Gf just broke up with me after 2+ years (serious)

[TJonesd2]

dont tell me u go 2 ucsb and r transfering to cal poly

[dpihitithard]

Yeah, she went to mexico for a week and just got back and told me. I had a feeling for some reason that she would and i was right.

It sucks ass. Also it sucks cause i have broken up with her 2 times for no reason so i feel like a hipocrite when i tell her not to break up with me.

She has a lot of reasons but one is that i never got close to her family (mom and sister). Her mom was always insane and getting mad at my gf for no reason and punishing her and i was protective of my gf so like that was between us.

I dunno what to do...

Also im transferring to her school in January (not just cause shes there, i dont like my school and love her school) so that sucks even more

cheer up, dont get all upset, give her space, the possibility of you getting together is totally still there...you have been with her for 2+ yrs, shes just acting it out, itll get to her, she'll miss you, remember, when she calls or wants to meet or something = take it slow...now you can focus on you for the time being

[warbird00]

cheer up, dont get all upset, give her space, the possibility of you getting together is totally still there...you have been with her for 2+ yrs, shes just acting it out, itll get to her, she'll miss you, remember, when she calls or wants to meet or something = take it slow...now you can focus on you for the time being

yeah, i realize taht now.

Thank you to everyone in this thread, you guys helped me out a lot!

misc bro 4 lyfe!

[warbird00]

You seem like a cool guy warbird, and I'm not trying to be an @sshole, but vacations and young single (not with anyone physically by their side AT THAT TIME) girls = flings. Then she gets back and "wants to experience life more" and breaks up... sounds suspicous to me. Move on, leave her alone and if it is meant to be she will come back to you. If you start calling her mom and showing up in her town randomly it will only push her further away. Take it from someone with some experience in these types of situations. Sorry bro. I know you want to bust your @ss to show her you have changed but she is the one who has to change and learn to appreciate you for the person you are or you are not meant to be together.

yeah, i broke off contact with her. She IMed me and called me and i havnt responded to either. **** that

[Lughd]

The biggest question is did you sleep with her since she got back from Mexico?

My buddy's girlfriend slept with some dude on vacation and when she came back she kept making excuses on why she couldn't sleep with him. She caught some STD and didn't want him to find out. The guilt eventually boiled over and she dumped him, then slept with another guy we know, and told him the whole story, and he told my buddy...it was pretty funny but he was wrecked for a while...She tried to get back together with him. He said he would've gotten back together with her had he not heard about what happened on her vacation.

Chicks are insane and will rationalize anything. Hope everything works out for you though.

[ehayes]

yeah, i broke off contact with her. She IMed me and called me and i havnt responded to either. **** that

You're doing the right thing bro.

[warbird00]

You're doing the right thing bro.

Thanks


What should i do when she calls me tomoro wondering why i didint call her today? Or if shes like "your being an ass hole" or some gay **** like that?

Should i jsut answer and say i dont have anything left to say with her?

[PowerBuilder08]

Since ******** was brought up, war how come you're not my ******** friend?

Oh, good job on the willpower too bro

[warbird00]

Since ******** was brought up, war how come you're not my ******** friend?

Oh, good job on the willpower too bro

maybe i am?

[Jmh80]

Thanks


What should i do when she calls me tomoro wondering why i didint call her today? Or if shes like "your being an ass hole" or some gay **** like that?

Should i jsut answer and say i dont have anything left to say with her?

If it were me - I'd go Kyzer Soze on her.

No contact period. Drop off the face of the earth (from her perspective).

[warbird00]

Thanks


What should i do when she calls me tomoro wondering why i didint call her today? Or if shes like "your being an ass hole" or some gay **** like that?

Should i jsut answer and say i dont have anything left to say with her?

Bump tothis

she called again but i diint answer (she tried to private call me, lmao)

[PowerBuilder08]

Bump tothis

she called again but i diint answer (she tried to private call me, lmao)

Haha...oh geez man. Just keep it up, seriously. Make her wonder.

[aenz1879]

sorry to hear it
hang with your bros as much as possible

+1 and get twisted.

[ehayes]

Thanks


What should i do when she calls me tomoro wondering why i didint call her today? Or if shes like "your being an ass hole" or some gay **** like that?

Should i jsut answer and say i dont have anything left to say with her?

Well considering you're broken up, you aren't obligated to anything with her. And whether or not your trying to get her back or not, space could also open your eyes to whether or not you truly want the relationship to go any farther as well as her.

Even though she broke up with you she is still trying to keep the communication open like you're in a relationship and I would suspect you'd just end up going through this same type of thing later again on down the road if you don't take care of the issues right now. Just lay off talking to her for awhile, if you feel the need, tell her you're just giving each other space, not ignoring her and if things are meant to be then you'll get back together, depending on how she takes that you can see whether she is into you enough still to wait for you or to try and jump into dating.

[warbird00]

Dear Diary,

Last night was hard, couldnt go to bed. Had to take some Nyquil. I dunno, like i tried not to think about it and did a pretty good job, just my heart was beating really fast keeping me from going to bed.

I woke up and was like FUUUCK. I feel a lot worse today than yesterday, i think i was just in shock yesterday. She called me on a private number again this morning, i was in the bathroom tho so i wasnt tempted to pick up.

[TxTreb88]

what's her #. i'd like to talk to her.

[warbird00]

what's her #. i'd like to talk to her.

lol, ill pass on that offer

[TxTreb88]

lol, ill pass on that offer

well, if you reconsider, PM me. LOL


btw, post her pic. lol

[Bulldog0520]

Haha when me and my gf broke up I invested in some melatonin to help me fall asleep at night. Good luck man, keep doing what you're doing with the ignore thing. Like someone else said, maybe the space will make YOU realize that you don't want a relationship with her.

+rep

[warbird00]

well, if you reconsider, PM me. LOL


btw, post her pic. lol

no ****

[dropshot001]

just need to do what you want for a while instead of dwelling on her. taking your mind off of it is the best thing to do.

[YUL]

turn your phone off for a day or 2.

silence is golden.

[warbird00]

Thanks for all the help misc bros.

When i have a question im just gonna post it here since you guys have been a great help so far.



She called me 3 times today and didint answer. When she calls should i just let it ring or press the busy button? (i pressed busy once)

Earlier she called me twice and i didint answer then later i texted her that i was riding my bike to class and coudlnt answer cause i kinda felt bad. Wrong move, i felt completely ****ty about it after. Not gonna do that again.

Also she texted me and told me basically she loves me and always will and that she just needs a break and wishes she didint, blah blah blah.

I didint respond. SHould i not respond or say something like "its you dicision, if you feel that way then you feel that way" or something like that?

Thanks

[warbird00]

wtf, it got moved to the ralationship section? no one comes in here!

[Benny_Lava]

Thanks for all the help misc bros.

When i have a question im just gonna post it here since you guys have been a great help so far.



She called me 3 times today and didint answer. When she calls should i just let it ring or press the busy button? (i pressed busy once)

Earlier she called me twice and i didint answer then later i texted her that i was riding my bike to class and coudlnt answer cause i kinda felt bad. Wrong move, i felt completely ****ty about it after. Not gonna do that again.

Also she texted me and told me basically she loves me and always will and that she just needs a break and wishes she didint, blah blah blah.

I didint respond. SHould i not respond or say something like "its you dicision, if you feel that way then you feel that way" or something like that?

Thanks

Let the mind ****ing begin. My only advice for you, and the only advice you need is IGNORE her. This is her keeping you close while she tests out the waters with a new guy.. here you sit asking bb.com what you should do about her, meanwhile she's out on a date with a new guy seeing how he compares to you. She's got you where she wants you.

Either move on and keep your head up.. or be a little bitch and let her keep you exactly where she wants you.

If you choose the second option prepare yourself for a good 3 months to a year of mental torture.. u decide.

[warbird00]

Let the mind ****ing begin. My only advice for you, and the only advice you need is IGNORE her. This is her keeping you close while she tests out the waters with a new guy.. here you sit asking bb.com what you should do about her, meanwhile she's out on a date with a new guy seeing how he compares to you. She's got you where she wants you.

Either move on and keep your head up.. or be a little bitch and let her keep you exactly where she wants you.

If you choose the second option prepare yourself for a good 3 months to a year of mental torture.. u decide.

Naw dude, im not gonna let her **** with me. I have done everything right so far (almost) and have only come in contact with her once (4 word text) I also have ignored like 10 of her calls so far.

And why cant i ask my misc bros for advice? So far its worked. I fail to see a correlation between me asking you guys has anything to do with her going on a date or me being a little bitch?

[Benny_Lava]

Naw dude, im not gonna let her **** with me. I have done everything right so far (almost) and have only come in contact with her once (4 word text) I also have ignored like 10 of her calls so far.

And why cant i ask my misc bros for advice? So far its worked. I fail to see a correlation between me asking you guys has anything to do with her going on a date or me being a little bitch?

sorry maybe little bitch was too far .. let's just say i've experienced it all before, know how women's evil minds work and don't want to see other dudes go through it. I went through it from step one to step 237, by which point I had to purchase a new pair of balls. I got ****ed over to the max... but on the bright side it taught me exactly how a womens mind works. I saw it all.

[warbird00]

sorry maybe little bitch was too far .. let's just say i've experienced it all before, know how women's evil minds work and don't want to see other dudes go through it. I went through it from step one to step 237, by which point I had to purchase a new pair of balls. I got ****ed over to the max... but on the bright side it taught me exactly how a womens mind works. I saw it all.

no problem. I just like asking the misc bros cause they ahve a lot more experience than me

[warbird00]

Also how long did it take for you guys to get over tha initial feeling where your just devastated? I mean im not a bitch or anything but i cant just forget a girl who i have been dating for 2+ years in a day you know? Im trying but man, its ****ing hard. Im trying to stay strong tho

[PowerBuilder08]

Also how long did it take for you guys to get over tha initial feeling where your just devastated? I mean im not a bitch or anything but i cant just forget a girl who i have been dating for 2+ years in a day you know? Im trying but man, its ****ing hard. Im trying to stay strong tho

Girl I was engaged to, it pry took about a week for the initial feeling to wear down. Every day gets better man, just gotta focus on the good instead of the bad.