Just got a confusing call from ex

[jmoneyjumpman]

My ex of 2 and a half years broke up with me last week because I cheated on her and she tried to get over it and she couldn't. When she found out I apologized a lot and we ended up staying together. This was in August. We stayed together for six months. Stopped having sex as much, maybe once a month when we used to do it every time we saw each other. When she ended things she said she can't look at me the same, I love you but not in love with you. I tried but I can't. So we stop talking, I get sick over the weekend and end up in the hospital. I post it on my snap, she calls me asks how I am. We exchanged a few texts, I told her my troponin level was high. She told me over the phone something happened with one of my friends and her friends, I told him and her friend told her so she got mad at me and leaves me on read. 3 days go by, I post a pic of a hotel room on my snap she texts me 10 minutes after saying she was going to call me but she sees I'm in the city. I dont answer. She calls me 830 am right before I'm about to go to work, I don't answer. Answer her back hours later saying i was busy with work whats up. She texts back saying nevermind I guess that's more important. I said I'm working on deals I'll call you when I'm free. I called her and I just got off the phone with her and I can't understand the nature of this call...

I said hey whats up? She says she wanted to know what blood level was high and asks how I am, I tell her all the things I'm working on in my life and working on myself. Asks me who I was with on Friday, asked me if I'm seeing anyone. I said i wasnt. I ask her what she was doing she gets mad saying I dont have to tell you. So why ask me then? I ask her if shes seeing someone she says no she cant trust anyone again. But she says theres guys hitting her up. Which is expected. I said I agree we can't be together you need to heal and be happy with yourself. She says do you really mean that I say yes. She asks if I'm going to move on and asks why I didn't fight for her. I said I don't know what I want. You broke up with me and told me for an hour on the phone you didnt want me, what do you expect? She says nothing. Right after that she says she has to go lol. Wtf? If you wanna be done then lets be done dont ask me how my blood level is days later after you left me on read. It sucks because I really do love her and I am sorry for cheating on her I got her a nice promise ring weeks ago, but i know we can't be together right now she needs to heal and be happy with herself. She said she had her first meal today since the breakup. It's like I do want to fight for her but whats that gonna get me? I can just tell she is still angry with me and had that angry tone throughout the entire phone call, I obviously do miss her and would like to still talk to her, still have sex and all that but I don't know what she meant by all this. Is she waiting for me to move on so she can? Does she secretly want me to fight for her? If she seeing other dudes and is just waiting for me to say I'm seeing someone before she tells me? Is she trying to say she wants me back? So confused I'd appreciate your help so much you have no idea.

[Pepwave24]

Just move on

[elterrible987]

shes mad that you agreed with her on the breakup


"you didnt fight for me" means you didnt beg and plead to get back together, (which never works anyways)....


women are illogical. If you begged her to get back, she would know she has the upper hand, it will boost her ego then she will think she can "do better" and "upgrade" to a higher level Chad. Now if you dont beg or "fight for her" then she gets butthurt and feels rejected that you didnt care if she left even though she just told you that is what she wanted.


As you see from the above, they are in their feelings either way no matter what you do and you cant win either way and the end result will be them jumping on apps looking for Chad cawk.

In the 1950s when the man was the breadwinner you would have just slapped her and told her to STFU and maintain the house in order and she would have stayed with you for financial reasons. Now we have hypergamy, 40 year old childless women drinking box wine and chasing Chad

[elterrible987]

OP you are only confused because you think there is a logical answer, women dont operate on logic so dont look for it. Its not like fixing a car, computer, household project ect with logical steps.

[spazzin]

Stopped reading halfway through but why you posting all this when u cheated on her

[1320it]

bro, u cheated on her. let her move on.

[skinnyfat88]

If she's serious about working through things you guys need counseling because right now she thinks if she feels like the unquestioned #1 center of your universe it will solve the issue but it won't.

Props to owning up to your mistake and being rational about what's realistic/best moving forward.