Need some advice from my OV35 peeps

[bodyhard]

In all my years here you guys have never steered me wrong whenever I asked for advice so I turn to you guys once again.

Here is the deal, when Covid first came out my wife cousin Mike, may he RIP passed away and while they said it was from Covid I believe otherwise as he had cancer, was over weight with diabetes, but that is a different discussion.

Anyway, Patty's family is having a get together in Mikes name on Oct 30th and they are saying anyone who is not vaccinated must wear a mask throughout the duration of the get together, this could be several hours. Most of my wife's family is vaccinated as are the husbands of my wife sisters, leaving only me and maybe a handful of some other cousins from New Jersey who are unvaccinated. One of Patty's cousin who I know very well already said no, he is not going if he has to wear a mask.

My wife cousin, Mikes sister asked Patty if I was OK with wearing a mask all day at the get together and Patty knowing me said to her I am not sure I need to ask John, you know how he is Patty's family loves me and they all really want me to go, I don't know how I feel about this.

So my fellow OV35ers should I go and wear the mask all day?

[mtpockets]

In all my years here you guys have never steered me wrong whenever I asked for advice so I turn to you guys once again.

Here is the deal, when Covid first came out my wife cousin Mike, may he RIP passed away and while they said it was from Covid I believe otherwise as he had cancer, was over weight with diabetes, but that is a different discussion.

Anyway, Patty's family is having a get together in Mikes name on Oct 30th and they are saying anyone who is not vaccinated must wear a mask throughout the duration of the get together, this could be several hours. Most of my wife's family is vaccinated as are the husbands of my wife sisters, leaving only me and maybe a handful of some other cousins from New Jersey who are unvaccinated. One of Patty's cousin who I know very well already said no, he is not going if he has to wear a mask.

My wife cousin, Mikes sister asked Patty if I was OK with wearing a mask all day at the get together and Patty knowing me said to her I am not sure I need to ask John, you know how he is Patty's family loves me and they all really want me to go, I don't know how I feel about this.

So my fellow OV35ers should I go and wear the mask all day?

Yes, it's a small inconvenience for you, and would mean alot to others. I would just suck it up and go. If it really gets too much you can leave. But I bet you will be ok with it, you wont be exerting yourself. Take one for the team, I bet Patty and others would appreciate it.

[Plateauplower]

In all my years here you guys have never steered me wrong whenever I asked for advice so I turn to you guys once again.

Here is the deal, when Covid first came out my wife cousin Mike, may he RIP passed away and while they said it was from Covid I believe otherwise as he had cancer, was over weight with diabetes, but that is a different discussion.

Anyway, Patty's family is having a get together in Mikes name on Oct 30th and they are saying anyone who is not vaccinated must wear a mask throughout the duration of the get together, this could be several hours. Most of my wife's family is vaccinated as are the husbands of my wife sisters, leaving only me and maybe a handful of some other cousins from New Jersey who are unvaccinated. One of Patty's cousin who I know very well already said no, he is not going if he has to wear a mask.

My wife cousin, Mikes sister asked Patty if I was OK with wearing a mask all day at the get together and Patty knowing me said to her I am not sure I need to ask John, you know how he is Patty's family loves me and they all really want me to go, I don't know how I feel about this.

So my fellow OV35ers should I go and wear the mask all day?

Personally, I would not go. If people are concerned with covid, perhaps a get together isn’t the best idea since vaccinated people can also catch and spread covid. I’d tell her to enjoy and just do something else rather than being the only one there expected to wear a mask because your not vaccinated but have already recovered from a confirmed case. You are already safer to be around than anyone who has been vaccinated but not recovered from an actual covid infection.

[IronCharles]

Always go with your first instinct.

[djflex2]

I would go and wear the mask, out of respect for their wishes

[TolerantLactose]

I would say I wasn't ok with masks and get a sense of the reply.

Saying you're not ok isn't the same as saying you wouldn't wear one for this occasion.

[friesbruh]

Wouldnt go under any circumstances srs

In every decision you ever have to make in life, there is always a point where a line in the sand has to be drawn. This is that line.

If FAMILY is requiring a vaccination or mask in lieu of it, i absolutely would not go and, as a matter of principle, might even vow to never go again, no matter what, if they are stooping to this level.

[x-trainer ben]

I would go get a Covid-19 test 2 days before, and buy a cheap blue thin mask if needed( dentist office type)
Not sure if you saw this but many places are offering constant testing for those that are not vaccinated.
This way you are covered with a negative test( proof) and mask as a backup plan.
Good luck!

[BK909]

I wouldn't go because I'm no longer doing anything to contribute to the delusion that obesity, diabetes, high blood pressure and sleep apnea are "healthy".

Apparently this is my hill.

[Tommy W.]

Don't go. Stick to your principles.

[Redfish225]

Yes, it's a small inconvenience for you, and would mean alot to others. I would just suck it up and go. If it really gets too much you can leave. But I bet you will be ok with it, you wont be exerting yourself. Take one for the team, I bet Patty and others would appreciate it.

Agreed.

[deadwoodgregg]

I wouldn't go. If someone gets covid after the gathering, guess who will be blamed. Mask or no mask.

Perfect day to go to the gym for a workout imo.

[Tommy W.]

Will there be food and drinks? It's like that idiotic restaurant rule that was in effect for awhile where you had to wear a mask then you take it off to eat then put it back on. This whole mask thing is ludicrous and is has been since day 1.

When an employee's father died of a heart attack and a group approached him that they would pay for the funeral if he would sign a doc that say he died of covid. At that point I knew it was all BS.

[ChazWood]

So my fellow OV35ers should I go and wear the mask all day?

Go and wear the mask but no pants to send the subtle yet poignant message that while socially conscious, you play by your own rules.

Will there be food and drinks? It's like that idiotic restaurant rule that was in effect for awhile where you had to wear a mask then you take it off to eat then put it back on. This whole mask thing is ludicrous and is has been since day 1.

When an employee's father died of a heart attack and a group approached him that they would pay for the funeral if he would sign a doc that say he died of covid. At that point I knew it was all BS.

Serious question: Do u ever think aboot why u think what u think?

[Tommy W.]

Go and wear the mask but no pants to send the subtle yet poignant message that while socially conscious, you play by your own rules.



Serious question: Do u ever think aboot why u think what u think?

All the F'n time, chief. You?

[ChazWood]

All the F'n time, chief. You?

Sometimes.

Peace out.

[LisaSkinnoble]

BH, i know you love your wife, so I think you should mask up, wear a nice suit, buy a Mass card (but I bet Patty already did that), and go to the service/memorial.

[Payton1221]

It's not necessary that you go. It's optional. If you really hate wearing masks (like I do), then don't go. If a mask is just a minor inconvenience, then go.

[jtaylor2010]

Tough situation. Technically speaking you have better protection than anyone who has been vaccinated but not infected, so I would point that out to whoever came up with the mask rule. Show them all the evidence for why you would be the safest person there, and if they still demand that you wear a mask then they obviously care more about feelings and making people march in step than they do about reality. If they understand your point and allow you to go without a mask then go, if they don’t then write an email or text to everyone perfectly explaining all the points you presented to the people hosting it and say that you regret missing the gathering but won’t be pushed into a policy that makes zero sense just because they have some absurd rules about how people should gather to honor a lost family member. Until people start pointing out the absurdity more, the masses will just continue to March right along with their never-ending bullsh!t. But I have faith that they will let you attend without a mask. Good luck!

[ECGordyn]

I'm a lurker here, so scratch my opinion if you want.

Just wear the mask to make the family happy. This event is about your deceased relative Mike, his memory, and Patty's family.
It's not about making a statement to people at a private party, or anything else. No different from wearing a pin with Mike's favorite colors or bringing his favorite foods to a potluck.

OP I remember last year sometime you posted a similar dilemma about a guy (plumber?) coming to work inside your home. He asked you to put on a mask, you refused, he did the work anyway, and you posted here about it. Seemed in the end you thought it wasn't a big deal to wear the mask then, that the fight wasn't worth the small triumph. Maybe this time is similar, only you know.

I'm American (Texas) but I live and work in Thailand where all the mask business is just a non-issue. People cooperate, and live calm lives, and they save their battles for things that really matter in the grand scheme. Personal triumphs in private situations don't matter as much as making other people comfortable or giving them small things they ask for. Just a different perspective, good luck.

[Oceanside]

In all my years here you guys have never steered me wrong whenever I asked for advice so I turn to you guys once again.

Here is the deal, when Covid first came out my wife cousin Mike, may he RIP passed away and while they said it was from Covid I believe otherwise as he had cancer, was over weight with diabetes, but that is a different discussion.

Anyway, Patty's family is having a get together in Mikes name on Oct 30th and they are saying anyone who is not vaccinated must wear a mask throughout the duration of the get together, this could be several hours. Most of my wife's family is vaccinated as are the husbands of my wife sisters, leaving only me and maybe a handful of some other cousins from New Jersey who are unvaccinated. One of Patty's cousin who I know very well already said no, he is not going if he has to wear a mask.

My wife cousin, Mikes sister asked Patty if I was OK with wearing a mask all day at the get together and Patty knowing me said to her I am not sure I need to ask John, you know how he is Patty's family loves me and they all really want me to go, I don't know how I feel about this.

So my fellow OV35ers should I go and wear the mask all day?

let 's put it this way John...

In my Opinion a family get together isn't a family get together if everyone is wearing a mask.....

the mere thought of requesting masks is absurd....

it sux that you have family members that got sucked in this deep....

I guess it's all about where you're willing to draw the line in all of this....

personally I'm at the point where covid was something that happened last year and is my rear view mirror ....

[ChazWood]

I'm a lurker here, so scratch my opinion if you want.

Just wear the mask to make the family happy. This event is about your deceased relative Mike, his memory, and Patty's family.
It's not about making a statement to people at a private party, or anything else. No different from wearing a pin with Mike's favorite colors or bringing his favorite foods to a potluck.

OP I remember last year sometime you posted a similar dilemma about a guy (plumber?) coming to work inside your home. He asked you to put on a mask, you refused, he did the work anyway, and you posted here about it. Seemed in the end you thought it wasn't a big deal to wear the mask then, that the fight wasn't worth the small triumph. Maybe this time is similar, only you know.

I'm American (Texas) but I live and work in Thailand where all the mask business is just a non-issue. People cooperate, and live calm lives, and they save their battles for things that really matter in the grand scheme. Personal triumphs in private situations don't matter as much as making other people comfortable or giving them small things they ask for. Just a different perspective, good luck.

w3rd.

[keyboardworkout]

I wouldn't go. If someone gets covid after the gathering, guess who will be blamed. Mask or no mask.

Perfect day to go to the gym for a workout imo.

Agree, would not go.

[Pterodactyl314]

Modern day Scarlett Letter. Prepare to answer questions regarding your status.

[Corbi]

Dudes been dead a year, fuk no I would not go no matter if I had to wear a mask or not.

[Oceanside]

Dudes been dead a year, fuk no I would not go no matter if I had to wear a mask or not.

lol

[Bando]

Modern day Scarlett Letter. Prepare to answer questions regarding your status.

Outdoor work event, a colleague volunteered to work the registration table. She had to ask the top person in the org if they had been vaxed, very uncomfortable situation.

[Samraiwise]

Mask or no mask, one thing is certain.

You have to be there because you want to be there.

Nothing else matters.

Just be there then everything will be fine.

[quicksand jesus]

In all my years here you guys have never steered me wrong whenever I asked for advice so I turn to you guys once again.

Here is the deal, when Covid first came out my wife cousin Mike, may he RIP passed away and while they said it was from Covid I believe otherwise as he had cancer, was over weight with diabetes, but that is a different discussion.

Anyway, Patty's family is having a get together in Mikes name on Oct 30th and they are saying anyone who is not vaccinated must wear a mask throughout the duration of the get together, this could be several hours. Most of my wife's family is vaccinated as are the husbands of my wife sisters, leaving only me and maybe a handful of some other cousins from New Jersey who are unvaccinated. One of Patty's cousin who I know very well already said no, he is not going if he has to wear a mask.

My wife cousin, Mikes sister asked Patty if I was OK with wearing a mask all day at the get together and Patty knowing me said to her I am not sure I need to ask John, you know how he is Patty's family loves me and they all really want me to go, I don't know how I feel about this.

So my fellow OV35ers should I go and wear the mask all day?

All parties will be uncomfortable either way so stay home.

[jtaylor2010]

I'm a lurker here, so scratch my opinion if you want.

Just wear the mask to make the family happy. This event is about your deceased relative Mike, his memory, and Patty's family.
It's not about making a statement to people at a private party, or anything else. No different from wearing a pin with Mike's favorite colors or bringing his favorite foods to a potluck.

OP I remember last year sometime you posted a similar dilemma about a guy (plumber?) coming to work inside your home. He asked you to put on a mask, you refused, he did the work anyway, and you posted here about it. Seemed in the end you thought it wasn't a big deal to wear the mask then, that the fight wasn't worth the small triumph. Maybe this time is similar, only you know.

I'm American (Texas) but I live and work in Thailand where all the mask business is just a non-issue. People cooperate, and live calm lives, and they save their battles for things that really matter in the grand scheme. Personal triumphs in private situations don't matter as much as making other people comfortable or giving them small things they ask for. Just a different perspective, good luck.

I would agree with this if they said everyone must wear a mask. If that was the case then yeah, just wear a mask along with everyone else. But that’s not the case. They are telling him to wear a mask because of a choice he made despite the fact that he will almost certainly be the LEAST likely person there to spread covid. It makes no sense and isn’t based on anything more than irrational fear and groupthink.