What’s the longest distance you would date?

[Austin317]

I live in a weird location where there’s 8 miles of sea that separates me and a huge city so whenever I’m on dating apps of course I’m going to search outside of 8 miles but quite often I get girls from across the sea. Unfortunately if you want to get there it takes over an hour depending on traffic. Could a relationship be maintained given there is an hour at the absolute bare minimum distance?

[smashedurgfx10]

it depends what you think she's worth. I wouldn't mind driving 45min a few times a week for a girl i was into - but that's also because i kind of like driving, especially at night.

i'd probably also do an hour in your case, again if i thought she was worth it. what else are you gonna be doing at home.

if you want to feel productive, take a podcast/learn a language in the car - then you won't feel like it's time wasted.

[soberchuck]

Did 50 miles once, annoying but manageable.

[Austin317]

it depends what you think she's worth. I wouldn't mind driving 45min a few times a week for a girl i was into - but that's also because i kind of like driving, especially at night.

i'd probably also do an hour in your case, again if i thought she was worth it. what else are you gonna be doing at home.

if you want to feel productive, take a podcast/learn a language in the car - then you won't feel like it's time wasted.

I hate driving, especially at night. It would probably throw my gym routine off a bit where I’m having to go different days instead and I’d have to be up for work earlier the next day if I stayed over there or something. Am I just being a bit too picky with the way I’m acting over this?

Supposed to be meeting up with some girl over the next couple of weeks that lives an hour away and I wouldn’t want to waste my time going up there if in the long run it’s not actually feasible.

All of that being said I suppose it comes down to how much she may be worth to me.

[smashedurgfx10]

I hate driving, especially at night. It would probably throw my gym routine off a bit where I’m having to go different days instead and I’d have to be up for work earlier the next day if I stayed over there or something. Am I just being a bit too picky with the way I’m acting over this?

Supposed to be meeting up with some girl over the next couple of weeks that lives an hour away and I wouldn’t want to waste my time going up there if in the long run it’s not actually feasible.

All of that being said I suppose it comes down to how much she may be worth to me.

I'd try it for a few weeks at least. See if you like her enough

Surely she can drive down sometimes as well

[Austin317]

I'd try it for a few weeks at least. See if you like her enough

Surely she can drive down sometimes as well

It might not work with this girl but I use it as an example because it happens quite often where I just kind of write them off if they’re too far but maybe I should try at least, then I can figure out whether it’s something that could work in the long run.

[Kev1972]

Doing 100 miles now but she comes to mine a lot. Big plus is she lives close to an area I love. Winter driving will be tough but I get a lot of vacation time. So we get a lot of 4 day weekends. She's beautiful, got a great job, very motivated, and takes excellent care of herself. Working two real jobs with 2 side hustles and has 2 masters degrees. Makes me feel like a bum because my life is pretty chill.

[MirinCanadian99]

Right now it takes me about 25-30 mins to drive to this girls place I'm dating. I'd say that's the max I'm willing to drive. Anything above that and it starts getting rough.

[SweetDreamz]

My definition of of long distance is if you have to hop on a plane to see them, gtfo here w/ 45min car drive lol

I did long distance once and would NEVER do it again. My limit is 30 miles max, and he would have to come to me initially. If you’re a man and don’t mind driving you can probably do this range. Depends if you’re in a big city or not as well, traffic can be a bish.

Unless one of y’all can drop everything move closer together but most people can’t and don’t make that commitment until marriage so not worth it imo.

[randomuser12345]

if i'm into a girl maybe 30km. If it's just casual dating 10mins of commute.

[Brosnbroccoli]

If I’m in love the distance is irrelevant, I have to follow my heart (no homo) (srs).
If I’m not in love and it’s just someone to date with the potential to fall in love, I would say MAX 45 mins each way.

[skinnyfat88]

I did 3 hours when I was younger.

Now that I have a kid I would never do long distance. Maybe 45 min drive max.

[Lipee]

if its worth, i dont mind the ride.

[Austin317]

Seems for the most part an hour is kinda the average people would look at taking seriously.

Supposed to be meeting up in a week or two if we’re still speaking by then. We’ve been messaging for about a month now literally one message every day or two, feels weird to be going to meet someone considering how little we’ve spoke in a sense. Usually text quite a lot prior to meeting chicks. First time meeting up with a new girl since like July, feels like a lifetime lol