What is the key to an actually happy marriage? Does it exist?

[RonaldMcflurry]

I don't go with this at all, I've never been religious and have a strong marriage, we are equals. Christianity is very biased towards men and women being subservient, I cant believe in that for a start!

You are older and in the UK. What worked for you will definitely NOT work with these new girls in the United States. I guarantee it.

[Shortfuze]

Don't take your partner for granted.

[Silencespeaks]

I had a very happy marriage for 12+ years but the secret was that it was an illusion. It looked perfect from the outside. But my ex had a secret double life.

And I know a lot of couples in stable long term marriages but I think the stability comes from finances and kids. I don’t think they are actually in love or having much sex.

I think long term marriages where both sides are loyal and in love and having sex are extremely rare.

I believe the majority of marriages either involve cheating or they are basically a financial and parenting partnership without much or any romance or sex.

[Muzzlrpress]

Don’t change

Despite her nagging, hen pecking and best attempts at doing so. Don’t become the beta she thinks she wants

dis

I had a very happy marriage for 12+ years but the secret was that it was an illusion. It looked perfect from the outside. But my ex had a secret double life.

And I know a lot of couples in stable long term marriages but I think the stability comes from finances and kids. I don’t think they are actually in love or having much sex.

I think long term marriages where both sides are loyal and in love and having sex are extremely rare.

I believe the majority of marriages either involve cheating or they are basically a financial and parenting partnership without much or any romance or sex.

Why do you even come into these threads?

[Slaydom]

find the right girl for you. ded srs.

married 6 yrs.

virgin when we met. so i am her first love.

been through a bunch of unhappy relationships until i found my wife. she fits me perfectly.

shy, doesn't attention whore

loves children, so we have a kid

loves cooking. meticulously clean.

she doesn't really like working. so i let her stay home.

i like working so it works out perfectly.

she doesn't talk a lot. no nagging. i nag more.

she loves sex with me. sex 5-6 times a week.

[wave_length]

20 years. And still happy as can be. Never once woke up a day and did not want to be married. But there have been times where we both had to work though things that come up in life.

Kids make plenty of opportunity for resentment both ways. It is not until many years down the line you have to deal with those. Keep the relationship primary and understand that a marriage takes effort and work on both parties.

The other part, is it does not hurt when you are lucky enough to marry a woman who is still smoking hot in her late 40's

Pretty much all of this.

[Silencespeaks]

dis

Why do you even come into these threads?

To give my opinion. I had a long happy marriage so I can talk about this subject.

[Vexidi]

Why do you even come into these threads?

She makes a good point about the financial and parenting partnership without any love. I know a lot of dudes who hate life but won't divorce just because they don't want to get raked over the coals in court or not get to see their kids.

[GeezersPalace]

find the right girl for you. ded srs.

married 6 yrs.

virgin when we met. so i am her first love.

been through a bunch of unhappy relationships until i found my wife. she fits me perfectly.

shy, doesn't attention whore

loves children, so we have a kid

loves cooking. meticulously clean.

she doesn't really like working. so i let her stay home.

i like working so it works out perfectly.

she doesn't talk a lot. no nagging. i nag more.

she loves sex with me. sex 5-6 times a week.

LOL LOL LOL

eventually she'll wanna explore whats out there and nail chad and then when shes bored with chad she'll move onto tyrone.

[memcop]

What does this actually mean though?

don't give in to her nagging or **** tests?


like where dou draw the line'?

with my last ex i felt like i was way too cold and dun goof. coz of online advice i read.

That ain't it brah. She fell for you to begin with. Never change who you are.

Nothing wrong with balancing a relationship, just don't do it at your own expense. If you arent compatible, so be it.

There is nothing wrong with being unapologetically you. Don't take advice from the internet. Be yourself and let her be herself but abide by both of your boundaries.

[dusky99]

I couldn't imagine living with someone in a tiny home like a one-bedroom apartment I'm in. I'd go nuts.

[Kev1972]

She makes a good point about the financial and parenting partnership without any love. I know a lot of dudes who hate life but won't divorce just because they don't want to get raked over the coals in court or not get to see their kids.

Situation easy to avoid by never getting married in the first place. Coparent if you want, cohabitate if you want, but there is no reason to ever buy into the disney fairytale. No diamond ring, no expensive one day ceremony where you feed a bunch of people who don't even like you. If she ever gets disagreeable or argumentative she can go kick rocks. Plenty of sloot single moms or divorced women hooked on happy pills to keep your dick wet until the next decent girl comes along.

[anonkunbrah]

all about the d game

[Slaydom]

LOL LOL LOL

eventually she'll wanna explore whats out there and nail chad and then when shes bored with chad she'll move onto tyrone.

cuckold cope.


nah. most stable marriage = virgin bride. let me tell you

[BuildKing]

Heres the secret

1.Be mentally stable and be mature enough to be capable of having a meaningful healthy relationship
2.Find someone mentally stable and mature enough to be capable of having a meaningful healthy relationship

Actually having point 1 and point 2 both is rare, the funny thing is tho that most people cry about not finding it yet its them that are not mature enough or have the right view of what it is to have a healthy strong relationship.

[Silencespeaks]

Heres the secret

1.Be mentally stable and be mature enough to be capable of having a meaningful healthy relationship
2.Find someone mentally stable and mature enough to be capable of having a meaningful healthy relationship

Actually having point 1 and point 2 both is rare, the funny thing is tho that most people cry about not finding it yet its them that are not mature enough or have the right view of what it is to have a healthy strong relationship.

Yes it’s rare for both sides to be mentally stable and mature PLUS you have to both be physically attracted to each other PLUS have compatible lifestyles and life goals.

Minute chance of all that coming together really.

[BuildKing]

Yes it’s rare for both sides to be mentally stable and mature PLUS you have to both be physically attracted to each other PLUS have compatible lifestyles and life goals.

Minute chance of all that coming together really.

Yes good point, you need all of that, not everything needs to be perfect, but you need to be willing to communicate about those things and make compromises.

[Woody-5]

A steady side piece

[Condo41]

The man needs to be 2 things:

1 ) Uncrackable. Women want to consistently attempt to crack their man only to find that he is uncrackable.

2) obviously prepared to pull other poon that night. As long as she thinks you can get it elsewhere, she will see your value and hang on tight.

[1slo5oh]

The man needs to be 2 things:

1 ) Uncrackable. Women want to consistently attempt to crack their man only to find that he is uncrackable.

2) obviously prepared to pull other poon that night. As long as she thinks you can get it elsewhere, she will see your value and hang on tight.

This is about the worst $hit for marriage advice I have read on the Misc all day.. and thats fkn saying something. Maybe for a GF you arent real serious about.


Marriage is hard fkn work Opie , anybody who says otherwise is fkn lying. But just because you have to put in some work doesnt mean you cant be happy together. Without going into depth IMO the absolute #1 thing that will lay the foundation for a happy marriage is communication.. I know it sounds cliche AF but its true. There are alot of other factors that play in but if you cant speak to each other in a productive manor it will only push you further apart.

Some couples just nail the communication thing out the gate , it comes natural. Others, might need some help and if it comes to that there is no shame in seeking counselling to insure you have to right tools in your pocket to make it happen.

[shmobin]

Don’t have kids

I came here to say that^

[wave_length]

The man needs to be 2 things:

1 ) Uncrackable. Women want to consistently attempt to crack their man only to find that he is uncrackable.

2) obviously prepared to pull other poon that night. As long as she thinks you can get it elsewhere, she will see your value and hang on tight.

Are you married?

[Silencespeaks]

This is about the worst $hit for marriage advice I have read on the Misc all day.. and thats fkn saying something. Maybe for a GF you arent real serious about.


Marriage is hard fkn work Opie , anybody who says otherwise is fkn lying. But just because you have to put in some work doesnt mean you cant be happy together. Without going into depth IMO the absolute #1 thing that will lay the foundation for a happy marriage is communication.. I know it sounds cliche AF but its true. There are alot of other factors that play in but if you cant speak to each other in a productive manor it will only push you further apart.

Some couples just nail the communication thing out the gate , it comes natural. Others, might need some help and if it comes to that there is no shame in seeking counselling to insure you have to right tools in your pocket to make it happen.

Really disagree with this. Communication only works if your partner is a good and honest and loyal person to begin with. Moral integrity comes first. If your spouse is a liar or cheater or selfish or an addict or other major issues then you can communicate all you want but it won’t resolve anything.

[CrimsonSteel]

You need to be able to argue well. What oftentimes tanks a relationship is one side seeking vengeance over unresolved issues, stemming from an inability to argue well.

And I'm usually single, but that same principle has applied to everything, really. Starting a business, playing in a band, being on a team, etc.

[zknarc]

The secret is that he fuks hot young escorts on the side

[Condo41]

This is about the worst $hit for marriage advice I have read on the Misc all day.. and thats fkn saying something. Maybe for a GF you arent real serious about.


Marriage is hard fkn work Opie , anybody who says otherwise is fkn lying. But just because you have to put in some work doesnt mean you cant be happy together. Without going into depth IMO the absolute #1 thing that will lay the foundation for a happy marriage is communication.. I know it sounds cliche AF but its true. There are alot of other factors that play in but if you cant speak to each other in a productive manor it will only push you further apart.

Some couples just nail the communication thing out the gate , it comes natural. Others, might need some help and if it comes to that there is no shame in seeking counselling to insure you have to right tools in your pocket to make it happen.

This kind of moron is the one who goes "happy wife happy life" right lol what a dork.

What kind of sh*ty woman would want a man who is beneath her?

Women want a leader who is worth more than her.

Your wife will leave you if you do it wrong. Marriage love is 100% conditional.

If you dont understand that, your marriage will fail.

What kind of woman wants a guy who no other single chick would want to f*co? None.

Sucks being wrong but you'll get used to it

[Condo41]

Are you married?

Literally doesnt matter. 1st person Anecdotes by the present party debaters are worthless.

We have all seen tons of marriages, tons fail, tons still going. The ones with happy marriages follow my formula. The ones that dont fail.

[Ken-O]

Very clear and defined roles. Men provides, women cares for the home and family. Clear power hierarchy in the family, that goes Father - Mother - Kids. No equality or equity, "happy wife happy life" bull****.

The man leads, the family follows. Always keeping integrity, respect and love in the equation. Just because there is a clear hierarchy doesnt mean the man comes home every night abusing and beating up his family.

IMO at least.

[Kev1972]

You can do everything right, be the best guy in the world, but at the end of the day she can still take half your stuff, your future earnings, and jump on a new dick. There's monetary incentive for her to leave you for another man. So unless you want to contractually cuck yourself to her via the government, don't get married. Better men than you have done nothing wrong and lost their chit. Some even lost their lives over a dumb whore.

[MBisonSon]

The key is that the guy always has to be the one to eat **** (srs)