Do men purposely not text women they're interested in or is he just not that into me?

[vicxsa]

I’m getting mixed signals from this person I’ve been talking to and I need some male perspective. I figured this would be a decent enough place for that.

- Started off with me asking for his number

- I initiated all the conversations for the first month until one day I got annoyed with his passiveness and told him to quit being a stranger

- He apologized, said he has reclusive tendencies and promised to make an effort to reach out more

To my surprise he actually kept his word and has been texting me more often. In fact, he sent me some art the other day as an excuse to say hello

Still, this person does not flirt with me, hasn’t asked me out, has called me “very sweet” (what does this even mean?) on many occasions and has not opened up at all. Last we spoke was on Friday and he said, “You’re the perfect genuine distraction that im lucky to have.” This was the most forward thing he has said to me since we began talking 2 months ago.

I'm a full-time engineer and have many hobbies to keep me occupied when I'm not working. I'm not sitting by my phone waiting around for him to text me, but I am noticing the lack of effort from his side to want to keep in contact. I *could* reach out to him, but I don't want to come off as needy because that's not attractive.

What do you guys think?

[Mr Beer]

OP is a neckbeard LARPing as a woman but for any actual women reading this nonsense, either ask him out if you're interested or give up and think about something else if you're not. Don't spend weeks wistfully spinning your mental wheels like a hamster.

[vicxsa]

OP is a neckbeard LARPing as a woman but for any actual women reading this nonsense, either ask him out if you're interested or give up and think about something else if you're not. Don't spend weeks wistfully spinning your mental wheels like a hamster.

I'm a what?

Would that not be a little off putting considering he’s not made much of an effort for me to even consider asking him out? Would that not spook him? I feel like it would be less dramatic and emotionally draining to just leave the ball in his court and see what he does. I’ve done a reasonable amount of legwork. If he wants to talk to me, surely he will reach out, no?

[skinnyfat88]

He's either not into you or scared to ask you out.

If it's the latter, he's probably inexperienced and will continue to lack the ability to take initiative with you as he is more afraid to do something wrong than to take the risk of doing something right.

[A0wner21]

He's either not into you or scared to ask you out.

If it's the latter, he's probably inexperienced and will continue to lack the ability to take initiative with you as he is more afraid to do something wrong than to take the risk of doing something right.

Can confirm did the latter with current gf at age 21/22

[RonaldMcflurry]

I think that isn't you in that avi

[jackflag]

He's not interested romantically but likes you as a person and is too nice to risk hurting your feelings.

[Kev1972]

Suck his dick to assert dominance.

[Gosu14]

big time trolling by OP

[dolvioblue]

Possibly could play games for the first few days but this was only when I was younger. When I would get someone's number I would typically call them the next day to just say hi and start a convo. But 2 months? No, he's not interested in dating you and just responding to your messages to be nice.

[CYBORG1]

He is definitely not into you. At all. Time to move on.