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05-04-2021, 09:37 AM #61
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05-04-2021, 10:01 AM #62
Let me ask you. What are you doing to develop yourself right now?
Are you working out and getting bigger?
Are you dressing well?
Are you meeting up with friends without her?
Are you doing any type of extra-curricular things like classes, sports, networking, museum events, etc.?
Are you keeping the sexual vibe going in your relationship?
Please answer honestly and I can help.Pureblood
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05-04-2021, 10:16 AM #63
Bro 100% honesty I am a thousand leagues better today than last year. I'm down from 18%bf to 14%bf and in line for 8-10% in about 2 months or so.
I've been actively looksmaxxing hard tryna get her revved up because she is in PJs all day and I want her to reach up to me.
I do not meet up with friends without her. Tons of my friends moved away. I got 1 friend and hes kinda weird. I could give this attention.
No I dont do organized or funded extracurriculars at all. I'm considering picking up kite surfing though. It's big in an area nearby.
I drive the sexual vibe. If I dont do it, none exists. She doesnt initiate.
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05-04-2021, 10:27 AM #64
Ok cool, you’re doing well then. With dropping the weight, and looking good, she’ll have noticed.
Start doing some extra-curricular (preferably co-ed), and enjoy your hobbies, and make friends through there. Then start meeting up with your new friends without her every so often.
She’ll start seeing you dressing well, looking better, and being more social. If this doesn’t trigger her to start treating you better and putting forth more effort, then you’ll at least have positioned yourself well for an exit strategy if you decide to go that route.
The other thing that I would recommend, is to start taking charge of things, even if they’re small (pick out the movie without asking, say “I’m going to do this at X” then do it. Also ask her to do things like “hey I’m swamped, can you take out the trash”.
I’d say set a goal of 3-4 months and see how it’s going for you, then reevaluate.Pureblood
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05-04-2021, 10:32 AM #65
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05-04-2021, 10:33 AM #66
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05-04-2021, 10:41 AM #67
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05-04-2021, 11:09 AM #68
Looks like you got some good advice already.
To put it in another perspective, think about the kind of messages you'd be sending if this was just a friend.
They tell you to make dinner and you silently comply. They come over to hang out and eat, criticizes your cooking, gives you off-handed remarks. You give a passive aggressive reply and stop cooking, then take the blame for it all later.
Imagine how that person perceives you. Your GF is still a person despite how comfortable you are around her and will never like or respect you for giving in to avoid confrontation.
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05-04-2021, 11:26 AM #69
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05-05-2021, 07:16 AM #70
You're actually a clown OP. Instead of dumping her, or at least solidly putting her in her place, you're going to marry her? You know what man? You're going to fall perfectly in to that sad husband archetype. Ridiculed, belittled, domineered, and unappreciated by his wife. No one will respect you, people will joke about who wears the pants in that marriage. And then when she's bored of you she's gonna cheat and take half your chit. And you deserve it, because you aren't listening. Where's your self respect man?
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05-05-2021, 07:30 AM #71
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I fukking hate when I'm cooking and a woman comes up and says "I don't do it that way, instead do it blah blah blah"
I drop the spatula and nope right outta there to go play guitar, read, games, whatever. You want it do it your way, do it yourself.
I don't think you're in the wrong. You gotta set these boundaries with women, because they will forever push at them and if you let slide, it'll keep getting worse and worse.PRs: Back Squat- 410x1 / Front Squat- 320x1/ Bench- 325x1 / Deadlift- 505x1
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05-05-2021, 08:08 AM #72
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05-05-2021, 08:54 AM #74
She is treating you like a bitch, like you are a servant. Your idea of "snapping" is meekly suggesting that she make her own meal. You're already making the meal, being expected to do so, and being criticized for it. You allow all of this to happen, where is your self-respect? Why would you let anyone treat you like this?
You want to marry that and spend the rest of your life like that? When my woman cooks, I am grateful for that chit, she puts love into it and enjoys doing it. It's not a task that I force her to do, she just does it and is appreciated for it. When I do things for her, she thanks me and shows her appreciation. That's mutual respect.
She is basically dominating you, you say it's your generosity but it is your balls. You can be a generous person and still have a spine. She's not treating you with respect, and you allow this to happen. This goes beyond relationships if you let people treat you like this. You gotta be a man, maybe she will respect you if you act like one. If she doesn't, you don't need to spend your life being chit on daily.Beans. Cleans. Gasoline.
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05-05-2021, 09:13 AM #75
there's a bigger underlying issue here. your girlfriend wanted to cook the veggies and chicken at the same time. this is completely wrong. you cook the chicken first because it takes longer to cook than the veggies. then once the chicken's done, remove the chicken and cook the veggies. For the last minute or two you'd then combine them with the sauce.
your girlfriend cooking veggies with the chicken in the stir fry is the biggest red flag here for me. shows she has no ****ing clue what she's doing in the kitchen.
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05-05-2021, 09:22 AM #76
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05-05-2021, 09:24 AM #77
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05-05-2021, 09:25 AM #78
First, actions speak louder than words. She looks down on you and disrespects her, you're considering marrying her. Second, your words were beta. You backed down from everything you said (which sounded whiney and effeminate to begin with), and apologized to her when you didn't think you were in the wrong. And then, like a female, what you said didn't match what you meant and you got upset that she further disrespected you instead of taking accountability
I'm not being a dik just for the sake of it, but because you're clearly still rationalizing this all on some level, even though you're acknowledging her disrespect. You're not even engaging with the posts saying to break up with her
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05-05-2021, 09:26 AM #79
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05-05-2021, 09:49 AM #80
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05-05-2021, 10:05 AM #82
You dont explain it to her jesuschrist. She doesnt give a **** about your explanation my man.
Would she be a bitch to Chris Hemsworth if he cooked the **** separately? No she woudnt, she would be getting her pussy shaved on the shower and putting on her best lingerie under a sexy dress while he was cooking. She wouldnt give a gotdamn about how he cooked the chicken or vegetables.
The problem here is that she doesnt respect you and she thinks she can do better. My advice #1 would be to grow some backbone and my #2 would be to absolutely not marry this woman."The flowers bloom, then wither... The stars shine and one day become extinct. This earth, the sun, the galaxies and even the big universe, someday will be destroyed. Compared with that, the human life is only a blink, just a little time. In that short time - people are born, laugh, cry, fight, are injured, feel joy, sadness, hate someone, love someone. All in just a moment. And then, are embraced by the eternal sleep called death."
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05-05-2021, 10:07 AM #83
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05-05-2021, 11:01 AM #87
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05-05-2021, 12:03 PM #88
I'm cool with the joking and I hope it continues. I joke with her too in a similar way.
The difference is this....
If I joke with you and you get defensive, I'll laugh and jovially talk you down and understand that I purposefully pushed the boundaries specifically for that reaction, and now that you've given the reaction, I'll pull it back.
However, if you joke with me and I get defensive, and you in turn take my defensiveness seriously as if I should not have done it. That means you were not joking.
The latter is what happened between me and her.
She gave me the attitude. I gave it back. And she hated it. That isnt joking. That's vibe checking.
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05-05-2021, 12:07 PM #89
This most recent sunday.
I also asked her about her dick sucking game last night.
She came out and said she has a really bad gag reflex and my self admitted teeny tiny penis is too big for her small mouth, so jamming it into the back of her throat isnt enjoyable for her
So I explained that she didnt have to do that. Theres other things she can do.
Well she didn't know what other things and said maybe I can tell her what to do.
So, I'll be telling her about the little tricks I learned during my dick sucking experiences. That is to say, getting mine sucked....mostly.....no homo... .....mostly.....jk......mostly...........jk
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05-05-2021, 12:24 PM #90
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Would never, ever allow my girlfriend to speak to me like that or give orders. The fact that you allow it makes it almost impossible to climb out of the hole you've buried yourself in.
If my girlfriend called and ordered me to make dinner, my response would be..."WHAT? COME AGAIN?" My girlfriend knows this since it's been like that since day 1. She will NEVER give me orders and she respects me because I put boundaries down early.
Then she had to audacity to criticize your cooking technique? LOL. I would have straight up denied her access to the food and ate it all myself or thrown her half down the garbage disposal while she's looking.
You never set boundaries so the relationship is already done. Unless you want to continue being the beta in the relationship.
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