cutting contacts with a friend that disrespect me?

[BumbleRT]

so i got, well had i think, a friend.
i know him for around 6 years from a job we had together for years in the past. we were kinda good friends, did stuff together, hanged out alot and all... but i always got some sense of disrespect from him, like he always try to laugh at my expense without even thinking how i feel about it.
1 year ago, we were working on something and i (very stupidly) injured myself with a saw. i had a pretty deep cut in my thumb and a bit in the index. had some plaster for a month and overall im good - just some scars ofcourse and a bit of weird sensation but overall its ok.
but this story is an perfect example to how chitty of a friend he can be sometimes. apparently he just tells all his friends about it without being respectfull at all ("idiot" and such), and the main thing is he just lie about the severity of the injury to make the story look more "interesting", telling eveyone i basicly fuked up my hand and totally wrecked it etc.

i got awared to this by his friends. a few months ago i went to his apartment to hang out, he had a friends over and when they heard my name they right away asked to see my hand, which made me really embarrased. all of them reacted pretty little to it, i could tell they had a complete different thing in mind.
same story a few weeks later with another of his friends.



i think he acted really rude about it. first of all when it happened he laughed - which just showed his disrespect to me. later he said sorry about it and said he laughed cuz he didnt noticed it was serious.
but then the first time he saw me with the plaster he started laughing right away, about how funny that accident was... ok...

but last week... i snapped. after 2 months of kinda avoiding him, i went to his apartment to hangout. he had some of his friends. i felt weird the whole evening because i hate hanging out with people i dont know, im just quiet. but then another friend of his came, and he introduced me as the "Saw guy".
she was completely tactless and infront of everyone just said loud "wow you the guy that destroyed his hand with a saw?" i mumbled something and then she asked to see my hand... i showed her and she kept being rude saying stuff "wow i cant believe you ****ed up your hand like that" ... tactless as ****. 2 of his friends told her to stfu and that she is rude.. then she said well at least theres not all scars (well shes wrong, its just she thinks the injury was much larger than it was)
i got really embarassed by this whole thing. he just tells this story to everyone he knows, make it much larger and then when i meet that someone he just right away tells them "that saw story? its this guy", making me look like a joke.
in the end i took this injury myself kinda hard and it was mentally challenging for me to deal with it, and i feel like he wasnt a friend at all about it.
after i went from his apartment to mine i felt really bad about myself, how much of a fool they think i am and how she acted..


something really big to know, he acted very selfish and rude about it since the start. when i injured my self, he laughed like a mad man. later he said he's sorry and that he laughed cuz he thought its just a small cut. i forgot about it but he just started laughing about it right away again while i was in pain, no caring at all how i feel. i had a splint for a month and everytime he saw me with it he just laughed hard af.

i didnt come to him and told him to just stop talk about it, and making such a big deal about it, mainly cuz i didnt want to make a big deal out of it myself, but i think its obvious you shouldnt act like this. i tried changing the subject everytime he brought this topic up but he just keep mention it in the most embarassing moments.

the thing is i always felt like he embarrass me without caring to gain some people laughers, this is just a good example of it.
now im not sure if im right to tell him how chitty of a friend he is and cutting all contacts with him, or that im just making a big deal about it...


cliffs:
-got injured with a saw, pretty foolish story
-friend that was there laughed hard
-friend kept laughing at me when i was in recovery with splints and chit
-friend telling everyone he knows about it, with complete disrespect to me (calling me an idiot and such) and lying about how hard the injury was, basicly making people think i almost got 1 hand now
-friend always making me look like a fool and doesnt really care how it makes me feel

[Sinan09400]

holy **** I was gonna make an aware thread to this but noones gonna read all that

[8pieces]

[BigNik78]

If this happened he's just a jealous friend for whatever reason. People who go around calling other people stupid or losers or whatever are just trying to elevate themselves at other people's expense. Assuming you lift and others here who lift probably have experienced a jealous friend who think they need to knock us down a peg at least a few times. Gets old pretty quick.

[exyl]

I actually read it

At first, I thought the thread was gonna be about you being too sensitive and I was gonna say dish it back with the same level, or lack of, respect.

But the truth is, this friend of yours is a douche. There is laughing at your friend cause he trips and eats chit... but this guy gets actual pleasure out of watching you be in pain over a stupid careless thing you did; all while being condescending

Then to embellish the story and demean you in front of others behind your back. What a gossipy lil bitch. People that try to gain a social advantage over you in this fashion are: at best, very insecure... at worst, have some kind of personality disorder.

Either way, I don’t have people like that in my circle. His value, or worth as a friend falls short of the standards I have for how I treat my friends and how they treat me. Good friends are like quarters, and this guy sounds like a penny

Life is too short, time is too precious. Fukc hanging our with dirtbags.

If it was me, and I was tellin people about the accident (and btw only to mutual friends) proper sharing of it is like: yeah it sucks but it could have been a lot worse. And assuming we were all friends we would be more talking about whatever progress you were making.

A fair weather friend , or a normal friend, or a best friend... even an acquaintance: “hows your hand?”

That guy: “LOL WHAT AN IDIOT. HAHAHAH. I’m going to embellish this story to people he doesn’t know behind his back, so if he meets them.. their first impression of him will be the dumb ass saw guy.”

[radrd]

Read the cliffs and agree with the response above. Cut him out.

[exyl]

If this happened he's just a jealous friend for whatever reason. People who go around calling other people stupid or losers or whatever are just trying to elevate themselves at other people's expense. Assuming you lift and others here who lift probably have experienced a jealous friend who think they need to knock us down a peg at least a few times. Gets old pretty quick.

Agree with all of this 100%

Ive been on the end of people’s (usually physical) insecurities

When presence alone makes someone feel inadequate, it puts a spotlight on the things they are jealous about...

The friend in the OP took it to a few other levels though, telling his friends behind OP’s back and embellishing the story and making the narrative about OP being an idiot. This is a very feminine attribute, I don’t get it...

I can’t imagine this situation with any of my friends

The OP should note that his douche friend has douche friends

[Gios]

That’s not a friend

[DesiredUserphag]

Learning how to cut people out of your life with ease is the best thing you can learn IMO

[etet1919]

If this happened he's just a jealous friend for whatever reason. People who go around calling other people stupid or losers or whatever are just trying to elevate themselves at other people's expense. Assuming you lift and others here who lift probably have experienced a jealous friend who think they need to knock us down a peg at least a few times. Gets old pretty quick.

Thank you for taking the words right out of my mouth, BigNik. I've been dealing with this on the site for two years now.

I sing this to the haters: Sorry, Not Sorry

[ButcherSir]

Sounds like you getting injured made your “friend” year

[1slo5oh]

I couldnt read all that whining BS... and you sound like a bitch TBH

If he hurt your feelings then stop fkn with him, Nancy

[BumbleRT]

If this happened he's just a jealous friend for whatever reason. People who go around calling other people stupid or losers or whatever are just trying to elevate themselves at other people's expense. Assuming you lift and others here who lift probably have experienced a jealous friend who think they need to knock us down a peg at least a few times. Gets old pretty quick.

honestly i dont think he got a reason to be jelly at me

I actually read it

At first, I thought the thread was gonna be about you being too sensitive and I was gonna say dish it back with the same level, or lack of, respect.

But the truth is, this friend of yours is a douche. There is laughing at your friend cause he trips and eats chit... but this guy gets actual pleasure out of watching you be in pain over a stupid careless thing you did; all while being condescending

Then to embellish the story and demean you in front of others behind your back. What a gossipy lil bitch. People that try to gain a social advantage over you in this fashion are: at best, very insecure... at worst, have some kind of personality disorder.

Either way, I don’t have people like that in my circle. His value, or worth as a friend falls short of the standards I have for how I treat my friends and how they treat me. Good friends are like quarters, and this guy sounds like a penny

Life is too short, time is too precious. Fukc hanging our with dirtbags.

If it was me, and I was tellin people about the accident (and btw only to mutual friends) proper sharing of it is like: yeah it sucks but it could have been a lot worse. And assuming we were all friends we would be more talking about whatever progress you were making.

A fair weather friend , or a normal friend, or a best friend... even an acquaintance: “hows your hand?”

That guy: “LOL WHAT AN IDIOT. HAHAHAH. I’m going to embellish this story to people he doesn’t know behind his back, so if he meets them.. their first impression of him will be the dumb ass saw guy.”

Read the cliffs and agree with the response above. Cut him out.

thats what i thought.... zero respect to me

Agree with all of this 100%

Ive been on the end of people’s (usually physical) insecurities

When presence alone makes someone feel inadequate, it puts a spotlight on the things they are jealous about...

The friend in the OP took it to a few other levels though, telling his friends behind OP’s back and embellishing the story and making the narrative about OP being an idiot. This is a very feminine attribute, I don’t get it...

I can’t imagine this situation with any of my friends

The OP should note that his douche friend has douche friends

i dont know his friends enough to know if they douches, i just know the female one that called me out is a tactless pos

That’s not a friend

i agree.

I couldnt read all that whining BS... and you sound like a bitch TBH

If he hurt your feelings then stop fkn with him, Nancy

maybe im a bitch here, idk. i took that injury hard and im too mentally attached to it.

[exyl]

honestly i dont think he got a reason to be jelly at me


thats what i thought.... zero respect to me

i dont know his friends enough to know if they douches, i just know the female one that called me out is a tactless pos

i agree.



maybe im a bitch here, idk. i took that injury hard and im too mentally attached to it.

Well fugetaboutit

You injured yourself, so do the proper physical therapy if necessary and move forward in life.

I think part of the reason you’re trippin on it is because this guy made it seem like the event of the year

[PTzFree]

People don't deserve forgiveness, but it is a mark of your character to do so.

So, don't allow yourself to be abused by someone - cut that negativity from your life quickly. But do it with grace and without seeking retribution.

[elterrible987]

too bad you didnt tell us this like 3 years ago, you could post your hand pics here and his version of the saw story, then you will be known as "saw brah"


these days theres only like 5-10 gay indians posting at any given time and the rest are all alts

[Lord_Lemon]

I find it easy to cut friends out. Probably why I don't have any.

[exyl]

too bad you didnt tell us this like 3 years ago, you could post your hand pics here and his version of the saw story, then you will be known as "saw brah"


these days theres only like 5-10 gay indians posting at any given time and the rest are all alts

I got nostalgic reading this even though it didn’t happen lol