Went to a bar by myself in an attempt to be more social and meet girls....

[whyuscurredbro]

Things I learned this week....

1) Should have "went for the kill" with the Russian girl. Now there's another guy getting with it. But, this is something I need to work with in general and not be so passive about it,

2) I can pull ugly chicks. Ughhhh.... not really something I wanted. Worst is I meet them at some of my "regular" places, so basically everyone would know.

Anyways, going home during Christmas. So, it's possible to reconnect with some "old" friends.... but it will pretty much be recycling last year.

bro to boost your confidence and get some self esteem and experience, you need to go for the 5/10's. I see that you're in a good place where you're trying to improve your self, but you are wasting time by not making a move. **** them 5/10s so you can upgrade to a 6/10 and so on.

Good luck.

[AlphaDog3]

Things are going good. I've been busy. Most important thing I have learned is you need to act on opportunities when they are presented. The result may not always turn out as you wanted, but even if it does not turn out as planned it is still better than living with the remorse of not trying.

[AlphaDog3]

Had plans every night last weekend... Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. And Saturday was the only one that I had to initiate. Friday and Sunday were initiated by others who wanted me to hang out. There were females there all days, but all the better looking ones were in relationships. Good times were had by all. I'm less nervous around pretty girls and I've realized I can pretty much interact with any crowd.... young or old, hip or cool. It really doesn't matter. I'm less self conscious in general and my number one goal is just to have a good time. If I'm having a good time, others are having a good time.

Sunday some lady was asking me about what type of girl I am looking for.... I never really thought about it before. I guess I'm pretty basic... someone I am attracted to mentally and physically. I've never sat down and made a checklist. That kind of stuff seems like a waste of time to me. She showed me some girl on her ******** who was a hairdresser at some salon and looked pretty good. Unfortunately, I'll probably never see the lady so I won't be able to follow up.... but hey atleast it wasn't some female version of jabba the hut.

[Dirtymanjames]

What I've learned in life is girls are no different , a 5/10 or 10/10 . Treat them the same way , the difficult part is treating the 10 like the 5.

[AlphaDog3]

What I've learned in life is girls are no different , a 5/10 or 10/10 . Treat them the same way , the difficult part is treating the 10 like the 5.

...... or treating a 5 like a 10.

Ultimately, looks are only part of the equation and looks alone do not create a quality human being.

[Dirtymanjames]

...... or treating a 5 like a 10.

Ultimately, looks are only part of the equation and looks alone do not create a quality human being.

You have trouble treating the hotter girls like 5s? I like disregard the 5-6s and they become head over heels for me, I get a bit more "in my head" with the hotter ones.

[LankyProgressTV]

Honestly? What I do is look at what cars are in the parking lot. Civics? Jettas? little kia's? YES!!!! Dogde ram? F-150? Chevy Silverado? NO! Keep driving.

[SkylineCrash]

You sound adorable You need to find a lively bar with music or entertainment - closer to town?

OP get at it, she wants the D

(pls no mod neg)

[AlphaDog3]

You have trouble treating the hotter girls like 5s? I like disregard the 5-6s and they become head over heels for me, I get a bit more "in my head" with the hotter ones.

No... I am saying the same thing you are saying.

Honestly? What I do is look at what cars are in the parking lot. Civics? Jettas? little kia's? YES!!!! Dogde ram? F-150? Chevy Silverado? NO! Keep driving.

Hahahaa.... that's not a bad idea. Good looking out my friend!

[stepintoliquid]

proud of you opie

[AlphaDog3]

You guys ever run across a girl in real life that you have seen on ******** by a friend of a friend's page? Well, that happened to me tonight. You have to understand I just joined ******** around the time I started this thread. I gave her the eye, but she did not reciprocate. She was constantly on her phone and with a group of friends. I guess next time I will just have to approach...... but if you have been following this thread would you say that "NEXT TIME" has been my biggest enemy? In other words, I'm constantly saying what I will do next time and "NEXT TIME" may never come! Why wait for next time? The only thing that might be hurt is my ego... which isn't worth much.

[ForeverDreaming]

Check out my post, I'm adorable too

You look like a creep.

[AlphaDog3]

The good.... there's a lot going on this weekend.

The bad.... I'm sick and won't get to enjoy any of it unless I get better by tomorrow. I've been battling a sore throat since Wednesday. No other symptoms other than generally feeling tired... probably because I am fighting it off. It hurts to talk, swallow, cough. I figure stay home tonight, go to bed early, and hope it's better by tomorrow. No point in going out when it hurts to talk and it will probably only make the condition worse.

[MiamiLife305]

I havnt seen this thread in a while.

Alphadog have you pulled any sloots yet?

And yes, don't go out sick

[AlphaDog3]

Nah... haven't pulled any sloots. Awhile ago went out on a "platonic" date with a couple and someone whose husband was out of town. Doesn't really count other than the fact I carried myself well.

Last 10 days have been horrible because of this cold. I have been going to bed early. Started to feel better this weekend, but I had family stuff to do so it was good to see them and I got to go to bed early.

[AlphaDog3]

Been busy and having a good time all around. Made some new friends. Still not very good with the ladies, but whatever... a lot of the time I'm so busy and having fun I wouldn't want to have to cancel what I'm doing to hang with a female.

Last night I had a few invites, but ended up seeing some guys I met that play in a band. Tons of girls 20-22, but I feel like I'm too old for them. They seem like kids to me.

Hungover today... but had to suck it up because I had stuff to do.

Also been hitting the gym 4-5 days hard for an hour or more. Seeing some good results. Thinking of getting back on some post workout protein. Haven't been taking it lately because I was trying to cut calories.

All in all... life is good.

[AlphaDog3]

Also, starting to think the best way to meet girls is when I see one during my daily activities get their contact info and invite them to the next thing I'm doing. Seriously, this up coming week the only days free I have are Wed and Sunday. And after being busy the rest of the week I really appreciate the free days to reload. Last thing I want to do is also go out Wed or Sunday... haha.

.... "I'm headed up for a xyz on Thursday evening. You should check it out. It's a good time."

[AlphaDog3]

What's up? In light of recent events I thought of this thread. The updates have been few and far between and it's not because I don't have anything to update... it's because I've been too busy. Yeah, stuff doesn't always go your way, but it's not going to kill you so you continue to move forward and do the best you can. I don't have any valuable lesson to preach or any words of wisdom to pass along. The most important things cannot be taught, they must be learned.

If anyone wants to PM me feel free, but I do not plan on updating this thread anymore. It's run it's course and I'm too busy and lazy to maintain it. In closing, I'll pretend to post some stupid quote that reads like a fortune cookie.

[AlphaDog3]

Things have certainly changed in the last year. Looking back, I think "forever alone" types aren't doing themselves any favors by....

(1) overthinking every situation. It's just not worth it. I'm still guilty of it, but ultimately MOST people spend little to none of their time thinking about you. There's no reason to worry what other people will think about you because chances are they will spend very little time and energy thinking about you at all. Just be the best you can be and don't be a dick.

(2) afraid to try new things... this probably goes back to overthinking because you cycle and cycle around from bad scenarios to worst case scenarios. Don't be an idiot, but if you dive head first into most situations good things (or nothing at all) will come from it.

I guess these are the two biggest changes I've made over the last year. Trying not to overthink and not being afraid to try new things (situations). I've always liked drinking and getting hammered though, so hanging out in bars might not be the best case scenario... either that or limit myself to one drink for every hour I'm there. So far it works pretty good. I still get nervous in certain situations, but I think I posted earlier in this thread that I realized that wasn't going to go away. Now, I just try to embrace it because the end result is usually a good experience!

Make the change! Good luck!

[AlphaDog3]

What's up, dudes? My life has been going pretty kickass since the last time I posted. Things are awesome in the 2.5 years since I've last posted. I'm still going out regularly... actually probably more than ever. I've met more cool people than any other time in my life. I've also met some idiots, but hey... that's part of the fun.

Only issue is I continued my infatuation with the girl from work.... I finally got the nerve up to ask her out three times. If you're curios to see what happened....

They'll never be another Jessica.

Six years ago at the age of 29 I moved from a big city to a much smaller city as a career move. I knew a total of two people in the new city. A nice married couple who were friends with my sister. Not much in the way of socializing. The move has worked out great. I'm making more money than ever at a very solid career and the last three years my social circle has expanded. In a much smaller city I've got more friends than ever. I bought a house in an awesome location and am on track to pay off the mortgage by the age of 40. The second half of my 20s was rough with few friends and the first half of my 30s has been awesome!

However, never one who was great with the ladies, I have only went on a handful of dates since moving. I guess I am pretty much the stereotypical nice guy. Add to that a low tolerance for bull**** and you can see why I'd rather hang in the comfort of my friends.


But then I met Jessica. I met her at work as she was a lower level employee. She was 5 years younger than me and a recently divorced single mother. She was gorgeous! The prettiest girl I had met since the move. There were negatives, i.e. she had the kid with her husband before they were married and a few years later decided on giving the married life a try before divorcing.... but to me she was on a pedestal the size of Mount Everest and there was no way to knock her off.

When I dealt with her at work it always made my day. I was so nervous I would often stumble my words or try to hard to think of something clever to say. As a result, I said very little. I friended her on ******** and checked her profile out several times a week hoping to see a new picture or find out what she did over the weekend. I did date a few other girls, but even then Jessica was on my mind and everything ended after a second date.

For four years nothing happened. In fact, I started dealing with her less and less. I saw on ******** she got back with her ex complete with a "we were made for each other to be together forever" post. However, it only lasted a few months... so I knew inside there was still hope for me! Then it happened. Towards the end of the summer of 2016 she suddenly started calling me nearly every day, sometimes multiple times. Work would start the conversation, but eventually we'd chat on a more social level. By this time I was more relaxed and more of my personality was able to show through. She laughed at my jokes and I laughed at hers, although as a woman her jokes were of course not as funny as mine.

My confidence was up... by this point I knew she was in to me! Four and a half years after first meeting her I got the nerve to invite her out over the weekend. "Oh... I am busy, but maybe some other time." A week or two I followed up and received nearly the same response. I thought to myself "well... she did say maybe some other time so there's still hope!" So a week later I made my third and plea and decided to be an alpha because woman like that ****. It didn't work and the response was much colder. Her nearly daily calls ceased. My hope was nearly gone.

At this point, I rarely ran in to her... but I still occasionally checked out her social media accounts because she was the "prettiest girl" I knew. When I did run in to her the conversations were light and due to the prior let down I basically had a "I don't give a ****" attitude and would talk to her like she was one of my guy friends.

Then a few months later when checking her ******** account I saw she was on a vacation with a guy. Due to a prior job I had that I cannot go in to detail about, I have resources to run background checks on people. Of course I had to check this guy out.... I had to see who the guy was that "beat" me on winning Jessica's affection. Well, it turns out he was convicted of 2 DUIs with a third on the way and also accused of battery by his ex wife...... who he was still married to while dating Jessica.

Color me shocked when it didn't work out. Guess what I thought.......... "I'm back in the game! There's still a chance for me!" Soon I was again occasionally checking out her social media hoping to see what she was up to and we were talking a few times a month. She was finishing up her degree, but had taken the last few semesters off basically because she's lazy.

And then this week I heard through the grapevine.... Jessica got knocked up and is having another kid.

And just like that I'm out. No way I'm interested in a single mom who has two kids out of wedlock 10 years apart with two baby daddies. And it's going to be awfully hard to finish up that college degree with a newborn and a job. I can't believe the girls I turned down over the last couple of years because of "hope" I had that Jessica would some day come to hear senses and realizes I was the love of her life. What a ****ing douchebag I was.... you live, you learn. Maybe someone else can learn from reading this.... one thing I can tell you is that 2017 is going to be awesome.

In closing, I wasted 5-6 years fantasizing about something that was never going to happen and passed up other opportunities for a crush I had put on a pedestal and now will have two kids with two different fathers. I'm not sure exactly what the future holds for me, but I now one thing for certain...... They'll never be another Jessica!

At this point, I'm realizing it's easy to be hungry when you don't have **** to lose. Life is a learning experience and you learn many things... people just learn some of them at different times. Be good to yourself and each other!

Take it easy!

[chasingdreams14]

A buddy of mine phucked a 65 year old grandmother named Simone and said her pussy felt like sandpaper

[Vhagar]

the title and first sentence of this thread is the funniest thing ever

[AlphaDog3]

If you read the entire thread there's sort of a conclusion over a 3.5 year period. Man... I'm cool, but I can be a dumbass!

[Ermahgerdd]

alphadog3 what do you work as m8?