How do you cope with your gf or wife not being a virgin?

[WiseOldApe]

This. If you don't mind sharing your woman with every guy she's ever been with, more power to you.

A women belongs to the man who first penetrates her and cums inside of her - she wants to be his property (unless she's just crazy or her first is a rapist).

[CodyZellery]

See sig bruv

[CodeMajic]

If I was a Christian from the start, I would be happily married with kids right now - instead I chose to live like a dog and in the end i became aa christian anyway.

One of the problems with Christian pastors, parents; etc is that they just say “this is bad” without giving any reasoning or justification for why xyz is bad. They have no real life experience OR they have done a bunch of “unholy” stuff and then act like it never happened.

It happened with me. I was forced to go to Mennonite school and church for most of my youth and no one ever explained why I shouldn’t try drugs, have sex with beautiful women; etc…they would just say “because it’s a sin/read your Bible”.

It’s a real disservice to Christianity because these leaders are unrelatable and then curious people will go try a bunch of dumb **** to try to find the answers on their own.

Someone like you is a better candidate to spread Christianity because you’ve gone through hell and can actually explain why xyz is bad and give personal and more importantly RELATABLE anecdotes.

So who cares where you could be if you’d acted differently. What matters is where you’re going and how you can teach others through your personal experiences and how they relate to biblical teachings

[WiseOldApe]

One of the problems with Christian pastors, parents; etc is that they just say “this is bad” without giving any reasoning or justification for why xyz is bad. They have no real life experience OR they have done a bunch of “unholy” stuff and then act like it never happened.

It happened with me. I was forced to go to Mennonite school and church for most of my youth and no one ever explained why I shouldn’t try drugs, have sex with beautiful women; etc…they would just say “because it’s a sin/read your Bible”.

It’s a real disservice to Christianity because these leaders are unrelatable and they basically force curious people to go try a bunch of dumb **** to try to find the answers on their own.

Someone like you is a better candidate to spread Christianity because you’ve gone through hell and can actually explain why xyz is bad and give personal and more importantly RELATABLE anecdotes.

So who cares where you could be if you’d acted differently. What matters is where you’re going and how you can teach others through your personal experiences and how they relate to biblical teachings

Well I'll tell you from experience that taking drugs, partying, and going to raves can open your psyche up to the influence of spirits that are not of God - that's in addition to it not being the healthiest thing for your brain (which science can prove).

These spirits affect your perception and decision making and you don't even realise what's going on and you end up falling further and further into depravity - from there you can expect the unexpected.

As for why not to bang multiple women, there are many reasons, but the a good one is that you have a higher chance of forming strong emotional attachments to people called soul ties and many things can go wrong if you have a soul tie with somebody who is not relationship material. You can waste years of your life in an unproductive and toxic relationship. That's in addition to pregnancies, stds, false rape accusations, etc.

Everything that went wrong in my life is because I wasn't a christian and because I done all the stupid live fast die young stuff - and in the end it caught up with me in spiritual ways.

[MrQuint]

In this case generally ignorance (or denial) is bliss and most people don't dwell on it. Why do people have these conversations if they can't handle the truth?

[WiseOldApe]

In this case generally ignorance (or denial) is bliss and most people don't dwell on it. Why do people have these conversations if they can't handle the truth?

I dunno I got triggered by something I read online (unrelated to slootiness).

[dingler]

My wife was a virgin until we got married. Couldn't marry a used up slag.

[WiseOldApe]

My wife was a virgin until we got married. Couldn't marry a used up slag.

I thought that everybody was equal though?

[CodeMajic]

Well I'll tell you from experience that taking drugs, partying, and going to raves can open your psyche up to the influence of spirits that are not of God - that's in addition to it not being the healthiest thing for your brain (which science can prove).

These spirits affect your perception and decision making and you don't even realise what's going on and you end up falling further and further into depravity - from there you can expect the unexpected.

As for why not to bang multiple women, there are many reasons, but the a good one is that you have a higher chance of forming strong emotional attachments to people called soul ties and many things can go wrong if you have a soul tie with somebody who is not relationship material. You can waste years of your life in an unproductive and toxic relationship. That's in addition to pregnancies, stds, false rape accusations, etc.

Everything that went wrong in my life is because I wasn't a christian and because I done all the stupid live fast die young stuff - and in the end it caught up with me in spiritual ways.

Im in the same boat as you in a way. But instead of basing my decisions around the teachings of Christianity I just think “****. How much time, energy, and money have I spent on these wh0res? If I’d used all of my resources to build a business I’d have all of the material things I want and be the type of guy that a father would allow to marry his young virgin daughter”.

And viola, I’m moving in that direction instead of chasing whores and doing lsd at nightclubs lol

[WiseOldApe]

Im in the same boat as you in a way. But instead of basing my decisions around the teachings of Christianity I just think “****. How much time, energy, and money have I spent on these wh0res? If I’d used all of my resources to build a business I’d have all of the material things I want and be the type of guy that a father would allow to marry his young virgin daughter”.

And viola, I’m moving in that direction instead of chasing whores and doing lsd at nightclubs lol

Like I said, in life you should expect the unexpected. If I knew then what I know now, I would be a lot more careful about what I did. Spiritual warfare is real and you can't protect your self without Jesus' protection.

[dingler]

I thought that everybody was equal though?

who said that?

Sounds like something a 30's something cat lady would say after she's been riding the cawk carousel for the last 15 years and is now complaining that there are no "real men" out there.

[Scarrdbutsmartr]

Started dating my girl in high school and we've been married 25 years. She was a virgin when we married

...but lets be real just because she started as a virgin doesnt mean she is all your girl. I bartended for about a decade in a well known bachelorette and girls night out bar. The amount of married "good girls" that were grinding on some random dude and or going home with them was off the charts. I was also in a job that had me traveling globally about 1/4 of the year. The amount of women cheating on their husbands was as bad if not worse than the men.

...and lets be clear, one of the most common deathbed confessions of women in hospice are undiscovered affairs. I would imagine the amount of women that make it to the end with a single body count is below 5% these days. You can take all of the stats that show men cheat slightly more than men and throw them out the door. Women have the opportunity to smash whenever they want, most men dont. At any given point she can step out for a night and succeed at getting strange without putting in any effort.

My girl is the "goodest" of girls but make no doubt, I know the odds are extremely low I cross the finish line being her only dude. She has never given me reason to distrust her but that means nothing. The odds are not in my favor.

[Shortfuze]

Why even bother thinking about it? What difference will it make? Girl could be a virgin but sucked hundreds of dicks; or perhaps scissored with another girl; or perhaps took it in the ass etc. Heck a vast majority of miscers moms were with other guys before ending up with their current dads. Does that mean you have no respect for your moms?
What if your girl gets raped or molested...are you going to throw her out? Abandon her?

Just don't think about it and move on.

[monster0ultra]

Started dating my girl in high school and we've been married 25 years. She was a virgin when we married

...but lets be real just because she started as a virgin doesnt mean she is all your girl. I bartended for about a decade in a well known bachelorette and girls night out bar. The amount of married "good girls" that were grinding on some random dude and or going home with them was off the charts. I was also in a job that had me traveling globally about 1/4 of the year. The amount of women cheating on their husbands was as bad if not worse than the men.

...and lets be clear, one of the most common deathbed confessions of women in hospice are undiscovered affairs. I would imagine the amount of women that make it to the end with a single body count is below 5% these days.

My girl is the "goodest" of girls but make no doubt, I know the odds are extremely low I cross the finish line being her only dude. She has never given me reason to distrust her but that means nothing. The odds are not in my favor.

Reasonable take.

Misc is full of delusional retards who think they're "alpha" or a "good man", therefore their girl would never cheat, LOL.

[Godfrd824]

This incel cope thread again?

That said, my wife was a virgin, so can't help out with the original question.

This. Sorry OP.

[Paul Kreul]

I married a virgin..but that was 18 yrs ago (married young). I imagine you can still find a Godly, virtuous woman, but you are going to need to dedicate your life to God yourself if you really want the same.

When I stopped looking & started praying, & seeking Jesus with my whole heart is exactly when God started to do miracles in my life, including bringing me the woman of my prayers.

[CodeMajic]

Just don't think about it and move on.

why not bend over and let some ****g0t creampie your ass?

Just don’t think about it and move on!

[Anachron]

OP, the real question is, how do you cope with your BF not being a virgin?

[1slo5oh]

Meh... its not like I was even close to bringing a clean record into the relationship so being focused on her doing so would be ignorant.

And lezbehoness... in todays sloots for pay world and kids being exposed to sex younger and younger.. you would be single for ever. Which may be up some of these incels alley... idk.

[monty097]

99% of people, men and women, who are over the age of 18 are likely not virgins.

Best of luck to you OP.

[LuigiMiami631]

See sig brah

[elterrible987]

The fact that she took some other man's jizz and probably swallowed it - probably 15-20 different men before you.

She probably gave it up to an alpha in a much shorter period of time than she did for you - she let him breed her all night long, whilst she made you wait three months, because you're the cute 'boyfriend type'.

Whilst she would have ignored you on tinder before she decided to settle down, she swiped right for the chad that's banged 100+ hotties.

How do you cope? Do you just avoid thinking about it?

Dont forget she was younger when she banged all of those guys before you so you are getting a less prime version of her, not only did they bang her they banged her closer to her prime and youre the left overs guy. its like buying an old used honda civic that took dozens of cocks but is still good for dozens more along its 300,000 mile journey.

[elterrible987]

99% of people, men and women, who are over the age of 18 are likely not virgins.

Best of luck to you OP.

Thats not true for zoomer guys anymore. All the 18 year old girls the top end are chasing pro athletes so then the chads their age who are broke are settling with the 7-4s so then the mid tier timmies are getting the left overs 3 and 2s and then the average guys are fighting over the 1's, the below average guys are all virgins.


before apps and instagram the girls didnt have access to rich or famous men. So they were looks matched 20 years ago.

[LuigiMiami631]

Thats not true for zoomer guys anymore. All the 18 year old girls the top end are chasing pro athletes so then the chads their age who are broke are settling with the 7-4s so then the mid tier timmies are getting the left overs 3 and 2s and then the average guys are fighting over the 1's, the below average guys are all virgins.


before apps and instagram the girls didnt have access to rich or famous men. So they were looks matched 20 years ago.

These young girls are selling Bobs, Vagene and feet pics now. It is over.

They calling over top level CEO chads to blow out their holes like a sailor.

[miscinbro]

She was though.

[pandaboy89]

Jokes on u kid, mine is.

[Shortfuze]

why not bend over and let some ****g0t creampie your ass?

Just don’t think about it and move on!

Hey, whatever floats your boat buddy, I'm not judging. I'm just saying that OP's worries are irrational because what could be a great relationship/connection could be marred by the girl's sexual history. Likewise, a girl who is a virgin could be a complete prude who will make your life miserable.
Now I'm not saying that you should be with someone who enjoyed whoring themselves around for the thrill of it (and it's not hard to discern women who did that kind of stuff); but if they had previous relationships that went sour then what's the problem?

[twovalvekid]

Tell me youre a kissless virgin living in mom's basement without telling me youre a kissless virgin living in mom's basement.

[5x10]

If she’s used the poophole loophole, is she still a virgin?

[Barteh]

Nah I doubt I'd ever had made it with a virgin because she wouldn't have given it up with me within the first 3+ months either and there's no way I'm waiting that long.