What would you do if your partner values animals more..

[jiujitsubro]

Than you do?

Example: owns a husky and 4 cats. Wakes up
At odd excessive hours to take care of them.
Calls them “babies.”

Getting to the point that the quality of relationship is poor? Anyone have experienced this?

[jtaylor2010]

Would need more details, could mean she’s responsible and caring/would be a good mother. As mentioned above though, it could also be a red flag. Why would a person need to wake up in the middle of the night to take care of dogs & cats?

[dolvioblue]

Would need more details, could mean she’s responsible and caring/would be a good mother. As mentioned above though, it could also be a red flag. Why would a person need to wake up in the middle of the night to take care of dogs & cats?

Because they have to pee or could be sick.

[dolvioblue]

A women who values animals more than people is a major, major red flag ..

For example, if they have in their dating bio:
"Animals over people"

It means they have no trust in people or have been severely damaged/hurt in the past. Run, far away. I'm speaking from exprience as well.

Zero point to this response.

[jiujitsubro]

Because they have to pee or could be sick.

The first yes. Can’t keep control of dog.

[Austin317]

I’ve been with a girl who was dog crazy before. Never again. It’s too much.

[Imnew1]

I've loved every pet I ever had like most normal people but it can obviously be an extreme on either end.

Dog is man's best friend, so it's kind of cool if you meet a girl who owns a dog and is a normal dog owner. However, it's totally disgusting if you have a girl who lets her dog lick her on the lips, has to take her dog everywhere she goes, her whole car or house smells like her dog, all that kind of stuff. It's an equal turn off if they just get a dog for show and don't give a flying **** about it. My recent ex had a yorkie when we first met and I thought that was cool since I grew up with them and thought I had found a family girl who was cool being single just taking care of her dog vs being a sloot. Turns out she always had a bf and jumped from bf to bf and would just dump her dog off on the neighbors to go out and have her fun. As soon as we started dating she just gave her dog away to her neighbors so she wouldn't have to deal with it. Looking back it showed me how easily she discards people like they meant nothing if she could do that to her own dog.

So yeah, owning a dog and loving it is perfectly fine. Being unavailable for normal circumstance dating expectations if they're sick or dying, yeah tell your gf or bf to fk off if they have a problem with you taking care of a dying pet that's been a part of your life for 10+ years. Having to spend all day long with your pet, have them kiss you on the lips, have a car that stinks, post them all over social media, bring them to every party, yeah also tell that gf or bf to fk off as that's not normal.

Disregard everything MaxTribute wrote. That's just Sandman. His sloot Indian ex gf had every red flag in the book and left him for a Chad, so in his mind everything she did is a red flag for all others to heed. "She wore Nike's..........huge major red flag let me tell from experience bro."

[dolvioblue]

A women who values animals more than people is a major, major red flag ..

For example, if they have in their dating bio:
"Animals over people"

It means they have no trust in people or have been severely damaged/hurt in the past. Run, far away. I'm speaking from exprience as well.

LOL oh sandman

[NitrogenWidget]

Than you do?

Example: owns a husky and 4 cats. Wakes up
At odd excessive hours to take care of them.
Calls them “babies.”

Getting to the point that the quality of relationship is poor? Anyone have experienced this?

without exception, every one of those women i met and dated turned out to be bat-chit cray cray.

[jiujitsubro]

without exception, every one of those women i met and dated turned out to be bat-chit cray cray.

Damn. Well that sucks because this is a girl I’m talking to. It’s weird that she’s “that” into animals. Other girls ive dated or talked to weren’t as obsessed. Literally every dollar she has goes towards her animals to the point she’s almost broke.

[MirinCanadian99]

Communicate with her that her relationship with her pets is affecting our relationship. She can do what she wants with that information but if she doesn't change I'll simply break up and find someone who values me more over some pet. I don't believe in ultimatums because they usually push someone deeper into their lifestyle.

[Austin317]

Damn. Well that sucks because this is a girl I’m talking to. It’s weird that she’s “that” into animals. Other girls ive dated or talked to weren’t as obsessed. Literally every dollar she has goes towards her animals to the point she’s almost broke.

I agree that girls who take things like this so seriously and absolutely LOVE their animals can seem a bit unhinged. It’s okay to like your animals a normal amount but when you become obsessed and love that animal like a baby it’s really bad. When my exes dog died her dad called her up crying down the phone saying I need to bring her home immediately because he can’t deal with what’s happening lol, get back to her house and it’s like someone’s been massacred with the way the whole family were acting. Throughout that night the dog was left in her house after it died and she woke up several times throughout the night to go downstairs and sleep next to it.....this was a tell tale sign she was crazy lol.

You need to prove to your girlfriend that the dog is inferior to you. Put it in an arm triangle and show you’re the dominant one.

[Jasonw1178]

You should love your animals differently than you do your significant other.

I know a girl who was dating a guy, and after he moved in he told her how he didn't like cats, was allergic, and told her to get rid of them. She put him on his ass.

Guy I know, his GF told him to get rid of his dog. He got rid of her.

I also know this girl who got rid of her dog because it kept growling at her new husband. He ended up beating her half to death. Dog knew. Really sad.

[jiujitsubro]

I agree that girls who take things like this so seriously and absolutely LOVE their animals can seem a bit unhinged. It’s okay to like your animals a normal amount but when you become obsessed and love that animal like a baby it’s really bad. When my exes dog died her dad called her up crying down the phone saying I need to bring her home immediately because he can’t deal with what’s happening lol, get back to her house and it’s like someone’s been massacred with the way the whole family were acting. Throughout that night the dog was left in her house after it died and she woke up several times throughout the night to go downstairs and sleep next to it.....this was a tell tale sign she was crazy lol.

You need to prove to your girlfriend that the dog is inferior to you. Put it in an arm triangle and show you’re the dominant one.

Ok so mount on girl with dog in a rear naked choke to assume dominance.

Brilliant.

[skinnyfat88]

I think pets is an area many people don't bother with prioritizing finding someone who shares the same views as you but we probably should.

100% they cause tension in relationships when you get pets and one person doesn't actually want them. Not saying you can't communicate and find common ground/compromise but still.

My experience with a pet left me with a very sour view on ever getting one again.

I'm allergic and our lease stated no pets (other people in the building had pets though so it was just the unit owner who didn't want any not the building itself).
My ex got a cat anyways.
Months of poor sleep (eventually I got used to it). Place felt less clean. Felt like you had to be home to spend a certain amount of time with it. Did not set boundaries so cat always jumped on our bed at night and woke me up. Ex used wanting to cuddle with cat as an excuse not to be intimate. When we broke up I missed the cat as despite the fact I never wanted it I became attached to it.

Obviously many of these issues were relationship problems and not the pet itself but either way, I'd prefer never to date anyone seriously who has a pet.

[XiangYu]

I think pets is an area many people don't bother with prioritizing finding someone who shares the same views as you but we probably should.

100% they cause tension in relationships when you get pets and one person doesn't actually want them. Not saying you can't communicate and find common ground/compromise but still.

My experience with a pet left me with a very sour view on ever getting one again.

I'm allergic and our lease stated no pets (other people in the building had pets though so it was just the unit owner who didn't want any not the building itself).
My ex got a cat anyways.
Months of poor sleep (eventually I got used to it). Place felt less clean. Felt like you had to be home to spend a certain amount of time with it. Did not set boundaries so cat always jumped on our bed at night and woke me up. Ex used wanting to cuddle with cat as an excuse not to be intimate. When we broke up I missed the cat as despite the fact I never wanted it I became attached to it.

Obviously many of these issues were relationship problems and not the pet itself but either way, I'd prefer never to date anyone seriously who has a pet.

Did your ex cleaned the cat poop all the time? Did she ever demanded you to do it?
Did the cat went toilet at night and woke you up?

[Jasonw1178]

Someone can't accept your pets, don't accept them. Usually a red flag for OCD and other issues like controlling natures.

I'm allergic and our lease stated no pets....

LOL @ leasing. She needs to find a man that owns him home.
LOL @ being "allergic". That's what all animal haters say to try to be a victim. "I don't really hate animals, I can't help it". I've seen people who were fine until they found out someone had a cat, then they start picking at their face and crap making red marks and blaming the cat. STFU. Also it's the dander that people may have an allergy to, and it's mild at best. If it's that bad you need to seek treatment. Medical is free in Canada so I have serious doubts about you being allergic.

[S_H_A_D_O_W]

yea dated girls where they let the dogs in the bed etc. its an annoyance that will chip at you day by day. Not worth it long term.

[Icepops81]

yea dated girls where they let the dogs in the bed etc. its an annoyance that will chip at you day by day. Not worth it long term.

Agree totally. I dated a woman for a year. She had 3 wiener dogs. Thought I could handle it and let her move into my house. A year later I had to ask her to move out. It wasn’t only the dogs believe me, but it was a huge part of it. She and I agreed on no dogs in the bed. I’d come home from out of town and there’d be dog hair everywhere. Not to mention all the carpet I had to replace once she was gone.