Am I friendzoned?

forcefedfreak · 10-14-2009, 08:56 AM

I feel like I'm making a lot of threads in this section lately! Oh well, this isn't quite as serious as my last thread but I'm bored at work.

Saturday night a friend (girl) calls me up and tells me to meet her and two of her friends out at the bar. I've never met these two other girls, but I do know that one of them recently (like last week, I think) broke up with her boyfriend because she caught him cheating on her.

I headed out to the bar, and upon arriving was introduced to everyone. I got there some what late, and they were getting ready to leave. They mentioned they were going out to a club across town, and asked me to come.

When we arrived at the club we noticed there weren't many people inside and the girls decided they didn't want to pay the cover charge to get in, so they opted to head home. I was fine with it, said it was nice meeting them, and went home. I didn't really converse much at all with either of the two girls I had just met because I didn't really have a chance to.

The next morning I had friend requests on facebook from both girls that I had met the night before. I accepted them, and was looking at their photos when I noticed a comment on a picture from a girl I went to college with, that wasn't from the area. I e-mailed the girl asking her how she knew the person I went to college with. Eventually we got to talking via e-mail and it turns out we have a lot in common/we kinda hit it off.

Last night she posted a message on facebook that said she had just made a bunch of food, and I commented on how delicious it sounded. Jokingly she told me to come over, and I said I would. She asked for my number to text me directions. I didn't end up going over because it was late, but we talked (via text) for a while and she made some interesting comments:

Her: I'm Irish and French
Me: That's hot, I like French girls
Her: Thanks Love
Her: So you like European girls huh?
Me: Yeah they're hot, I guess you could see that's my "type" but honestly it's more about connection. If you click with someone they always seem more attractive to you.
Her: Yes, but there has to be a physical attraction at first. I can look at a guy and think "naked: yes" or "naked: no"
Me: Yeah that's definitely true. And I'm super picky.
Her: Do you have any red flags that go off in your head?"
Me: What do you mean exactly? Give me an example.
Her: When I was with my ex we ran into a friend of his that was getting married and he told his friend 'man are you sure you want to do that? That's like forever...that stuff is crazy' That should have been a red flag that the ******* was afraid of commitment.
Me: Yeah that's definitely a red flag. For me I would say girls that drink all the time, and girls that have NO girl friends.
Her: Why is no girlfriends a red flag?
Me: Because it's easy for girls to have guy friends. What guy wouldn't want to have a hot chick hanging around all the time? Girls have to work to be friends with each other, and it takes a lot of trust.

Eventually the convo transitioned to the whole "i'm getting tired. have a good night" deal.

What I am confused about is that she says certain things that make me think she would be interested: like asking me what type of girls I like, and what red flags are for me, but then I feel friendzoned due to things like what she said about knowing right of the bat if she's attracted to someone. Also on FB she keeps making jokes about us being new "BFFs" and via the web it's tough to tell if she is flirting with me or maybe she's thinking "I really gotta push the friend thing so this kid doesn't get any ideas."

Anyway...thoughts? As I said before, this isn't a super serious thing for me, just bored at work.

Cliffs:
-Met girl at bar
-Chatted her up on FB and got her phone number
-She makes comments that are flirty
-Makes friendzoned type comments
-Not sure about her
-Might go over her place tonight

**TheGreekGod** · 10-14-2009, 09:07 AM

Just ask her out if you like her, worst she can say is no.

member67 · 10-14-2009, 09:08 AM

in the future, dont have these long drawn out conversations about relationships/commitment/character with girls that you havent been out with or banged yet, this will prevent you from getting FZ'd

Jimspeed · 10-14-2009, 09:10 AM

friendzone.

BFF talk. your done.

Fused · 10-14-2009, 09:21 AM

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Originally Posted by member67

in the future, dont have these long drawn out conversations about relationships/commitment/character with girls that you havent been out with or banged yet, this will prevent you from getting FZ'd

Best advice in this thread. Never talk about relationships or any other women when you are with a chick until you have slept with her. That is stuff they talk about with their girlfriends, not boyfriends.

forcefedfreak · 10-14-2009, 09:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Fused

Best advice in this thread. Never talk about relationships or any other women when you are with a chick until you have slept with her. That is stuff they talk about with their girlfriends, not boyfriends.

I agree, but why would she be interested in what type of girls I like, and what red flags are for me if she wasn't interested in S'ing my D?

Fused · 10-14-2009, 09:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by forcefedfreak

I agree, but why would she be interested in what type of girls I like, and what red flags are for me if she wasn't interested in S'ing my D?

She probably likes you or maybe she doesn't. Who knows? People are different. Never judge a woman by what she says, only by what she does. Only way to know for sure if she wants your nuts is to grab your balls and go ask her out. I personally rather get rejected flat out than never know.

member67 · 10-14-2009, 09:42 AM

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Originally Posted by forcefedfreak

I agree, but why would she be interested in what type of girls I like, and what red flags are for me if she wasn't interested in S'ing my D?

i think you missed my point

your goal is to take this girl out and bang her..not become BFF's and then hope for something more later. her attraction is highest when she knows as little about you as possible, the more you divulge the less of a mystery/challange you are and her interest wanes

forcefedfreak · 10-14-2009, 10:26 AM

Well, I guess we'll see what's up after tonight.

alegend90 · 10-14-2009, 10:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Jimspeed

friendzone.

BFF talk. your done.

not true necessarily

ask her out (call her, don't text or FB chat) and see if she'd be interested. if she says no, then just end contact.

Jack3dMuscle · 10-15-2009, 02:02 PM

HAHAHA suck ****.

forcefedfreak · 10-15-2009, 02:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Jack3dMuscle

HAHAHA suck ****.

Aww jack3dmuscle is mad I owned him all day.

AldoX · 10-15-2009, 02:21 PM

Next time she calls you a BFF.. ask her if she lets her BFF's touch her inappropriately.

mrkdrt · 10-15-2009, 03:32 PM

Next time she calls you her BFF, say, "All my good girl BFF's suck me O-F-F"

FGCHENG · 10-15-2009, 03:39 PM

how can a girl be BFF with someone she just met?

gta95 · 10-15-2009, 11:27 PM

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Originally Posted by FGCHENG

how can a girl be BFF with someone she just met?

Cause girls love throwing that BFF **** around with guys they randomly meet for some reason.

xJustin · 10-15-2009, 11:37 PM

the convo wasn't emotionally charged at all and was very linear which women find kidn of boring. you could have had that convo with a dude.

JTLDN · 10-16-2009, 10:27 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by forcefedfreak

I feel like I'm making a lot of threads in this section lately! Oh well, this isn't quite as serious as my last thread but I'm bored at work.

Saturday night a friend (girl) calls me up and tells me to meet her and two of her friends out at the bar. I've never met these two other girls, but I do know that one of them recently (like last week, I think) broke up with her boyfriend because she caught him cheating on her.

I headed out to the bar, and upon arriving was introduced to everyone. I got there some what late, and they were getting ready to leave. They mentioned they were going out to a club across town, and asked me to come.

When we arrived at the club we noticed there weren't many people inside and the girls decided they didn't want to pay the cover charge to get in, so they opted to head home. I was fine with it, said it was nice meeting them, and went home. I didn't really converse much at all with either of the two girls I had just met because I didn't really have a chance to.

The next morning I had friend requests on facebook from both girls that I had met the night before. I accepted them, and was looking at their photos when I noticed a comment on a picture from a girl I went to college with, that wasn't from the area. I e-mailed the girl asking her how she knew the person I went to college with. Eventually we got to talking via e-mail and it turns out we have a lot in common/we kinda hit it off.

Last night she posted a message on facebook that said she had just made a bunch of food, and I commented on how delicious it sounded. Jokingly she told me to come over, and I said I would. She asked for my number to text me directions. I didn't end up going over because it was late, but we talked (via text) for a while and she made some interesting comments:

Her: I'm Irish and French
Me: That's hot, I like French girls
Her: Thanks Love
Her: So you like European girls huh?
Me: Yeah they're hot, I guess you could see that's my "type" but honestly it's more about connection. If you click with someone they always seem more attractive to you.
Her: Yes, but there has to be a physical attraction at first. I can look at a guy and think "naked: yes" or "naked: no"
Me: Yeah that's definitely true. And I'm super picky.
Her: Do you have any red flags that go off in your head?"
Me: What do you mean exactly? Give me an example.
Her: When I was with my ex we ran into a friend of his that was getting married and he told his friend 'man are you sure you want to do that? That's like forever...that stuff is crazy' That should have been a red flag that the ******* was afraid of commitment.
Me: Yeah that's definitely a red flag. For me I would say girls that drink all the time, and girls that have NO girl friends.
Her: Why is no girlfriends a red flag?
Me: Because it's easy for girls to have guy friends. What guy wouldn't want to have a hot chick hanging around all the time? Girls have to work to be friends with each other, and it takes a lot of trust.

Eventually the convo transitioned to the whole "i'm getting tired. have a good night" deal.

What I am confused about is that she says certain things that make me think she would be interested: like asking me what type of girls I like, and what red flags are for me, but then I feel friendzoned due to things like what she said about knowing right of the bat if she's attracted to someone. Also on FB she keeps making jokes about us being new "BFFs" and via the web it's tough to tell if she is flirting with me or maybe she's thinking "I really gotta push the friend thing so this kid doesn't get any ideas."

Anyway...thoughts? As I said before, this isn't a super serious thing for me, just bored at work.

Cliffs:
-Met girl at bar
-Chatted her up on FB and got her phone number
-She makes comments that are flirty
-Makes friendzoned type comments
-Not sure about her
-Might go over her place tonight

Tell her you think she would make a good friend...

If she likes you she will question it or try to gain your approval.

Achilles- · 10-16-2009, 05:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by member67

i think you missed my point

your goal is to take this girl out and bang her..not become BFF's and then hope for something more later. her attraction is highest when she knows as little about you as possible, the more you divulge the less of a mystery/challange you are and her interest wanes

**** man you gave me a revelation