Its a weird story. In one hand, you reacted as any man with testicles should react, aka tell her to fuk off, but thats an extremely rare reaction as in, not many men out there actually would break up with her even if deep down they know something weird is going on.
On the other hand, you say you have been with her for over a year, so my logic tells me that a man like you that sets his boundaries so clear would have already taught your girlfriend how to react or how to act, whats allowed and what isnt after so long in a relationship. I mean all women are like this, they will test you to see what you are made of or what your limits are, but a man that acted like you did would have probably let his girlfriend know how the ****s gonna roll after just a few weeks into being together. So what happened, you had a sudden change of heart or what? You suddenly grew some balls and act like a man? Or you were tired of her and decided this was the perfect excuse to finally leave the relationship?
Either way, whats done is done. Good call, obviously what she did, the way you tell the story, its wrong and uncalled for. Its common sense to every single person in the planet that her action is not an innocent action or thought. As you put it, imagine you going out of your way to approach a hot babe in a bikini to talk to her about some random bull****, be overly friendly to her everytime you see her etc.
The way she reacted is obviously a red flag as well. When a woman truly loves her man, or adores him, or is 100% sure she wants to stay with him, SHE WILL MAKE SURE SHE DOESNT DO ANYTHING TO UPSET HER MAN. That means not talking to random hot dudes at the pool or getting defensive when being confronted about approaching hot dudes at the pool.
For example, every girlfriend of mine knows damn well how i react to little things like that. A woman has no business smiling or making eye contact with another man simply because that gives the wrong idea, even if its 100% an act of kindness and has no bad intention behind it. Either way, to keep her man happy and avoid misunderstandings, she cant put herself in positions that will bring any kind of heat or stress to the relationship, that means no going out of her way to talk to hot guys for random reasons, hell even if she has a legit reason to talk, she will try to avoid the situation just for the sake of her relationship.
In the rare case that she actually has no way to avoid doing something that will upset her man, she will know 100% what is coming and will try to explain herself to the best of her ability. No "you are insecure" bull****, but actually a proper and legit convincing explanation behind her reasoning and actions, and it better be a gotdamn convincing ass explanation followed by a good blowjob srs.
Now most people today would probably read my post and think "damn this guy is controlling and insecure", or maybe think that im too much or whatever, but then again, most people today are single, lonely, miserable and uncapable of creating or keeping good meaningful relationships, so at the end of the day, when we live in such complex times for relationships, a man has to be extreme and "controlling" if he wants to have a long lasting relationship
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03-22-2023, 11:12 AM #151"The flowers bloom, then wither... The stars shine and one day become extinct. This earth, the sun, the galaxies and even the big universe, someday will be destroyed. Compared with that, the human life is only a blink, just a little time. In that short time - people are born, laugh, cry, fight, are injured, feel joy, sadness, hate someone, love someone. All in just a moment. And then, are embraced by the eternal sleep called death."
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03-22-2023, 11:40 AM #152
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03-22-2023, 12:12 PM #154
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03-22-2023, 01:56 PM #155
Well, women 30 years ago didnt need to be controlled, they would have common sense, decency, and would control themselves. Nowadays you wanna be a man that has successful on his relationship with women and id have to say that you NEED to be controlling, as bad as that may sound.
"The flowers bloom, then wither... The stars shine and one day become extinct. This earth, the sun, the galaxies and even the big universe, someday will be destroyed. Compared with that, the human life is only a blink, just a little time. In that short time - people are born, laugh, cry, fight, are injured, feel joy, sadness, hate someone, love someone. All in just a moment. And then, are embraced by the eternal sleep called death."
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03-22-2023, 09:31 PM #156
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03-22-2023, 09:35 PM #157
That's not the case mate, it's been 4 days since the incident, she's been crying and frantic, begging me to sleep next to her, making me food, cleaning, begging me to **** her and make her pregnant after I told her it's over and I'm moving away asap.
Walking away is your biggest super power as a man
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03-22-2023, 09:58 PM #158
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03-22-2023, 10:02 PM #159
The thing is, like I said this isn't the first time she's done something disrespectful or shown signs of disloyalty, she's done this multiple times even after I've told her it's unacceptable and as a result, I have lost TRUST overtime. Even though I'm still with her physically, mentally I've checked out. Once trust is lost, it's almost impossible to recover. You can love and forgive someone but you don't have to be with them.
What she did was unacceptable. Now being with her for while, I suspect she has some sort of a mental condition due to her childhood experiences, she told me her father didn't give her as much attention compared to her older sister and so maybe she developed HPD or some sort of disorder. Whatever the case is, she can't blame her mental condition for her actions and she must take accountability for them and the consequences of her actions.
Yeah you're right, you set the standard, you set the boundaries because loyalty is rarer now than ever I believe, in the entire history of mankind. If your woman can't respect that, see ya later. Too bad we live in tumultuous times.
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03-23-2023, 08:08 AM #166
The trick is take as many pics as you can with your girl you're in a relationship with.
She will love it but the goal is much more devious.
Girls will instantly get jealous seeing you with another girl. So if you have a bunch of pics of you and the one you're in a current relationship with, when you bounce outta that relationship and you start talking with another girl, if she stalks your social media, she will see you with another girl and instantly want you.
Its a way to avoid foreveralone status.
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03-23-2023, 08:34 AM #168
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Let me reiterate once again -- if you are done with her you NEED to gtfo.
She's acting nicely right now to try to get you back. Once she realizes that's not going to work, a switch is going to flip. Soon after you can expect a rape or abuse allegation, maybe both. GTFO now while you still can.Principal Engineer
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03-23-2023, 08:41 AM #169
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Women are ten steps ahead of a men when it comes game, flirtation and non verbal communication. She 100% knew he didn't care about some papers, that's not why she went to give them to him. Doesn't mean she was gonna cheat but she did one want another line in the water with a sucker nibbling for attention.
What is so frustrating is they always give themselves plausible deniability so they can gaslight you when they know exactly what they're doing.Black with a Small Hat
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03-30-2023, 03:38 AM #174
How many of these does your gf have?
HPD
A pervasive pattern of excessive emotionality and attention-seeking, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:
1) is uncomfortable in situations in which he or she is not the center of attention
2) interaction with others is often characterized by inappropriate sexually seductive or provocative behavior
3) displays rapidly shifting and shallow expression of emotions
4) consistently uses physical appearance to draw attention to self
5) has a style of speech that is excessively impressionistic and lacking in detail
6) shows self-dramatization, theatricality, and exaggerated expression of emotion
7) is suggestible, i.e., easily influenced by others or circumstances
8) considers relationships to be more intimate than they actually are
Diagnosis requires meeting five (or more) of the following traits above.
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03-30-2023, 04:26 AM #175
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04-02-2023, 03:40 PM #177
All of them. Number 2 could be a hit or miss but she seeks to talk to random guys thinking it's ok.
It's one thing when a guy does the talking first but she does the talking first often times like my attention isn't enough.
She does have HPD I have no doubt, she just hasn't been properly diagnosed. She has so many other issues besides HPD. In other words she's fooked
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04-02-2023, 03:44 PM #178
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04-02-2023, 03:46 PM #179
It's hard even for white men. Jamals are the only ones that seem to contain them. I found the best way to put them in place is give them good D but if they have severe underlying issues, they will only be submissive for a day and go back to normal eventually.
In other words you gotta give them good D everyday, multiple times a day and that's not really possible for a man like me who is dedicated to my work and hobbies. A lot of Jamals are thugs and don't have much going for them so they have the time to sex them everyday.
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