Is dating someone who does not believe in god a deal breaker?

[driven21m]

I have been dating someone for the past 2 months, they are smart, hot attractive, great job, own there own house, and we get along great. Only thing is they dont beleive in god. I was raised catholic. Dont feel like I have marry a catholic but someone who does not beleive in god at all, I am not sure about. I think my folks would dissown me. My brother got married last year, my mom cried she was so happy when she found out that the girl was a catholic. I am not crazy religious right now either but neither was my brother until he got married, I think its just part of growing up.

Just really torn right now on where this can go if they dont beleive in god at all(even compared god to santa claus. Everything else is so great. thoughts?

[captainhorseboy]

it's more of a deal-maker for me

[fromfat2fit]

yes. deal breaker

[niospecv]

it's more of a deal-maker for me

Word. I'm sure she'll scream out some type of god while you are railing her hard. Just sayin'

[TiffTiff]

You're the only one that can answer that question. It would be for me, but for an agnostic/atheist/etc...obviously it would not.

I changed my mind. I would date someone who didn't believe in God, but I wouldn't marry them.

[NewYorkGiants]

Why does it matter what religion you were raised into? You're an adult and you can make your own decisons. You can choose to become a muslim or agnostic or wiccan, it's not up to your parents or your upbringing. If your parents are going to disown you over that then they are immature morons who missed the whole point of christ's teachings.

No one else can decide what is a deal breaker for you, except you.

[AlabamaXMan]

Does she make you happy? Do you love her? Are you ok with the fact that when she dies her body will burn in Hell for eternity.

You are going to make the decision in the end man.

[Sgt_Bob05]

I think its just part of growing up.

Imaginary friends are supposed to be left with childhood. Not the other way around.

[musclebound2007]

I am a catholic also and can never be with someone who doesn't believe in God's existence. I think a person's intelligence decreases immensely for me, because of not believing in some kind of high being of some sort. There's a lot of people out there who don't believe in "God", but believe in a "Supreme Being". These people are very much into science and so forth, they just don't follow religion (which I am good with once you believe in a higher being, I am good.)

I think it's sad for a person to not be able to look around and realize there's something of profound understanding at work around us, and to ignore the signs of his existence, is ridiculous.

So here's my input. It's going to be very hard as time goes on. You are a religious person, but may not be too religious right now. Catholics have their own extra beliefs, so imagine being with someone with no beliefs what so ever. When the time comes for your children to be baptized, your mom will definitely say Catholic but your wife, if it's her, might want to never baptize your children.

Then there's the religious things you may do. Or if you say anything in reference or even want to talk or debate over religion. It would be like talking to a brick wall, because she'd not be able to contribute anything positive and it might become somewhat insulting.

So again. Being a fellow Catholic and going by my own opinion. It can never work out for me.

Maybe you caught a good one here and maybe some of you can rub off on her, as happens in relationships. Maybe religion will be one of those. So I wouldn't say run away from this as of yet, you may have a huge potential mate there on your hands nevertheless.

[TribalJMD]

I keep myself open to religion/spiritual practices, I could reallycare less because it should really be a personal thing. I was raised Catholic, now I'm more of a Buddhist, and my girlfriend is Agnostic. It is personal belief.

[Ninjazn]

I don't care whether a girl I am dating doesn't believe in God, or does believe in God. As long as she is nice, smart, attractive, and has a good overall personality, then I am fine.

[dazzlepecs]

maybe for her...

[sword_]

I could see why it could get in the way. I haven't it happen to me but it could be challenging say when you raise children. I'm Catholic as well.

[USER54894846548948]

Yep you're screwed

[Idgara]

You're the one that would date her/marry her. Not your parents or friends. Keep in mind, parents are not ALWAYS right when it comes to judge of character, and can often times be extreme in their views.

Don't look at her religious views, but how she is as a person.

I am a catholic also and can never be with someone who doesn't believe in God's existence. I think a person's intelligence decreases immensely for me, because of not believing in some kind of high being of some sort. There's a lot of people out there who don't believe in "God", but believe in a "Supreme Being". These people are very much into science and so forth, they just don't follow religion (which I am good with once you believe in a higher being, I am good.)

I think it's sad for a person to not be able to look around and realize there's something of profound understanding at work around us, and to ignore the signs of his existence, is ridiculous.

So here's my input. It's going to be very hard as time goes on. You are a religious person, but may not be too religious right now. Catholics have their own extra beliefs, so imagine being with someone with no beliefs what so ever. When the time comes for your children to be baptized, your mom will definitely say Catholic but your wife, if it's her, might want to never baptize your children.

Then there's the religious things you may do. Or if you say anything in reference or even want to talk or debate over religion. It would be like talking to a brick wall, because she'd not be able to contribute anything positive and it might become somewhat insulting.

So again. Being a fellow Catholic and going by my own opinion. It can never work out for me.

Maybe you caught a good one here and maybe some of you can rub off on her, as happens in relationships. Maybe religion will be one of those. So I wouldn't say run away from this as of yet, you may have a huge potential mate there on your hands nevertheless.

Lol fuk off you little self-righteous prick. Lowered intelligence my ass. Whatever helps you sleep at night knowing there is an invisible man watching you.

[Nasty1]

Not for me but I am sure if the ther person is of strong faith it could be.

[caramon]

I have been dating someone for the past 2 months, they are smart, hot attractive, great job, own there own house, and we get along great. Only thing is they dont beleive in god. I was raised catholic. Dont feel like I have marry a catholic but someone who does not beleive in god at all, I am not sure about. I think my folks would dissown me. My brother got married last year, my mom cried she was so happy when she found out that the girl was a catholic. I am not crazy religious right now either but neither was my brother until he got married, I think its just part of growing up.

Just really torn right now on where this can go if they dont beleive in god at all(even compared god to santa claus. Everything else is so great. thoughts?

Well, it's only been 2 months so why are you even thinking about marriage this early? But if you're looking down the road, then I think you're going to have problems if this girl doesn't believe in God. I mean, I doubt you'd be successful into persuading her to believe if she has her mind made up.

Taking the other side of the coin, I'm not religious at all and if I dated someone who tried to persuade me with their beliefs, then I'd call it off.

Anyway, if you think it's that important to you, then don't pursue this girl. I don't think it's right for you to push religion on her. To be fair, I think she's being insulting if she compared God to Santa Claus, because that's disrespectful to your beliefs.

If you're getting along and want to continue, then don't bring up religion. Respect her beliefs and have her to respect yours. That's my advice.

[USER54894846548948]

I have been dating someone for the past 2 months, they are smart, hot attractive, great job, own there own house, and we get along great. Only thing is they dont beleive in god. I was raised catholic. Dont feel like I have marry a catholic but someone who does not beleive in god at all, I am not sure about. I think my folks would dissown me. My brother got married last year, my mom cried she was so happy when she found out that the girl was a catholic. I am not crazy religious right now either but neither was my brother until he got married, I think its just part of growing up.

Just really torn right now on where this can go if they dont beleive in god at all(even compared god to santa claus. Everything else is so great. thoughts?

Hey man, I presume you are from the USA. I don't mean this to be offensive in any way. But as an African American don't you yourself feel offended that the original white Americans stole your ansestors from Africa and used them as slaves, and then forced their religion on to you. If I was you, I would possibly question why you believe in what you do. PEACE

People are people, we are all the same. If religion keeps you from loving someone, what use is it.

[sword_]

Hey man, I presume you are from the USA. I don't mean this to be offensive in any way. But as an African American don't you yourself feel offended that the original white Americans stole your ansestors from Africa and used them as slaves, and then forced their religion on to you. If I was you, I would possibly question why you believe in what you do. PEACE

Heh what a digression from the topic!

I believe many African Americans (as I have myself) have thought of this.

[musclebound2007]

You're the one that would date her/marry her. Not your parents or friends. Keep in mind, parents are not ALWAYS right when it comes to judge of character, and can often times be extreme in their views.

Don't look at her religious views, but how she is as a person.




Lol fuk off you little self-righteous prick. Lowered intelligence my ass. Whatever helps you sleep at night knowing there is an invisible man watching you.

Wow, I guess opinions aren't that anymore. Someone always will get offended by someone's opinion, when it's that. I actually laughed at your reaction, being that it wasn't that serious lol.

[Gizmo]

I am a catholic also and can never be with someone who doesn't believe in God's existence. I think a person's intelligence decreases immensely for me, because of not believing in some kind of high being of some sort.

I think it's sad for a person to not be able to look around and realize there's something of profound understanding at work around us, and to ignore the signs of his existence, is ridiculous.

To me it is sad how blinded most religious people are to the world around them. Einstein was an atheist, i am pretty sure he was more intelligent then you.

[BballBuilder]

Who believes in god these days?

[Idgara]

Wow, I guess opinions aren't that anymore. Someone always will get offended by someone's opinion, when it's that. I actually laughed at your reaction, being that it wasn't that serious lol.

Funny, I laughed at your ignorance. Looks like we're both walking jokes.

[irishjackmp]

You're the only one that can answer that question. It would be for me, but for an agnostic/atheist/etc...obviously it would not.

I changed my mind. I would date someone who didn't believe in God, but I wouldn't marry them.

This is the perfect answer OP... only you can decide if it is a dealbreaker.

[musclebound2007]

[QUOTE=Gizmo;183608441]

I am a catholic also and can never be with someone who doesn't believe in God's existence. I think a person's intelligence decreases immensely for me, because of not believing in some kind of high being of some sort.

I think it's sad for a person to not be able to look around and realize there's something of profound understanding at work around us, and to ignore the signs of his existence, is ridiculous.

QUOTE]

To me it is sad how blinded most religious people are to the world around them. Einstein was an atheist, i am pretty sure he was more intelligent then you.

lol oh wow. I guess you didn't realize my statement of being a personal preference? I believe in evolution along with my religion. I am not one of those righteous individuals that will condemn someone for their belief. I take my "beliefs", that I go by in life, from other religions. I was born Catholic but I believe in a lot of what the other religions have to provide to me, example, Buddhism.

The funny thing is, people on this forum got offended very quickly over what I said, when they don't even know my religious beliefs. And for that. I am laughing so hard because that's just ridiculous lol

Because something is someone's opinion/personal preference, doesn't mean they can't accept it. It's an initial preference. That is why I told the OP he should stick with her, because she can still be a potential mate for him.

You people who jump to conclusions before getting information, are the ones who make me laugh. So yet again, thanks for the laugh lol.

[jeffedge]

Considering there is no god, I would assume it to be fine. Keep hittin it.

[TiffTiff]

I don't think he asked our opinion if it was *ok* for him to believe in God? If YOU don't believe in God, fine! Don't rip on him for it though.

kthanxbai

[musclebound2007]

Funny, I laughed at your ignorance. Looks like we're both walking jokes.

Read my other statement to someone else and realize how dumb this statement of your own is. Because you'd realize, I am without ignorance...but yet you didn't want to wait to see that did you? So no. You're the only one who's a walking joke sir.

[Gizmo]

[QUOTE=musclebound2007;183610511]

lol oh wow. I guess you didn't realize my statement of being a personal preference? I believe in evolution along with my religion. I am not one of those righteous individuals that will condemn someone for their belief. I take my "beliefs", that I go by in life, from other religions. I was born Catholic but I believe in a lot of what the other religions have to provide to me, example, Buddhism.

So you don't believe in the bible? Because evolution absolutely destroys the grounds for the bible.

Back to OP's topic: If you think it is gonna bother you she does not believe the same as you don't be with her. I dated a really religious girl for a while and it does not work, you will never have that "connection" that makes a relationship really work.

[Tiffany Wantsmore]

If religion keeps you from loving someone, what use is it.

Best quote I've heard for a long time.