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    Daughter wants to move far away

    My middle daughter wants to move away to Seattle for college. She is 17 and she has never been there. I have made a lot of sacrifices to make sure that she goes to a good university. She got accepted to a small school near Seattle and she wants to move there just because "it rains there, and I love the rain, I want to move far away from Virginia". To me it is not a valid argument to go to university for which I am paying for. Anyway, do I just let go or do I put my foot down? I cannot travel to Seattle often. I am so torn
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    Originally Posted by lotusdeva View Post
    My middle daughter wants to move away to Seattle for college. She is 17 and she has never been there. I have made a lot of sacrifices to make sure that she goes to a good university. She got accepted to a small school near Seattle and she wants to move there just because "it rains there, and I love the rain, I want to move far away from Virginia". To me it is not a valid argument to go to university for which I am paying for. Anyway, do I just let go or do I put my foot down? I cannot travel to Seattle often. I am so torn
    I assume this is in the wrong section, but you know what you gotta do.

    Move it to the right damn section!

    I was first just gonna type "u know u gotta do" but then figured I'd chaz it up.

    and u know what u gotta do.
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    Originally Posted by ChazWood View Post
    I assume this is in the wrong section, but you know what you gotta do.

    Move it to the right damn section!

    I was first just gonna type "u know u gotta do" but then figured I'd chaz it up.

    and u know what u gotta do.
    I just did sorry!!!
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    I just did sorry!!!
    hehe. U can delete this thread if u want. U know where I stand.
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    Originally Posted by lotusdeva View Post
    My middle daughter wants to move away to Seattle for college. She is 17 and she has never been there. I have made a lot of sacrifices to make sure that she goes to a good university. She got accepted to a small school near Seattle and she wants to move there just because "it rains there, and I love the rain, I want to move far away from Virginia". To me it is not a valid argument to go to university for which I am paying for. Anyway, do I just let go or do I put my foot down? I cannot travel to Seattle often. I am so torn
    Put your foot down! I don't have children and I know that girls are supposed to mature earlier than boys, but 17 is still a child and her reasoning screams immaturity. Her resentment, if she has any, will pass.
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    Virginia is a beautiful state. I came very close to attending VMI.

    Washington is like California. Southern cali is hardcore liberal, while the rest is pretty conservative.

    Western Washington is like southern cali, and the rest pretty conservative.

    Seattle is like Portland. And Portland is the poster child of BLM and antifa.

    Colleges have become indoctrination camps on steroids.

    So a college in Seattle is like an indoctrination camp on meth, heroine and steroids.

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    Originally Posted by supramax View Post
    Put your foot down! I don't have children and I know that girls are supposed to mature earlier than boys, but 17 is still a child and her reasoning screams immaturity. Her resentment, if she has any, will pass.

    Agreed. Have her ask that school to hold the acceptance a year. Let her take some classes at a local school, maybe a semester commuting and semester in the dorms. Then she can go to Seattle at age 18, with weekly video chat.
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    My daughter is 18 and on the cusp of going to the University of Queensland Australia.
    One difference is that she knows she wants to be in wildlife ecology and their program is one of the best in the world.
    I understand your many concerns, but in the end if her dream is go there for school I would try to make it happen. If her first year goes well and she is getting a good education she will appreciate the experience her whole life. If it doesn't go well she can always come home next year.

    Tough for parent though!
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    Originally Posted by NorwichGrad View Post
    Virginia is a beautiful state. I came very close to attending VMI.

    Washington is like California. Southern cali is hardcore liberal, while the rest is pretty conservative.

    Western Washington is like southern cali, and the rest pretty conservative.

    Seattle is like Portland. And Portland is the poster child of BLM and antifa.

    Colleges have become indoctrination camps on steroids.

    So a college in Seattle is like an indoctrination camp on meth, heroine and steroids.

    Mom, put your foot down. I know I would.
    Thank you, I have no idea why she is throwing away great opportunity, here near home. She wanted to do pre-med and our school here has an excellent program. Wth is in Seattle that is so great? I am not as much worried about the bad stuff. She is not into anything like that.

    I am sorry guys, I double posted and thought I deleted this post yesterday.

    Thank you everyone for great advice. I am really having hard time with all of this.
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    Send her to Florida for 1 Summer and ask her if she still likes the rain
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    let her live her life, but if you dont want to pay for her college you dont have to
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    Find her a Boyfriend who is a few years older than her.

    Set her up on 3 or 4 dates with different guys so she has a selection.

    Guys with decent jobs and cars and a promising future.

    Get her some nice new cloths and makeup so she looks like a good catch.

    If she falls in Love with one of these guys she will probably not want to move.

    You can encourage her to stay near too, because then it will seem like a friendly gesture vs. being roped in.

    Tell her the money you would spend on the faraway school she can have for the down payment on a nice house in your town.

    Then when she has children you can go and visit as the Fun Grandma and play with them in the yard (until they want to move all the way across the country to go to get the same education they could get locally).

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    Originally Posted by lotusdeva View Post
    My middle daughter wants to move away to Seattle for college. She is 17 and she has never been there. I have made a lot of sacrifices to make sure that she goes to a good university. She got accepted to a small school near Seattle and she wants to move there just because "it rains there, and I love the rain, I want to move far away from Virginia". To me it is not a valid argument to go to university for which I am paying for. Anyway, do I just let go or do I put my foot down? I cannot travel to Seattle often. I am so torn
    Seattle is a city under siege right now, ridden with crime, drugs, homelessness, and a city council that doesn't give a rats ass. If my daughter wanted to move there, I'd tell her she's footing the bill herself because I'm not paying for it.
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    I have a 10 yr old son. He will be attending an in state school. I don't believe in paying out of state school tuition. He can go out of state if he gets a full ride.
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