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[imbored21]

I thought she was a slampig?

U catching feels already?













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I was trolling about her being a slampig. She's like a 5/10 and cute (same as me probably). I wouldn't say I have feelings but I like that she likes me and is making it painlessly easy for me. She's definitely good enough for me from what I've seen so far.

[DustinTheHuss]

Honestly ended on good terms and it was “mutual”, although I must admit she seemed much more ready to move on than myself but who knows.

Yeah I know it’s a risk to reset the NC countdown if you will, I’ve held as strong as possible so far.

She has a backup and is already riding the dik. It’s a red pill you need to swallow.

You need to jerk off find another cute girl go out with her, and then reassess the situation.

The best cure is another girl and that’s what you should be doing. Don’t feel guilty about getting on tinder. It’s fair game.

This guy has a good post that counters the typical advice.

https://forum.bodybuilding.com/showt...post1638329423

It goes for men and women. Banging randoms doesn't help one feel better after a relationship ended because you miss sex with that emotional connection and your happiness should't be dependent upon the opposite sex.

[DustinTheHuss]

The girl wants to meet me again this Friday. She planned everything and is paying. We are going to see Mortal Kombat. Will be an easy date since I can just sit there quietly and make her horny by holding her hand lol.

Strong neg. You are just plain ridiculous.

[bustasinclair]

This guy has a good post that counters the typical advice.

https://forum.bodybuilding.com/showt...post1638329423

It goes for men and women. Banging randoms doesn't help one feel better after a relationship ended because you miss sex with that emotional connection and your happiness should't be dependent upon the opposite sex.

This is definitely true. You can postpone loneliness and the missing of the ex, but if you're still in love with them, the feelings will not just go away because you banged a random. Even starting a new relationship won't necessarily help; it just takes time.....lots of time.

BTW, your Avi pic is very sexy and drives me a little crazy! Not sure if I had already told you that.

[DustinTheHuss]

This is definitely true. You can postpone loneliness and the missing of the ex, but if you're still in love with them, the feelings will not just go away because you banged a random. Even starting a new relationship won't necessarily help; it just takes time.....lots of time.

BTW, your Avi pic is very sexy and drives me a little crazy! Not sure if I had already told you that.

Yeah I know a lot of women who bounce from relationship to relationship and it doesn't help heal from the last relationship either. You're right about time. I was devastated last summer and now it's just something I feel sad when I think about but it's rare that I do.

Hahah thanks. Inb4 Lucy says WK How have you been?

[bustasinclair]

Yeah I know a lot of women who bounce from relationship to relationship and it doesn't help heal from the last relationship either. You're right about time. I was devastated last summer and now it's just something I feel sad when I think about but it's rare that I do.

Hahah thanks. Inb4 Lucy says WK How have you been?

Yep, my previous ex was still not over her previous when she met me.....and that didn't end well for either of us.

WK? How is complimenting an Avi white knighting??? I thought white knighting was jumping in and defending a woman when she's being verbally assaulted.

Doing well. The winding down of tax season is in full swing and we are crazy BUSY!

I got my vaccination out of the way, so I'm ready for some celebrating!! How's the dating going? Anything you haven't reported yet?

[MediocreGains]

Honestly ended on good terms and it was “mutual”, although I must admit she seemed much more ready to move on than myself but who knows.

Women generally have an easier time moving on.

She has a backup and is already riding the dik. It’s a red pill you need to swallow.

Maybe, maybe not. No need to make such assumptions unless there's something he knows, and it doesn't really matter at this point anyways. Waste of time to even think about it.

This guy has a good post that counters the typical advice.

https://forum.bodybuilding.com/showt...post1638329423

It goes for men and women. Banging randoms doesn't help one feel better after a relationship ended because you miss sex with that emotional connection and your happiness should't be dependent upon the opposite sex.

Maybe for some. Sounds like typical self-help "find yourself" advice that really only applies if the person is trying to find happiness from random sex in the first place.

I mean, I certainly don't find some emotional fulfillment or happiness from eating a cheeseburger, but it tastes good and I enjoy it. Should I deny myself the pleasure and learn to "become happy" without cheeseburgers because of that? Lol. Same with banging some random, or least back when I did it. Banging some random after a breakup isn't really to get over the ex. It's because it's better to miss an ex with an empty ballsack rather than being on a dry spell on top of everything else. I understand it can be good advice for men who are emotionally needy, but it's presumptuous to assume that's the default. Of course, if he's not interested in banging randoms anyways, no need to ever do so.

[Luc1fer]

WK? How is complimenting an Avi white knighting??? I thought white knighting was jumping in and defending a woman when she's being verbally assaulted.

Technically correct. But the term is used more broadly to include validating and feeding women attention.

I wouldn't count a one-off compliment like yours as WK'ing. If you kept doing it, I would.

[Luc1fer]

Women generally have an easier time moving on.

Due to emotions? Faster ability to both attach and detach?

I know I’m slow to do both.

[bustasinclair]

Technically correct. But the term is used more broadly to include validating and feeding women attention.

I wouldn't count a one-off compliment like yours as WK'ing. If you kept doing it, I would.

Ahh, makes sense. I do like to give out compliments, mainly because I know how good it feels to get one, but like you say, I would never shower someone with them unless we were dating or married.

[MediocreGains]

Due to emotions? Faster ability to both attach and detach?

I know I’m slow to do both.

I think that's the main reason.

And a lot of women start detaching even before the breakup.

[DustinTheHuss]

Yep, my previous ex was still not over her previous when she met me.....and that didn't end well for either of us.

WK? How is complimenting an Avi white knighting??? I thought white knighting was jumping in and defending a woman when she's being verbally assaulted.

Doing well. The winding down of tax season is in full swing and we are crazy BUSY!

I got my vaccination out of the way, so I'm ready for some celebrating!! How's the dating going? Anything you haven't reported yet?

I was teasing you as a young kid (19) said hnnnggg about my avi and Miscers ripped on him.

Tax season. I’m glad that my friends handle that and not me lol.

I was sick for a month with a sinus infection so I missed a lot of dates. I met a hot younger guy I’ve been talking to and Misc rated him 8.75. He models so I’m nervous to meet someone that good looking, but I’ve dated models before. I was just younger and leaner lol.

At any rate he’s in finals and can’t meet until June. There was a 53 year old who fumbled and asked me to meet at his place for a bottle of wine vs. in public so I got upset, then he said he’ll buy me dinner to make up for it. Still, I’m kind of annoyed and won’t date an older guy unless it’s the traditional way.

2 27 year olds recently asked me to dinner but a 53 year old wouldn’t? Just lol.

[imbored21]

Been stressing out about kissing. Feel like I have no idea what I'm doing. When I kissed her goodbye I tried to give her a peck and she opened her mouth and I kissed her teeth and felt like I did something wrong. Also when we made out for 10 seconds we didn't make any kissing noises. No idea if I did something wrong or what's going on. I don't want stuff like this stressing me out and making me lose confidence so I hired an escort for a 30 minute appointment today.

So what happened with the escort:

I told her I wanted her to teach me how to kiss and she said okay lol and we kissed for 5 seconds and she told me to use my tongue more and I ended up gagging. Then she's like lol you have to kiss someone you like and are comfortable with and it comes naturally. She's like I have mouthwash over there. I know you want to use it lol. Then she's like do you have a gf? Then I told her about the girl I saw once and how i was seeing her again tomorrow. She's like lol that's so cute. Then she spent 2 hours giving me dating advice. But it was typical bluepilled advice like date 6 girls at the same time. Don't just date 1 girl. And she showed me her bumble and was like "see. I'm talking to all these guys (50 guys) and don't even meet up with 90% of them." Then she's telling me how the nightclub is better than online dating and it's the best place to meet girls. And taking a girl to a bar is the best date. Get her drunk. A movie is a bad date. And she's like stop seeing sex workers, you're too cute to do this and they will make normal girls boring and go to the gym. And she wants me to text her when I have questions and gave me condoms lol.

Yeah I'll stick with marrying the first girl who breathes in my direction lady. I'm a 27 year old incel. I don't have 1k bumble matches like you.


Also just want to point out that a 37 year old prostitute has 1000x my sexual market value. hahaha

[randomuser12345]

Is it possible for girl to be single for a long time and to not have sex during this period? I always assume that they have f*ckbuddy and it's so annoying when they act like they have sex only in relationships, it's like they want to take me for a fool.

[GayCumLord]

Is it possible for girl to be single for a long time and to not have sex during this period? I always assume that they have f*ckbuddy and it's so annoying when they act like they have sex only in relationships, it's like they want to take me for a fool.

Complete BS lol, especially if she's a 3rd wave feminist

[skinnyfat88]

Is it possible for girl to be single for a long time and to not have sex during this period? I always assume that they have f*ckbuddy and it's so annoying when they act like they have sex only in relationships, it's like they want to take me for a fool.

I usually date with the assumption they're not angels and after a while you get a better judgement of all that kinda stuff and how seriously you want to pursue.

[TallSaint]

I consider myself blessed because I have an unbreakable will when it comes to NC. I never reach out under any circumstance. If they reach out to me, I may consider replying based on the circumstance.

That said, I miss my ex lol. I've never actually really wanted a girl back after a break-up, but I wish this one would come back.

Can't believe, as of today, it's been 3 weeks already. Haven't heard a word from her since the day things ended and I will not break NC and reach out to her either.

Slowly and slowly accepting this will be reality moving forward.

[Luc1fer]

I consider myself blessed because I have an unbreakable will when it comes to NC. I never break it under any circumstance.

That said, I miss my ex lol. I've never actually really wanted a girl back after a break-up, but I wish this one would come back.

Can't believe, as of today, it's been 3 weeks already. Haven't heard a word from her since the day things ended and I will not break NC either.

Slowly and slowly accepting this will be reality moving forward.

I have broken it in the past, even though I’m generally very strong willed and disciplined. At the time, I was alone and had no close friends and family around which makes it 100x harder, and it was a 3+ year relationship.

It’s really difficult. Kudos. I think most of the incels that say “NC”, “just go NC bro” don’t understand how difficult it can be.

[TallSaint]

I have broken it in the past, even though I’m generally very strong willed and disciplined. At the time, I was alone and had no close friends and family around which makes it 100x harder, and it was a 3+ year relationship.

It’s really difficult. Kudos. I think most of the incels that say “NC”, “just go NC bro” don’t understand how difficult it can be.

I can only imagine how tough that would have been.

It's been my friends/family/this forum that have kept me afloat these last 3 weeks.

She's graduating the last week of May and I was supposed to be there with her to celebrate. Ironically, while we were together, I introduced her to one of my good friends who is a great photographer who will be taking photos of her during the grad ceremony. My friend knows we've broken up as I told her the whole story and I suggested to her that she should still be a photographer for my ex at her grad, which she agreed to.

I'm trying to let go of the expectation, but yeah, secretly kind of hope that my friend talks with the ex and she reaches out to me.

This type of hope is generally toxic and I'm really trying to get rid of of that expectation before that week comes lol.

[Ninshark]

xxx

Niiiiiceeee~ Well w/e you do, please don't go full retard and admit you saw this prostitute like you did the last time. That time you admitted you got hookers is your first and last time mentioning it to the girl OK???!!! first and LAST!!! That's cool you got an extra 1.5 hrs for free. If you guys bump teeth, just laugh it off and try again, it's like farting during sex, it's not a bad thing. It may be awkward, but you don't have to ruin the mood over it.

[Luc1fer]

Niiiiiceeee~ Well w/e you do, please don't go full retard and admit you saw this prostitute like you did the last time. That time you admitted you got hookers is your first and last time mentioning it to the girl OK???!!! first and LAST!!! That's cool you got an extra 1.5 hrs for free. If you guys bump teeth, just laugh it off and try again, it's like farting during sex, it's not a bad thing. It may be awkward, but you don't have to ruin the mood over it.

Chill dude, she clearly doesn't give a fuk.

[Ninshark]

Chill dude, she clearly doesn't give a fuk.

yeah not right now, but if he keeps doing it, it's gonna get old. she gave him a pass the first time. plus it's just cringe af for me to hear some guy telling a girl he's on a first date with that he gets/needs hookers.

[awwchit2]

I consider myself blessed because I have an unbreakable will when it comes to NC. I never reach out under any circumstance. If they reach out to me, I may consider replying based on the circumstance.

That said, I miss my ex lol. I've never actually really wanted a girl back after a break-up, but I wish this one would come back.

Can't believe, as of today, it's been 3 weeks already. Haven't heard a word from her since the day things ended and I will not break NC and reach out to her either.

Slowly and slowly accepting this will be reality moving forward.

That’s rough.

How did it end? Was it on good terms? Cheating?

If the former that’s kinda weird how she hasn’t texted you in 3 weeks. If you cheated then yeah she won’t come back.

NC is hard when the girl was like your main source of going out/adventure. I have friends but I don’t care to see them a lot of the time lol.

If people have a solid crew of friends then NC is a breeze. But as Lucifer pointed out, it’s very difficult for the rest of us.

Then you begin to wonder “maybe she’s waiting for me to come back” and eventually break NC.

I mean what have you go to lose. She’s maybe waiting for your text to see if you can rekindle it and work on it. If you miss her that much just text her and see what happens. Or you’ll be kicking yourself wondering what if.

Keep in mind exes get back together all the time

[TallSaint]

That’s rough.

How did it end? Was it on good terms? Cheating?

If the former that’s kinda weird how she hasn’t texted you in 3 weeks. If you cheated then yeah she won’t come back.

NC is hard when the girl was like your main source of going out/adventure. I have friends but I don’t care to see them a lot of the time lol.

If people have a solid crew of friends then NC is a breeze. But as Lucifer pointed out, it’s very difficult for the rest of us.

Then you begin to wonder “maybe she’s waiting for me to come back” and eventually break NC.

I mean what have you go to lose. She’s maybe waiting for your text to see if you can rekindle it and work on it. If you miss her that much just text her and see what happens. Or you’ll be kicking yourself wondering what if.

Keep in mind exes get back together all the time

I talked about it on here a while back.

But basically met a girl a few months back and hit it off very fast. Soon developed into a relationship and everything was going really well. Never had any sort of fights or even arguments...girl was great and never shown any sort of red flags. We were at the point of hanging out 5/6 day a week and basically living with each other. PRetty much exactly what I wanted in a relationship

3 weeks ago, on a an ordinary evening of hanging out she dropped an atomic bomb and told me she wasn't over her ex fiancee and that she didn't feel the same way about me as she did with him and didn't know if she ever would. This lead to her breaking down and confessing that she didn't think she could do this anymore and eventually broke up with me.

She aint coming back. I'm better off not going off and looking for things I wont want to find.

I was pretty crazy about this girl too SMH.

[Luc1fer]

I talked about it on here a while back.

But basically met a girl a few months back and hit it off very fast. Soon developed into a relationship and everything was going really well. Never had any sort of fights or even arguments...girl was great and never shown any sort of red flags. We were at the point of hanging out 5/6 day a week and basically living with each other. PRetty much exactly what I wanted in a relationship

3 weeks ago, on a an ordinary evening of hanging out she dropped an atomic bomb and told me she wasn't over her ex fiancee and that she didn't feel the same way about me as she did with him and didn't know if she ever would. This lead to her breaking down and confessing that she didn't think she could do this anymore and eventually broke up with me.

She aint coming back. I'm better off not going off and looking for things I wont want to find.

I was pretty crazy about this girl too SMH.

Life is weird man. Some people just get lucky in any or all walks of life. Some people are born into wealth and opportunity, some get lucky and happily marry their high school or college sweetheart, some land their dream job via perfect timing or meet the right person that sets off their business.

Then others can work much harder, make better decisions, but just have bad luck in some or all areas.

Luck is a factor, for sure. But I do like this quote.

“I'm a greater believer in luck, and I find the harder I work the more I have of it” — Thomas Jefferson

[DustinTheHuss]

Life is weird man. Some people just get lucky in any or all walks of life. Some people are born into wealth and opportunity, some get lucky and happily marry their high school or college sweetheart, some land their dream job via perfect timing or meet the right person that sets off their business.

Then others can work much harder, make better decisions, but just have bad luck in some or all areas.

Luck is a factor, for sure. But I do like this quote.

“I'm a greater believer in luck, and I find the harder I work the more I have of it” — Thomas Jefferson

Yes I know this one woman who is fit, found a great job at a company, married a Chad from the company, had a fairy tale wedding, bought a home in our area recently and now they are expecting a baby. You really wonder how some people win the lottery like this and some people struggle just to get a house or a baby.

[Luc1fer]

Yes I know this one woman who is fit, found a great job at a company, married a Chad from the company, had a fairy tale wedding, bought a home in our area recently and now they are expecting a baby. You really wonder how some people win the lottery like this and some people struggle just to get a house or a baby.

Every outcome is some mix of work and luck. Just observing an outcome, it can be difficult to know how heavily each factor weighed.

A prime example in the bodybuilding world is observing 2 people who have a good physique. It's partially genetic (and that also includes personality traits like discipline), and partially work. You can't really know who pushed harder or struggled more (especially when you include external life influences).

For good outcomes, people tend to believe it was mostly hard work.
For bad outcomes, people tend to believe it was mostly bad luck.

And it's even worse than that.

People completely accept that some things, like facial attractiveness, hair, or height are almost exclusively genetic. But it doesn't stop them from deriving pride from them, as if they're deserving of the positive outcome. Look on this forum; men take great pride in being tall etc.

[awwchit2]

Height is one of those things that you don’t really care about until you start dating.

Or until you’re around girls who talk about other guys.

I consider myself extremely lucky and blessed to be my height.

Meanwhile my dik is average.

But I’d rather have a smaller dik and be 6’2” idgaf

It’s all a balance

[Luc1fer]

Height is one of those things that you don’t really care about until you start dating.

[imbored21]

I hung out with the girl again. We saw a movie that was boring as hell. Held hands. Then we went to go eat and we picked up food and sat on a bench and talked for a few hours. She talks 90% about food unless I ask her something else. Gets boring but she's overall decent companionship. I can tell she is physically attracted to me but is off put by some stuff I say. Mostly about me having no hobbies, passions, fun. Like she doesn't care that I don't have friends and never had a gf but more that I don't have anything I do for fun or anything I'm passionate about. I think I also overshared some stuff that she saw as a huge redflag. Basically I said I went to the grocery store when I had covid and didn't give af. And she's like telling me that's putting other's safety at risk. Regardless she still wants to hang out again.

And I want to hang out with her again but... I could never marry this girl. She is too normal and positive. I enjoy spending time with her but only in moderation. It would get boring extremely fast if it was everyday. I just don't connect with normies. I want to just be friends with benefits. But I also want to see how far I can get with a girl relationshipwise because I never had a gf before. I want to see if I can get a girl to fall in love with me. My plan is to take it as far as I can go before she starts doing **** like trying to get me to hang out with her friends or go to **** like her aunts wedding or something of the like. Once she starts making me socialize with other humans, I'm telling her I just wanna be friends. I mean that's my plan so far. IDK if that's bad or good or if she will even respond to me again (she said she wanted to) but we'll see.



And btw we did kiss goodbye and it went good suprisingly.