Single Fathers I dare you to tell a woman you put your kids first

[ChaliHo]

All single moms say this to the men they date or put it on their dating profiles, Men dont care, but if you are a single father Tell that to a woman you are dating or put it on your dating profile and see how that goes over with her lol she might not even show up for a second date or tell her girlfriends you cant believe what he said to me he put his kids before me girl dont date him he is selfish.

[p7nk]

What do you get out of these threads? seek help already

[4everalone]

Dating single moms means ur a loser

I would never Even consider that ever. Rather stay single & fuk around then date a woman i am not planning on marrying.

[truesteez]

lol at single moms and anyone who entertains them

[ToneSmiff]

What do you get out of these threads? seek help already

This

Also single mothers are for recreational use only

[Tuksonrider]

Dating single moms means ur a loser

I would never Even consider that ever. Rather stay single & fuk around then date a woman i am not planning on marrying.

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[truesteez]

Dating single moms means ur a loser

I would never Even consider that ever. Rather stay single & fuk around then date a woman i am not planning on marrying.

This.

Nothing eats away at me more than wasting my time with a girl who idgaf about. Even if it's just for pussy. The moment I start seeing someone, I immediately want my life back and look for an excuse to get her to leave.

I hate hearing about someone's boring ass day or sharing what I'm up to. I don't want to buy gifts or be dragged to chit. I really pitty relationshipcels.

Save it for a legit European slim LTC brunette HBB, which is harder and harder to come across these days.

[ArnoldLibCuck]

In my experience, usually the ONLY way that ever happens is if it's a woman who can't have her own kids but desperately wants them, and sometimes the women will treat a man's kids well of she also has her own kids.

[ChaliHo]

Im laughing at this comment she left and abandoned her kid when she started dating Kanye now she uses revisionist history to change the narrative and claim she was a loving mother and put her son first smh when Ye dumped her to sell her book and rewrite the truth.

Julia Fox Says Kanye West Was So Needy in Their Relationship It Was Like Having a 2nd Baby

“Ultimately I cannot put anybody else first,” Fox told Barrymore, 48, on Tuesday. “My son has to be first. It just became too much. I didn’t sign up to have two babies. I couldn’t do it. It felt like two babies.”

https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/...173223370.html

[WoofieNugget]

My girlfriend understands that my kids come first and always will. If they don't like it, too bad.

But when I was dating I didn't even put in my profile I had kids unless there was a category saying yes and don't want more. If it came up, I was always honest about it but when you're first dating there's zero reason to put that out there.

[lightsarefallin]

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oh fuk

[Cleveland33]

I told chicks that all the time - they always agreed and said that is the right thing to do

[MegaSloot]

All single moms say this to the men they date or put it on their dating profiles, Men dont care, but if you are a single father Tell that to a woman you are dating or put it on your dating profile and see how that goes over with her lol she might not even show up for a second date or tell her girlfriends you cant believe what he said to me he put his kids before me girl dont date him he is selfish.

You seem to think there is a double standard here. Going into a relationship with a father, it's understood that you come in dead last in terms of his priorities. I guess this is your first time looking into dating men with kids? If you're not accustomed to actually seeing it put into words that's because it's so blindingly obvious that they feel foolish pointing it out.

[SpermWhale]

depends on the person

some understood, while some had an issue with it, but those were mainly ones without kids

[MegaSloot]

My girlfriend understands that my kids come first and always will. If they don't like it, too bad.

But when I was dating I didn't even put in my profile I had kids unless there was a category saying yes and don't want more. If it came up, I was always honest about it but when you're first dating there's zero reason to put that out there.

I disagree. It's important to be upfront about it because her role and your role are radically different with kids in the picture. It's super unfair to make the person dig for that info. It should be the first thing you say about yourself so that she can walk away if she's not up to what you need. There's a huge difference in terms of commitment, lifestyle and comfort. Dating a dad is NOT for the faint of heart. Some women know they will never be tough enough to be treated like chit stuck to a shoe.
I don't get this stance where men think it's none of the woman's business. If it would affect the relationship, she has a right to know before she invests too much. Just expecting the world to make way, ala "too bad if you don't want to be dead last in terms of my priorities", is presumptuous af.

[ChaliHo]

Going into a relationship with a father, it's understood that you come in dead last in terms of his priorities. I guess this is your first time looking into dating men with kids? If you're not accustomed to actually seeing it put into words that's because it's so blindingly obvious that they feel foolish pointing it out.

Megasloot did you date a single father or fell in love with one? why didnt it work out? Did you get jealous of him taking care of his kids and wanted all the attention? please explain what happened.

[WoofieNugget]

I disagree. It's important to be upfront about it because her role and your role are radically different with kids in the picture. It's super unfair to make the person dig for that info. It should be the first thing you say about yourself so that she can walk away if she's not up to what you need. There's a huge difference in terms of commitment.
I don't get this stance where men think it's none of the woman's business. If it would affect the relationship, she has a right to know before she invests too much.

I disagree because at the beginning, it isn't even a relationship yet. You're feeling out if it's going to be something more than just casual sex or even one date, and if that's what it's going to be, then there's no need to involve anything to do with kids beyond scheduling. She's not investing anything until more gets established.

If you're only on dating apps for casual hookups and make that obvious then women don't need to know anything serious about you.

[RocknRollMuscle]

lol @ dating single moms. Must be desperate yo.

and yeah, if i was a single dad - i'd say that.

[Bracket199]

I literally say this to my wife - their mother.

[ChaliHo]

I disagree. It's important to be upfront about it because her role and your role are radically different with kids in the picture. It's super unfair to make the person dig for that info. It should be the first thing you say about yourself so that she can walk away if she's not up to what you need. There's a huge difference in terms of commitment, lifestyle and comfort. Dating a dad is NOT for the faint of heart. Some women know they will never be tough enough to be treated like chit stuck to a shoe.
I don't get this stance where men think it's none of the woman's business. If it would affect the relationship, she has a right to know before she invests too much. Just expecting the world to make way, ala "too bad if you don't want to be dead last in terms of my priorities", is presumptuous af.

Were you dating a Latino single father?

[ithappenss]

men dont care if the girl has kids if they're trying to smash.big difference to commitment but clearly you dont have enough experiance yet

[MegaSloot]

I disagree because at the beginning, it isn't even a relationship yet. You're feeling out if it's going to be something more than just casual sex or even one date, and if that's what it's going to be, then there's no need to involve anything to do with kids beyond scheduling. She's not investing anything until more gets established.

If you're only on dating apps for casual hookups and make that obvious then women don't need to know anything serious about you.

It's a major lifestyle difference. For example, you can say that ALL dads must put their kids first. some don't but that's wrong. It's disingenuous to say that in the beginning it's not a relationship, because you're meeting up so that you can have one. If it was hey, let's just be friends, that's one thing. But if you're specifically talking to someone as a potential partner it's a total waste of their time not to tell them. They know themselves better than you do, and they may know, beyond a shadow of a doubt that they can't take that lifestyle. Saves everyone a headache to be totally upfront.

Think of it like this. She wastes one evening on a dad who isn't being honest. Not a big deal right? But what if the majority of guys have that attitude and she wastes LOTS of evenings. Gets annoying and isn't fair to her.

It's not something as simple as kids' schedules. It's her actual role in your group. The mating female in a group setting is rock bottom dead last. treated like chit and expected to serve all the others in the group. It's not a comfortable position for sensitive or delicate women or women that want to be loved tenderly. Kids are taught to be nice, but they often don't start out as being nice. So, don't diminish the absolutely huge impact kids have.

[MegaSloot]

Megasloot did you date a single father or fell in love with one? why didnt it work out? Did you get jealous of him taking care of his kids and wanted all the attention? please explain what happened.

I did stumble into a horrible relationship with a dad at one point. That was, hands down, the worst experience of my entire romantic life, and let me tell you I've been through some chit. I'd rather be skinned alive than ever have anything to do with a dad at this point. full stop.

[WoofieNugget]

It's a major lifestyle difference. For example, you can say that ALL dads must put their kids first. some don't but that's wrong. It's disingenuous to say that in the beginning it's not a relationship, because you're meeting up so that you can have one. If it was hey, let's just be friends, that's one thing. But if you're specifically talking to someone as a potential partner it's a total waste of their time not to tell them. They know themselves better than you do, and they may know, beyond a shadow of a doubt that they can't take that lifestyle. Saves everyone a headache to be totally upfront.

Think of it like this. She wastes one evening on a dad who isn't being honest. Not a big deal right? But what if the majority of guys have that attitude and she wastes LOTS of evenings. Gets annoying and isn't fair to her.

It's not something as simple as kids' schedules. It's her actual role in your group. The mating female in a group setting is rock bottom dead last. treated like chit and expected to serve all the others in the group. It's not a comfortable position for sensitive or delicate women or women that want to be loved tenderly. Kids are taught to be nice, but they often don't start out as being nice. So, don't diminish the absolutely huge impact kids have.

I did stumble into a horrible relationship with a dad at one point. That was, hands down, the worst experience of my entire romantic life, and let me tell you I've been through some chit. I'd rather be skinned alive than ever have anything to do with a dad at this point. full stop.

This explains a lot.

There are situations where people can date, have casual sex and enjoy each others' company without ever entering into anything serious. It's commonly called friends with benefits or even a casual hookup. Like I said, I don't hide the fact I have kids but I would never put "my kids come first" on a dating profile because it's completely unnecessary. And I really don't care if the women I date have them beyond scheduling issues so it makes dating difficult, which is a waste of both of our times.

[Legz422]

I would respect a man for putting his kids first. That is the way it should be for any parent.

[DolphinPilot]

Thats assuming single fathers are getting matches of any attention. Not saying they are worthless rather a lot of women are very vocal about not wanting to date single fathers -- especially single mothers; they whine the loudest.

But there's some nuance here. Single moms usually are sought after by dudes who want her pussy but nothing to do with her kids. Single dads don't usually deal with women trying to get something from them.

With that said it's funny a lot of modern women want a relationship that is a small slice of pie in her life--she wants to lead a life where the relationship is an accessory and takes a backseat to herself and her aspirations. It would make sense for them to prefer single dads who don't have as much time to match her less desire to fully commit to a relationship 24/7. However they still don't like it. It's like they want distance but he has to be readily available at a moments notice

[MegaSloot]

This explains a lot.

There are situations where people can date, have casual sex and enjoy each others' company without ever entering into anything serious. It's commonly called friends with benefits or even a casual hookup. Like I said, I don't hide the fact I have kids but I would never put "my kids come first" on a dating profile because it's completely unnecessary. And I really don't care if the women I date have them beyond scheduling issues so it makes dating difficult, which is a waste of both of our times.

I guess I don't see the difference between dating and 'friends with benefits'. Relationships are relationships. Anyway, one of the reason I quit looking for a dude was because they'd have kids and lie about it until after a week or so. It's the first question I'd ask and I never proceed without a direct answer. No one likes getting lied to or listening to justifications like, "they stay with their mom," or whatever after you get your hopes up about a guy. One gets paranoid after getting lied to casually and often about something.

Kids are a HUGE deal because each child is a precious gift that must be treasured. The more you think that kids deserve, the bigger deal they are. That can be hugely manipulative. Setting one's own needs aside for children is not something that everyone is able to do. Kudos to those tough enough to live like that, but I hope you realize at some point that there are people with less ability than you and greater emotional needs.

Folks that had the chance to act like kids when they were children don't have the same emotional needs as those who grew up way too fast. By the time a dad gets done dealing with his kids, he's not going to have patience to deal with a grown ass woman baby. What I want is to be a big, fat, spoiled baby. See how kids can be a conflict of interest? A dad wants a mature woman. A woman baby like me wants an attentive man. Polar opposites. That's why it's so imperative that one be honest about having kids or not. It's awkward, but real. You can't know someone else's emotional landscape, but they know their own flaws and can save everyone involved a lot of trouble.

Casual sex like folks meeting up for a tennis match and then walking away is frankly horrifying.

[DuracellBunny]

I would hope that both single mothers and single fathers put their kids first, as that's their fking job as parents.

Any man or woman dating a single parent who doesn't automatically assume the kids come first is an idiot and should run a mile if the kids don't come first.

[ArnoldLibCuck]

You seem to think there is a double standard here. Going into a relationship with a father, it's understood that you come in dead last in terms of his priorities. I guess this is your first time looking into dating men with kids? If you're not accustomed to actually seeing it put into words that's because it's so blindingly obvious that they feel foolish pointing it out.

You are a terrible person, through and through. Just a vile, sick individual. Srs.

[ChaliHo]

I did stumble into a horrible relationship with a dad at one point. That was, hands down, the worst experience of my entire romantic life, and let me tell you I've been through some chit. I'd rather be skinned alive than ever have anything to do with a dad at this point. full stop.

Was it the kids that you couldnt stand or get along with?