How to find new friends post break up?

[SwoleCat23]

Not sure if anyone else has been in this situation, but I recently broke up with a long term ex and I lost every form of friendship I had because most of my friends were wither her family members or her close friend's partners.

To give context I moved out of my hometown around a year ago and pretty much met this girl straight away, so it's not like I have any old friends to fall back on.

Most of the friendship apps and websites seem to be filled with mostly gay people, which I don't have anything against, I just don't want to be boned (no homo), or they are beta males that don't lift and aren't about making money and getting sloots.

Help me misc, being lonely sucks

[sowilson]

engage in activities where you'll meet people. I play traditional Irish music. I go to local sessions and play with folk's. Over time they've become friends. Find your path

[MegaSloot]

Not sure if anyone else has been in this situation, but I recently broke up with a long term ex and I lost every form of friendship I had because most of my friends were wither her family members or her close friend's partners.

To give context I moved out of my hometown around a year ago and pretty much met this girl straight away, so it's not like I have any old friends to fall back on.

Most of the friendship apps and websites seem to be filled with mostly gay people, which I don't have anything against, I just don't want to be boned (no homo), or they are beta males that don't lift and aren't about making money and getting sloots.

Help me misc, being lonely sucks

what is this "friends" thing you speak of? Is that some kind of taco?

[skinnyfat88]

Gotta find like-minded people, thus look for them where you'd normally go ie work, gym, rec sports.

From my experiences, once you're not in school anymore, it's either work or through mutual friends. Even a rec sports team might be tough ad you don't know the people you'll be put on a team with. If you're serous about meeting people you might want to look at more of a sports/social club than a random team.

[latverian41]

Not sure if anyone else has been in this situation, but I recently broke up with a long term ex and I lost every form of friendship I had because most of my friends were wither her family members or her close friend's partners.

To give context I moved out of my hometown around a year ago and pretty much met this girl straight away, so it's not like I have any old friends to fall back on.

Most of the friendship apps and websites seem to be filled with mostly gay people, which I don't have anything against, I just don't want to be boned (no homo), or they are beta males that don't lift and aren't about making money and getting sloots.

Help me misc, being lonely sucks

Buy an instrument, focus on your job and self improvement. Anything productive

I know it's easier said than done but what's your alternative?

All we can do is emphasize and give advice. It's up to you to do something about it

[willinguniform0]

Not sure if anyone else has been in this situation, but I recently broke up with a long term ex and I lost every form of friendship I had because most of my friends were wither her family members or her close friend's partners.

To give context I moved out of my hometown around a year ago and pretty much met this girl straight away, so it's not like I have any old friends to fall back on.

Most of the friendship apps and websites seem to be filled with mostly gay people, which I don't have anything against, I just don't want to be boned (no homo), or they are beta males that don't lift and aren't about making money and getting sloots.

Help me misc, being lonely sucks

This is a super hard question to answer over the internet, there are so many factors at play here that might be affecting you. Like yeah there's the cliche advice of "talk to coworkers" or "play a sport" but thats such generic advice that everyone already knows, it's pretty much useless. Maybe your problem is something entirely different that is specific to your situation.

For example, maybe you live way out in the suburbs and it takes you 30 min driving to get anywhere you wanna go, so you never go anywhere. Or maybe you don't even have a car. Or maybe you live in Tokyo and you're white and don't speak a lick of Japanese. Maybe your job sucks and it's taking up all your time, so you don't have time for hobbies. Maybe you're smoking weed every day and that's giving you paranoia and makes you unable to meet people. Or you're jacking off to porn every day. Or ,aybe your hobbies aren't suited for the area you live in, like maybe you really like soccer but you live in Harlem and getting to a soccer field is a giant PITA.

One path is save up $50k, move to downtown Manhattan or Williamsburg, get a job part time as a barista or a waiter or something, sign up for a 3-month acting class at one of the many acting schools that are around Manhattan. But again there are so many question marks here, like are you able to save up $50k? Do you like big cities? Do you like acting?

Or another specific advice I would give is to go to college and get your masters or something, that's another way to meet people. But again it depends, is going back to school even a good idea for you? Can you afford going back to school? Do you want to go back to school?

Another idea is to meticulously crawl through craigslist housing ads and find a roommate situation you're a good fit for. But again it begs the question, is the craigslist in your area good? Are you willing to comb through 100s of listings, drive to 10+ different apartments to meet with people?

Or it could be something extremely specific like maybe there's a card shop that's a 10 min drive from your apt that you could be going to every sunday to play Warhammer, or maybe theres a yoga studio nearby that's really good, or whatever. Or maybe it's a LAN gaming cafe or something.

Im starting to ramble, the point is theres not much to go off here, in general asking "how do I make friends" on the internet is futile because most ppl on here have no idea how to help you

[elterrible987]

just show up at her brothers house and act like nothing happened

[latverian41]

Not sure if anyone else has been in this situation, but I recently broke up with a long term ex and I lost every form of friendship I had because most of my friends were wither her family members or her close friend's partners.

To give context I moved out of my hometown around a year ago and pretty much met this girl straight away, so it's not like I have any old friends to fall back on.

Most of the friendship apps and websites seem to be filled with mostly gay people, which I don't have anything against, I just don't want to be boned (no homo), or they are beta males that don't lift and aren't about making money and getting sloots.

Help me misc, being lonely sucks

I feel your pain bro.

Pof.com

Do you play music? If so find like minded friends to play with. The chicks will come.

Just be you not sure what else to say.

Throw your line in the water...see what happens

[SwoleCat23]

The problem is I don't just want to make friends for the sake of having friends. I want friends that are into the same things as I am, i.e. gym, making money and having their sh*t together, otherwise I know that there are plenty of people looking to make friends in certain bars and clubs

[SwoleCat23]

I feel your pain bro.

Pof.com

Do you play music? If so find like minded friends to play with. The chicks will come.

Just be you not sure what else to say.

Throw your line in the water...see what happens

Honestly, I don't have that much trouble finding chicks, but this is the reason why I have been compensating for my lack of male friends. I just want a bro that understands my struggles no homo

[Evolutionary1]

Where in your job description does it say interfere with everyone's personal lives?

[InsanePain11]

It’s hard brahtha. Same happened to me and most of my friends are married. Even the ones I kept in touch with are not putting effort to communicate consistently, and others just live too far away. Honestly I own responsibility for most of this. Somehow I lost friends over the years and now I have gaps in life..however I’m working on becoming just happy with myself spiritually.. it’s helping.

I’ve spent the last couple years a bit too secluded. Too far from friends and not in a good area to meet them. I’m trying to get a new job so I can move to a more populated area (with females and potential friends around)
Good luck brah

[LargePeter]

what is this "friends" thing you speak of? Is that some kind of taco?

No one wants to see your taco, lose the OF link

[TryingMen]

Where do you live? I'll hang out with you (no homo)

[2011change]

2023, you dont make new friends. Go to discord and talk to people. Thats your new friends