what is the ideal relationship?

[bigfish18q]

I think ideally I want someone with similar interests, but I also realize I have a stupidly wide range of interests so I would settle for a few things we can do together. I want a woman who lifts, non smoker, has legit fitness goals, a damn good sense of humor (no negotiating here) likes to travel (small vacations), enjoys her own time and can cook (maybe the most important).

I've come to find that "opposites attract is complete BS. If you're opposites, what the hell are you going to do together. Get ready for some arguing. I want a woman who has as much in common with me as possible.

[aristomeow]

I think ideally I want someone with similar interests, but I also realize I have a stupidly wide range of interests so I would settle for a few things we can do together. I want a woman who lifts, non smoker, has legit fitness goals, a damn good sense of humor (no negotiating here) likes to travel (small vacations), enjoys her own time and can cook (maybe the most important).

I've come to find that "opposites attract is complete BS. If you're opposites, what the hell are you going to do together. Get ready for some arguing. I want a woman who has as much in common with me as possible.

Agreed. Opposites don't attract. We are not magnets.

[mrshester]

Is it marriage? with kids or without?
living together? specify please with children or without
dating in a monogomous relationship while each maintaining seperate homes?


I was discussing this today with someone and would like your input
also if your age is not listed on your AVI will you include it please?

Mine is marriage with kids, same home. I was 23 when hubs and I started dating and told him within the first few dates that I wasn't dating just to have someone to sleep with or party with and then dump. I was dating because I wanted to have a family one day with a man who would want to be my husband until "death do us part". Wasn't about sowing oats or YOLOing it up. I tried that and it really hurt. I knew within a month that I wanted to marry him. Similar values, but not totally identical. My desired mate would want kids, could handle being around my BIG family (that was actually one of my "tests" for guys I dating exclusively...would they like my family), decent work ethic, no substance abuse issues, no really bad reputation going into the relationship. Basically everything opposite of what my parents did, character-wise, I tried to make a priority when I got serious about dating for serious relationships. A strong but kind heart. Didn't have to be perfect because I knew I was far from it and still am. We've been married for 7 years so far and we've both done things that the other could have packed up and left over, but we didn't. Even when he pisses me off, he's still one helluva man

[Ascendedlife]

I want a girl that can challenge me to be a better person. Without writing my usual essay of material when I answer seriously. Im basically looking for a girl whose going to be my best friend. Someone who respects and appreciates me as much as they may love me. Someone who I see a part of myself in and who values my happiness as much as her own, knowing thats what Im going to return.

1 or 2 kids
2 dogs
traveling all the time (before kids)

[sgtpeppers]

I think I am in the ideal relationship because I didn't even want to have kids or get married until I met my boyfriend. He became my best friend, and over time I began to realize "hey... we'd make smart, kind, beautiful babies together". He makes me want to dress up, stay healthy, cook dinner, and make lame little crafts I see on pinterest for him. Before I met him my response to any of those activities would have been laced with expletives.

It is great when you have someone who wants to be there everyday to help you grow as a person, and you want to do the same for them. Making him laugh or smile still makes me feel giddy

Age:22

[Lioness27]

I am only 21 and I am already with the man I want to spend the rest of my life with, who is 24...and yes we have already talked and planned this all out. My relationship may not be the most ideal but that is because no relationship is perfect, but it is just right for me. Do we argue? yes, we argue a lot, but that makes the relationship stronger. After we argue though and everything gets fixed, it is as if nothing even happened and we are back to our lovey dovey selves lol. We are best friends, and everything does in fact seem better when we are with each other. He takes away the stress of everyday life. He is so positive about everything which helps me because I can be a negative nancy sometimes. We have a lot of the same goals, interests, views, values, and thoughts. He helps me appreciate the person I am. He has helped me grow and mature in ways that nobody else could. He is my positive support system and my rock. We have our good and our bad days but we push through the bad days and enjoy the good times we have with each other. He truly is the greatest thing that has happened to me thus far.

Plan:
Marriage (yes, I do want "the wedding")
Traveling
4 kids (we want 2 girls and 2 boys, but we'll take what we get)
2 dogs (Labs)
1 house
grow old rustling each others jimmies haha
LION LOVE <3

[sgtpeppers]

i am only 21 and i am already with the man i want to spend the rest of my life with, who is 24...and yes we have already talked and planned this all out. My relationship may not be the most ideal but that is because no relationship is perfect, but it is just right for me. Do we argue? Yes, we argue a lot, but that makes the relationship stronger. After we argue though and everything gets fixed, it is as if nothing even happened and we are back to our lovey dovey selves lol. We are best friends, and everything does in fact seem better when we are with each other. He takes away the stress of everyday life. He is so positive about everything which helps me because i can be a negative nancy sometimes. We have a lot of the same goals, interests, views, values, and thoughts. He helps me appreciate the person i am. He has helped me grow and mature in ways that nobody else could. He is my positive support system and my rock. We have our good and our bad days but we push through the bad days and enjoy the good times we have with each other. He truly is the greatest thing that has happened to me thus far.

ahhh! This!!!

[sonti]

I'm 28 with 2 (very young) kids. Ideal is married and more independent/grown children We'll get there eventually - we're doing well but lack a lot of 'freedom' because of the kid's ages.

[Cakes89]

23

Ideal would be the situation im in now. I was raised by okd fashioned parents and that's how I look at things to.

Having our first kid this year (unplanned not quite ideal)

Bought our first home.. she wants a cat I hate cats but ya gotta compromise sometimes. The wedding will come in a couple years..

But ive met my absolute best friend. Somebody who u can look at know what their thinking and burst out laughing. U can just relax around and never feel up tight at all.. you find eachother physically /sexually atractive ( doesnt mean u always gotta pound) you wanna be a better you just for them.

Somebody u can sleep comfortably with fukn chit first women I can stand sleeping through the night with

[Wyomann]

Has anyone else noticed that almost everyone wants the same thing? Best Friend, makes you laugh, similar interests etc... You would think finding a long term relationship would be easy, yet this is not the case. Just some food for thought.

[Keltron]

As of right now?
Both of us have our own place. I like living alone and I also don't want to worry about not being seen naked by room mates when I come out of the shower while I'm at her place.
She has no kids or they are grown up and not living w/her.
She's in her early 30's to early 40's.
She has a dog but no cats. I like dogs and want one of my own but I'm not home enough to give it the care that it needs so having a girlfriend w/a dog would be ideal. I'm allergic to male cats and I don't want to be sneezing wheezing while I'm at her place. But a female cat still wouldn't be OK because cats are all evil anyway
She's not opposed to possibly marrying in the future if the chips fall that way but she's also not in a rush to get married either.

[yogadancefit123]

He is funny, smart and challenges me. Marriage around 26. 1-2 children 26-29. Living together, sleeping together on weekends. Here's the impossible: he and I are both able to have killer jobs in the same place. He moves for my career, and I simultaneously move for his (impossible). Nanny takes care of the children during the day, or private school, he cooks, and I clean.

[penny0527]

Girls don't fart.

I met a girl last weekend that has never farted

Age: 34
My husband is the shiznit. That's all I have to add.

[Bunpitsu]

A blind wife and a deaf husband.

/thread

[firely]

If he doesn't want marriage then I'm not fussed either. Hopefully at least one kid sooner or later.

Just someone to explore life with. Not asking for the world. Don't want to put too many expectations into anything either. I like to go with the flow. Something is right at one time but not for another. I'm sure whatever comes along will be right, my intimate connections have been anomalies so far anyway.

I've come to find that "opposites attract is complete BS. If you're opposites, what the hell are you going to do together. Get ready for some arguing. I want a woman who has as much in common with me as possible.

When i fall for someone I have a tendency to develop a keen interest in their interests, and have found some genuine lifelong hobbies because of it. Had some great connections with people into different stuff to me. Prefer it that way actually. It's great bonding while being introduced to something new or different.

[latebloomingmom]

I met a girl last weekend that has never farted

Age: 34
My husband is the shiznit. That's all I have to add.

did she look like that girl in charlie and the chocolate factory that turned purple and they had to roll her away?

[penny0527]

did she look like that girl in charlie and the chocolate factory that turned purple and they had to roll her away?

HA HA! All I could think is if she ever does it is going to STINK!

[BrotherWolf]

I want a great friend , passionate lover a girl that inspires me and brings out the best in me and vice versa
and willing to work through rough times..

[BrotherWolf]

Age: 31 in 11 days :|

Ideal: Married with 2 kids, living together being bffs!

WoulddothiswithSultanaK/10

So would I .. minus the 2 kids and the marriage part is not important

[taiga1]

I. Got. Nothing.

So, I'm going to be lazy and steal the following 3 responses. I like all of them.

Married, no kids, a few fur babies. Mutual respect, few expectations. Passion for each other and life. Mutual and separate friends. Mutual and separate interests. Separate guy and girl time. Families and friends that get along. Lots of travel and experiencing new things.

Key words: ideal.

I think ideally I want someone with similar interests, but I also realize I have a stupidly wide range of interests so I would settle for a few things we can do together. I want a woman who lifts, non smoker, has legit fitness goals, a damn good sense of humor (no negotiating here) likes to travel (small vacations), enjoys her own time and can cook (maybe the most important).

I've come to find that "opposites attract is complete BS. If you're opposites, what the hell are you going to do together. Get ready for some arguing. I want a woman who has as much in common with me as possible.

I want a girl that can challenge me to be a better person. Without writing my usual essay of material when I answer seriously. Im basically looking for a girl whose going to be my best friend. Someone who respects and appreciates me as much as they may love me. Someone who I see a part of myself in and who values my happiness as much as her own, knowing thats what Im going to return.

1 or 2 kids
2 dogs
traveling all the time (before kids)

But, would like to add...SEX...really, really good sex. Effort must be made to keep the sex life good. That chit is important.

That is all.

[awwsumr0cketz]

hrmm.. i definitely want kids. i dont care about marriage because trying to do with wedding with my effed up familly would be a headache. probably would want to have a hubster who is more of a friend than a lover so it works in the long term.

atleast 1 dog, nice little house or condo which we share. probably would hafta be a huge nerd and not hinder my gym-ing because thats a deal breaker haha.

[Wyomann]

But, would like to add...SEX...really, really good sex. Effort must be made to keep the sex life good. That chit is important.

That is all.

Sloots gonna Sloot.

JK, thank god a female mentioned good sex as being important.

[itsagoodday]

I met a girl last weekend that has never farted

Show me a girl that has never farted, and I'll show you one heck of a liar

[penny0527]

Show me a girl that has never farted, and I'll show you one heck of a liar

True dat

[awwsumr0cketz]

i think good sex is essential to a good relationship. gotta satisfy them needs.

[Wyomann]

Show me a girl that has never farted, and I'll show you one heck of a liar

True dat

W/e, all you farting she devils are jealous there are genuine ladies out there.

[penny0527]

W/e, all you farting she devils are jealous there are genuine ladies out there.

Hey I don't. I'm in the liar category.

[itsagoodday]

Hey I don't. I'm in the liar category.

Oh, I fart. I just thought I'd clear the air on that*.

*Yes, I realize that may be a poor choice of words.

[latebloomingmom]

Oh, I fart. I just thought I'd clear the air on that*.

*Yes, I realize that may be a poor choice of words.

heeheee
actuallly as a child I was told to never do that in public it was not ladylike

[latebloomingmom]

I will answer my own thread
I am 44 years old and mom of two boys
I did the 20 year marriage already
my ideal....two people that have their own houses, their own careers, their own interests
come together out of a mutual respect, hunger and need for one another






oooooo and probably should be able to put up with my temper