Dealing with BPD is hell

[Brazzah]

Only way to deal with a BPD psychopath is to be a psychopath yourself:

1. Keep nudes/****ed up messages she sends you as evidence/potential blackmail so she doesn't go overboard, don't threaten her, just keep it for a rainy day.

2. Abruptly cut contact with her and move on, don't let her text you or go on a mental breakdown on you or go full on threats because she'll either guilt trip you into staying with her with her fake suicidal texts or straight up try to blackmail you.

If she tries to blackmail you, show her you got everything saved and so she knows that it's mutual assured destruction if she tries to fuk with you. Then move on.

Really, even though it's the best sex i ever had, not worth the risk of false rape charges or having her go full andrew tate human trafficking accusations on me because i didn't reply to her within 10 minutes.

[Jasonw1178]

At this point, lets talk about a breakup with a Cluster B woman.

She might just transfer all her feelings onto the next sucker and forget about you, just discard you and yes, you'll feel kind of replaced and all but you are the lucky one. You'll just be another abusive narcissist ex with a small dick like she told you about the guys before you. She's the victim and you are the cause of all her problems. BUT that's okay, because she learned from it and has evolved and she's not that pathetic person that would date you anymore, no, she's leveled up. Chances are she's going to validate these feelings by getting smashed by a lot of guys. Chances are she was already getting taken to pound town on a regular when you were with her but now she might want you to know about it this time. She might go NC on you, but she finds out you have a new girl, she might try to mess things up. You moving on is going to trigger her abandonment complex.

My ex that I mentioned before, she's got her new BF gaslit and beat down. She's ruining him and now because she can't hold a job he got her a job at his work and I can bet she's going to ruin his career next. Same time, I've heard what she said about my new GF, not very nice to say the least. What's more is she is trying to hook me up with this chick. No joke, wouldn't be surprised if it's a trap to try to sabatoge my new relationship. I told her I wasn't interested but waiting on the next tactic.

[smashedurgfx10]

Cluster b chicks simply aren't worth it

The sex is insane
The love bombing and 'fake connection' feels amazing.. until it starts fading away

You will never, I repeat never, quite comprehend how much disrespect, manipulation, gaslighting and mind games she will play when the relationship ends

I truly believe these people are incredibly dangerous

And when u finally find the confidence to walk away from someone who is disrespecting you but telling you she still cares, when you notice the dissonance and realise this isn't healthy - you begin a new toxic pattern of questioning how you had such poor judgment, and what other poor decisions have you made or will you make

[DomMJr]

Cluster b chicks simply aren't worth it

The sex is insane
The love bombing and 'fake connection' feels amazing.. until it starts fading away

You will never, I repeat never, quite comprehend how much disrespect, manipulation, gaslighting and mind games she will play when the relationship ends

I truly believe these people are incredibly dangerous

And when u finally find the confidence to walk away from someone who is disrespecting you but telling you she still cares, when you notice the dissonance and realise this isn't healthy - you begin a new toxic pattern of questioning how you had such poor judgment, and what other poor decisions have you made or will you make

They're just women who are not socialized by good men in their family / etc. No surprise how ugly the battle gets when she's vulnerable.

[TXBuddy]

They're just women who are not socialized by good men in their family / etc. No surprise how ugly the battle gets when she's vulnerable.

And with Cluster B mothers..

[BulletDodged]

Couple of questions.

Is she likely to be BPD & how does a BPD feel when you dump/abandon her?

So let me start by giving you some background information about her.

She is age 25, Luthuainin girl, very hot body, solid 9 body.. looks wise she is maybe a 6.5


01.Seems to have a traumatic past, this might include sexual abuse

02.Her father passed away when she was young as he was an alcoholic, an likely her upbringing was traumatic due to having an alcoholic father

03.Very likely she has daddy issues, due to not having a stable father figure & being raised by a single mother

04. Has been on/off anti depressants for a few years

05. Seems to have mood disorders, can become very combative & start arguments

06. Has been going through a hoe phase, going out to the clubs/bars and getting drunk

07. Is very impulsive, has several Tattoos and a big one on her thigh

08. Seems to enjoy dominating bondage sex, spanking, cuffs, collar, toys, enjoys watching porn

09. Body count is around 12-14 by age 24

10. Alcohol is a big factor in her family, most of her family are big drinkers

11. Has more male friends than females, is very comfortable talking to men and getting freindly with men.

12. Seems to have anger issues, combative, doesn't know how to apologize

13. Addicted to social media, Instagram, Facebook Snapchat Tik Tok.. doesn't do nudes or bikini pics, however posts pictures of herself posing in order to get validation and attention

14. Very quickly tries to lock you down into a relationship & talks about having children within months

15. Seems quite Narcissistic because she is hot

Anyway I dated this girl for 9 months. It was very unstable, with several times she was disrespectful to me and drama every few weeks.

She was at my house 8 weeks ago, and was being combative towards me.. I told her to get out of my house and sent her home in an Uber at 5am in the morning.

Been radio silence with her for 8 weeks now.

One of my friends noticed her Facebook posts and she has been posting about heartbreak recently.

Anyway strict no contact so far 8 weeks in.

I instigated the break up by telling her to leave.

Did I do the right thing? Also is she likely to be BPD?

Keep in mind that she disrespected me quite seriously on atleast 2-3 occasions.

She is very 🔥 hot.. that's probably why I didn't dump her sooner.

Is it likely she was BPD?

Or just a pretty damaged young chick

[Evolutionary1]

didn't read.... neither should you

[BulletDodged]

Any idea how BPD girls feel when you abandon them or dump them for bad/disrespectful behaviour?

I instigated the break up with my ex, who I am convinced has BPD or maybe Bipolar.

All the signs are there...

Anyway I told her to leave my house, the last I heard was from a friend of mine, he noticed that my ex was posting on Facebook about heartbreak quite a lot.

This was around 4 weeks ago. I'm guessing she must be in Pain to some degree.

I dated her 9 months and it was chaos.

Drama/disrespect/bratty behaviour/ combative agressive attitude, arguments.

Enough was enough so I Dumped her.

She is very attractive and age 24, solid 9 body, slim, blonde and blue eyes.

You can't imagine how difficult it is to dump a young hot chick like that, who was wanting to have children with me


Do BPD girls circle back later if you dumped them?

[Jayarbie]

Couple of questions.

Is she likely to be BPD & how does a BPD feel when you dump/abandon her?

So let me start by giving you some background information about her.

She is age 25, Luthuainin girl, very hot body, solid 9 body.. looks wise she is maybe a 6.5


01.Seems to have a traumatic past, this might include sexual abuse

02.Her father passed away when she was young as he was an alcoholic, an likely her upbringing was traumatic due to having an alcoholic father

03.Very likely she has daddy issues, due to not having a stable father figure & being raised by a single mother

04. Has been on/off anti depressants for a few years

05. Seems to have mood disorders, can become very combative & start arguments

06. Has been going through a hoe phase, going out to the clubs/bars and getting drunk

07. Is very impulsive, has several Tattoos and a big one on her thigh

08. Seems to enjoy dominating bondage sex, spanking, cuffs, collar, toys, enjoys watching porn

09. Body count is around 12-14 by age 24

10. Alcohol is a big factor in her family, most of her family are big drinkers

11. Has more male friends than females, is very comfortable talking to men and getting freindly with men.

12. Seems to have anger issues, combative, doesn't know how to apologize

13. Addicted to social media, Instagram, Facebook Snapchat Tik Tok.. doesn't do nudes or bikini pics, however posts pictures of herself posing in order to get validation and attention

14. Very quickly tries to lock you down into a relationship & talks about having children within months

15. Seems quite Narcissistic because she is hot

Anyway I dated this girl for 9 months. It was very unstable, with several times she was disrespectful to me and drama every few weeks.

She was at my house 8 weeks ago, and was being combative towards me.. I told her to get out of my house and sent her home in an Uber at 5am in the morning.

Been radio silence with her for 8 weeks now.

One of my friends noticed her Facebook posts and she has been posting about heartbreak recently.

Anyway strict no contact so far 8 weeks in.

I instigated the break up by telling her to leave.

Did I do the right thing? Also is she likely to be BPD?

Keep in mind that she disrespected me quite seriously on atleast 2-3 occasions.

She is very ������ hot.. that's probably why I didn't dump her sooner.

Is it likely she was BPD?

Or just a pretty damaged young chick

https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/heal...ality-disorder

People with BPD will have at least 5 of these symptoms over time:

* A pattern of severe mood changes over hours or days
* Extreme anger and problems controlling anger
* Strong, up-and-down relationships with family and friends that can go quickly from very close to anger and hatred
* Extreme fear of and reactions to abandonment, and extreme behaviors to avoid abandonment
* A rapidly changing sense of self that can cause sudden changes in goals, values, or behaviors
* Feeling disconnected from themselves, their body, or reality, or having paranoid thoughts
* Ongoing feelings of emptiness
* Self-destructive behaviors, such as substance use or misuse, binge eating, unsafe sex with multiple partners, unsafe driving, or reckless spending
* Suicide attempts or self-harming behavior, such as cutting, hair pulling, or burning

The things that you see outwardly are:

* Splitting
BPD people generally suffer from anxious-avoidant insecure attachments. Anxious attachment type is where a person devalues themself in a relationship and defines their self worth through who they are attached to. This leads to idealization, where you can do absolutely no wrong, mirroring, where the person imitates you and even takes up your interests and hobbies to be like you, and crazy wild sex as they try to fukk you into staying with them forever. Avoidant attachment style is where a person devalues the other people in a relationship and puts themselves on a pedestal. This leads to devaluation where the person considers their partner to be the cause of all of their problems and leads to gaslighting and fighting.

BPD people have both anxious and avoidant insecure attachments at the same time. Splitting is the behavior where they will switch back and forth from anxious/idealization to avoidant/devaluation with their partner and change on a dime from love bombing to gaslighting in a way that makes no sense for their partner and causes the relationship to become toxic very quickly (but the idealization phases with the love bombing and crazy sex make it difficult to leave...).

* Risk Taking
BPD people have few boundaries and often engage in very risky behavior like driving fast & recklessly, risky sex (affairs, unprotected sex, BDSM/violent sex, etc.), substance abuse, eating disorders, etc.

* Self-Harm
BPD people struggle with their self worth and suffer from fear of abandonment to the point where, if someone threatens to leave/abandon them, they will resort to self harm: cutting, threatening suicide, etc.


If you see those things, especially in a extreme, she is likely BPD. BPD is often triggered by childhood trauma that stunts healthy emotional development, which she definitely has. I'm not a psychologist or anything, but it seems possible/likely here.

[WiseOldApe]

Sound like me before i found Jesus Christ (SRS)

[BulletDodged]

Well my ex very likely had childhood trauma. She hinted at sexual abuse.

Her father passing away early, as he was an alcoholic, that was likely traumtic, not to mention daddy issues.

She tends to date much older men than her.

And she definitely enjoyed bondage sex, cuffs, collars, spanking etc.

Her last relationship prior to mine was also toxic and she has been on/of anti depressant s for a good while.

Her needs for online attention.

It's her moods/anger/combativeness that was the biggest issue for me.

[BulletDodged]

Is there a link with a girl being raised without a father in the picture, childhood sexual abuse and BPD?

[4North1Side2]

Only way to deal with a BPD psychopath is to be a psychopath yourself:

1. Keep nudes/****ed up messages she sends you as evidence/potential blackmail so she doesn't go overboard, don't threaten her, just keep it for a rainy day.

2. Abruptly cut contact with her and move on, don't let her text you or go on a mental breakdown on you or go full on threats because she'll either guilt trip you into staying with her with her fake suicidal texts or straight up try to blackmail you.

If she tries to blackmail you, show her you got everything saved and so she knows that it's mutual assured destruction if she tries to fuk with you. Then move on.

Really, even though it's the best sex i ever had, not worth the risk of false rape charges or having her go full andrew tate human trafficking accusations on me because i didn't reply to her within 10 minutes.

Lol!!!! This guy knows wtf he's talking about!

[Evolutionary1]

hehehe