Would you keep her around or end it?

[sf813]

I've been casually seeing a girl for the past few months. Over time it became clear that she isn't LTR material but it's been fun sleeping with her and hang out so I've kept her around. But I didn't want to fake the future with her so I told her honestly how I can't see myself being serious with her, this will end eventually, etc.

In return, it seems that she's been talking to other backup guys she has had, ex-FWB guys, and even met up with some behind my back recently. Initially we had agreement that we would be sexually exclusive but now she says to me "we're just dating so you can't control me like that", "you're not my boyfriend".

I've been hesitating to end it because I don't have any other girl I'm interested in pursuing yet. I have matches on dating apps I'm chatting with but I haven't gone on any dates with any so who knows how those first dates will go, I might enter a dry spell, and might experience more of the downside than her from this ending . Like most attractive girls, they are truly never single and she has backups that she's interested in, other guys she's been talking to, and past FWBs to hop onto immediately.

The best case scenario would be that I find a replacement with actual relationship potential before I cut it off with this current one, but the issue is that, this girl is starting to hang out and sleep with other guys which bothers me. I don't want to be sharing a girl as a my personal preference/boundary.

[skinnyfat88]

Unpopular opinion among miscers - be the person you want to date.

You want to meet someone with relationship material? To many men this means she is not sleeping with anyone and is entirely single when she starts going on dates with you.
Then maybe doing the same is a good idea.

If you don't care if a girl is constantly dating around then by all means do the same but IMO there's a larger percent of the population than you think who are not whoring it up.
If you meet a girl who is doing that and it's a turnoff then it was gonna be a dealbreaker for you regardless of whether or not you are doing the same, right?

Don't get me wrong I wouldn't have this mindset years ago when I craved validation/having options but it's food for thought once you're past that stage.

[microsuede]

end it

[sf813]

Wait, you've kept her around while talking to other girls - basically she's a ringer - and you get chitty when you realise she's doing the same??

LMAO

You fukers are incredible. Narcissistic, beta male losers.

Why set rules that you're not following then cry about someone acting in kind? No wonder asswhole douchebags like me get laid heaps.

No, I've allowed her to talk/date other guys. What we agreed on is sex exclusivity only so not sleeping with other people for the time being and I'm also following what I set.

[LtGoose]

No offense OP but this "chick" has turned you into a female.

[Redfish225]

end it

This is the only answer op.

[sf813]

Actually, just found out she's taking a trip to see some guy in 2 weeks so I'll end it right before.

I'll enjoy this until then and this problem would take care of itself.

[blueberryboy]

She's not yours , she's just your turn

Lol so sounds like you are seeing each other but both actively looking for something better

Just by her being a girl...she's gonna have so many more options than you..you'll never beat her at that game


She can bang a guy on any given night effortlessly

And there you are holding onto her as you are afraid of a dry spell


You're just a place holder guy , as she is just a place holder girl to you.


If you are seriously interested in her than go exclusive....bc you'll never beat her at the dating others game brah ...

[tripod29]

OP it's already ended and you don't realize it. She has already moved on. Srs, vry srs.

[blueberryboy]

No, I've allowed her to talk/date other guys. What we agreed on is sex exclusivity only so not sleeping with other people for the time being and I'm also following what I set.

This makes no sense
So you think she'll just talk to other guys but sex no way ?
Lol you got a lot to learn

Talking stage leads to sex

And she sure ain't gonna let you stop her as she's right...you ain't her boyfriend and have no right to stop her


That's just lip service she gave you bro

[sf813]

She's not yours , she's just your turn

Lol so sounds like you are seeing each other but both actively looking for something better

Just by her being a girl...she's gonna have so many more options than you..you'll never beat her at that game


She can bang a guy on any given night effortlessly

And there you are holding onto her as you are afraid of a dry spell


You're just a place holder guy , as she is just a place holder girl to you.


If you are seriously interested in her than go exclusive....bc you'll never beat her at the dating others game brah ...

I did have multiple opportunities to go exclusive. She brought it up about me asking her to be my gf but I kept changing the topic. I just don't see a long-term potential with her.

[sf813]

This makes no sense
So you think she'll just talk to other guys but sex no way ?
Lol you got a lot to learn

Talking stage leads to sex

And she sure ain't gonna let you stop her as she's right...you ain't her boyfriend and have no right to stop her


That's just lip service she gave you bro

No, i 100% know that she didn't do anything with another guy while we've been hanging out the past few months. Even recently as I mentioned in OP i thought she did but she proved me wrong.

I've never stopped her from talking to other guys though. If I wanted her as my gf, I would've made it happen already. Happy to let her go and it looks like that will be in 2 weeks so will enjoy it just until then.

[blueberryboy]

No, i 100% know that she didn't do anything with another guy while we've been hanging out the past few months. Even recently as I mentioned in OP i thought she did but she proved me wrong.

I've never stopped her from talking to other guys though. If I wanted her as my gf, I would've made it happen already. Happy to let her go and it looks like that will be in 2 weeks.

You're a damn fool if you think that girl ain't throwing that ass around to the other men too

These hoes ain't loyal brah

Just fking lmao at thinking a girl is going to date but not have sex...because some guy / fwb / casual / she has a thing with told her so ....well she'd be a idiot to listen to that too lmao

You got a lot to learn about dating etc


Unless that girl is a comple unicorn then she ain't listening to nothing you say bro


So you think if a guy came along with more status , better looking , etc etc she's gonna refrain from fking him because some guy that she's not exclusive with told her too ?


Lmao , what a joke.

If you like that girl GO exclusive knock it off with this lies you tell yourself about the situation


* I could see this situation making sense if you wanted something exclusive with her and she just wasn't ready ....but you can't have your cake & eat it too

2 weeks ? And if you were sure on that decision it be now and not 2 weeks later..just trying buy some time

[Midi77]

Don't let the cat out of the bag until you are ready to kick it to the curb, stupid.

[antman12]

OP doesn’t realize she’s already moved on. But yea, “let her go” if that helps your ego.

[BFast55]

In return, it seems that she's been talking to other backup guys she has had, ex-FWB guys, and even met up with some behind my back recently. Initially we had agreement that we would be sexually exclusive but now she says to me "we're just dating so you can't control me like that", "you're not my boyfriend".

She has 0 respect for you. End it. These types of women will suck the life out of you. You don't need that in your life.
Text her that it is over and go NC. IF she has chit at your place, have a friend deliver it to her.

Also for future reference, women always have "back up men".

[Silencespeaks]

You're a damn fool if you think that girl ain't throwing that ass around to the other men too

These hoes ain't loyal brah

Just fking lmao at thinking a girl is going to date but not have sex...because some guy / fwb / casual / she has a thing with told her so ....well she'd be a idiot to listen to that too lmao

You got a lot to learn about dating etc


Unless that girl is a comple unicorn then she ain't listening to nothing you say bro


So you think if a guy came along with more status , better looking , etc etc she's gonna refrain from fking him because some guy that she's not exclusive with told her too ?


Lmao , what a joke.

If you like that girl GO exclusive knock it off with this lies you tell yourself about the situation


* I could see this situation making sense if you wanted something exclusive with her and she just wasn't ready ....but you can't have your cake & eat it too

2 weeks ? And if you were sure on that decision it be now and not 2 weeks later..just trying buy some time

This

You’re dumb op

The funniest thing is that you are framing this as if you have some kind of power. “I’ve allowed her to” lmao yeah okay

[smashedurgfx10]

Wait, you've kept her around while talking to other girls - basically she's a ringer - and you get chitty when you realise she's doing the same??

LMAO

You fukers are incredible. Narcissistic, beta male losers.

talk about projection

your life still sucks, it seems?

[LikeAMachine]

Just stop contacting her, don't be a monkey branching *******

[northernlights7]

No, I've allowed her to talk/date other guys. What we agreed on is sex exclusivity only so not sleeping with other people for the time being and I'm also following what I set.

lmao. You're delusional if you think you're the only one feeding her the Jimmy Dean.

[sf813]

The two weeks is almost here. She spent the night at my place and we're hanging out this weekend.

It has been a fun time but I'll be ending it with her on Monday

[Luc1fer]

No, I've allowed her to talk/date other guys. What we agreed on is sex exclusivity only so not sleeping with other people for the time being and I'm also following what I set.

Doesn't work this way. You either set the boundary on dating exclusively, or you don't.

[hqa]

I've been casually seeing a girl for the past few months. Over time it became clear that she isn't LTR material but it's been fun sleeping with her and hang out so I've kept her around. But I didn't want to fake the future with her so I told her honestly how I can't see myself being serious with her, this will end eventually, etc.

In return, it seems that she's been talking to other backup guys she has had, ex-FWB guys, and even met up with some behind my back recently. Initially we had agreement that we would be sexually exclusive but now she says to me "we're just dating so you can't control me like that", "you're not my boyfriend".

I've been hesitating to end it because I don't have any other girl I'm interested in pursuing yet. I have matches on dating apps I'm chatting with but I haven't gone on any dates with any so who knows how those first dates will go, I might enter a dry spell, and might experience more of the downside than her from this ending . Like most attractive girls, they are truly never single and she has backups that she's interested in, other guys she's been talking to, and past FWBs to hop onto immediately.

The best case scenario would be that I find a replacement with actual relationship potential before I cut it off with this current one, but the issue is that, this girl is starting to hang out and sleep with other guys which bothers me. I don't want to be sharing a girl as a my personal preference/boundary.

That's no way to run a harem

[Mountaineer92]

either end it or put her on OF and run the acct for 50/60% split.

[0rders]

Well you made it clear when you told her she wasn't "girlfriend material". Of course she is going to date/talk to ex fwb's.

[AWillis]

Don't let the cat out of the bag until you are ready to kick it to the curb, stupid.

this, keep giving her the pipe up until the final days