Fcked on the first date. Toss her into the “not relationship” pile?

[dannmann1992]

So I met this girl on tinder like 8 months ago. We exchanged numbers and have talked on and off without linking up (she lives hours away) for those 8 months. We never discussed anything sexual and mainly exchanged pleasantries like have a great week, talked about music here and there. Finally, after 8 months she’s in town visiting her folks and we decide to get together. She suggested this nice spot by lake. We’re talking, drinking, she seems like a cool girl.

I ask if she wanted to go smoke with me, so we go back to my house and I light up a joint and we talk about our new favorite artists. We start to make out and then we stop. Talk some more and then we make out again and eventually the clothes are off. I go down and she returns the favor. She is sucking like a pro - just awesome. Then we bang.

She’s cool but now it makes me think...is she not relationship material because she let me smash on the first night?

Thoughts?

[vanballmoos]

Stopped reading right there. Yes.

C’mon that’s dumb as hell to make that correlation. Especially during the quarantine a lot of people were on tinder. I met my ex on tinder and she was a great girl.

If she was some kind of h0e it wouldn’t have taken OP almost a year to have locked it down.

[Krackerjacked]

Smashes on first date and smokes weed
Yeah that’s a keeper Opie
Lol u w0t m8?

[dannmann1992]

Smashes on first date and smokes weed
Yeah that’s a keeper Opie
Lol u w0t m8?

Everyone smokes in Cali. She hit it once and coughed her lungs out - she clearly isn’t an avid smoker.

[DustinTheHuss]

Everyone smokes in Cali. She hit it once and coughed her lungs out - she clearly isn’t an avid smoker.

Not "everyone" even though it's legal. I don't.

[dannmann1992]

Not "everyone" even though it's legal. I don't.

okay?

[DolphinPilot]

Jesus Christ what a dumb fukcing thread

[dolvioblue]

So I met this girl on tinder like 8 months ago. We exchanged numbers and have talked on and off without linking up (she lives hours away) for those 8 months. We never discussed anything sexual and mainly exchanged pleasantries like have a great week, talked about music here and there. Finally, after 8 months she’s in town visiting her folks and we decide to get together. She suggested this nice spot by lake. We’re talking, drinking, she seems like a cool girl.

I ask if she wanted to go smoke with me, so we go back to my house and I light up a joint and we talk about our new favorite artists. We start to make out and then we stop. Talk some more and then we make out again and eventually the clothes are off. I go down and she returns the favor. She is sucking like a pro - just awesome. Then we bang.

She’s cool but now it makes me think...is she not relationship material because she let me smash on the first night?

Thoughts?

You let her smash you also though so I’m confused. Should she have stopped you so you could both have blue balls and be miserable? How old are you btw?

[dolvioblue]

Not "everyone" even though it's legal. I don't.

Literally nobody cares what you do and don’t do. What’s the point of you even commenting?

[DustinTheHuss]

Literally nobody cares what you do and don’t do. What’s the point of you even commenting?

Because he said everyone in Cali smokes weed and I'm in Cali and don't smoke weed. Why even bother replying to my post if no one cares?

[dolvioblue]

Because he said everyone in Cali smokes weed and I'm in Cali and don't smoke weed. Why even bother replying to my post if no one cares?

The OP is in his 20’s. his crowd likely all smokes. You’re about 50 years old. What relevance is it that you don’t smoke?. Who even cares?

[skinnyfat88]

You have to decide for yourself if this is a dealbreaker or not.

Talking for 8 months before meeting is also different than exchanging numbers one day and sexing a few days later.

If you like her keep rolling with it. If there are red flags, they'll begin to appear in time.

[CTTK]

Yeah I would say put her in the no-relationship pile solely based on her living hours away. You're thinking too much about a girl you've only hung out with once.

[rectifryer]

pro tip

she smashed because you're hours away from what ever she's hiding

you're welcome

[ChangeOfStyle]

These type of threads are honestly just stupid.

Buddy. if you have to ask then you surely don't know what the fuq you're doing

[MegaSloot]

Let me see if I understand your question. You want to know if you should toss out a relationchit because it functioned as you intended it to? Or maybe you don't see the connection between relationships and sex? It goes like this. One gets some sort of genital feeling, then you go find a partner and you fuk. So that happened and you are displeased. Monastery --->

[jebrooks1988]

You have to decide for yourself if this is a dealbreaker or not.

Talking for 8 months before meeting is also different than exchanging numbers one day and sexing a few days later.

If you like her keep rolling with it. If there are red flags, they'll begin to appear in time.

Exactly. 8 months is a long time.

[jebrooks1988]

pro tip

she smashed because you're hours away from what ever she's hiding

you're welcome

Or because she was in town as OP mentioned and was simply attracted to OP.....

[Zackad]

You have to decide for yourself if this is a dealbreaker or not.

Talking for 8 months before meeting is also different than exchanging numbers one day and sexing a few days later.

If you like her keep rolling with it. If there are red flags, they'll begin to appear in time.

This

you guys had a pretty extensive amount of rapport already built up before you smashed. This is vastly different than you meeting some chick on tinder and inviting her over same night for a smash.

You guys also smashed after drinking and doing drugs, both things that put you in a different mental state than sobriety, which is again vastly different than inviting some chick on tinder over for a sober smash.

The only real automatic dealbreaker here is her distance. Does she live hours (IE 2 hours) away, or HOURS (ie 8-12 hours) away? P big difference in the two.

THis is one you're gonna have to decide for yourself and stick to your decision

[fishnbrah]

weed and sex, id keep her around srs.

[PepperedAngus]

I try to bang every girl on the first date, if I used that as a disqualification Id just be shooting myself in the foot wouldnt I? Im a pretty charming, handsome, and sexually experienced man I cant hold it against women when they want to fuk me as bad as I want to fuk them, thats the whole goddamn point of hanging out in the first place.

[dolvioblue]

I try to bang every girl on the first date, if I used that as a disqualification Id just be shooting myself in the foot wouldnt I? Im a pretty charming, handsome, and sexually experienced man I cant hold it against women when they want to fuk me as bad as I want to fuk them, thats the whole goddamn point of hanging out in the first place.

Yep this.

[superGeorgeMan]

So I met this girl on tinder like 8 months ago. We exchanged numbers and have talked on and off without linking up (she lives hours away) for those 8 months. We never discussed anything sexual and mainly exchanged pleasantries like have a great week, talked about music here and there. Finally, after 8 months she’s in town visiting her folks and we decide to get together. She suggested this nice spot by lake. We’re talking, drinking, she seems like a cool girl.

I ask if she wanted to go smoke with me, so we go back to my house and I light up a joint and we talk about our new favorite artists. We start to make out and then we stop. Talk some more and then we make out again and eventually the clothes are off. I go down and she returns the favor. She is sucking like a pro - just awesome. Then we bang.

She’s cool but now it makes me think...is she not relationship material because she let me smash on the first night?

Thoughts?

First night? Are you serious? Bro, let me tell you a story from my life.
I'm sitting at home. I get a message on my social networking site from a girl. Hi. I don't know you, but I really want to meet you.
I'm okay.
I start to ask her how she got my contact.
Turns out she saw a picture of me at a friend's place.
Ok. I text her, can we meet? Tonight, in an hour, because I have a free night.
She doesn't mind.
An hour later, she's in my bed.
And you, eight months into a relationship, on the phone)

[Mr Beer]

Guys: try as hard as possible to fuk girls on the first date.

Also guys: disregard women who fuk on the first date.

Pick one *******s, either don't try to fuk her on the first date, or accept that she likes you and also likes sex, which is it?

[Redfish225]

So I met this girl on tinder like 8 months ago. We exchanged numbers and have talked on and off without linking up (she lives hours away) for those 8 months. We never discussed anything sexual and mainly exchanged pleasantries like have a great week, talked about music here and there. Finally, after 8 months she’s in town visiting her folks and we decide to get together. She suggested this nice spot by lake. We’re talking, drinking, she seems like a cool girl.

I ask if she wanted to go smoke with me, so we go back to my house and I light up a joint and we talk about our new favorite artists. We start to make out and then we stop. Talk some more and then we make out again and eventually the clothes are off. I go down and she returns the favor. She is sucking like a pro - just awesome. Then we bang.

She’s cool but now it makes me think...is she not relationship material because she let me smash on the first night?

Thoughts?

Outside of banging on first date, here’s your answer op.

[TXBuddy]

Instant Fun-Zone

[CYBORG1]

No. You guys talked for 8 months, which is a long time to even keep a girl's attention. You like smoking apparently so her being down for it is a plus in my book. Biggest issue I see here is that she lives hours away.

[dgfergus]

No, 8 months is a really long time to get to know someone. The fact she was still interested for that long is a good sign.

[Lysol84]

I wouldn't look too much into it. You've known her for 8 months on and off so it's not like a we started chatting 3 weeks ago deal.