2 awesome dates, she asked me for the 3rd and then went cold.

[rtljmc17]

- Asked this girl out from my home town. She said yes.
- We hung out on the first date, made out when I dropped her home.
- Came to my place on the second date for drinks (covid so can't go out to a bar)
- She asked if it was cool to spend the night at mine because she was having a great time. I agree. She calls her mom to tell her she wont be home, mother freaks out and demands she come get her (she is living at home rn) I remain calm and tell her whatever mothers gonna mother. She then proceeds to start making out with me and basically dry humping me as Im standing, has her legs wrapped around my waist. HNNNG. she is petite and light. Mother calls again and is 2 mins away...so blue balls were had by OP.
- She texts me after saying she had a really good time, I reply saying I did too, call me if you want to do it again
- 2 days later she asks me to hang out the following weekend. So I set up the date, she is being super flirty and basically confirming we are gonna bang.
- Day before she texts to cancel with no reschedule or reason. I just say "hey no worries"

This was a few weeks ago. I am dating other women but not sure what happened in the 3 days between her texting to hang out so excitedly to going cold turkey.

Been NC since, but fuark she was a legit 8.5-9/10. Personality was great, dark sense of humour, hot artsy chick who lifts.

Have a date with a fine Latina this weekend, dat ass. But as we all know we want what we can't have.
Just caulk it up to an ex coming back? (she did have an on/off thing with her ex)

Hold me brahs

[Kev1972]

Sounds like you got her too worked up and she had to call the ex over for release. Shame her mom cock blocked you like that, you missed out on a sure thing.

[rtljmc17]

Sounds like you got her too worked up and she had to call the ex over for release. Shame her mom cock blocked you like that, you missed out on a sure thing.

Yeah brah, literally had her asking me to stay the night and sucking my tongue out of my mouth.
Fookin mothers man, this girl was down to clown.
Even when asking for the 3rd date she she said she would stay if we were gonna have drinks.

Ex/some other guy is the only explanation because I am not needy at all...big oof. The boys in the group chat were all jelly too. bish is a smoke show

I should be happy having options, because the Latina just texted me saying she is making food for our date tomorrow lol Good traditional woman.

[skinnyfat88]

So nothing after the "hey no worries" text?

Women are so used to being chased she might not have learned that if she cancels it's up to her to reschedule and instead thinks your lack of response seems cold and thus thinks you're no longer interested (I had to explain this to a female friend when we were in our early 20s and would share dating stories with each other).

I see no harm in texting her again and asking if she wants to hang.

[rtljmc17]

So nothing after the "hey no worries" text?

Women are so used to being chased she might not have learned that if she cancels it's up to her to reschedule and instead thinks your lack of response seems cold and thus thinks you're no longer interested (I had to explain this to a female friend when we were in our early 20s and would share dating stories with each other).

I see no harm in texting her again and asking if she wants to hang.

She was able to text me after our second date and ask me out, so she isn't some delicate little flower afraid to get what she wants.

Women are like cats, if curious she will reach out. The fact she hasn't is speaks volumes tbh.

I doubt it will make a difference. I've ignored girls and be way colder and had them come running.
Her interest is low or elsewhere.

[Kev1972]

She was able to text me after our second date and ask me out, so she isn't some delicate little flower afraid to get what she wants.

Women are like cats, if curious she will reach out. The fact she hasn't is speaks volumes tbh.

I doubt it will make a difference. I've ignored girls and be way colder and had them come running.
Her interest is low or elsewhere.

This guy knows. Hilarious when they hit you up after a year of no contact.

[rgnx]

Honestly, another guy is most likely in the picture. Girls monkey branch before even getting to know the guy so I wouldn't take it personally.

[Silencespeaks]

Chaderception

[DBoyDaRealest]

Honestly, another guy is most likely in the picture. Girls monkey branch before even getting to know the guy so I wouldn't take it personally.

this is the answer, either an ex came back, or someone else who was already farther along than you and he sealed the deal, and she's committed to him now.

[rtljmc17]

this is the answer, either an ex came back, or someone else who was already farther along than you and he sealed the deal, and she's committed to him now.

oof, the mother definitely screwed me over if this is the case. Should have smashed sooner. oh well

[DBoyDaRealest]

oof, the mother definitely screwed me over if this is the case. Should have smashed sooner. oh well

man I hate to ask, but was she on speakerphone? Are you even sure it was actually her mom that called her? Could have been a current boyfriend and she had to nope outta there

[rtljmc17]

man I hate to ask, but was she on speakerphone? Are you even sure it was actually her mom that called her? Could have been a current boyfriend and she had to nope outta there

Yeah a 100% because her mom didn't know my address and I could hear her through the phones speaker asking for it lol
Plus I saw her mom in the car as she went out of my house.

She texted me the next day saying she had a great time, then 2 days later asked to hang out again...then POOF has been cold since. Not a peep.

She watches my insta stories as soon as I put them up.

[DBoyDaRealest]

Yeah a 100% because her mom didn't know my address and I could hear her through the phones speaker asking for it lol
Plus I saw her mom in the car as she went out of my house.

She texted me the next day saying she had a great time, then 2 days later asked to hang out again...then POOF has been cold since. Not a peep.

She watches my insta stories as soon as I put them up.

all good just double checking. but yeah, another dude in the picture man.

I don't mind being an inbetween guy ever, as long as I'm smashing, they come back as soon as they have issues with guy numero uno.

[rtljmc17]

all good just double checking. but yeah, another dude in the picture man.

I don't mind being an inbetween guy ever, as long as I'm smashing, they come back as soon as they have issues with guy numero uno.

I think guy numero uno is her on/off ex of 6 years so yeah I was competing with a bond of all that time lol

Fook it, Latina bish is making me snacks for our hike tomorrow. Gonna be sunny so that big butt and dem teds will be out.

[BullittEV]

She watches my insta stories as soon as I put them up.

Cringe at what society has/is becoming.

[Ninshark]

She was able to text me after our second date and ask me out, so she isn't some delicate little flower afraid to get what she wants.

Women are like cats, if curious she will reach out. The fact she hasn't is speaks volumes tbh.

I doubt it will make a difference. I've ignored girls and be way colder and had them come running.
Her interest is low or elsewhere.

alright man you have no idea how to get a gf, but you could prob pull some sloots for ONS. this kinda entitlement doesn't get far in relationships, look at the results.

[rtljmc17]

alright man you have no idea how to get a gf, but you could prob pull some sloots for ONS. this kinda entitlement doesn't get far in relationships, look at the results.

So what would you do?

[Ninshark]

So what would you do?

if you're really looking for a relationship, then treat your interaction with her as a two-way street. Expecting her to do all the work coming on to you doesn't sound like you're looking for a relationship, more like a sub. with that last text, you haven't shown interest, you showed indifference, that's ok, but further silence shows disinterest. so who really went cold here? both perhaps?

[rtljmc17]

if you're really looking for a relationship, then treat your interaction with her as a two-way street. Expecting her to do all the work coming on to you doesn't sound like you're looking for a relationship, more like a sub. with that last text, you haven't shown interest, you showed indifference, that's ok, but further silence shows disinterest. so who really went cold here? both perhaps?

Not at all man, I am looking for equal effort. And by that I mean I want to treat someone well but I also want to be treated well. I am not expecting her to do all the work at all. Its the mans job to lead, but that doesn't mean the woman has no part to play in making it easy for you to take the lead.

First 2 dates I went picked her up. The second date I put effort into making a fun evening even though everything is closed because of covid19. I basically set up a "hipster board game bar" at my house and she had a great time. Hence why she asked me out on the 3rd date, it was like she couldn't wait to hang out again, which was great because I wanted to see her too, so I set up the 3rd date and she seemed down.

Cancelling the day before by saying "sorry thought I text earlier, I cant make it tomorrow" without suggesting another time or giving a reason just sounded super low interest. If a woman wants a man she will make it happen.

I showed indifference because she did and what else am I supposed to do? Her not asking to reschedule shows disinterest on her part. Actions speak louder than words.

I appreciate that I can't be a cold fish but I think asking again won't make a difference.

[DBoyDaRealest]

Not at all man, I am looking for equal effort. And by that I mean I want to treat someone well but I also want to be treated well. I am not expecting her to do all the work at all. Its the mans job to lead, but that doesn't mean the woman has no part to play in making it easy for you to take the lead.

First 2 dates I went picked her up. The second date I put effort into making a fun evening even though everything is closed because of covid19. I basically set up a "hipster board game bar" at my house and she had a great time. Hence why she asked me out on the 3rd date, it was like she couldn't wait to hang out again, which was great because I wanted to see her too, so I set up the 3rd date and she seemed down.

Cancelling the day before by saying "sorry thought I text earlier, I cant make it tomorrow" without suggesting another time or giving a reason just sounded super low interest. If a woman wants a man she will make it happen.

I showed indifference because she did and what else am I supposed to do? Her not asking to reschedule shows disinterest on her part. Actions speak louder than words.

I appreciate that I can't be a cold fish but I think asking again won't make a difference.

You are right, don't worry about what ninshark said. I don't see anything you've done that would make me think you are incapable of having a gf, and you seem like you have the right mindset, and just came on here to vent.

Personally, I hold the mindset that I have an expiration date with every girl, regardless of what they look like, etc. Might be 1 hr, might be for the night, might be a fun 3 or 4 days, might be a 1 month fling, or fuk it maybe we will never get tired or bored of each other and we really have something. At the end of the day, nothing I do will change that expiration as long as I am being my realest self - ya dig?

[caca_man]

I showed indifference because she did and what else am I supposed to do? Her not asking to reschedule shows disinterest on her part. Actions speak louder than words.

I appreciate that I can't be a cold fish but I think asking again won't make a difference.

You are right.

[caca_man]

Ex/some other guy is the only explanation because I am not needy at all...big oof. The boys in the group chat were all jelly too. bish is a smoke show

Based on my experience, 99% sure it's another guy. Woman just don't walk away from men they are really into.

[stevesteve12]

oof, the mother definitely screwed me over if this is the case. Should have smashed sooner. oh well

if you're really looking for a relationship, then treat your interaction with her as a two-way street. Expecting her to do all the work coming on to you doesn't sound like you're looking for a relationship, more like a sub. with that last text, you haven't shown interest, you showed indifference, that's ok, but further silence shows disinterest. so who really went cold here? both perhaps?

alright man you have no idea how to get a gf, but you could prob pull some sloots for ONS. this kinda entitlement doesn't get far in relationships, look at the results.

this guy speaks the truth.

obvious OP is just focused on getting into her pants and adding a notch on your belt. lol @ thinking women are dumb and can't sense that. if they are not on the same page they bounce like she did

[awwchit2]

this guy speaks the truth.

obvious OP is just focused on getting into her pants and adding a notch on your belt. lol @ thinking women are dumb and can't sense that. if they are not on the same page they bounce like she did

Yeah this is also true.

The older I get the less I believe in fukin/foreplay on the first date. Maybe a kiss maximum if you actually want a relationship.

[rtljmc17]

this guy speaks the truth.

obvious OP is just focused on getting into her pants and adding a notch on your belt. lol @ thinking women are dumb and can't sense that. if they are not on the same page they bounce like she did

Nope, I spent the second date having an awesome time getting to know her and I wasn't pushed if we banged or not. She is hot, of course I want to smash but I am over the smash and dash bs tbh. Its easy as fook to find girls to pump an dump. I wouldn't make a thread if I this was about a notch. Legit liked her and wanted to go do fun dates with her and she seemed down. If anything her inviting herself to stay over night twice says she was more interested in getting in my pants.

Women like sex too man..

Yeah this is also true.

The older I get the less I believe in fukin/foreplay on the first date. Maybe a kiss maximum if you actually want a relationship.

Didn't smash on first or second, could have on the second if I pushed it sooner before she left but we were having a good time playing games, drinking and talking/flirting. Hence why she was all over me when she realised she had to leave

[Lastro]

the only thing i would have done differently would have been to add a little "lemme know when you are available" after that text. it would have shown that you want to go on another date without needing to chase her

[rtljmc17]

the only thing i would have done differently would have been to add a little "lemme know when you are available" after that text. it would have shown that you want to go on another date without needing to chase her

Yeah possibly, but in my experience when a girl is available and into you (with no other guy in the background) they make **** easy as possible to dick them down.

Definitely the man brain in me starts thinking in terms of logic "if I phrased x and y like z then she would have been all over me". Not saying subtle things dont make a difference, but times when a girl has wanted to ride my cawk I can make tonnes of mistakes and still get laid.

Her attraction was peaked on the Monday and come the Friday she wasn't feeling it. Women run off emotions. I definitely made this thread to vent. But given the mixed bag of response I don't think it was something I did, she probably has her on/off ex in the background

If something could have been done differently then so be it, I don't think we should have to walk on egg shells and constantly second guess everything we say as if its cracking a safe.

Seems like too much effort if thats the case when there are plenty of easy going girls to date.

[jackflag]

"If they're not making it easy, they're making it hard."

Remember these words and things will be much clearer from here on.

[NitrogenWidget]

the only thing i would have done differently would have been to add a little "lemme know when you are available" after that text. it would have shown that you want to go on another date without needing to chase her

nah.
last few women to flake on me (cancel without a reschedule) I didn't even bother responding to.
women don't flake if they are interested.
I don't waste my time on women who aren't interested.

[DBoyDaRealest]

nah.
last few women to flake on me (cancel without a reschedule) I didn't even bother responding to.
women don't flake if they are interested.
I don't waste my time on women who aren't interested.

yeah that type of text gives girls a weird unconfident vibe

"let me know if you are interested" is basically telling them, "I'm not really sure if you like me enough to pursue, so please validate me, I'm also not interested or confident enough to make direct plans"

and if a girl cancels with no reschedule, you leave it at that. Say no worries and go NC, they'll follow back up once you put the ball in their court or they wont.

lot of weird advice being thrown around in this thread. OP is good, just venting.