Is it wrong for a very wealthy individual to ask or a ride in to save money?

[johnnydeep1]

Why are you upset at your mother being taken advantage of if you think so poorly of her?
Are you worried mommy is gonna run out of tendies to bring you if she spends all her money on her friends? Or are you just upset that she has friends and feel the need to demonize them so that you feel better about not having any of your own relationships?

Well my elderly mom told me that she does not want to drive them, but she is willing to because it looks bad not to. They asked her, she did not request to.



If you want to pay for this rostie and her surgeon husband, PM me and i'll give you their paypal. You can pay for all the uber and taxi fairs. You can even pay for their groceries and gas for their luxury cars.

btw I bet they earn 5X as much as you.

[johnnydeep1]

You know how opie has no money. it's all he's worried about. that's just friends asking for favors. also seems you don't have friends/

She is asking for $$$. Thats not a favor. If you want to pay for this rostie and her surgeon husband, PM me and i'll give you their paypal. You can pay for all the uber and taxi fairs. You can even pay for their groceries and gas for their luxury cars. She is taking advantage of my elderly mom.


You can even wipe their ass for free. I'm sure that the Rostie will like that.

[miscallday12]

This is why people usually stick to their own social classes.

[johnnydeep1]

Sure, pal. Get mad. The world has wronged you and your Mom.

PM me and i'll give you the Rostie/her surgeon's husband paypal and their dentist kids paypal as well. You can pay for all the uber and taxi fairs, instead of making my elderly mom drive and taking advantage of her. You can even pay for their groceries and gas for their luxury cars(they like BMWs and Mercedes btw., if you want to buy them an extra one) You can even wipe their ass for free. I'm sure that the Rostie will like that. Doubt that she gets much attention from her surgeon husband.


She is taking advantage of my elderly mom, by making her drive 30 minutes and by making her use her money. My mom told me that she does not want to drive them, but she is willing to because it looks bad not to. They asked her, she did not request to.

[OliverHeldens]

I think this is weird, but it’s because I honestly just would rather Uber or ask my family for a ride. Friends I’ve taken in the past, but it was a long time ago before I had a lot of money.

I’m guessing your mom is volunteering.

[MyGhettoFantasy]

Well what difference does it make for someone with a household income of around $400,000? Jesus, at least pay my mom like $20 or something for the gas.

I would tell them to fuk off.

400k a year is not "very wealthy."

[Duckliver]

I mean I personally wouldn’t ask for rides and take care of myself. But I have friends who I’ve given rides to or I’ve gotten a ride from just cuz that’s how things work.

On this particular subject. I would say it’s your moms friend not yours. If your moms friend and her have a relationship where it’s appropriate based on their friendship it’s more than fine. You aren’t your mom, you don’t know what kind of friends they are or how your mom feels about things. Get your own life and move out?

[johnnydeep1]

I think this is weird, but it’s because I honestly just would rather Uber or ask my family for a ride. Friends I’ve taken in the past, but it was a long time ago before I had a lot of money.

I’m guessing your mom is volunteering.

My mom told me that she does not want to drive them, but she is willing to because it looks bad not to. They asked her, she did not request to

Its not like they feel uncomfortable with a stranger either. She implied that its was because of the $$$, because the rostie bitched about uber prices.

I could understand if they were uncomfortable with their foid daughter driving with a stranger,( because the uber driver may not be Chad or some chit that foids fear) , but she IMPLIED that its financial related. What angers me .

[Paul Kreul]

Great. If she wants someone who she can trust, she should have simply stated that. She implied that it was to save them $$$ and complained about uber prices. Believe it or not, my elderly mom is not the only person on earth who can drive these slobs.

If you want to pay for this rostie and her surgeon husband, PM me and i'll give you their paypal. You can pay for all the uber and taxi fairs. You can even pay for their groceries and gas for their luxury cars

Seems like you have an issue with it more so then your own mother..whom is doing the actual favor..
Do you ever wonder why your mom has more friends then you?

[johnnydeep1]

I mean I personally wouldn’t ask for rides and take care of myself. But I have friends who I’ve given rides to or I’ve gotten a ride from just cuz that’s how things work.

On this particular subject. I would say it’s your moms friend not yours. If your moms friend and her have a relationship where it’s appropriate based on their friendship it’s more than fine. You aren’t your mom, you don’t know what kind of friends they are or how your mom feels about things. Get your own life and move out?

Who said that I live with my mom?My mom told me that she does not want to drive them, but she is willing to because it looks bad not to. They asked her, she did not request to. My dad told my mom NOT to give the Rostie or her kids anymore rides without good reason, and got pretty angry when he heard this.


. They have never did any favors for her. They never once asked my mom out for dinner or invited her over. In fact, once my mom picked up food for them and dropped it to their house when they asked.

[IPoopStandingUp]

Rostie foid or whatever should at least give your mom head on the ride. It's the in the unwritten book of the road.

[johnnydeep1]

Seems like you have an issue with it more so then your own mother..whom is doing the actual favor..
Do you ever wonder why your mom has more friends then you?

mom told me that she does not want to drive them, but she is willing to because it looks bad not to. They asked her, she did not request to.

My dad told my mom NOT to give the Rostie or her kids anymore rides without good reason, and got pretty angry when he heard this. He also realizes that they are taking advantage of my elderly mom, and that they are rich, cheap , snobs who don't mind taking advantage of others. (his words, not mine)

[johnnydeep1]

Rostie foid or whatever should at least give your mom head on the ride. It's the in the unwritten book of the road.

exactly.

[IPoopStandingUp]

C&J bus brings me to airport for $24, no need to deal with Uber brahs or bother OPs mom. But I still call OPs mom for other stuff

[johnnydeep1]

C&J bus brings me to airport for $24, no need to deal with Uber brahs or bother OPs mom. But I still call OPs mom for other stuff

I should tell the rostie and her foid daughter to make an onlyfans if they want more money instead of begging an elderly person to drive them to save a bit of $$$.

[johnnydeep1]

I'm negging OP on site from now on. I am tired of his postings and his attention whoring..

Also, dentists do not make $200k+ on average, more like $110k, same for doctors who don't have advanced training post med school.

https://www.salary.com/tools/salary-...ist?type=bonus

Keep in mind that BOTH the wife AND husband are dentists.

[Darkius]

Your use of the F word comes off as misogynistic. Here is my advice for your mother:

I knew a guy who would ask me to give him a ride to a gas station 2 miles away because he lacked a car and did not want to pay 50 cents extra for chewing tobaco at the nearby gas station. I cut that off. My landlord's son's cousin drives for Uber. My landlord kept asking him for free rides. He eventually cut that off.

It is true that friends do each other favors, which can be in different ways from each other. Has your mother's friend done her any favors? She has a right to set her own boundaries.

Sounds like you are worried your mother is being pressured into something she does not want. Tell your mother it would not look bad and that she does not have to do anything she does not want to do. She can say she is busy too. They can't attack her for that if they won't take time to drive their daughter either. It is her time vs theirs.

You could ask what she gets out of the friendship. Maybe it is lopsided where your mother has few friends but the other parents have several and can drop her. If they attack her for not having many friends, and only give company for favors, then she has to decide if that is better than finding new friends.

She should find a group hobby even if the people there are younger than her. Takes time to make real friends. I have several and meet up with different ones on different weeks or months. Don't be dependent on anyone for happiness. It can be unhealthy.

[johnnydeep1]

I knew a guy who would ask me to give him a ride to a gas station 2 miles away because he lacked a car and did not want to pay 50 cents extra for chewing tobaco at the nearby gas station. I cut that off. My landlord's son's cousin drives for Uber. My landlord kept asking him for free rides. He eventually cut that off.

It is true that friends do each other favors, which can be in different ways from each other. Has your mother's friend done her any favors? She has a right to set her own boundaries.

Sounds like you are worried your mother is being pressured into something she does not want. Tell your mother it would not look bad and that she does not have to do anything she does not want to do. She can say she is busy too. They can't attack her for that if they won't take time to drive their daughter either. It is her time vs theirs.

You could ask what she gets out of the friendship. Maybe it is lopsided where your mother has few friends but the other parents have several and can drop her. If they attack her for not having many friends, and only give company for favors, then she has to decide if that is better than finding new friends.

She should find a group hobby even if the people there are younger than her. Takes time to make real friends. I have several and meet up with different ones on different weeks or months. Don't be dependent on anyone for happiness. It can be unhealthy.

"your mother's friend done her any favors? She has a right to set her own boundaries."
Nope. They have never done any of that. They never once asked my mom out for dinner or invited her over. In fact, once my mom picked up food for them and dropped it to their house when they asked.



My dad and I both told her to stop doing favors for the Rostie/her husband and her foid daughter unless its because she has no on else. Hopefully my mom will listen. My mom is elderly, lonely and can easily be taken advantage of.

[Darkius]

Also, please pass the following advice to your mother:

No one is going to act benevolently in your best interest all the time. Everyone is overwhelmed by their own lives. There is give and take, and some will take as much as you can give and not give back, or assume that you liked it, or just not be able to give back enough. There is a balance between setting boundaries in advance, or testing the waters even if it means losing some, or knowing how someone is and holding out accordingly at the right times. Don't drop people for being a bit selfish. Do drop people who attack and pressure and laugh at you for not having other friends. And don't be reliant on any one. Work on relationships with several.

[Darkius]

My father avoids making any friends because he fears being taken advantage of. My brother does not pursue friends either, and only like his pets and plants. I'm the most social of us, and I'm and introvert.

Your mother is far behind socially, but she will have to learn on her own. Driving someone to the airport won't hurt her. Maybe it will give her resolve for next time.

You can help more by finding hobby clubs for her. I play chess at a club on Saturdays.

[Paul Kreul]

mom told me that she does not want to drive them, but she is willing to because it looks bad not to. They asked her, she did not request to.

My dad told my mom NOT to give the Rostie or her kids anymore rides without good reason, and got pretty angry when he heard this. He also realizes that they are taking advantage of my elderly mom, and that they are rich, cheap , snobs who don't mind taking advantage of others. (his words, not mine)

Then say something to the lady. tell your mom you are going to speak to the lady and tell her something to the affect of..

"I appreciate that you see my mom responsible enough to drive you to the airport, but I'm sorry I don't feel comfortable with her doing that at this time"

done

your dad should be speaking up...wtf

[johnnydeep1]

Then say something to the lady. tell your mom you are going to speak to the lady and tell her something to the affect of..

"I appreciate that you see my mom responsible enough to drive you to the airport, but I'm sorry I don't feel comfortable with her doing that at this time"

done

Don't worry. My dad is taking care of the situation.

He was far more angry than I was about this. He told my mom that HE will speak to the Rostie next time FOR my mom if this situation comes up again.

[Darkius]

I give my friends rides for free if I've not seen them in a while. But if they were to regularly send me on errands, to save money rather than to see me, I'd want gas money or more likely tell them to hire a pro, since my time is worth something to.
Think about how you'd want to be treated on both sides, figure out what is fair, and then set your boundaries.

They won't drop her over one instance. They will hold out hope for future favors.

[Darkius]

Then say something to the lady. tell your mom you are going to speak to the lady and tell her something to the affect of..

"I appreciate that you see my mom responsible enough to drive you to the airport, but I'm sorry I don't feel comfortable with her doing that at this time"

done

I see that backfiring hirribly with his use of the slur "foid". She will perceive him as standing between him and her gravy train and will say something to him or about him to retaliate or get him out of the way. Also, that does not stop the mother from going.

[Paul Kreul]

I see that backfiring hirribly with his use of the slur "foid". She will perceive him as standing between him and her gravy train and will say something to him or about him to retaliate or get him out of the way. Also, that does not stop the mother from going.

then the dad needs to say something..which should have been done in the first place as he got upset as well

Dad has no backbone nor stands up for his wife, and this is why OP is the way he is. srs


edit, just saw your post (57) OP, that's good to hear

[johnnydeep1]

then the dad needs to say something..which should have been done in the first place as he got upset as well

Dad has no backbone nor stands up for his wife, and this is why OP is the way he is. srs


edit, just saw your post (57) OP, that's good to hear

She is lonely and elderly and did it behind my dad's back. My dad told her that its okay this ONE time, but he will not allow it to happen again. My mom is CLEARLY being taken advantage of by her Rostie "friend" and apparently, by her foid daughter as well. I also told my mom to stop doing them favors.

[Darkius]

Don't worry. My dad is taking care of the situation.

He was far more angry than I was about this. He told my mom that HE will speak to the Rostie next time FOR my mom if this situation comes up again.

OP, tell your mother and father this simple trick:
They don't have to answer the phone or respond to text messages. They can't wait till after the flight date. It is the friend's responsibility to plan her daughter's travel. Your mother does not own any availability info. After the flight, she can call your friend and not bring the topic up or just say she was busy last week. Giving reasons opens up room for rebutals. Best to just walk away.

I understand your father wanting to say something to the friend, but ideally it should be your mother saying that. But if she is that weakened, your father is the next best bet.

He would be safest to do it over text message or a recorded conversation. Going in person could lead to escalations or false accusations.

[GnomeSaiyanBruh]

I always lol when people give autist OP srs replies.

[johnnydeep1]

OP, tell your mother and father this simple trick:
They don't have to answer the phone or respond to text messages. They can't wait till after the flight date. It is the friend's responsibility to plan her daughter's travel. Your mother does not own any availability info. After the flight, she can call your friend and not bring the topic up or just say she was busy last week. Giving reasons opens up room for rebutals. Best to just walk away.

I understand your father wanting to say something to the friend, but ideally it should be your mother saying that. But if she is that weakened, your father is the next best bet.

He would be safest to do it over text message or a recorded conversation. Going in person could lead to escalations or false accusations.

True. Thanks for the info. My dad told me that he will let it go this time, but will not allow my mom's "friend" to do it again.

My dad also told me to ignore my mom's "friend's" phone calls to our home.

[Darkius]

I don't categorize people as friends, acquaintances, enemies, or strangers. I remember specific details about them on several topics and act accordingly. I don't expect any to try to save me, though sometimes they do if it is an area they are comfortable doing.