Is it marriage? with kids or without?
living together? specify please with children or without
dating in a monogomous relationship while each maintaining seperate homes?
I was discussing this today with someone and would like your input
also if your age is not listed on your AVI will you include it please?
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Thread: what is the ideal relationship?
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01-29-2013, 05:28 PM #1
what is the ideal relationship?
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01-29-2013, 05:34 PM #2
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Hmmm...I think an idea relationship contains many things but I may have a different value. I am 33.
I think it should include a friendship (I know this is corny) and a lover. I don't like that marriage holds such value with people. My girl and I have a very good thing and at this point it is great; not sure anything is consider ideal or perfect. We both train so being up at 4 am is no problem. I cook all dinners, she cleans, I do car duties and she does laundry...it's equal and we respect each other. We make fun of each other and laugh together. It's perfect for me because she doesn't have expectations that I can't meet I and don't have stupid needs that she can't meet.
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01-29-2013, 05:41 PM #3
I'm going to sound like a weirdo here.. and 20 years old as you know..
An ideal relationship at this point in my mind is one with a man who I am not "with" but have children with. Joint 50/50 custody, living apart. This man and I would have a great companionship and a great mutual respect and at all times both put our children as our top priority, but we would not have a romantic relationship nor desire one with one another. We would pretty much be raising super babies.
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01-29-2013, 05:44 PM #4
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01-29-2013, 05:58 PM #6
Age 29
Married, no kids, a few fur babies. Mutual respect, few expectations. Passion for each other and life. Mutual and separate friends. Mutual and separate interests. Separate guy and girl time. Families and friends that get along. Lots of travel and experiencing new things.
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01-29-2013, 06:00 PM #7
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01-29-2013, 06:06 PM #9
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Separate houses a fair distance from one another, NO kids, someone I can have a great time with obviously and trust to an extent, was gonna say someone who is mute but nah, as long as they can stay at their own house sometimes so I can have a break lol. Also sleeping (yes litterally sleeping) separately, hate those people who hog all my blankets srs.
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01-29-2013, 06:12 PM #10
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01-29-2013, 06:30 PM #12
Pretty much this, but I would like to avoid children altogether.
Also, rather than a ring, I would like to be proposed to with a 1970 corvette stingray, which shall serve as my baby. This is not a requirement, but it would guarantee that I would immediately and without question strip and make sammiches whenever I was asked.So, it turns out you can't kill a tumor with vodka...
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01-29-2013, 06:40 PM #13
Friends, lovers, someone I can have a heck of a lot of fun and laughs with, and who will let me win occasionally when we wrestle. Outside of these necessities, I must admit there's not too many other details I worry about. I've known great couples who married and others who never did, some who had kids and some who did not, couples who were together all the time and others who lived more separate lives, and so on and so forth. As long as both people are happy, then it's perfect.
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01-29-2013, 06:45 PM #15
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I think the ideal relationship is completely dependent up what one wants in life. My ideal relationship wouldn't be ideal for someone else. I look at life as the ultimate journey and your partner is your traveling companion for that journey. It's important that you both want to take the same kind of trip, that you can make each other laugh when things go wrong (because your luggage will get lost, flights will be delayed) and that you are willing to trudge through that transportation museum with a smile because he went to every art museum in prague with you.
As for my specific circumstances, I've been happily married for 24 years and we've made the choice not to have kids. When we were first together we really weren't even sure we would ever get married. We had the whole - we don't need a silly piece of paper thing going. Over time though, we decided that we were just making our lives harder and we honestly wanted to some public acknowledgement of our relationship (plus some nice tax breaks). On the kid front, we didn't immediately say no kids but both of us were upfront that neither of us were sure if we wanted them. So the prospect of no kids was never a deal breaker for either of us. As time went by, we realized that we really liked the life we'd built and neither of us really felt any overwhelming desire for kids. We talked about it and both agreed that if you are going to have kids you should both really want them and not feel the kind of ambivalence we were feeling.
So we had a general sense of what we wanted when we were younger but it also changed a little over time.
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Typical response I think. Best friends and wife/girlfriend. Support system and someone who is willing joke around. Same interests (camping/shooting/riding). Someone who isn't perfect though because perfect isn't fun. Easy going but puts me in my place because to be honest I'm an ass. Ever heard the song "Hard to Love" by Lee Brice? That's basically me. When I can find a girl that calms me down that's when I'll settle.
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