What if she's had an abortion : RED FLAG or not ?

[CityJaeger]

Being the emotional retard that I am (falling in love with a BPD Sloot in her 40's, an escort and a rape victim) I need to be under the curatorship of the misc regarding my future relationships.

I've had a second date last week with a new girl (not the hooker) : She's 26 and confessed to me that she's had an abortion last year in June.

She said she could not keep the baby not because she was not ready but because the father was a jew and her being muslim, it made it all the more complicated.


Is that a red flag in your book or not ? Note that I'm particularly surprised that she speaks so freely of something so deep.


She even said that the psychological choc was the biggest that she's ever had because becoming a mother was her greatest wish.

Should I run for the hills once again ?

[redraider86]

Note that I'm particularly surprised that she speaks so freely of something so deep.

This is the issue, not necessarily the abortion. I'm not commenting on the morality of her decisions, but rather the intimate information she's revealing on a second date. That's not healthy people behavior. Your instincts are correct, good job.

[iloveus]

[jasticus]

yes shes a sloot

[guest89]

Every part of a woman's natural instinct should be to be a mother. To have children. Love them. Protect them. Raise them. Etc. I know a few females that have had early stage miscarriages and they were completely devastated.



Now fast forward to a chick that just decides to have an abortion because it 'makes sense'. I'm not sure this kind of cold and calculating bish could ever be trusted. This is the kind of woman that will make a decision based on what's best for her life. Even if it completely fukks over your life and results in your death. And she won't even think twice about it. Just shrug her shoulders and move on.




I want to be clear my viewpoint isn't coming from someone that's anti-abortion. I think far too many degenerates are popping out kids as it is. I don't disagree with abortion. I disagree with the people that have them. They are damaged. There is something psychologically wrong with women that choose to abort their children.

[iloveus]

Note that I'm particularly surprised that she speaks so freely of something so deep.

[DanSDA]

where did you meet this trainwreck OP?

[Imnew1]

Yes major red flag. My ex who was 30 at the time confessed to me that she had an abortion once in college bc she wasn't ready and was just trying to finish school. She got pregnant with me after 4 months together and I asked her wtf were we gonna do as it was her body and all. Her instant reaction was that she could find a clinic to call. I told her repeatedly don't do this for me, and neither of us expected this so I'll be there no matter what. "Oh great the appointment is at 1pm on Saturday. I love you so much." WTF? No excitement at all about the idea of having a child and being a mother when that's her supposed goal? Claimed she wanted to get married and have kids yet was aborting ours in her 30s. Worst and most shameful experience of my life. All she was worried about before even going through with that was partying in Miami next month and sending me texts about the hotel we were going to.

She and I worked together. First few months in our boss told us that she would be out that day and we had to cover for her accounts as she had an allergic reaction to some nuts. Next week, there she was eating on almonds or something. Said her doctor told her to just not eat so many. So fkn shady. I would bet she's had at least 3-4 abortions in her life.

[stfudonny]

actually its good to know that if you accidentally knock her up shes not gonna keep the kid.

[KhumatMibra]

she killed a baby. of course its a red flag OP

[SoutheastBeast1]

Green flag to raw dog worry free knowing there won't be any surprises

[jittinfl]

bright green flag op, if it doesnt work out theres always men hehe

[CityJaeger]

I'm not anti-abortion but there should be good reasons for that.

[BigDogg88]

This is the issue,the intimate information she's revealing on a second date.
That's not healthy. Your instincts are correct.

This. Move to nc brah

[wincel]

I wouldn't date a girl who had an abortion unless she was raped or some chit.

[BohemianSlav]

Tbh, her being a single mom is a bigger red flag imo.

[WishIWasJawBrah]

Where are the pics?

Is she a thick Maghreb?

[ClivesTriceps]

If she's had an abortion, she's scum of the earth. A literal sub-human. You're going to have bigger things to worry about if she has no morality in regards to killing babies.

Avoid her at all costs (srs)

Tbh, her being a single mom is a bigger red flag imo.

She should have been smart enough to be on the pill and have the dude wear a condom. You literally don't need an IQ higher than room temperature to prevent unwanted pregnancies. Even then, she could have bought Plan B.

[MuscleXtreme]

I would dump her. It’s clear that she can’t hold herself accountable for her actions and will even kill a baby to get what she thinks she deserves.

[Bigbuster1]

This is the issue, not necessarily the abortion. I'm not commenting on the morality of her decisions, but rather the intimate information she's revealing on a second date. That's not healthy people behavior. Your instincts are correct, good job.

I actually agree more with this than anything else. The fact that she is speaking so freely about this on a second date would a be a huge turn off for me.

[Mercworx]

Is a woman killing her baby a red flag?



Do you even have to ask?


An even dumber reason than "I cant afford it"

Brb two religions that are both anti abortion but the parent's say "fuk it"????

They should have married, had their baby and cut the families off if need be.

You dont kill your child.


Edit: Also since you clearly have issues (as you describe with your choice of women) the biggest red flag is that she seems to like you. No hate. Have you worked on yourself in this area?

[DrugsToGetBig]

that is the tip of the iceberg with women like that. she is far beyond damaged and simply isn't salvageable. run and keep running boyo (ded fkn srs)

[p7nk]

second date and a girl is telling me that.. good bye.. wtf...

[nothingshocking]

I'm trying to get through the mental gymnastics that it's ok to get creampied by your religious arch enemy but the baby cannot be born.

[CremeFraicheBro]

GTF outta there bespokebrah. You can do better

[Silencespeaks]

Yes I’m against abortion (with limited exceptions) and I also think it’s a red flag that she shared that information so soon.

Yes I think you should pass op.

Also there are checklists online for red flags of people with personality disorders. You should look those up and screen your dates if you have a history of choosing bad partners. Not saying this girl has a PD but as to your future dating choices.

[SuperHercules]

Sometimes they can be a good wake up call for young people

A girl I was with just after high school got an abortion based on my recommendation


That's when I adopted the pull out method at certain times of the month and never had another pregnancy scare in at least 20 years and counting

[Silencespeaks]

I wouldn't date a girl who had an abortion unless she was raped or some chit.

Rape I would also say pass because the girl will have long lasting emotional and sexual trauma. Not her fault at all ofc but why would you want to take on that burden. It’s best to pass on highly traumatized people imo.

[imbored205]

Due to the would be father, i respect that decision.

[BohemianSlav]

She should have been smart enough to be on the pill and have the dude wear a condom. You literally don't need an IQ higher than room temperature to prevent unwanted pregnancies. Even then, she could have bought Plan B.

I agree with you it's just that when I see a woman with a kid it's a complete loss of attaction for me and I've talk to legit HBBs, found out shes a single mommy and all of a sudden shes a 0. But yeah on a moral level getting an abortion is worse.