How many kids do you have?

[Cass40]

Many of us remember what SS remembers.

Many of you? How do you know?

[FarmersSon]

Sheeeit.... five?

What is it like having a 3 year old in your 50's?

Yeah five. Original plan was four. I'm actually 41. I've poked around to try and fix my age but failed. I don't know if something changed in the code at some point, but I don't think I've seen a relatively new join date with a correct age.

I don’t think it’s about IQ but about people who are willing to just go for it regardless of all the risks and burdens.

If you think through the risks and burdens then you’ll never have kids. To have kids you have to just YOLO it and assume everything will be fine in a bluepill way.

I think there's a lot of truth here. 10 years ago I'm not sure I'd have agreed. I know you've seen me mention it before, but baby #4 was stillborn at 9 months and that was terrible. We waited a couple years and then added two more. Wife wanted two more so the younger kids would have a sibling closer in age to play with. On the baby we lost, my wife just had a day where she didn't feel him move so we took her in to get checked out and there was no heartbeat on the ultrasound. Fast forward to my baby #5 (pregnancy #6, last child), we had the same thing happen. Wife didn't feel movement even after she ate something and lay down for 30 minutes just to focus on it (babies are more active just after a meal). I called my mom to come watch the kids and my wife and I got in the car to drive to the hospital, fully expecting a repeat of the stillborn baby. Half-way there she felt a flutter of movement, which gave us hope, then there was a faint heartbeat when we arrived. Ended up with an emergency c-section that night, with a small, but healthy baby (baby was several weeks early). Anyway, the point of all that is just to say we initially took things for granted that our babies would always be healthy, but there are real risks and heartache associated with having kids - and all I've talked about is up till the point they are born, lol.

I think I'm going to be a basket case when my kids are having their own kids.

[FarmersSon]

You out here miscin with a bunch of autists while teenagers are getting yucky with your outdoor fridge lol.

Parenting is always a "best guess", "best effort" type of deal I guess. Like you said, there's no guarantees how they'll turn out since they have a mind and life of their own, but can only do your best as a parent to guide them.

I just don't know how to "guide" them in the world today since nothing makes any sense anymore. Do you teach them to be a clown and fit in, which would objectively make them a chitty/weak person - Or do you teach them old world values, make them a stand up individual, which would ostracize them and likely leave them frustrated with their lazy/degenerate peers?

I've seen fantastic parents have kids that struggle and kids that turned out great that came from really tough backgrounds. There plenty of bad in the world but still a lot of good kids. I've done a lot of volunteer work over the years, mostly with teenaged boys, and there are still a lot of good kids out there. For my own kids, my focus has been to make sure the really know they are loved and to live by the same values that I am teaching to them. My thinking is love them #1, because why would they care about anything I tell them if they don't think I care about them. And then 2nd, you have to show that you believe in the values by living them yourself, otherwise, why should they care? Pretty basic stuff, and I'm sure somebody else has a better way, but it's the best I've come up with.

[MonsieurWhite]

More like I'd be prescribing you Gonadotropins

That's a weird pic. Where are the eggs?

[DSTEE]

Misc is getting old as fuk


Will have first in three months

[Mangino]

4 year old and 1 year old

Excited to see what gender they will choose

[snailsrus]

Many of us remember what SS remembers.

I tried to pull up the thread from 2019 but most the threads in the over 35 general section are gone/not showing and the search tool isn’t working I only get 36 results even in the advance search setting.

[wave_length]

Misc is getting old as fuk


Will have first in three months

good luck dude srs.

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I understand that many guys don't want kids, I was like that for a long time. But at some point in life you have done all the fun stuff you can do alone or as a couple. What else do you want to do with your life then?

Good thing for men is they can start whenever they want. Just get a younger woman. I started at 41.

[PepperedAngus]

Zero thank God.

There will be some tough times coming and I may need to dangerous with little to lose.

[wave_length]

How old was your wife and how do you cope with all the previous dudes who jizzed in her?

well if you want a virgin I have bad news for you, kids or not

[Drufeus]

More than you can count boyo. Though you already did in your OP. Soooo...2 boys. No interest or want for a 3rd.

[nosirrahx]

How many kids do you have?

3 kids, 23, 21 and 5.

Having a little guy again has been hilarious fun. I spent like an hour today launching him into the pool, he could not get enough of it.

[nosirrahx]

Holy chit age at age difference

hehe, check mine

[katya422]

2 girls and...6 grandkids, 5 girls and 1 boy.

I didn't realize you had so many grandkids. IME holiday get togethers are more fun with more kids.

1 and another one coming in 36 hours

Congrats. Wishing you all a happy babymoon.

One on the way mane.
So surreal lol I was always anti kid crew

Fun fact: having a baby changes a men, not just women



https://www.fatherly.com/health-scie...brains-bodies/

You out here miscin with a bunch of autists while teenagers are getting yucky with your outdoor fridge lol.

Parenting is always a "best guess", "best effort" type of deal I guess. Like you said, there's no guarantees how they'll turn out since they have a mind and life of their own, but can only do your best as a parent to guide them.

I just don't know how to "guide" them in the world today since nothing makes any sense anymore. Do you teach them to be a clown and fit in, which would objectively make them a chitty/weak person - Or do you teach them old world values, make them a stand up individual, which would ostracize them and likely leave them frustrated with their lazy/degenerate peers?

FarmersSon gave a great answer to this. FWIW I think kids learn a lot by example [watching you] and if you teach them to think critically they should end up alright even if they don't exactly agree with your positions on everything.

3 kids, 23, 21 and 5.

Having a little guy again has been hilarious fun. I spent like an hour today launching him into the pool, he could not get enough of it.

Seeing your kid happy is the best.

[Eatforgains]

It's downright irresponsible to have kids unless 1. You give them good genes, 2. You're wealthy.

I'll add 2.5 which is that all the GFs I've had have to tried to monopolize all of my time so I'd imagine a wife is even worse. Marriage and kids means your life is over as far as free time goes which means grinding hard to increase your income is done too so your wealth needs to be at a level to carry you for the rest of your life.

I can only make myself give a chit about a girl if she's a virgin which means a young girl. But even if you're not as picky as me, I doubt anyone wants a girl with a body count of 50-100 which most of them have by the time they're 25-30 so that still means a young girl. The vast majority of guys will be at least 30 by the time they have the wealth they need and young girls aren't trying to marry old guys. It's over.

If anyone wants to argue with me and say "just do it, everything will work out", "God will provide", congrats, you can join the Indians and Africans in creating more subhumans and making the world a darker place with more poverty and misery.

This post is just fear of the unknown.

[Silencespeaks]

3 kids, 23, 21 and 5.

Having a little guy again has been hilarious fun. I spent like an hour today launching him into the pool, he could not get enough of it.

See I feel like that would bore me aster 5 minutes and then I just went to relax poolside and not be bothered. And def don’t want to deal with feeding bathing putting to bed etc after the pool when I just want to chill.

Idk I guess that changes when it’s your own kid and then you suddenly feel like doing all those chores?

[DolphinPilot]

See I feel like that would bore me aster 5 minutes and then I just went to relax poolside and not be bothered. And def don’t want to deal with feeding bathing putting to bed etc after the pool when I just want to chill.

Idk I guess that changes when it’s your own kid and then you suddenly feel like doing all those chores?

kind of weird you keep posting in this thread, tbh. It would be like me going into a thread about rap music and posting "Nah I just don't like it" a few times.

[Silencespeaks]

More than you can count boyo. Though you already did in your OP. Soooo...2 boys. No interest or want for a 3rd.

Yeah the vast majority of people don’t want more than 2 or 3 kids. Which seems to prove kids are exhausting because if kids were so great wouldn’t everyone want as many as possible? Yet ask most people with 2-3 kids if they want another one and they say HELL NO.

I mean if I had 2 or 3 million dollars and someone asked me if I wanted another million dollars I’d say HELL YES. So there must be some huge burden from kids that makes people day no to more.

[Silencespeaks]

kind of weird you keep posting in this thread, tbh. It would be like me going into a thread about rap music and posting "Nah I just don't like it" a few times.

Because I do wonder if I’m missing out when everyone says it’s SOO amazing. I’m trying to figure out if I would have liked it or if it’s as annoying as it seems. It’s such a huge deal to people so maybe I am missing out idk. But what if I did have them and then it really was as annoying and bothersome and exhausting and draining as it seems? Idk lol then I would regret it.

Also I do have doubt sometimes if kids could have saved my marriage. I do think kids keep marriages together because people stay for the kids. So in that case I would regret it because that is a useful purpose.

[katya422]

Because I do wonder if I’m missing out when everyone says it’s SOO amazing. I’m trying to figure out if I would have liked it or if it’s as annoying as it seems. It’s such a huge deal to people so maybe I am missing out idk. But what if I did have them and then it really was as annoying and bothersome and exhausting and draining as it seems? Idk lol then I would regret it.

Also I do have doubt sometimes if kids could have saved my marriage. I do think kids keep marriages together because people stay for the kids. So in that case I would regret it because that is a useful purpose.

- something can be "annoying and bothersome and exhausting and draining" and still on balance rewarding

- no, having children would not have saved your marriage, it would have just given you ex another weapon to use against you presuming you loved them

- I would guess a lot of marriages are "fair to middling" or "good enough", in which case staying together for the kids might work out as the couple might work harder at the relationship

Kids aren't for everybody. And that's okay.

[DustinTheHuss]

Because I do wonder if I’m missing out when everyone says it’s SOO amazing. I’m trying to figure out if I would have liked it or if it’s as annoying as it seems. It’s such a huge deal to people so maybe I am missing out idk. But what if I did have them and then it really was as annoying and bothersome and exhausting and draining as it seems? Idk lol then I would regret it.

Also I do have doubt sometimes if kids could have saved my marriage. I do think kids keep marriages together because people stay for the kids. So in that case I would regret it because that is a useful purpose.

Kids wouldn’t have saved your marriage if your ex-husband is that deranged. If anything imagine if he had kids with a lifestyle of drugs and prostitutes and the kids got pulled into that secret life? Ugh.

[DolphinPilot]

Because I do wonder if I’m missing out when everyone says it’s SOO amazing. I’m trying to figure out if I would have liked it or if it’s as annoying as it seems. It’s such a huge deal to people so maybe I am missing out idk. But what if I did have them and then it really was as annoying and bothersome and exhausting and draining as it seems? Idk lol then I would regret it.

Also I do have doubt sometimes if kids could have saved my marriage. I do think kids keep marriages together because people stay for the kids. So in that case I would regret it because that is a useful purpose.

All I know is I used to be indifferent to kids, maybe a slight disinterest in them. Then I became an uncle and now kids are super cool and fun. Yeah they can be fussy sometimes but you take the good and the bad and it's easy to love them unconditionally because they are blood-related. It's great having a couple kids I'm related to look up to me and claim me as their favorite uncle.

either way that ship sailed for you long ago.

[Silencespeaks]

All I know is I used to be indifferent to kids, maybe a slight disinterest in them. Then I became an uncle and now kids are super cool and fun. Yeah they can be fussy sometimes but you take the good and the bad and it's easy to love them unconditionally because they are blood-related. It's great having a couple kids I'm related to look up to me and claim me as their favorite uncle.

either way that ship sailed for you long ago.

I’m an aunt to my sisters kids plus kind of my friends kids so I’m around kids a lot and I just think they are annoying and draining lol.

And no I still get regular periods so could still get pg or otherwise with an egg donor or adoption. Egg donor would prob be the easiest way. You just buy a designer egg.