Anybody ever been with a person where religion is an issue? Love this girl to death and vice versa, but she was raised super christian and she struggles with me. I'm spiritual just not religious(was raised catholic but stopped when I became a teenager and could think for myself). I don't support religion but I don't mind if she is as long as she isnt crazy, puts people down, etc. The problem is that with christians they require YOU to get on board with them because if I'm not "equally yoked" then the bible says it will be a life long struggle to be with that person and if they aren't believers they will go to hell. It's really tough because if I didn't love her so much I'd tell her to kick rocks but literally everything else is so amazing between us. Just sucks that one thing puts a thorn in it all.
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02-01-2022, 11:02 AM #5281
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02-01-2022, 01:48 PM #5282
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02-01-2022, 07:19 PM #5284
I don't see it that way at all. He loves her, but [he implies that] she uses his agnosticism against him and he's growing tired of it. It doesn't appear as if he's trying to mess with her piety, but she might be trying to mess with his lack of. Sloppyjoe1 should just lay it all out and set the boundaries. Religion literally has nothing to do with the relationship, and it sucks they have to deal with that. It's just like politics. Has nothing to do with relationships, but always tears people apart because one of them can't handle the other.
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02-01-2022, 09:16 PM #5285
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02-02-2022, 09:29 AM #5286
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02-02-2022, 11:08 AM #5287
I get that women could hypothetically sloot it up while traveling with little trace of their escapades but personally I find I jive better with women who have the desire to travel and et al as opposed to homebodies/introverts who are just waiting for a decent man to come along and enrich and instantly become the focal point of their life (not saying all homebodies/introverts are like this by any means just trying to paint a picture).
Now if the only thing their travels seem to revolve around is finding chads to party with then that's another story but I'd be hesitant to make judgements just because she enjoys seeing other parts of the world.
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02-02-2022, 12:16 PM #5288
Well that’s what I like about the Misc is that I have male friends I communicate with almost daily who don’t ask me for nude pics like dating app guys do. I don’t like the trolls who harass me though.
I drink too much caffeine for someone with anxiety and they give me more psych meds to get off of ****** as the DEA is clamping down on controlled substances, but the psych meds make ne sleepy. I guess the only way that would work is if I went over to the guy’s house after working out and all we do is watch Netflix.
I haven’t gotten past a second date with a guy my age in my area though in years. so that’s my first step lol. I usually see my younger guy FWB on the weekends.Make It a Great Day! Just call me Dusty. It's a Clown 🤡 World out there.
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02-03-2022, 08:55 AM #5289
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02-03-2022, 09:23 AM #5290
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02-03-2022, 02:53 PM #5292
boring text conversation, but maybe im not messing up and just putting effort into conversations with women on apps that have no intention of meeting up.
also i dont live in a big city, i live in a suburban city with no real downtown, so trying the optimal thing of meeting at a bar close to my house is not really possible. this leads to me going to where the woman is to meet up for a drink, normally a 30 minute plus drive away, then i end up feeling a bit out of my element and not escalating during the date like i used to.
when i used to live in a big city, i would meet girls at a bar that was under my apartment.
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02-03-2022, 10:41 PM #5293
Why do you have to meet in a bar? Are you trying to get a one-night stand?
Why not coffee first to see if there is chemistry if you're getting a lot of matches?
Or dinner for the women who think a guy is cheap if he just offers coffee or drinks first date. I have a lot of female friends who have said that guys are cheap when they do this.Make It a Great Day! Just call me Dusty. It's a Clown 🤡 World out there.
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02-03-2022, 10:48 PM #5294
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02-03-2022, 11:03 PM #5295
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02-04-2022, 05:19 AM #5296
Quoted for the truth. Honestly, if its more than a 15 minute drive I usually suggest a FaceTime call which women have been very receptive too. Also allows both of us to assess compatibility. I've had a handful of FT calls that helped avoid what would've been awkward dates. Im sure she would've agreed too.
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02-04-2022, 08:26 AM #5297
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02-04-2022, 11:36 AM #5298
Not trying to do 1 night stands, but I don't do day time dates and don't drink coffee at night. I thought having a drink for a first date is universally accepted as a way to see if there is chemistry. I'm not cheap and always pay.
The area I live in sucks. Think suburb that is stuck in the 80's/90's. Anyone I end up matching with that is not morbidly obese or doesn't have 2+ children is a 30 minute drive from me.
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02-04-2022, 11:40 AM #5299
Of course, DustinTheHuss friend's are clearly obnoxious gold diggers.
Dustin, one lesson I've learned over the years is judge a person by their friend group. They are almost always just like their friends.
Do you claim to not be like them? If no, do you actually like your friends?𝕮𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖈𝖍𝖊𝖈𝕶, 𝖓𝖊𝖛𝖊𝖗 𝖈𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖇𝖎𝖙𝖈𝖍
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02-04-2022, 12:11 PM #5300
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02-04-2022, 12:55 PM #5301
You can call me Dusty as I’m obviously female
No I think I’m an anomaly from my friend group as they tend to date wealthier, somewhat older men and my dating pool has been significantly younger men who don’t have much money.
What’s also interesting is that I’m the only one who has worked for more than a few years and has a career, yet I’m the one who struggles with anxiety and depression more then they do. Maybe it’s from the stress of a career.
I just don’t want to get with someone I’m not attracted to and they seem to value wealth more than attractiveness.
I guess both are shallow to be honest as my therapist says I should find someone who values my kindness, how I help others and animals and other traits vs. my size. Then I should look for the same in a partner once I’m divorced. I mean we all get old and lose our looks over 50.Make It a Great Day! Just call me Dusty. It's a Clown 🤡 World out there.
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02-04-2022, 01:30 PM #5302
Agree that dinner dates are the worst
they feel like interviews and there's no way to escalate and what not
plus eating food in front of a stranger that you're trying to impress for the first time feels odd
a fun activity is best, and if everything goes well you can go get food afterwardsBalanced Test Crew
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02-04-2022, 03:05 PM #5303
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02-05-2022, 10:38 AM #5308
I’ve only been on 1 first date where I inadvertently paid for food. Went to a bar to buy a drink, and the girl ordered food. I didn’t.
Bill came and she didn’t even offer to pay anything. Never contacted her again. Lesson learned to insist she pays her share in a situation like that.𝕮𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖈𝖍𝖊𝖈𝕶, 𝖓𝖊𝖛𝖊𝖗 𝖈𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖇𝖎𝖙𝖈𝖍
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