I’m tired of being that guy

[sduego]

For most of my life, I’ve been insecure and sensitive about everything. I’m short, fat, and have a small dik. My self esteem and confidence are at rock bottom. Im more comfortable in my own misery than making any changes. Girls don’t take me seriously or even take an interest in me. Except whales. What can I do ? Unfat myself and build muscle? I just want to feel good about myself and stop seeking approval

[Austin317]

Is your ex girlfriend Indian?

[backinthegymbro]

Im more comfortable in my own misery than making any changes. What can I do ?

Nothing. Like you said, you rather be comfortably miserable than putting in the effort to make a difference.
If that's what you want, then accept it.
Stay miserable and embrace it. It will never change.

[George2100]

Learn how to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. Do something difficult everyday that puts you out of your comfort zone. Also, you should just get in the best shape of your life. You really do gain a ton of confidence when you diet down to a low body fat. It takes discipline, and that will carry over to other aspects of your life. SRS

Bonus: pick up boxing or some other form of individual competition.

[sduego]

Nothing. Like you said, you rather be comfortably miserable than putting in the effort to make a difference.
If that's what you want, then accept it.
Stay miserable and embrace it. It will never change.

I don’t want a diminished life and I don’t want to accept these results anymore. I guess I need to get uncomfortable and force change

[Edlupen]

Bro you're happy with your life? You feels good?? I think this is the important thing...

[Edlupen]

I think your problem may be in seeing a woman as a whale.

[sduego]

I think your problem may be in seeing a woman as a whale.

They’re overweight and they’re all I can get right now. I’m a loser

[sduego]

Bro you're happy with your life? You feels good?? I think this is the important thing...

Not at all. I finally realized that my inaction and poor decisions has lead me to this point

[backinthegymbro]

I don’t want a diminished life and I don’t want to accept these results anymore. I guess I need to get uncomfortable and force change

Well your life is not going to improve while you continue to do nothing and be lazy in your comfort zone. So it's up to you.

[ScottTil]

you gotta find a passion or purpose in your life bro

[sduego]

you gotta find a passion or purpose in your life bro

How do I figure this out? Im lost out here bro

[ScottTil]

How do I figure this out? Im lost out here bro

I dunno man to me it's my work. I somewhat enjoy my career and now look forward to starting my own business. The gives me drive and something to look forward to for the next decade.
Could try focusing on your job or career. Could try mogmaxxing or becoming a family man. Whatever interests you.
Don't focus on misc chit like being short or having a small cock although if you are fat can't hurt to get into shape

and don't call yourself a loser as it will reinforce that belief in your mind

[sduego]

I dunno man to me it's my work. I somewhat enjoy my career and now look forward to starting my own business. The gives me drive and something to look forward to for the next decade.
Could try focusing on your job or career. Could try mogmaxxing or becoming a family man. Whatever interests you.
Don't focus on misc chit like being short or having a small cock although if you are fat can't hurt to get into shape

and don't call yourself a loser as it will reinforce that belief in your mind

I want to pursue a career that drives my focus. I inventoried my strengths but I don’t know how to apply them. There’s a few areas I could pursue but I don’t know where to begin

[navid93]

Yes you should lose weight if you want to become attractive to women. How is this a real question?

[MajorTendonitis]

If you have a micro and your a manlet , take it from me , it’s best to just drink and ldar .
At least this way you don’t get some false hope of actually fitting in and getting laid like most people.
That’s just life son , the cards were dealt and you got a chit hand as I did

[hendrixfreak70]

How little of a peepee we talking here OP?

But I’m all seriousness, find the most bothersome aspect of your life and work it from the top down.

If being overweight is the biggest issue, start there. It’s the easiest to control out of the things you listed.

You’ll get confidence from being in shape.

You’ll also notice the peepee might look bigger.
Unless it’s a micropeen, it’s probably not too big of a deal.


Women will find that confidence attractive. I’m uglier than homemade sin, and I’ve been married for 16 years. I upped my sex rank a few years back by gaining muscle and getting a six pack. The wife digs it. Incidentally, other women did too. Not that I act on that now, but I used. I never cheated, mind you, I just wanted the attention.

[deltakappabrah]

u can be short, small dink, and jacked/shredded OR u can be short, small dink, and fat

ur choice brah

[Ramoneb87]

Why don't you just embrace who you are. Become and enjoy being a chubby chaser, become a modern day Captain Ahab and make harpooning whales your new passion

[backinthegymbro]

I want to pursue a career that drives my focus. I inventoried my strengths but I don’t know how to apply them. There’s a few areas I could pursue but I don’t know where to begin

The reason why you don't know where to begin, is because you haven't even tried putting in any effort try figure out where to start.
Google is filled with information and there is no excuse to still be ignorant in 2020.
You're lazy and you want everything handed to you on a silver platter.
It's the same reason why you're still fat.
Even without all the knowledge in the world, you at least knew you could've ate less/healthier and actually exercised. But you didn't.
And now you're here posting about how you want to change, but you're not actually doing any research about careers and how to get started.

People like you will go no where in life. Waiting for other people to lift them up and carry you to the top.
In this world, you can only rely on yourself and your own hard work.
And you don't like to do the work. You only like to complain while sitting in your own filth.
Not that that's necessarily a bad thing if that's how you want to live your life, but don't waste people's time on here if you're not actually serious about making a change. Stop being fukking lazy.

[sduego]

The reason why you don't know where to begin, is because you haven't even tried putting in any effort try figure out where to start.
Google is filled with information and there is no excuse to still be ignorant in 2020.
You're lazy and you want everything handed to you on a silver platter.
It's the same reason why you're still fat.
Even without all the knowledge in the world, you at least knew you could've ate less/healthier and actually exercised. But you didn't.
And now you're here posting about how you want to change, but you're not actually doing any research about careers and how to get started.

People like you will go no where in life. Waiting for other people to lift them up and carry you to the top.
In this world, you can only rely on yourself and your own hard work.
And you don't like to do the work. You only like to complain while sitting in your own filth.
Not that that's necessarily a bad thing if that's how you want to live your life, but don't waste people's time on here if you're not actually serious about making a change. Stop being fukking lazy.

Thanks for the response. You nailed it

[TooAwkward]

Stop being a sad keiiintt brah, look at it like this, can’t do much about having a little dik but you can change being fat, you can stop feeling sorry for yourself.

Go out and try different things, one doesn’t work another one comes, start the conversation, lead and be funny, no girl wants to sit there listening to your sob story.

Of course whales are gonna show interest regardless because they’re desperate

[JustMoved24]

My 6’0 60 year old father just went from 220 to 180 over the course of a few months. If you are upset about your weight change it. A 60 year old just did it easily. You’re telling me you can’t get skinny? GTFO You limp wrist low T beta

[John$Galt]

Your only priority in life should be diet and lifting. That's completely in your control, and an absolutely necessary foundation on which to improve yourself. Forget about the rest of it and get fit. Unless you're morbidly obese you can do this within 6 months. Nothing else matters. Once you achieve that, then worry about the rest.

Forget about girls, money, game, everything. Get your diet in line and lift weights 5x/week, and hard.

[sam212]

How old are you op? What do you do for work? Finish college? What are your life goals, other than having sex with beautiful women?

[sduego]

How old are you op? What do you do for work? Finish college? What are your life goals, other than having sex with beautiful women?

I’m 31 and I work for a corporate payroll company. I graduated college in 2012 with a degree I didn’t even like. I just stuck it out to get the piece of paper. My only goal in life is to raise a family and relocate somewhere out west. I also want to find a career that is fulfilling

[MilkforBrains]

For most of my life, I’ve been insecure and sensitive about everything. I’m short, fat, and have a small dik. My self esteem and confidence are at rock bottom. Im more comfortable in my own misery than making any changes. Girls don’t take me seriously or even take an interest in me. Except whales. What can I do ? Unfat myself and build muscle? I just want to feel good about myself and stop seeking approval

It's alright pal. We'll all make it.

Just go for a fatty, you said you can get them. They're still women and some hold it well tbh.

[sam212]

I’m 31 and I work for a corporate payroll company. I graduated college in 2012 with a degree I didn’t even like. I just stuck it out to get the piece of paper. My only goal in life is to raise a family and relocate somewhere out west. I also want to find a career that is fulfilling

I can only give you a personal anecdote. You’re 31 and probably fairly set in your career despite not being fulfilling so probably not much you can do unless you hate it and want to go back to school. But I probably wouldn’t recommend that in this economy.

As for everything else, you can turn everything around quickly. You should try to lean out and lift weights, if this a recent avi, shouldn’t take you more than 6 months. It will boost your confidence, give you a hobby. Be serious about it, commit to it. There’s no reason LDAR. You already are a college graduate with a steady job. With getting you fitness in check, you’ll make a big stride. But you have to make changes. If you don’t make changes, nothing will happen. Take it from a former fatty. I weighed 250 plus in my mid 20s.

[skinnyfat88]

I can only give you a personal anecdote. You’re 31 and probably fairly set in your career despite not being fulfilling so probably not much you can do unless you hate it and want to go back to school. But I probably wouldn’t recommend that in this economy.

As for everything else, you can turn everything around quickly. You should try to lean out and lift weights, if this a recent avi, shouldn’t take you more than 6 months. It will boost your confidence, give you a hobby. Be serious about it, commit to it. There’s no reason LDAR. You already are a college graduate with a steady job. With getting you fitness in check, you’ll make a big stride. But you have to make changes. If you don’t make changes, nothing will happen. Take it from a former fatty. I weighed 250 plus in my mid 20s.

Agree with this.

I know you want a quicker/easier fix but there is none.
Get on the fit/healthy lifestyle train and the confidence you gain from that will begin to flow into other aspects of life.

[Luc1fer]

man up boyo