Share your most painful relationship break up, My ex left me when I lost my job

[ChaliHo]

Cliffs
Fiance of 3 years left me in 2018 before Covid, when I lost my high paying job and told her we would have to move out of our Luxury loft in downtown LA. She left me for the short balding fat old Armenian Jeweler near her job, I used to talk to him daily when picking her up from work.


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2018 I lost my job as a marketing and promotional executive, I had this job for 3 years, I had no degree, I was hired through a friend because I worked doing promotional and marketing stuff for a local casino and I had experience and the bosses liked me we did so many local and commercial business promotions it was great. I made over $275 k a year. I lost my job when the business went under my fiancee told me babe I got you, I told her I was going to get a job while finishing my degree, my friend hooked me up with a job making 65k a year, my fiancee was making around 35k working as a receptionist.

after 2 months I told her we are going to have to move out of our luxury loft in Downtown LA. I discussed with her our financial situation and how to save up that we would move out to a suburb area outside of LA.

I could tell she didnt like it, this girl was not a party animal, she was very loving and caring, so after that discussion I remember she was talking to her girlfriends and aunt and they invited her to Cabo because she wanted to get her mind clear, so I let her go.

I told her Ill visit my folks up north. so when I come back to our loft it was 5 days later, I open the door all her stuff is gone she left a note at least, she said this is the most painful thing I ever had to do because I love you so much yada yada, she said she left her phone with me and she said delete her phone line she wont be using it, I was paying for her phone on Verizon.

She basically left me so 4 and half months after losing my job making six figures she leaves me when I needed her moral support the most.

This was a woman I took in when she had nothing and was still living with her parents while she did modeling jobs for car shows, I met her at a car show when I set up a booth for a local business there.

I broke up before, this one hurt hard, I thought she was different she didnt party or gossip, was very sweet, she was very loving and sexy it was too good to be true

several months later after I relocated and moved out of the left, I noticed she left a couple of her items here so I figured id contact her but I realized she never left me a number, I only had her email and her ******** account, I didnt even bother looking at her ******** for 3 months but I was missing her bad hoping I could get back with her

I go look at her ******** and she had photos of her kissing this 58 year old Armenian jeweler who worked near her job

This guy was 5'5 balding, fat, hairy and always sweating. I used to talk to this guy all the time, Id park in front of his jewelry shop and he would tell me my wife is beautiful. He was friendly and I never expected my ex to leave me for this guy

my jaw dropped, I felt disgusted cause I bonded with her for 3 years and she moved on within months.

She has two kids with him now and they are married I got curious during covid to see how she was and saw she was pregnant and they had photos of her celebrating his 60th birthday in Monaco, its crazy how women can move on so quickly, it also made me realize women do not fall in love they fall in interest, once I lost my high paying job she left me shortly after.

[Polaris]

Mine were always due to me pushing them away hard.

No regrets now though.

[SteinerSteve]

thank god I'm a poor fuk who hasn't even enough money to pay her bills too


It's the best way to find a girl that will love you as a person and not the comfort you're giving her

[JeepBruh]

Fkn brutal and sry brah. What a wake up call to that type of behavior.

Did seeing her with that dude make you get over her any quicker?

[ChaliHo]

Fkn brutal and sry brah. What a wake up call to that type of behavior.

Did seeing her with that dude make you get over her any quicker?

It made her hurt more but also I moved on, but sometimes ill think about our memories it ust baffles me how she could move on so quick

We were together for 3 years, I still remember how fun it was. We would go out all the time she never went to night clubs, we would chill at home in the loft over looking the city, I remember the fun ass times we would walk to the Pantry for breakfast, or go ice skating in pershing square

Fuk man I thought she was going to be my wife forever, she was like my best friend she was sexy, loving, sweet, but dam she left me for that shorft fat hairy Armenian guy

it shook me hard and traumatized me when I saw her ******** when I was about to hit her up with her and the guy who I used to talk with before picking her up from work. I almost puked, but it shocked me because now I dont really have that type of emotional investment to a female anymore and my libido is shot, its never been the same im almost stoic about relationships

I used to derive great enjoyment falling hard for women, the euphoria you feel when in love and having a girl like you was amazing

but I dont really have the energy to give anymore after that break up she left me when I was at my lowest with an ugly fat guy I would have never expected she would rebound with and have kids with.

[mryamamoto]

its crazy how women can move on so quickly, it also made me realize women do not fall in love they fall in interest, once I lost my high paying job she left me shortly after.

This is true - most women don't love a man unconditionally, they only love the things, feelings and lifestyle a man can offer them in the moment. They haven't got the ability to plan for the future.

Hard facts.

[stayhomeneet]

When I was on a break with my oneitis and I found out she had a threeseome with two black guys Ded srs.

I got into that there cuckold porn for a while afterwards it was so bad mayne.

[jack5432]

I always felt sad telling them I want to change the relationship to just friends.

[CementPizza]

I was banging the chit out of op's mom. Then she told me he lost his job. I prolapsed here while telling her she better start looking for a double wide. She was crying and a mess.
I felt bad while I slashed her tires and left her place.

I shouldn't have said double wide... a single would have been fine.

[Samraiwise]

Mine was in my dream.

The night we had a really stupid fight I had a dream in which

my wife left me and our baby daughter.



The next morning I apologized to her.

It was the most painful because the imaginary breakup determined the power dynamics between us after that night.



Damn.

[IntelExchange]

damn bro, i feel sorry for you, I know it feels bad when you thought you have something with someone just for them to move on so easy and fast....but hey, she definitely downgraded. Now get back at it, get a job that makes 500k / year, fk bitches and forget her.

Last year I spoke to a girl, was the first girl that showed some interest in me but she was from another city. We spoke constantly on the phone, messages, late night phone calls, her father got diagnosticated with cancer but she flew in to meet me, basically took my V card, it was very nice but then she grew more distant, like you can feel it happening, but she still gave me the impression that it was just like the first time we met. She started going a lot to bars and chit, then i met with her the second time but it wasnt clearly the same...in my head i thought it was, I kept on making excuses, because her father has cancer, i kept on trying to talk to her and try to help, make things right...it turns out in the time i was talking to her, when her father went to the hospital for a few days she foken got a dude from the bar and went to his father's appartment and fked in his bed...who the **** does that ? your father is in hospital, dying of cancer and you take a random dude from the bar and go in your fathers bed and fk him ? Then she also told me she fked a guy from tinder and her ex french guy came "uninvited" to her and they also ****ed....for some reason i kept on talking to her...idk why, i felt sorry and was still emotionally attached, I still am, then we kept on talking...she said she wants us to be friends but then she flew in to her french ex bh for 1 week and sent me a photo of them hugging, him grabbing her butt....and that kind of broke me, i didnt talk to her much since then, she kept on posting IG stories ( she didnt do that when we were close and talking ) probably in hopes to make me mad or something, idk, i ended up creating a new IG account to get rid of her, everything I had related to her and now im trying to recover but she is almost always on my mind, I always ask myself what the fk I did wrong to deserve this, what can I do so wrong that she did this to me, I mean i would understand if she just plain and simple told me but she chose to do this.
Her father ended up dying unfortunately tho...i still feel sorry for her, I tried to talk with her as much as possible during those times but yeah..

I just heard another story of a friend who has a succesful trucking company with his wife, hey have 2 kids, his wife is the daughter of a church pope. Guess what his lady did ? She ended up cheating on him with a gipsy who is in some sort of criminal gang or something , even stole money from him.

What the **** is wrong with these women ? I cannot comprehend

[northernlights7]

My ex-wife left me a couple months before 2020 covid lockdowns began. I'm honestly not sure if I'll ever be the same again after that experience. Any faith I might have had in humanity dried up at that point.

[syrk]

Fiancée and partner 7 years was staying late at “work” most nights , one night she isn’t home and it’s 11 at night so I drive to her work to make sure she’s ok

Car isn’t there

I ring and leave her a voicemail asking if she’s ok, that I’ve been to her work and she wasn’t there

10 mins later I get a call saying she was out getting me a surprise and wasn’t actually at work that night ??

1 hour later she turns up with two kittens and had paid £100 for them , she had driven 2 hours out to get these


Kittens were available for free in our areas so this didn’t make sense

Anyway turns out she was cheating and had bought the kittens to cover her ass about the cheating.

I have a suspicion she killed our previous cat but I can’t prove anything

[northernlights7]

Fiancée and partner 7 years was staying late at “work” most nights , one night she isn’t home and it’s 11 at night so I drive to her work to make sure she’s ok

Car isn’t there

I ring and leave her a voicemail asking if she’s ok, that I’ve been to her work and she wasn’t there

10 mins later I get a call saying she was out getting me a surprise and wasn’t actually at work that night ??

1 hour later she turns up with two kittens and had paid £100 for them , she had driven 2 hours out to get these


Kittens were available for free in our areas so this didn’t make sense

Anyway turns out she was cheating and had bought the kittens to cover her ass about the cheating.

I have a suspicion she killed our previous cat but I can’t prove anything

Women never admit to cheating no matter how obvious it is, either. You have to catch them red handed, and even then, they'll continue to minimize the severity of it and make up excuses for why they will still somehow blame you for.m There's never any accountability, not even them simply admitting they were wrong for doing it.

[Woody-5]

Rewind back to my youth...

I was 19, moved in with a chick who was 23 (she could buy me booze, fuk yea!) We were together almost a year then we moved out of the city and back to my hometown. She got a job at a local place (the people who owned the business).

Maybe a month after, one of the other employees (whom I'm friends with) comes over for drinks. They're acting funny. I'm hammered and have to get up for work early as I just started a new job, so I go to bed. No idea what time she comes to bed.

This fukking eats at me all day while I'm trying to focus on the new job. Plan to confront her when I get home, but when i get there, she'd taken her clothes and moved in with this guy. Left all her other sh!t there. Matter of fact, I think 20+ years later, I might have some of her furniture in my storage unit still.

cold hearted bish

[WoofieNugget]

Painful was one I lived with that I just wanted to GTFO but she couldn't afford to leave after we broke up. Took three months to get her and all her crap out and then saw that she was already posting about a new guy a couple of weeks later - meaning she was definitely hooking up with him while we were still living in the same place.

[northernlights7]

That story in the OP has definitely been posted here before.

[ChaliHo]

This is true - most women don't love a man unconditionally, they only love the things, feelings and lifestyle a man can offer them in the moment. They haven't got the ability to plan for the future.

Hard facts.

It is brutal, the first time I ever got cheated on was when I was 22, she had her single girlfriends in her ear trying to break us up, and they did she followed them, she cheated on me by making out with 8 people including some fatsos and friends of ours at a party

She eventually admit to me she did it over the phone and I got furious, she was copying the girls around her they all were sneaky snakes around their boyfriends and had that girl power mentality

She moved n quickly and got married, several years later she tried to hit me up on ********, I decided to open one up around 2014 and she hit me up she was married with 2 kids and her husband cheated on her, she tried to tell me this sob story and talk to me as if everything was the same as was, this was baffling to me becuase when she cheated on me she moved on quicky but then when she has nothing and is washed up she acts like everything was the same as before

I wonder if women have any empathy" its very weird she expected me to be kind to her like she never fukked me over. I just blocked her but after a week her friend hit me up and said you are a real ******* for blocking her like that grow the fuk up and move on you know she cried for a days when you blocked her, I was thinking dam cried for days what about me bitch cheated on me and betrayed me I guess im just supposed to take it cause im a dude, she was chubby and used up but dam she was my first love and broke me hard. This also made me realize women NEVER forget, they remember every guy and they keep them on deck. I wonder how many men she tried to get back with from her past before she got to me, after her husband left her. She basically forgot all about me for 8 years and then hit me up with no shame like everything was good.

[baroninyba]

I had one ex that was abusive srs. She was about 100 lbs but would punch me on occasion. She lived with me and refused to move out, it was a lengthy process finally getting rid of her but one day she hit me in the face and had a breakfast burrito in her hand so I grabbed her hand with the burrito and made her smear it all over her face srs. I bounced out of there but when I came back she had smeared fruit all in the carpet srs finally got her out though after that.

[rollerball]

Broad broke up with me while I was peaking on acid. It was no fun.

[BigGuyTruth]

im almost 30 and have never had a gf

[TuskV]

Never trust an Armenian

[skinnyfat88]

Cliffs

I could tell she didnt like it, this girl was not a party animal, she was very loving and caring, so after that discussion I remember she was talking to her girlfriends and aunt and they invited her to Cabo because she wanted to get her mind clear, so I let her go.


She basically left me so 4 and half months after losing my job making six figures she leaves me when I needed her moral support the most.

This was a woman I took in when she had nothing and was still living with her parents while she did modeling jobs for car shows, I met her at a car show when I set up a booth for a local business there.

I go look at her ******** and she had photos of her kissing this 58 year old Armenian jeweler who worked near her job

This guy was 5'5 balding, fat, hairy and always sweating. I used to talk to this guy all the time, Id park in front of his jewelry shop and he would tell me my wife is beautiful. He was friendly and I never expected my ex to leave me for this guy

my jaw dropped, I felt disgusted cause I bonded with her for 3 years and she moved on within months.

She has two kids with him now and they are married I got curious during covid to see how she was and saw she was pregnant and they had photos of her celebrating his 60th birthday in Monaco, its crazy how women can move on so quickly, it also made me realize women do not fall in love they fall in interest, once I lost my high paying job she left me shortly after.

That's a brutal story m8 I'm sorry to hear. Some thoughts/questions though:

What do you mean you "let her go" to Cabo? Were you sharing finances? Otherwise I'm not sure any relationship is about one person holding control to "let" the other person do anything.

"She left when I needed her the most." - we always twist things in our minds to emphasize our pain or villainize those who hurt us but there is never a good time to leave someone. The best time to leave someone is usually as soon as you realize you don't want them so you stop wasting their time.

Do you think her female friends/family came from low-income families and had the attitude that men were supposed to earn and take care of the women and as a woman your job was to find the best breadwinner who could meet their financial needs and offer security (ie wouldn't leave them/cheat on them)?

Out of curiosity, what background are you/her?

[ChaliHo]

That's a brutal story m8 I'm sorry to hear. Some thoughts/questions though:

What do you mean you "let her go" to Cabo? Were you sharing finances? Otherwise I'm not sure any relationship is about one person holding control to "let" the other person do anything.

"She left when I needed her the most." - we always twist things in our minds to emphasize our pain or villainize those who hurt us but there is never a good time to leave someone. The best time to leave someone is usually as soon as you realize you don't want them so you stop wasting their time.

Do you think her female friends/family came from low-income families and had the attitude that men were supposed to earn and take care of the women and as a woman your job was to find the best breadwinner who could meet their financial needs and offer security (ie wouldn't leave them/cheat on them)?

Out of curiosity, what background are you/her?

Most people say they let someone go there, its not a control thing just sentencing what am I supposed to say? I dont control her nad never did.

Im White and Mexican but identify as Mexican since my white side basically disowned my white father when he married a Mexican woman

My ex was White, Irish, and Portuguese she was a car show model when I met her, she worked import nights when I set up a booth for JBL at the long beach expo.


She basically left me when I lost my job, whats their to villianize? thats what she did. She hooked up with the rich old short balding aremnian Jeweler who worked near her job, she likely told him negative things bout me, which is usually what women do when they monkey branch to a higher status male.

And he made his move on her, women do this a lot they will confide in male coworkers hoping one will take the bait and make a move to see if they are interested by painting a sob story

Thats how I met my ex in college she told me her boyfriend was a jerk, and drunk, and mean, after 3 months she dumps him and I make out with her and we date, then she meets another guy at her college and says the same song and dance the only difference is I was never mean to her, she would create issues out of nowhere to make it seem like I was doing something wrong so I knew something was up she was scheming already

She left me for that guy, a few months later I run into her A hole ex the one she told me about who I hated without meeting, the guy was the nicest guy, I told him you used to date whats her name and he said yeah, and I said man she told me you were an ahole and abusive and this and that and he was like WTF, she said that? I said yeah she said you were mean to her, he was saying thats BS I the worst I ever did was get drunk and passed out and she had to drive me home.

[Skirrel]

She left me for that guy, a few months later I run into her A hole ex the one she told me about who I hated without meeting, the guy was the nicest guy, I told him you used to date whats her name and he said yeah, and I said man she told me you were an ahole and abusive and this and that and he was like WTF, she said that? I said yeah she said you were mean to her, he was saying thats BS I the worst I ever did was get drunk and passed out and she had to drive me home.

green flag in a girl is if she says "yeah there was nothing wrong with my ex, he was a nice guy, i just fell out of love with him, or just got sick of him being unambitious..." or somehting along those lines

most girls nowadays blame everything on ex gf

[skinnyfat88]

Damn she hid some red flags from you for sure.

Were her female friends and family members the type to urge her to go for a man with money when you lost your job?

Do you miss her or are you just completely jaded when it comes to women now?

[ChaliHo]

green flag in a girl is if she says "yeah there was nothing wrong with my ex, he was a nice guy, i just fell out of love with him, or just got sick of him being unambitious..." or somehting along those lines

most girls nowadays blame everything on ex gf

True, monkey branch females the ones who are never without a boyfriend tend to blame their boyfriend and paint him a jerk to the guy they are interested in before jumping to him the moment he takes the bait and show interest

its the saying about girls who constantly say all mena re jerks, no she is not telling the truth, if all her boyfriends are scumbags something doesnt add up either she is attracted to those types or she isa monkey brancher playing victim and falsely claiming her ex are jerks when they probably arent

a simple disagreement could even bother her and she will tell her girlfreinds or male coworkers you area jerk and mean

[skinnyfat88]

I wasn't shattered when I got divorced. It wasn't a difficult decision after she began treating me worse and worse and it was clear the red flags I saw at the beginning weren't going to change.
I think she learned a lot from the experience and we're fine co-parents now.

My only painful breakup was the one after my divorce. We had a ton in common as far as how we wanted to spend our free time. She checked all the boxes most men would want as far as being trustworthy, independent, and of course attractive.
She was Muslim though and when we made the decision to meet each others families (she had never introduced either of her 2 past boyfriends to her parents - possibly because both were long distance for portions of it and in hindsight neither were super serious), they weren't thrilled to learn I was a white(non-muslim) atheist who was divorced with a kid. We kept dating but she couldn't get over my situation and what her parents and others in her community might think so we never took that step and eventually she said there was no point continuing to date due to her inability to move forward so she broke it off.
Maybe there were other reasons but I may never know.

No story about someone being awful, just someone I really liked and respected (and still do) going their separate way.

I don't have a negative view of women or anything and am confident I can spot the good ones when I go out and date, it's just tough losing the one you wanted.

[ChaliHo]

Damn she hid some red flags from you for sure.

Were her female friends and family members the type to urge her to go for a man with money when you lost your job?

Do you miss her or are you just completely jaded when it comes to women now?

Her family is nosey, she confides eveyrthing with her female friends, sisters and aunts and cousins all the time. I remember one time telling her do you tell your family about our personal convos she said yes why is that wrong my mom does it my sisters aunts everyone. She kinda got mad when I asked her that.

She had some controlling girlfriends one of them used to give me dirty looks she didnt like me for some odd reason she had an ugly boyfriend and she was fat, but she knew my gf before me and would always say girl I got your back we sistas.

They likely advised her to hook up with the rich Armenian guy who is 60 years old now, he makes half a million a year he did some jewelry for a few sports stars like Jordan Clarkson when he was with the Lakers

Women look for options all the time, he was familiar so when I lost my job she saw he was always interested in her, and saying she is beautiful, I never thought she would be attracted to a 60 year old short balding fat guy, she was in her 20s.

Am I jaded? hell no but I did feel pain and miss the good times, its painful how women can just move on so quickly even after you bond for 3 to 5 years or more I had so many good times with her I thought she had my back she was not a wild girl either, she tasted good, smelled good, I miss the intimacy her big white ass, pink nipples, pretty toes, , Im just guarded and have no more love to give you invest so much into a relationship and im old already I dont even know anymore what to do it takes years to really bond

Im just scared to be honest. I love women and never have hatred for any woman, Im just paranoid if I get close again ill get broken, its sad because im vulnerable as a man I have no protection when you marry a woman the one thing I want is to feel trust and comfort like she has my back not leave me when I lost my job, I mean im making 75k a year now its not bad just not over 250k like I did before.

[ChaliHo]

I wasn't shattered when I got divorced. It wasn't a difficult decision after she began treating me worse and worse and it was clear the red flags I saw at the beginning weren't going to change.
I think she learned a lot from the experience and we're fine co-parents now.

My only painful breakup was the one after my divorce. We had a ton in common as far as how we wanted to spend our free time. She checked all the boxes most men would want as far as being trustworthy, independent, and of course attractive.
She was Muslim though and when we made the decision to meet each others families (she had never introduced either of her 2 past boyfriends to her parents - possibly because both were long distance for portions of it and in hindsight neither were super serious), they weren't thrilled to learn I was a white(non-muslim) atheist who was divorced with a kid. We kept dating but she couldn't get over my situation and what her parents and others in her community might think so we never took that step and eventually she said there was no point continuing to date due to her inability to move forward so she broke it off.
Maybe there were other reasons but I may never know.

No story about someone being awful, just someone I really liked and respected (and still do) going their separate way.

I don't have a negative view of women or anything and am confident I can spot the good ones when I go out and date, it's just tough losing the one you wanted.

Yeah your situation is painful, it came down to culture and religion but it seems you both LOVED each other.

Its tough man, Im well over 35 years old and about to turn 40 soon

Dating is hard, Im not jaded either, just scared and spent, there is no security for a man when he marries, thats all I ask for as a man is simple life simple wife no headache and comfort

Someone I can feel has my back. Right now Its hard to date at my age, very hard because most women 29 to 35 years old have severe baggage, Im a clean slate no kids never been married, women also who are nosey I just stop, I was on a date last year with a 34 year old female she didnt have kids but she was nosey, and still has girlfriends and she confides int hem on everything she was asking about my family, my brother, mother, my friends, asking me why I stopped talking to my friends, and dont have an Iinstagram dam it was weird like an interrogation