Being wife #2 seems emotionally taxing

[MegaSloot]

There are plenty of different kinds of families and relationships. Just speaking about one kind of relationship, the classic cis relationships, with a man and woman, often what you see is that the man is designated the head of the household on the taxes and what not (alpha) and the wife is beta. But lets say the man has been married once, or common law married which in terms of legal issues amounts to the same thing, and he's looking for someone new. So, in that case, the husband is alpha, and the first wife is omega if there are children because she obviously must place their needs before her own.
So prospective wife #2 shows up.
Can you honest to God see any way of not being uber omega for wife #2? Even being alone is looking mighty fine when faced with the prospect of being a stranger - an actual interloper - in one's own home.
A guy could be perfect, lifter, macho, nice, but from the feminine perspective, coming in after someone has filled their life up with others seems like a tough row to hoe.
If you think about it, just being in a beta position is tough, because as a single lady, you get to be a lil queen and do whatever you want with your time and money. You take on a man, particularly a modern man who wants presents, etc, in addition to being served, that's a step down just for the sake of access to dink because it isn't like you get anything out of the relationchit except dink. But then you pile on that you have to serve his kid(s) too, and be seen with resentment by wife #1, well ... it's just too much. Shame too because single dads are the nicest guys. Makes me wish I could have been wife #1 instead of the clean up woman.

[MegaSloot]

bump

[drvillain]

tales of a mega sloot. Man lands on moon

[MegaSloot]

tales of a mega sloot. Man lands on moon

Situation would be just as chitty if wife #2 was a pristine virgin. The question isn't whether or not I've been deflowered it's about how to deal with a basically perfect guy who has made decisions in the past which would change one's position in the family.

[MajorTendonitis]

There’s kids involved?
If I wanted to clean up other peoples messes, I would have become a janitor

[drvillain]

Situation would be just as chitty if wife #2 was a pristine virgin. The question isn't whether or not I've been deflowered it's about how to deal with a basically perfect guy who has made decisions in the past which would change one's position in the family.

I mean, there isn't really any other option other than to accept your rank. This is why it's probably best for single parents to date other single parents. Also, if dick is the only thing of value that you're getting from a man, then you're probably doing it all wrong.

You almost sound like a man with that comment

[MegaSloot]

There’s kids involved?
If I wanted to clean up other peoples messes, I would have become a janitor

Yeah. That deadlift was impressive though. And he's in the military. But just given all that's involved I can't see a way forward while retaining anything close to my current enjoyment levels.

[MegaSloot]

I mean, there isn't really any other option other than to accept your rank. This is why it's probably best for single parents to date other single parents. Also, if dick is the only thing of value that you're getting from a man, then you're probably doing it all wrong.

You almost sound like a man with that comment

I had five foster brothers so yeah, I sound like a man. I'm not so much doing it wrong as it is that I am just super beta. I honest to god want the man to be happy, so I end up being mama to dudes more often than not what to speak of when they have kids. I know other women get paid just for pictures of themselves. I see friends getting tossed all sorts of compliments, but me ... I get nothing that improves my quality of life except sex. I am "doing it wrong" in the sense that many in the dating world are utterly vicious.
The thing about a man's position after he has kids, it doesn't really change. I mean it ought to since he's supposed to help and pay etc. But lots of times modern men just pass the bill to the tax payers and call themselves cultured and sensitive. This guy wouldn't but I'd still have to deal with this massive former relationship. I hate to say it but I'm not super wild about kids. Never really got into it. I have had brief babysitting experience in the past, but the little boogers started driving me crazy after about 15 minutes. No reason to think subsequent brats will be less annoying.
For context though I only met this guy yesterday by chance. Just sucks to crash and burn after less than 24 hours, but nothing evaporates sexy feelings like the thought of being a step mom. ugh.

[JustMoved24]

What’s the point or this thread? I don’t follow.

Don’t you have a diary ?

Nothing against you OP we have been cool, i just don’t get this one

Peace

[ymer]

Makes me wish I could have been wife #1 instead of the clean up woman.

That's because wife #1 has it way too easy, pushes too hard and makes the man run away.

If you were the first one I would predict that you would have thought you deserved more and eventually be dumped.

[yondy12]

That's because wife #1 has it way too easy, pushes too hard and makes the man run away.

If you were the first one I would predict that you would have thought you deserved more and eventually be dumped.

LOL this

[iloveus]

No separated paragraphs

Bad sentence structure

Terrible grammar

F-

[DolphinPilot]

I'm sure you're emotionally taxed enough after that other thread you deleted about fukcing your brother or w/e

[DustinTheHuss]

I'm confused.

[OptimusTrajan]

Is this a Mormon or Muslim thing?

[drvillain]

I'm sure you're emotionally taxed enough after that other thread you deleted about fukcing your brother or w/e

wat

For context though I only met this guy yesterday by chance. Just sucks to crash and burn after less than 24 hours, but nothing evaporates sexy feelings like the thought of being a step mom. ugh.

wat

[MegaSloot]

What’s the point or this thread? I don’t follow.

Don’t you have a diary ?

Nothing against you OP we have been cool, i just don’t get this one

Peace

Nothing against you either. Thanks for the update on your reading comprehension skills. I think you've made impressive progress.

[MegaSloot]

That's because wife #1 has it way too easy, pushes too hard and makes the man run away.

If you were the first one I would predict that you would have thought you deserved more and eventually be dumped.

So, the key to relationship is to lower one's standards and expect less? Huh. That seems to indicate something about you.

[jtaylor2010]

What’s the point or this thread? I don’t follow.

Don’t you have a diary ?

Nothing against you OP we have been cool, i just don’t get this one

Peace

It seems to basically boil down to the fact that she doesn’t want kids. Along with a little bit of insecurity from the fact that even if she is everything the man wants she’ll never be the mother of his children.

[MegaSloot]

Is this a Mormon or Muslim thing?

Excellent question. If you read the thread you might discover the answer. You may have to go over it several times depending on how familiar you are with reading. Go at your own pace. Good luck.

[MegaSloot]

It seems to basically boil down to the fact that she doesn’t want kids. Along with a little bit of insecurity from the fact that even if she is everything the man wants she’ll never be the mother of his children.

Well insecurity might creep in if I was further along in the relationship. At this point I was assessing how his previous choices would impact my own position in the world. In the end I just couldn't.
Moms are selfless af. I have no desire to martyr my life.

[ymer]

Damn this bish is mental, no wonder she's single.