We went to a club last night with another couple, girls are dancing while me and my mate sit down with our drinks then my mate goes outside to have a smoke so i go outside with him, then we come back in and both girls are dancing with some guys and grinding on them. I get pi**** and finish my drink and walk out, my gf's too busy rubbing her arse on his dik to realise i'm upset.
I turned my phone off after i left as i couldn't be bothered to listen to her make excuses or justify being a sloot, i ignored her messages today until a few hours ago when she rung, she's convinced she's done nothing wrong and believes having dry sex is 'just dancing' and that cos my mate didn't get upset that I shouldn't either, she said she won't grind with anyone again 'if it makes me so insecure', but the point is that in her mind she thinks there's nothing wrong with it. She already thought i'm insecure and controlling before this cos i refused to date her until she agreed to stop dressing like a sloot, now we've not been together for three weeks and i'm already getting this s***. Would you leave your gf for this?
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02-02-2014, 02:05 PM #1
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02-02-2014, 02:07 PM #2
I wouldn't leave my gf for this. I personally have grinded with my friends gf's and my gf doesn't care and I don't think it's a big deal but that's as far as I will take it.
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Look usually I am the first person to side with the guy but she honestly didn't do anything wrong. She had no idea you would be upset by it and I don't know if you have been living under a rock for the last 20 years but that is how the kids dance nowadays...you wanted her to do the charleston or start salsa dancing to "back that ass up" or whatever chitty club music they play now.
You are being insecure and you should apologize for getting your panties in a twist, also who the hell sees his girl dancing with some guy and then leaves to go pout outside. If you have a problem you walk right up to her grab her and you start grinding on her because you have that rightSkepticism is the chastity of the intellect, and it is shameful to surrender it too soon or to the first comer: there is nobility in preserving it coolly and proudly through long youth, until at last, in the ripeness of instinct and discretion, it can be safely exchanged for fidelity and happiness
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02-02-2014, 02:45 PM #5
those guys rubbed their boner on your girl. so I see why you are upset.
Socially though, I have seen it generally to be acceptable by many people, it means less than a peck on the cheek, IDK why that is but socially thats how its accepted over here and I have danced with my friends GF and the BF even encouraged me to and also seen girls with BF's go out dancing with other guys like that.
I would not want my woman doing that either, but I would just communicate that with her rather than getting super upset over it because its a generally accepted behavior.
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02-02-2014, 02:52 PM #8
I think it is slooty as ****.
But I do think that unfortunately whether due to their own stupidity or not, many women feel that grinding is okay to do whilst in a relationship.
If she says she isn't going to do it again now that she sees it bothers you then I guess it's cool, if you believe her that is.
But I can understand you being angry that she herself doesn't see how slooty it is on her own.Custom, tradition, and intellectual laziness lead men to follow their religious
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I would not tolerate my gf grinding her ass on another guy's dick on the dance floor. That is just flat out disrespectful. So many guys will justify that is just how dancing is but no it's not. Most dancing does not have your gf dry humping another guy where he is shoving his hard schlong into her ass repeatedly on a public floor for everyone to see. If a girl does not see this as crossing a boundary then she is not the girl I want to be with as simple as that.
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No you are just the push over who sees his girl getting her ass rubbed and you walk away sad instead of pulling her away and dancing with her yourself.
Look you went to a place where everyone grinds on everyone, you leave your girl alone and someone is going to try and grind on her. No need to throw a phucky hiss fit over it , you are wrong and usually when people overreact they apologize but you are too "alpha" for that.Skepticism is the chastity of the intellect, and it is shameful to surrender it too soon or to the first comer: there is nobility in preserving it coolly and proudly through long youth, until at last, in the ripeness of instinct and discretion, it can be safely exchanged for fidelity and happiness
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I walked away cos at the time all i was thinking was fuk this sloot disrepecting me like this, i'd rather walk out and leave her there instead of going up to her and
asking her politely to stop rubbing her arse on guys diks as it's bothering me.
I'm not trying to be alpha or anything i'm just not gonna apolgise when in my eyes she's the one in the wrong.
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It's weird how i've been in a bad mood for the last 24 hours thinking about this but now i realise my gf is just being stupid and naive rather than slooty, if she was a sloot then i don't think she would of grinded in front of me.
Thanks for the advice ITT it really helped, i guess we've gotta have a talk about boundaries.
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02-02-2014, 03:32 PM #23
It's not cool.
She knows now.
She likely won't do it again.I don't have problems, I have situations.
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02-02-2014, 03:38 PM #24
You need to grow up. Girls like to dance. Therefore girls are going to dance. If you choose to try and control her guess what? She'll just go dancing behind your back.
If you want to be with her then stop being so insecure. Let her dress how she wants. Lets her dance with who she wants. Your confidence in yourself will keep her as faithful as shes ever going to be. Meaning if shes gonna cheat she'll do it whether or not shes dressing like a sloot/dancing. But if she wasn't gonna cheat your insecurities will push her away.
And if its that serious to you then you need to find a girl who doesn't party.
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As long as she's fine with you grinding on other girls, then you're good to go.
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02-02-2014, 03:52 PM #30
Agree with statement in bold. Insecurity will push a girlfriend away. This guy is a tricky one. He started dating this girl but thought she looked too slutty so wanted her to change.
Now this. It seems like OP doesn't like anything about this girl. He just seems to see her as one big sloot he wants to change. It really is quite bizarre.
I personally don't think it's OK to grind like that on a guy when I'm out and have a boyfriend.
Clearly this girl does. OP has told her he doesn't like it, and hopefully she will respect that.
But Opie? Why are you in a relationship with a girl you
a) don't seem to like anything about
b) you keep saying is everything you don't like
c) want to change?I don't have problems, I have situations.
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