I went on a 'date' with a married girl from work.. What is this?

[ElixanderVild1]

I have been training a few people at work in a new task. The first group I trained was of three girls, two of them in their 30's and one in her 20's and pretty hot.

I really wasn't flirting or even chatting much with any of them other than about the task but as the week went on I started talking to the girl in her 20's more, just general stuff. I already knew she was married because her boss had mentioned it to me.

So as the days are going on and we have been talking a little more I kept getting a vibe that she was attracted to me and we were starting to flirt more.

Then last week on Thursday she comes over as shes leaving for the day, sits on my des, and starts talking to me, again a little flirty but mainly just work stuff joking on. She then asks me if I have a girlfriend, sort of mid-comlnversation she slips it in. I tell her I don't. We talk a little more and then she asks if I have any social media, I say no but I have snapchat and WhatsApp but no ******** or anything. She says she doesn't use snapchat much, as she's taking out her phone and takes my snapchat name... Hmm...

She adds me and I accept and she leaves for the day.

She messages me later and we're chatting back and forth, the conversation turns to what we're each doing over the weekend. I say how I have plans with a friend Saturday but just taking it easy Sunday. She says how she has no plans Sunday either and her husband will be working... We move on, talk some more and she sends a picture of her and her friend at a bowling alley. We message a few times and basically start joking around, she says how she would easily beat me at bowling... And just out of nowhere we decide to meet Sunday and go bowling, just me and her... So, we did, we met, we got a drink we bowled (It's like a cool bar and bowling place, retro arcades, no kids allowed kind of place)and really just chatted and flirted and had a regular date, after we left we went for food and then I gave her a lift home.

We spoke about her husband one or twice briefly, but not really.

What is this? Is she just being friendly? Does she want the penis? Is she an attention seeker/drama queen?

Cliffs - Girl at work is married
Asked for my number
Chatted and flirted
Went on a 'date'

What is going on?

We never kissed or anything like that but there was lots of sexual jokes and flirting and I basically kind of stopped myself from 'making a move' in situations where I usually would because, well, she's married...

[davidnc67]

In the words of Andrew "Dice" Clay: "Fill her full of cheese whiz, and never acknowledge her again! End of story!"

[Nacured]

You can be her bowling buddy and cab driver OP.

[Jms89]

Don't think with your cawk op. First off, she is married, so you are fuking up right there, but most importantly, you work with this broad. Things are going to get VERY bad for you once you smash...because there is no dashing afterwards. Once you connect with a woman in that way, her brain goes into a different mode. She is going to start wanting you more and more until you eventually ruin her marriage, then the drama kicks off. She clearly wants to fuk if what you stated is correct. Right now you are caught up in the lust, but after that wears off, you're going to regret ever meeting this woman, i can promise you that.

BTW most women who get married in their early 20's usually get divorced. I have seen it so many times. Usually get married young for the wrong reasons, find out they aren't compatible with their spouse as they approach 30 and end up breaking chit off. Wait for the divorce. Stay friends, but set boundaries if you must.

[backinthegymbro]

If you didn't work with her, i would say go smash. Because she doesn't have kids and if she's planning to cheat, she will cheat anyways. Marriage is bs anyway. It's no different than a normal relationship except with the government involved.
You wouldn't break up a family and you don't know her husband so it's not like a bro code applies here.
Some guys will have a different moral code, but in the end the only one who would be missing out is you.
If you find money on the street, do you leave it for someone else to pick it up because it's not yours, or do you put it in your pocket? If you knew the money would never go back to the owner.

But like the person above said, this is someone you work with. The last thing you want is drama at work, or worse getting fired.
Is banging this chick worth that risk? You decide.

[Midi77]

You're on thin ice just from a work perspective, you either give in and then the drama hits, or you reject and then the drama hits. Should have refused outright, never drink with your coworkers, never share social media, never text personally. Life on easy mode...

[CrimsonSteel]

You both seem like scumbags. "If it's not me, it's someone else!" Well let the sociopath be someone else, then. I have no respect for cheaters, the people they cheat with who knowingly cuck someone else, or the people who try to rationalize acting like a scumbag.

You come across like Grima Wormtongue, in this scenario. Whispering in that blonde b!tches ear.

[poolshark472]

Don't think with your cawk op. First off, she is married, so you are fuking up right there, but most importantly, you work with this broad. Things are going to get VERY bad for you once you smash...because there is no dashing afterwards. Once you connect with a woman in that way, her brain goes into a different mode. She is going to start wanting you more and more until you eventually ruin her marriage, then the drama kicks off. She clearly wants to fuk if what you stated is correct. Right now you are caught up in the lust, but after that wears off, you're going to regret ever meeting this woman, i can promise you that.

BTW most women who get married in their early 20's usually get divorced. I have seen it so many times. Usually get married young for the wrong reasons, find out they aren't compatible with their spouse as they approach 30 and end up breaking chit off. Wait for the divorce. Stay friends, but set boundaries if you must.

Golden advice here OP

[Murph0408]

i wouldn't want any part of this. especially taking her to bowling alleys and all this BS. she needs to sort her **** out with her husband. i have enough "friends" i don't need a married woman to be one of them. no good comes from this. and the last thing you need is her husband finding out and inevitably blaming you for all of it.

trust me. the couple will stick together and instead pin it on you. just unnecessary drama. and you work with her! my god. look elsewhere.

[300BLK]

She's married and a coworker, already a recipe for disaster.

- Married guy might come after you
- Might cause drama at work

Also the fact that she's willingly cheating on her husband is not going to be something you'd want in the long run if you actually get with her, so don't even waste your time with this broad. If she's cheating on him, what makes you think she won't do it to you. Just move on from her.

[severagee]

"She'll cheat anyway, with or without you" is such a stupid reason to smash her, and it irritates me when miscers say that.

Just because she's a morally bankrupt degenerate doesn't mean you have to lower yourself to her level. One time my friend slept with a girl who had a boyfriend and "fell in love" with her, and I lost so much respect for him. He's going through so much chit with her right now, and I have absolutely no pity. You reap what you sow, and all that.

Plus, if you engage in that sort of behavior and then get married to a girl, you have no right to be mad at a guy who f*cks your wife and ruins your marriage.

Disgusting world we live in at times. Stay away from her OP.

[Mr Beer]

Moral issues have been covered, so that aside, if your job is a career as opposed to some temporary gig, absolutely do not get close to married women in the way you just described.

[Krackerjacked]

Can't say I'd have gone on that "date" dude. Chit is mind blowing she even mentioned her husband during it. The lack of empathy women encompass in 2019 is insane.

[backinthegymbro]

"She'll cheat anyway, with or without you" is such a stupid reason to smash her, and it irritates me when miscers say that. .

So it's better to just fap at home and miss out, while she sleeps with another guy? To each their own i guess.

[PowersKenny]

If you smash
Son I'm Dissapoint will forever haunt you

[SiegeMT]

I'm agreeing with backinthegymbro, her husband needs to be set free from the sloot. In all reality he'd be doing the husband a favor, maybe he's hopelessly trying to get out of it but doesn't want to give half his stuff away in a divorce. If she cheats then viola, he should be covered unless it's like CA.

[backmarker]

Some dude just smoked his wife and her boyfriend at a walmart.....

Good luck

[HotlineBling]

Some dude just smoked his wife and her boyfriend at a walmart.....

Good luck

Lmao funny but not funny. But yeah why go for it when there’s 100s of other women out there? Chit just amazes me what you guys would do for some cat.

[backinthegymbro]

But yeah why go for it when there’s 100s of other women out there?

Are there though? How many guys have trouble getting laid? Now a woman offers herself on a silver platter, and you think there's 100's more?
I don't think so unless you're great at pulling women. In these situations, you got 1 chance to take it or miss out forever.
It's no different from telling a single guy that there are 4 billion women on this planet so there's plenty to choose from.

[puffdaddy68]

Some dude just smoked his wife and her boyfriend at a walmart.....

Good luck

lmao

this

[oldandintheway]

What goes around comes around

[AutistTrigger]

Keep it platonic. All you need is her going to HR accusing you of things you did and didn’t do.

Don’t crap where you eat.

[severagee]

So it's better to just fap at home and miss out, while she sleeps with another guy? To each their own i guess.

And retain some sense of principles and integrity like a man? Absolutely.

[MyronGainzzyz]

Dont **** where you eat/thread

[billclintonnn]

And retain some sense of principles and integrity like a man? Absolutely.

Integrity really has nothing to do with OP in this situation. I honestly don't get why people go after the person who is single and hooks up with someone in a relationship. The single person isn't doing anything wrong it's all up to the other party to not do it/allow it or it's considered sexual assault at that point.

Although I still agree with you.

Last Tuesday I hooked up with a girl who is in a relationship. In my defense, she didn't tell me until we were about to have sexors in which I asked if she wanted to pursue, she just said again she has a boyfriend and I stopped it right there. I was pretty drunk, but eventually I honestly felt like chit. But then realized it had nothing to do with me. Her and I talk platonic, but we don't live in the same area. If we did, I'd never hang out with her just because I don't agree with that BS.

[Altar0]

You shouldn't do it out of principle. She's a low quality person to be around.
If that doesn't stop you then think about the risk of the husband or coworkers finding out. It can definitely affect your career when you're labeled as someone that gets involved in drama.

[elterrible987]

OP don goofed.

you realize the workplace rumors have already started and youre in them?

You cant win this one. Youre in the rumors and you didnt even bang. And if you banged chit gets 1000x worse and you cant exit. you cant win either way.

The only way you can come out unscathed is to treat her like she was a 50 year old dude named Mike who you have nothing in common with and only discuss work items period.


She is already telling her coworkers about your bowling game. they are going to be wondering if even if they dont say anything. They are going to pay close attention to your interactions. Even if you are not their supervisors, you are training them.

[elterrible987]

Are there though? How many guys have trouble getting laid? Now a woman offers herself on a silver platter, and you think there's 100's more?
I don't think so unless you're great at pulling women. In these situations, you got 1 chance to take it or miss out forever.
It's no different from telling a single guy that there are 4 billion women on this planet so there's plenty to choose from.

OP is more desirable because she cant have him as shes married and hes a coworker. People want what they cant have. OP could ruin his life for her, she gets divorced and now that shes free with cash coming in from her betabux ex, OP isnt desirable anymore and she pursues other men.

If chit hits the fan and it looks like she is going to get in trouble, this sloot can just make up anything and tell it to HR. She doesnt even have to have any evidence or even be accusing OP of a crime. If she tells HR "OP makes me feel uncomfortable" all the HR feminazis and betaboys are coming after OP.

What people are saying is, lets say if this sloot is a 7 and OP isnt a slayer. He is better off with a 5 outside of his work. Thats what they are saying when they say there are other women out there.

[backinthegymbro]

If chit hits the fan and it looks like she is going to get in trouble, this sloot can just make up anything and tell it to HR. She doesnt even have to have any evidence or even be accusing OP of a crime. If she tells HR "OP makes me feel uncomfortable" all the HR feminazis and betaboys are coming after OP.

What people are saying is, lets say if this sloot is a 7 and OP isnt a slayer. He is better off with a 5 outside of his work. Thats what they are saying when they say there are other women out there.

I don't advise op to get with this woman since they are working together. But it's dumb to simply say ''plenty of fish in the sea''. Sorry but it doesn't work like that unless you're actually able to get women easily.

And retain some sense of principles and integrity like a man? Absolutely.

If you don't know the other dude, then i don't see much wrong doing. Either way that dude will get cheated on.
Now if it was your best friend or something, then definitely stick to your principles.
But everyone has their own morals and code. So it's free for everyone to decide what they'd do.

[Krackerjacked]

I don't advise op to get with this woman since they are working together. But it's dumb to simply say ''plenty of fish in the sea''. Sorry but it doesn't work like that unless you're actually able to get women easily.

I get where you're coming from here but OPie has a sloot throwing herself at him who is married. I'm assuming he has options with that being the case.

On the other end, I've been in a similar situation and didnt smash. Luckily for me too because her dude got her pregnant around the same time and I'd have been chitting bricks.
I always try and put myself in the other (male) parties shoes. Sure some ahole is always going to be willing but it's not going to be me.