ツ Forever Alone Crew ツ Part 2

[maori-rap]

This is not really the case IMO, maybe for some.
Being sad about never having a girlfriend does not mean you put pussy on a pedestal, it does not mean you idolise it, it does not mean you think you need it to be happy.
Getting to an advanced age while never experiencing these normal interactions will get you down, and make you qeustion your worth. Especially when it comes as easy as breathing (seemingly) for most others.
Procreation/socialising is the next tier of needs for humans right under eating/breathing, very few could go there whole life without it and not have any feels about it.
Sorry but when I read stuff like you posted it's just obvious you don't understand.

I see where your coming from with that part I bolded. Getting well into adulthood without experiencing sexual/romantic interactions can be depressing as you feel you're missing something great, something necessary, something you shouldn't be without. However its up to the individual how they process this reality and ultimately control their emotions. It would be true to say that being incel in a developed, facilitated first world country trumps being sexually active in an unstable, mob-run 3rd world slum. It always helps to be grateful for what you DO have.

I think its the climate around which promotes the depression more than anything. We all (especially UK and US brahs) live in sexually saturated societies where said topic is discussed openly and frankly even on daytime radio shows, TV shows and countless songs. It is fired at as via every medium it seems. If one were to spend days delving into this subject and given limitless access to info, its likely they would come away thinking they were the only one not getting it-and that they were pathetic for not doing so.

Did Templar Knights get their jimmies rustled about their lack of action with females? Doubtful, as they did not live in an environment where sex was even discussed let alone promoted and pushed. The opposite was likely true, they prided their celibacy as it was part of an oath to God. So, ultimately, we have to give throught that we are doing it do ourselves.

Dunno if you've seen any vids from Sadhguru. This is one I've prolly watched the most. Some of his ideas may seem like mystic mumbo-jumbo but there is some truth in what he says.

[Bodybuild3]

Hey Guys!

I was thinking about you and decided to make a motivational thread for you with my philosophy on being FA.

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...post1134805353

Hope you take the time to read and improve. If you really want to get out of this, you can spare some time to read a thread about it.

Good luck!

[Guatama]

Hey Guys!

I was thinking about you and decided to make a motivational thread for you with my philosophy on being FA.

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...post1134805353

Hope you take the time to read and improve. If you really want to get out of this, you can spare some time to read a thread about it.

Good luck!

I've been working on installing exactly same mindsets as you mention in your post, also love Hulse & Rogan. Repped for reaching out to troubled brahs.

[Bodybuild3]

I've been working on installing exactly same mindsets as you mention in your post, also love Hulse & Rogan. Repped for reaching out to troubled brahs.

No problem bud

[morox]

A big problem I see in here is that a lot of you try and perceive meeting women as a science. It's really not complicating you ***gots. Anyone in the Vancouver area? I can probably help your sorry ass.

[BetaThanU]

I see where your coming from with that part I bolded. Getting well into adulthood without experiencing sexual/romantic interactions can be depressing as you feel you're missing something great, something necessary, something you shouldn't be without. However its up to the individual how they process this reality and ultimately control their emotions. It would be true to say that being incel in a developed, facilitated first world country trumps being sexually active in an unstable, mob-run 3rd world slum. It always helps to be grateful for what you DO have.

Sure, you can always find someone worse off than you, but I dont see that as a comforting.

Did Templar Knights get their jimmies rustled about their lack of action with females? Doubtful, as they did not live in an environment where sex was even discussed let alone promoted and pushed. The opposite was likely true, they prided their celibacy as it was part of an oath to God. So, ultimately, we have to give throught that we are doing it do ourselves.

They probably did. The whole thing is about self denial, basically suffering to be closer to god. I think that's really unhealthy, and as an atheist makes me sad what people do to their lives ultimately for no reason.

Dunno if you've seen any vids from Sadhguru. This is one I've prolly watched the most. Some of his ideas may seem like mystic mumbo-jumbo but there is some truth in what he says.

cant watch, fuk all data left.

[bananabucket]

just wanna advise you guys not to make getting a gf your end goal. it will not be a solution, it will not be a cure. it wasn't until I had a gf that many deeper issues came to the surface and my depression really started. I scratched and clawed to maintain a flawed relationship, and in the end she just up and left. that's when I was truly able to turn inwards and address my core problems. I had to go through all that bull**** to finally put me on track to obtaining a proper perspective on life.

amazing how clueless and naive I was for so long.

[Guatama]

just wanna advise you guys not to make getting a gf your end goal. it will not be a solution, it will not be a cure. it wasn't until I had a gf that many deeper issues came to the surface and my depression really started. I scratched and clawed to maintain a flawed relationship, and in the end she just up and left. that's when I was truly able to turn inwards and address my core problems. I had to go through all that bull**** to finally put me on track to obtaining a proper perspective on life.

amazing how clueless and naive I was for so long.

At first all I though about was 'GOD all I need is a gf' but then realised it wouldn't fix anything and most likely just end up being my clingy, little relationship that delays me for months or years from fixing certain issues. That's why at the moment I'm focusing on building a wider social circle which should give me access to multiple opportunities and girls.

[Jack101]

Does anyone ever go on ******** and think 'I hate all of you'. Just logged in for the first time in ages, I think all the people I went to school with are ****ing *******s bar a few.

Only people I like are my college friends and 1 or 2 from school.

[lurknomo]

So, I went to my first event last night, and will say that although I didn't get with any girl, things turned out okay. Made attempts to chat with several girls, chat with some guys as well (no homo). I'd say that I made a few male friends there. Just that one girl I tried to talk to cold shouldered the chit outta me. It went like this:

Me: *walk up to girl*
Me: Hello
She: *Don't think she noticed me*
Me: Hello *A bit louder this time*
She: *Still don't think she noticed me*
Me: Goodnight *Lean over sideways in front of her with my hand extended waving at her*
She: *Looks at me for maybe a fraction of a second, then looks away*
Me: *Okay I think I can take a hint*

[BetaGazelle]

I was strolling around on campus alone after the lecture was done, as per usual, when a girl suddenly approached me. A cute girl, maybe 6,845/10 (no misc standard) with a hesitant body language, so not one of those stuck up bitches. She asked me if I was attending "course101" and told me that this was her first lecture since there had been some trouble with her registration or something, and wondered if there were any organized study groups. I truthfully told her that I didn't know and that she should probably ask someone else.

It was first afterwards that I realized how rude I had been. I had pretty much told her to '**** off' through my body language. And I got ****ing pissed at myself. Not because I had squandered the opportunity to get to know her, but because of how self absorbed I've become. I'm constantly caught up in my own internal world with no regard for other people. And I've deluded myself into thinking that I'm the center of attention wherever I go (which causes considerable anxiety). It's ****ed up.

[Dreary]

you're gonna make it (srs)
it doesn't matter that your presentation today sucked. all that matters is that you're able to figure out what you can improve, so next time around you do even better, and so on and so forth until you become 100% comfortable giving presentations
you're making improvements, and that's far more than 99% of this crew has done so far

thanks brah



got over that chit pretty quick. over the next two days i was bat shiit busy with an assignment to the point that i somehow completely forgot about it and it stopped bothering me.

i emailed the head of the social anxiety group asking if i could possibly present again this week and she didn't mind. the thought of having the opportunity to try again and replace that negative experience with a more positive experience where i would try to do better than last time just kind of diffused the situation for me. i didn't end up presenting this week though because we were strapped for time. i was however given some rating sheets on my presentation that were filled out by other people.

lol'd at some of the ratings. i got a few 1's (which means slightly) for:
- generally spoke well
- made a good impression
- kept eye contact
- had a clear voice (one person put 0 which means "not at all" but then erased it and put 1 instead LOL)

i was pretty happy to find some positive ratings on other chit though. got a few 3's (much) for:
- content was understandable
- kept audience interested

i guess it's better to see it the way you mentioned, which is to figure out what i can do better and improve on next time with help of the invaluable feedback i've received from these rating sheets. for example, one of the worst ratings i got was a 4 (very much) for "fidgeted" so it's pretty clear that that's something i have to work on.

So, I went to my first event last night, and will say that although I didn't get with any girl, things turned out okay. Made attempts to chat with several girls, chat with some guys as well (no homo). I'd say that I made a few male friends there. Just that one girl I tried to talk to cold shouldered the chit outta me. It went like this:

Me: *walk up to girl*
Me: Hello
She: *Don't think she noticed me*
Me: Hello *A bit louder this time*
She: *Still don't think she noticed me*
Me: Goodnight *Lean over sideways in front of her with my hand extended waving at her*
She: *Looks at me for maybe a fraction of a second, then looks away*
Me: *Okay I think I can take a hint*

Ouch brah. I'd probably feel crushed if that happened to me.

But then again I probably wouldn't persist beyond the first hello.

[CliveBixby]

Think I might be on my way out of the crew soon. Been seeing this girl for a few weeks now, we're not 'official' yet but its clear we really like each other. We've kissed, held hands, hugged, play fighting and all that ****. I really wanna escalate sexually but am afraid to progress in case its obvious I'm inexperienced (virgin bruh) and she may be turned off, telling her isn't really an option either.

P.S. Hanging with chicks isn't the be all and end all, it has given me a little more confidence and has lowered my depression a little but I mostly still feel like the same guy.

[morox]

Going on my 20th date tonight with a hot little Chilean girl. Ahhh yeeeah.

[maori-rap]

Good to see some progress within the crew, especially Dreary's mission to confront and hopefully overcome his anxiety issues.

I've actually got a stage play coming up in November, first play since I was 13! Small time stuff but it will be good for my confidence I think.

****

On a side note. You brahs should play some Dragon Age if you have an xbox 360 or PC. Phuckin legend of a game. BRB suiting up in heavy armour and slaying dragons'n'ogres with huge ass swords.



2nd one is pretty weak-sauce and has little replay value, so feel free to miss that

[Jack101]

Good to see some progress within the crew, especially Dreary's mission to confront and hopefully overcome his anxiety issues.

I've actually got a stage play coming up in November, first play since I was 13! Small time stuff but it will be good for my confidence I think.

****

On a side note. You brahs should play some Dragon Age if you have an xbox 360 or PC. Phuckin legend of a game. BRB suiting up in heavy armour and slaying dragons'n'ogres with huge ass swords.



2nd one is pretty weak-sauce and has little replay value, so feel free to miss that

BRB played GTA 6 hours straight last night, brb played GTA 7 hours straight today

[UkraineFatty]

Most of the people I've worked with for a long time are now gone at work. I've always questioned whether I still want to stay around at that employer but now that my "family" is gone (even if I hated some of them) goddamn has it hit me right in the feels. Kind of genuinely lost in life job wise. I'm figuring out what I want to do with my time but damn do I just feel lost now because I honestly am not a career minded person. Damn does it suck to lose coworkers you've worked with for a really long time.

[maori-rap]

BRB played GTA 6 hours straight last night, brb played GTA 7 hours straight today

You on that GTA V time breh? How is it? Does it match up to say GTA San Andreas?

I will defo play it but theres so much on my game shelf to play first. Dunno what to play next

@my boy Ukraine...I know dem feels. Where I work now I've never been closer to work colleagues, even managers. At previous places I've not given two ****s about my co-workers and at one place was basically an outsider, an alien. At current place though I feel like more of a unit, more "at home" and feel like part of something. The girl I sit next to is leaving soon to go to Australia for a year. Wasn't happy to hear it from her and not looking forward to seeing her go. This is someone I can talk to about just about anything and have common interests with. So yeah, it does suck loosing good people from your unit, especially when they could be replaced by a douchebag!

[Jack101]

You on that GTA V time breh? How is it? Does it match up to say GTA San Andreas?

I will defo play it but theres so much on my game shelf to play first. Dunno what to play next

@my boy Ukraine...I know dem feels. Where I work now I've never been closer to work colleagues, even managers. At previous places I've not given two ****s about my co-workers and at one place was basically an outsider, an alien. At current place though I feel like more of a unit, more "at home" and feel like part of something. The girl I sit next to is leaving soon to go to Australia for a year. Wasn't happy to hear it from her and not looking forward to seeing her go. This is someone I can talk to about just about anything and have common interests with. So yeah, it does suck loosing good people from your unit, especially when they could be replaced by a douchebag!

M8 it is literally one of the best games I have ever played. ****s all over GTA 4. The controls feel so much better and the scenery is UNREAL. No more 'go here kill y' type missions either. A lot of different missions, like there's one where you have to film a celebrity doing anal. Pretty cool. But srs I'd get it now, there's so much to do you'll be playing it for ages.

[LikeAstone]

I've invited a girl to volleyball game today. Well, I have no idea what we are going to talk about for 2h or so but I hope to gain some experience and improve my game.

[mrdot]

dat feel when still FA


where's eod and darmlurker these days?

[maori-rap]

dat feel when still FA


where's eod and darmlurker these days?

EOD tends to come and go under different (negative, self-loathing) usernames. Spouts same old **** about how there's no hope and how bad his life is.

damlurker's latest account was banned afew months back and haven't seen him since. Heard he's on one of the other 'deep-forums' now

[Ronceiro]

supersaiyan-dre do the honour of starting the new thread since you've done them all so far

or maybe maori should do it since he's the king of foreveralones

[maori-rap]

^^^ I have PMd Dre asking if he wants to start V3.

Watch this space

[Guatama]

I had an interesting experience today - a sample of some insecurity that normally lies hidden deep down. Two housemates of mine have spent 3 hours getting ready for girls night out, usually I just see them in pajamas without make up. Today with mini skirts, high heels, push up bras and perfect make up they both gained +3 points, one of them actually going into HHNNNNG category.

Now the funny part is: on daily basis I'm the loudest, most expressive one in the house, making everyone talk etc. This evening I had trouble holding fkin eye contact with people I live with, felt like I was some hideous creature not worthy of anyone's attention. Literally heart pounding, light stammering. I'm not mad/sad about it, I see it more like something that deserves my attention. It's unbelievable how brain can shift into scared 12 year old mode in seconds

[00_Juris]

Dafuq is everybody ?

http://tinychat.com/00juris

[LikeAstone]

Was watching tombstone yesterday and this scene hit me in the feels.
That look on his face...so FA.

[maori-rap]

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...53&pagenumber=

^^^new thread, please discontinue this thread and post in there

tanks