I was just curious if anyone had any good stories of how getting in shape affected their dating lives!
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04-19-2021, 09:59 AM #1
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04-19-2021, 10:02 AM #2
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04-19-2021, 10:17 AM #3
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04-19-2021, 10:18 AM #4
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04-19-2021, 10:45 AM #5
I got really really ripped when I was in therapy last winter. They had a nickname for me and my room mate. Chip and Dale.
For sure we both got a lot more attention from women. Plus we were on the same floor as the girls. But we both had major problems with self esteem.
Even though they all liked to look and we got way more attention. It never felt like I was getting " better" with them. Especially since the better I got the more I wanted to forget about the girls and focus on how strong I could get.
I won't lie though. It felt good when you walk into a room and the really hot one says "Holy ****" under her breath. Or the staff grab your arm ,or random crazy hotties put on a strip show, and write you letters.
You get away with so much more. Its like being a good look chick. People give you the benefit of the doubtway more. You get a lot more respect from other men, you gain status. I could have ****ed a few but I was from jail and one of the rules was no sexual contact.
Don't get bigger or leaner or stronger for the girls. That's a bonus. Do it because it will help you in pretty much every other area of your life.Last edited by ghostdivision88; 04-21-2021 at 02:18 PM.
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04-19-2021, 11:14 AM #6
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04-19-2021, 01:05 PM #7
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Kind of.. I guess..
I have always carried around a lot more LBM than your average person , there was just a good stretch of it being masked under a lot more body fat than needed trying to convince myself I could make it as a power lifter..
You would be amazed at how many 7/10+ females are attracted to big guys , so its not as if my pool of snootch was ever empty..
But.. stopped BS'n myself and dropped the BF and really concentrated on how I looked vs how much I could lift and that pool of availability grew exponentially and the amount of legit 8/10+ IRL that all the sudden notice you. Not to mention if you aren't completely butt a$$ ugly to begin with , being big & lean all the sudden meant I was no longer having to approach the same caliber female's... often they would approach me, SRS.
But even with all of that you cant be socially retarded , attracting them is one thing... having the ability to have a conversation is what will keep them there. Otherwise the novelty will eventually wear off6'2" @ 247lbs
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04-19-2021, 02:58 PM #8
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04-21-2021, 01:13 PM #9
I have noticed a trend that goes up and down, fit when single, and then let myself go while in relationship, so my peak was right around the start of the relationship. Happened 3 times already, in perfect synchrony, so sure fitness was correlated with getting the girl, but it may not be the actual cause. I definitely think the confidence gained from being fit helped me pursue, but I can't say whether the confidence impressed the women. I CAN say that my looks did not. One even said she didn't care that I was fit when I asked if she was mad I got fatter. She said she didn't care or even notice because my face was ugs. Well, RIP, but there you go, for some men, maybe their looks matter, but for me, looks don't.
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04-21-2021, 01:57 PM #10
I got the most girls when i was a 110 lbs twink who never lifted a single weight.
Getting women is all about meeting the right women, being in the right environment, having a good personality, being funny etc. And obviously looking at your best.
Unless you're at the beach/pool, no one will see your ripped physique if you have one. And not many natties look like they lift through their clothes.
Also women don't give much chits about a ripped physique. Yes it's better than being out of shape but it's at the bottom tier of the list of what matters to them.
The only time getting in shape helps is if you're 300 lbs.Cobra Kai never dies!
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04-22-2021, 05:44 PM #11
yeah ive been sprinting so now they have no chance of getting away from me
just a fun hypothetical question.
i, in now way endors rape. nor do i think it is a good idea or do i advocte its use as a means of "dating"
but waaaaaay back in the day like 20,000 years ago, women got raped all the time, it was probably some **** tht they went through on daily basis
if the man was stronger and bigger he could just take what he wanted
most of the time women had fucing rape fantasies anyway
they want you to go for it
how do you think a woman is going to see two different men
one that politely asks his woamn for sex or another that just takes it
what is the more manyl behavior
primitive man wouldnt know what the **** ASKING for sex is he would just take it
yes its a different time but out biology hasnt changed
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04-22-2021, 06:33 PM #12
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04-22-2021, 07:07 PM #13
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04-23-2021, 11:02 AM #14
Yes, of course. The better you look, the better you feel. Your confidence will increase naturally because getting in shape takes hard work, and doing hard work develops confidence. Do it for yourself, but yes it will definitely help in your dating life. That being said, getting in shape isn't everything, and you still have to work on your personality and communication skills as well.
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04-23-2021, 11:04 AM #15
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04-24-2021, 08:35 AM #16
Scrawny 130lbs 10% guy age 21 (1999) = no success. Trodden on. Pittied.
Slim 150lbs 14% guy age 26 (2004) = some success, still tons of rejections. But could get the attention of a slim girl in the 5-6 range.
Fat guy 200lbs / 28% age 36 = none at all. Contempt.
Currently 5'10 / 173lbs / 16% at age 42 = only the odd landwhale hits on me (online).
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