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11-20-2020, 10:15 PM #1
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11-21-2020, 01:31 AM #2
we've all been there bro. my ex told me about her ex and it was really disturbing. she had to get it off her chest because she felt guilty, but it made me lose a lot of respect for her. I couldn't even get hard anymore for a few weeks. She had a lot of good things going for her and redeeming qualities so she's not horrible, that's why I stayed with her. I gave her sh*x about it for about 2 and a half months, and by about 4 months I completely got over it. I don't know your story, but you can get over it too and go back to normal.
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11-21-2020, 10:43 AM #3
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11-21-2020, 11:41 AM #4
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11-21-2020, 08:47 PM #5
Pretty close here. Not “biggest I ever had” but she accidentally confirmed her last serious boyfriend before me had a huge dik. I’m average 6” nothing to complain about but it did a number on my psyche. She didn’t say it maliciously or in a way that suggested she preferred his member, it was just a thoughtless comment she let slip.
Only reason I’m trying to work through it is everything else in the relationship is perfect. Great chemistry, sex is good etc. We were drinking and somehow started talking about condoms and she let slip something about the magnums her ex used to wear. I called her on it and she immediately got flustered and told me she prefers mine and I’m perfect and bending over backward to make me not think it’s a big deal.
But as any guy knows, hearing something like that kind of takes the wind out of your sails.
Other than that one offhand comment she has given me no indication by anything she’s done or said to signal that she’s unhappy with my size. In fact she says sex is better with me than her ex and that I’m literally perfect for her. But now that that seed has been planted it’s hard to not let the thought/image haunt me.
Trying to process so I can get back to having a happy healthy relationship.
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11-21-2020, 08:58 PM #6
My ex told me she would have sex dreams after they broke up, apparently it was a hot relationship. After she got over it, she was disgusted by him. Had 0 interest
I promise you that you’re in the same boat. It’s just in the past, Leave it there or you will go nuts
She also told me it can be painful the bigger they get, so as long as you know what you’re doing and can get her off, don’t sweat it. If you can’t, figure it out quickly- Disregard females, acquire real estate
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11-21-2020, 10:26 PM #7
Yeah, next. Don't care if it slipped, don't care if you were drinking, don't even care if you care. Disrespect me and you're dismissed. Sex , "chemistry", and all that fun stuff is a dime a dozen out here. Literally.
I want respect, that's bare minimum. Can't provide that? You can't provide anything.
I commend you however on your commitment to your relationship, well done.
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11-22-2020, 12:26 AM #8
Thanks bro. Yeah she is all over me, we have it on the daily and she certainly seems to get off every time.
I know it’s all in my head. It’s like a brain bug that I can’t kill.
It’s a serious relationship with marriage/kids talk etc so I’m not thinking about ending it over this. I’m just trying to get over this kick to my ego. When I start thinking about it I kind of lose my mojo and confidence.
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11-22-2020, 02:17 AM #9
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11-22-2020, 04:03 AM #10
One mistake doesn’t change everything. Women don’t sit around fantasizing about their ex’s dik. We think they do. Women are more interested in who their partner now is as a whole package and this is what gets them off in a relationship. Most women pick a dik size other than huge for a long term relationship. Also, at 6 inches we know our women have had bigger than this so don’t be naive but also at this size she may feel it’s very full filling. She has no idea you are 6 and probably thinks 7.5... She’s already told her friends sex is amazing with you and all the things you do to please her so keep your head up high. This isn’t like porn where the entire focus is on how big the guys dik is. You have no idea what areas he was unable to satisfy her in... be a lover, tease her, seduce her, focus on her and leave her exhausted... not even worth caring about this man.
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11-22-2020, 04:26 AM #11
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11-22-2020, 04:56 AM #12
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11-22-2020, 05:36 AM #13
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11-22-2020, 06:05 AM #15
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11-22-2020, 06:27 AM #16
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11-22-2020, 07:01 AM #17
I'm with dolvbioblue on this one. I mean obviously there's an issue in my brain because I made the thread. But like I said it's a serious relationship, not a random hook up.
And let me be real with y'all and myself: I'm 40. I'm not going to be dating any 18yo virgins. Any girl I'd date will have a past. So it's either deal with it or be alone forever.
There's literally no problem except for the one that exists in my head/ego...so no I'm not going to casually throw her away over one comment.
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11-22-2020, 07:25 AM #18
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11-22-2020, 08:29 AM #19
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11-22-2020, 08:36 AM #20
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11-22-2020, 08:46 AM #21
yeah OP it's hard, same thoughts happened to me in the past so you're not alone when I was dating a girl and she mentioned her ex but you gotta realize women are very in the moment creatures and they all have a pretty bad sexual past unless she's religious or not westernized. like a poster said "ignorance is bliss", as long as she's making you cum ropes, is a decent person and seems trustworthy you gotta just let go of her past because women in general are never 100% honest about it. You're 40 too, at that age i'd just want a girl with superior genetics to reproduce with srs. Good luck
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11-22-2020, 08:53 AM #22
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11-22-2020, 09:33 AM #24
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11-22-2020, 09:34 AM #25
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11-22-2020, 06:34 PM #26
You don’t have to think about it. How do you even know or not if she thinks you have a big dik? Maybe she does...? I can bet you that if things are going well for both of you her friends think you have a great dik. You’re 40, you know this stuff won’t matter on your death bed... it’s so hard to find anyone worth spending time with man if you love her be blessed she’s in your life.
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11-22-2020, 08:47 PM #27
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This sounds extreme but really it’s not.
You already have the seed in your head bro, get out before you get more invested.
I had the seed in my head with my ex, and then one day a few months later when we were just joking around she made a drunk comment about my size, and that was it for me.
Wasn’t that I was super insecure Persay, but I had known that she had dudes bigger than me and then that comment forever broke the illusion and I had nothing but disgust.
It will only be matter of time before she slips up again and you will either take it like a cuck the next time or break things off after being even more invested.
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11-22-2020, 10:42 PM #28
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11-22-2020, 11:07 PM #30
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