So gf cancelled on meeting up tomorrow because of coworkers having drinks with new...

[PointBreak85]

Worker

She also invited me to a wedding Saturday where her ex is getting married.


My mom is in the hospital so I'm literally on the verge of just saying goodbye to this woman.

What should I do. She clearly knew I was off tomorrow.

Should I cancel on the wedding?

I'm debating on cancelling anyway because of my mom but this is just strange.

[AirJordanB]

You should go to the wedding. Go look at how happy the guy who used to bang your girlfriend is now that he's marrying someone other than your girl, then realize how unhappy you are with her, dump her, find someone else and invite your ex to your future wedding so you can repeat the process for the next schmuck who falls for this selfish broad.

[InVentive44]

Your moms in the hospital, and she wants to go to a wedding for her ex !!! This bish is crazy obviously still has feelings for the ex.

[JRMoore82]

Curious as to why you are not invited to drinks with co worker.

If you two are srs then that's ****ed up to not have you come along.

[PointBreak85]

Curious as to why you are not invited to drinks with co worker.

If you two are srs then that's ****ed up to not have you come along.

I was wondering that... But I realize she prioritizes drinking with coworkers over us.

[BorrachoDamor]

When I was with my ex my cousin died, she never met or anything but was with our family/me the whole time and didn't ask to go out until I was ready. Those are values you should look for in a sloot.

Brb your moms in the hospital and she wants to go a wedding lmao

[PxV]

Redflags, that's hilarious, cancel to go to drink with co-worker is she even aware your mom is in hospital? It's your call but this doesn't smell good

[JRMoore82]

I was wondering that... But I realize she prioritizes drinking with coworkers over us.

Hate to say it but she deserves North Carolina. With your mom and all plus that she needs to get her **** in order. Plus if she can't be there for you (and I don't mean sitting bed side with mom but at least to help relieve stress and not add to it) she ain't good for you.

[500kv]

You Never NEVER leave your Mom alone in the hospital. Get your priorities straight son.

[PointBreak85]

You Never NEVER leave your Mom alone in the hospital. Get your priorities straight son.

I am

[PointBreak85]

Redflags, that's hilarious, cancel to go to drink with co-worker is she even aware your mom is in hospital? I] t's your call but this doesn't smell good

She then texts me saying she's sorry for cancelling and she misses me which by then I'm laughing. Then she says I wish we could cuddle.

I texted her.... I understand. you chose this instead.

That's my last response tonight

Should I say what u said tomorrow morning if she texts me?

I have a final to study for, a mother in the hospital btw

Should I just tell her you know where to find me

[PointBreak85]

Bump

[Kalski]

If you find her behavior disrespectful, you let her know, if she don't care you cut her from your life.

And it's clear you do, you did, she don't.

Aw fuk bye, North Carolina.

[mike.hunt]

Thhheesssseee hhoooooeessss

[bigmanx]

brah let me explain:
bailing on you and going drinks with co-worker(s) - she's getting rammed by Jermaine the new worker
Now I might be wrong brah, but with grills always assume the worst. I would go NC for few days and not go to the wedding to see how she acts. You should stay with ur mom brah, this chikk might leave you soon.

[Azdw]

Hey brah,
First of all, her cancelling on you is messed up. If you had a plan set and she suddenly cancels on you like that then it is completely disrespectful. It's not as if she cannot meet up with her coworker any other time, believe me a quality woman will make time to see you when she has none. Her cancelling on you is an indicator that her interest level in you has dropped and also her respect for you and your relationship.
With regards to the invitation to the wedding, that's merely a consolation prize. God damnit your mother is dying and any moment with her could be your last, why would your prioritise some woman who has already cancelled on you and disrespected you so blatantly over your mother? (Unless you have a bad relationship with your mother or something bad).
My advice to you, remember YOU are the prize. Yes both you and your gf should be making an effort to see each other but remember never to lower yourself to the point of giving up things just to see her - you should never be too available. Don't ever accept being cancelled on like that unless it is an exceptional reason - your time is valuable because when you give someone your time you can never get it back.
Good luck brah, hope your mother recovers.

edit: assuming your mum is in grave health because you said you were on the verge of saying goodbye, apologies if assuming wrong.

[Psychotropic]

Yep big red flag. She doesn't care about you enough for you to consider her your girl. Don't go to this wedding. Study and see your mom and if she isn't there for you then time to say goodbye.

[PxV]

I've learnt with time that when it's important, people will find a way otherwise a reason. In this case her reason was stupid. In my last relationship, I let go a lot of redflags and that's because I loved her. When I think about it now, it wasn't worth it at all, as said above Go NC a few days, see how she react. If she loves you she'll apologize if not probably get mad.

[MrGameAndWatch]

Now I could understand if an old coworker was leaving and it was a goodbye party, but even then she should invite you. So, new rando is at work and shes ditching you to go out with coworkers because some new guy is there? Does she go out with coworkers a lot? If she does, then she can go out with them some other time. If she doesn't go out with them a lot, she's probably interested in the new guy. Using him as the reason shes going out means she is putting the new guy over her relationship with you. Sounds like she's taken a liking to this new guy. Personally would bitch her out and explain she is being a dumbass and if she doesnt realize and apologize would dump.

[edgar6190]

Time to look for a new gf OP. This sloot doesnt respect you.

[PointBreak85]

So her first text this morning was
"good morning"
And no I would rather not go but it's something I feel I need to go to"


Then I respond with

Well you did and it shows me where your priorities in this relationship are. After we make plans to meet you decide to cancel like that for drinking are you kidding me?

Just beyond disrespectful

I have a mother on the hospital who just got done with a massive surgery and was crying her eyes out last night. I'm not going to the wedding. My priority right now is my mother since she's gonna be in a wheelchair for days and after this I clearly see there's a bigger priority in your life after work than this. I have my priorities set and I clearly see that drinking is a bigger priority that's okay. If you even care you know where to find me.



She calls me this morning and she sounds all nice and sweet but I tell her

Don't say another word, don't say your sorry your not. I hope you have fun drinking your ****ing margaritas and enjoy the wedding.. Have a blast this weekend. I'll be where I should be. Take care of yourself. I'm gonna need a few days to think my status in this relationship... Bye

[PointBreak85]

Then 30 min later when she gets to work she says
..


I'm very sorry I shouldn't have canceled our plans and I should have offered to come see your mom

I won't go out with my coworkers today if you'd like to do something

[JRMoore82]

Then 30 min later when she gets to work she says
..


I'm very sorry I shouldn't have canceled our plans and I should have offered to come see your mom

I won't go out with my coworkers today if you'd like to do something

Well that's a positive.

Talk it out with her but don't appologize for what you said and explain/ask why she didn't invite you and feel her out.

Unless you get the impression it's bs coming out of her mouth. Maybe she can be semi redeemed?

[PxV]

Then 30 min later when she gets to work she says
..


I'm very sorry I shouldn't have canceled our plans and I should have offered to come see your mom

I won't go out with my coworkers today if you'd like to do something

Well, she's aware she did a mistake, you can choose to forgive her and work it out. From my experience if another redflag like that happen next time, don't drag it longer.

[mattd41]

Then 30 min later when she gets to work she says
..


I'm very sorry I shouldn't have canceled our plans and I should have offered to come see your mom

I won't go out with my coworkers today if you'd like to do something

The damage is already done. How is it possible for you to spend meaningful time with your girlfriend when you're pissed off at her stupidity. I would tell her to f-off and go NC for a few days.

[JUSA]

I am

I'd just call her and tell her it's over and then go NC. Lame, lame, lame, lame, lame. Someone as selfish as this person doesn't deserve much more than that. Go find someone who isn't a narcissist.

[FU3L]

Then 30 min later when she gets to work she says
..


I'm very sorry I shouldn't have canceled our plans and I should have offered to come see your mom

I won't go out with my coworkers today if you'd like to do something

Kind of irrelevant now, you shouldn't have to force or pressure her into spending time with you. She willing chose to ditch you because she values drinking with co-workers over spending time with you. The attending ex's wedding is just a weird situation.

[PointBreak85]

Well that's a positive.

Talk it out with her but don't appologize for what you said and explain/ask why she didn't invite you and feel her out.

Unless you get the impression it's bs coming out of her mouth. Maybe she can be semi redeemed?

like jusa and the poster below him said... She shouldn't feel forced to see me... She should want to see me. Her selfishness and narcissism are obvious. I don't even want to look at her. I'll forgive her but I feel that this showed her true colors as a person....and I can do better

What would you do?

[BennyJr169]

Just show her you don't like how she was thinking. If she says sorry, accept it and go out with her. But if she does it again....son...

[CeBKa]

good advice being given you choose to ignore...

hope you'll realize soon enough that she has zero respect for you.