from those relationships to help you in future ones.
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01-24-2014, 06:53 AM #39
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01-24-2014, 06:57 AM #40
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01-24-2014, 06:59 AM #41
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01-24-2014, 07:01 AM #42
My longest relationship was 9 years. Don't give me that 1 year BS.
Dude I am honestly just trying to help you not **** your life up. I know you are going to do it anyway, but I strongly recommend watching those videos in the other thread.
My reccomendations.
1. DO NOT set a date for the wedding BEFORE you get your prenup finalised (or prenup void)
2. If you own a home, get a quick claim deed OR;
3. Make sure in the prenup it says she is not entitled to your home
4. Be aware that any business you start while married to her is automatically 50% hers in the event of divorce
5. Be aware that in 90% of divorces, custody of children goes to mother.
6. Check if you are in an alimony State. In California, marriages over 10 years result in LIFETIME alimony + child support
(around 60% of your income)
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01-24-2014, 07:02 AM #43
I hope you've really given it some major thinking time, brah.
I was in a 3.5 year relationship, lived together for 1.5 years. She ended up cheating on me with co-worker who was a skinny beta ******* who was less attractive, earnt less money and apparently has a smaller dink ( I banged his ex as revenge and she told me without me having to ask).
Maybe wait it out a little longer brah, the mentality of women these days is completely different to that of the last generation. They know what they can get away with.
Best of luck though if you do decide to fully go ahead with it. God speed and best wishes for a long and happy marriage.
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01-24-2014, 07:03 AM #44
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01-24-2014, 07:03 AM #45
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01-24-2014, 07:04 AM #46
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01-24-2014, 07:04 AM #47
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01-24-2014, 07:05 AM #48
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01-24-2014, 07:07 AM #49
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01-24-2014, 07:08 AM #50
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01-24-2014, 07:09 AM #51
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Congrats brah. Newly engaged brah myself... happy for you! As long as you've taken the time to really examine your dynamic with her and you are 100% that she makes you happier than any other girl, go for it.
Also congrats to the misc. made it 2 pages and only one red jackass is trying to copypaste PUA chit about why marriages will all fail.
Surprised so many of you are supportive.Common Sense Crew
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01-24-2014, 07:10 AM #52
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01-24-2014, 07:11 AM #53
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01-24-2014, 07:11 AM #54
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01-24-2014, 07:12 AM #55
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01-24-2014, 07:13 AM #56
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01-24-2014, 07:13 AM #57
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01-24-2014, 07:13 AM #59
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Congrats OP. Getting married is the best thing I ever did. My best advice is get on a good financial plan as soon as you are engaged.
Money is the number one cause of divorce and if you work on doing that well together you will be ahead of the curve. I strongly suggest taking the Dave Ramsey Financial Peace class together.
If Mike Davies gives you any advice you should probably do the opposite. Cohabitation for example leads to higher percentages of divorce than not. I'm sure you already figured that one out though.
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01-24-2014, 07:14 AM #60
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When I got engaged, all sorts of guys who had been married for a while told me not to do it. I brushed them off, cause that's ridiculous.
I'm now that guy. Whenever I hear a guy is getting married, I tell him not to do it. That's not to say I hate being married. I love my wife. It's just that it's unneccessary to tie yourself to a person legally.
What's wrong with just living together for the next 20 years? What exactly do you gain from being married that you don't from cohabitation?
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