Why Girls Flake - I asked a Friend, Here's her Response

[spinaroonie]

Just had a discussion with a female friend about this.

Me: sup?
Her: hey what's up?
Me: i'm good. lemme ask you something random. ever give your number out to a guy, then not respond to his texts?
Her: yep
Me: why?
Her: i was probably drunk when i gave it out. or cuz i'm too busy to respond. or no longer interested
Me: and there's no guilt involved?
Her: why would i feel guilty?
Me: leading someone on
Her: it's all part of the game
Me: lol. forget about reason and accountability
Her: people get numbers and not call. so why not give your number and not respond? you give numbers to people that may interest you, but not enough to return their message or call. could be many reasons. i wouldn't feel guilty about it. it's my personal choice
Me: it's not just about you though
Her: of course it is. why is it not about me?
Me: how about consideration for the other person
Her: i don't even know the other person. usually non-response is an indication of no further interest. most intelligent people will interpret it as such. it's self explanatory
Me: sure. but why give out your number in the first place
Her: i already told you reasons as to why i may have

At least she is honest.

[moonfarious]

fuk that know that feel

[NickDaQuik]

How beta of you

[heynah]

Great example of a consideration and logic. Oh lawd, let me guess; she's American.

[nlouisy]

So that girl who used to text me stopped responding, I'm guessing she's dead because I'm too irresistible god dammit.

[JonOldSchool]

Your friend sounds like a serious kunt.

[r6racer87]

Kick her in the (kunt)

[Jerma]

actually kind of respect this bish

[Violator009]

she sound like a real kunt, good thing not all are like that

[awasay]

Wait, what exactly is so wrong with her response? Seems logical enough for me..

Sure she/females in general can take the time to explain to the poor bloke but even if she didnt the guy should get a point..

[esp]

Yup here the above poster is right. Just because you give a number out doesnt entitle the other person to anything. Now once you've been on dates, smashed its rude to jsut ignore the person. At least the female can say "shes not interested or the usual lets just be friends"

[Violator009]

^^ those two sound like kunts aswell, instead of giving a person youre not interested in your number and playing kindergarten school games with people, how about saying "im not interested" " or "no thankyou im taken" i rather someone give it to me straight than bullshiit games

[2FAST4YU]

^^ those two sound like kunts aswell, instead of giving a person youre not interested in your number and playing kindergarten school games with people, how about saying "im not interested" " or "no thankyou im taken" i rather someone give it to me straight than bullshiit games

It's cause we're guys and not hoes.

[WIJG]

I'm kind of turned on. OP, pics?

[Molec]

actually kind of respect this bish

Same, but the convo sounds too rhetorical and fake.

[FeelTheFear]

Who gives a **** why girls flake. All that matters is that it's guaranteed to happen so you need to get yourself into a place where it doesn't actually affect you.

[SurreyMan]

This is from Reddit, OP didn't actually have this conversation himself

[FunSize1990]

Would no longer be friends with/10.

[FU3L]

Isn't this common knowledge? She's right to an extent.

"i don't even know the other person. usually non-response is an indication of no further interest. most intelligent people will interpret it as such. it's self explanatory"

^ Agree.

[Nocturne808]

lol OP is a bit socially retarded. If they don't respond back, then they're not interested. If they wanted to jump on your penor, they would be the one texting you.

Also, there was this guy in the FA crew who would double and triple text when there was no response.

[ThatguyKram]

I do this when I give/get numbers I'll get a few numbers, put some feelers out and determine who to proceed with from there.

Honestly you'd do the same as her in her position.

If people have options, the weaker competetors get cut out. It's as simple as that.

guys do it as much as girls, you just aren't exposed cause you don't text guys (I'm assuming)

If a girl is particularly bad at banter, I'll not respond or respond with minumal effort until she gives up (Recently happened with one of my girls, but she still blows my phone up when she's drunk, I just reject her calls and tell her to fuk off cause I'm trying to sleep).

It's the hot AND funny ones that get a reply. Try to be the hot AND funny guy.






There is no need to be upset OP

[GermanBeech]

This is the kind of girl that has no problem ignoring a guy she's not interested in but you just know she will freak out if a guy she's interested in doesn't call her! Other than that my jimmies remain unrustled.

[Tsudo]

I find her general attitude, however honest it may be, extremely ugly.
'Why should I care about some guy I was making out with but no longer find interderping? It's all about meeeeee.'

And 'that's how the game is played' that line rustles my jimmies. It wouldn't need to be a game if people were just direct, up front, and honest. But no, there has to be this dance involved...

[Beararms]

I find her general attitude, however honest it may be, extremely ugly.
'Why should I care about some guy I was making out with but no longer find interderping? It's all about meeeeee.'

And 'that's how the game is played' that line rustles my jimmies. It wouldn't need to be a game if people were just direct, up front, and honest. But no, there has to be this dance involved...

This, I wouldnt be friends with anyone that had an attitude like this. Just be straight up if you dont want to talk to the person none of these stupid ****ing games.

[PervedOut]

Its not her I want to beat with a metal bat, its her logic.....

[Boffothe]

I find her general attitude, however honest it may be, extremely ugly.
'Why should I care about some guy I was making out with but no longer find interderping? It's all about meeeeee.'

And 'that's how the game is played' that line rustles my jimmies. It wouldn't need to be a game if people were just direct, up front, and honest. But no, there has to be this dance involved...

This summed up my initial reaction as well; ugly. There's just a grossness to her attitude. She's not wrong, she's completely within her rights, she's being honest, but it just comes off as gross to me

[kickblake]

Her: of course it is. why is it not about me?

only important part of this

[WIJG]

There is no "woman logic" here. She's describing how quickly a woman's interest fluctuates. This is why you should always go for more than numbers. It's always easier to ignore a text, rather than answer it, so that's what they do. Imagine that you did impose some stream of ethics onto them and they'd be forced to reply. It would still be a waste of your time, unless you think that you can rebuild attraction over texts, which is very difficult. If you approach multiple women, this is very useful, as it saves you a lot of time. It will be frustrating if you keep waiting on a single girl, so don't.

[PervedOut]

Also, there was this guy in the FA crew who would double and triple text when there was no response.

If I was into this "game" I would do it too, no harm in following the rules

[SymphonyXXX]

only important part of this

I agree.