Definitely I hear ya man. Not sure why I still get nervous every date my age. I work on it but think it’s in my dna, I don’t think people can tell that much though. My banter lately is good maybe 33% of the time depending on my mood. When I’m happier I’m better but that seems to be my main challenge. All the best brah keep us posted on your next dates when you inevitably line them up.
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Thread: Matches have pretty much died ³
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12-08-2022, 02:24 PM #6421
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12-08-2022, 02:26 PM #6422
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12-08-2022, 02:35 PM #6423
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12-08-2022, 03:34 PM #6424
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12-08-2022, 04:49 PM #6425
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12-08-2022, 05:54 PM #6426
Yea bro I understand where you’re coming from. From my view, she took 3 days to reply so if I reply tomorrow that seems fine (will be 2 days for me)
I agree it’s dumb but in reality responding in one day after she took a while seems off putting. Either way tomorrow feels good to reach out to see if we can line something up this coming week.
Gonna head out with hinge girl now.
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12-08-2022, 05:57 PM #6427
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12-08-2022, 06:40 PM #6428
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12-08-2022, 08:25 PM #6429
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12-08-2022, 08:38 PM #6430
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12-09-2022, 09:42 AM #6431
So many options on the apps for women. It either got buried beneath 30 other messages or they're focusing on someone else at the moment.
Nothing you can do really.
Personally I put a bit of effort into my first message or two in an effort to stand out that way. There are other philosophies re how to navigate the apps but I've found that has worked for me.
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12-09-2022, 12:42 PM #6432
Yeah, there was a pretty active Tinder thread on the Misc in years gone by that was pretty funny but also probably would have been pretty helpful if I hadn't been in a LTR at the time.
I thought I remembered reading in that thread at one point that messaging them right after matching was the way to go, but that hasn't made any difference so far. Granted, I messaged two people. Haha.
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12-09-2022, 03:59 PM #6433
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12-09-2022, 08:22 PM #6434
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12-09-2022, 09:58 PM #6435
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12-10-2022, 04:43 PM #6436
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12-10-2022, 05:46 PM #6437
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12-12-2022, 01:56 PM #6438
hahaha.. you don't need a therapist. You just need to relax and don't overthink. Sooner or later you will burn out with thinking too much. Mid thirties is still young. If you are in no rush to start a family then just take your time. Finding someone that is compatible with you is hard and you want to make sure that she is the right person for you.
PS there are introverted women out there too.
Glad you had fun! When is the next date?
You are not selfish. Wanting a woman without kids is your preference. Everyone has preferences. Have fun!
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12-12-2022, 08:49 PM #6439
I agree I need to relax. totally agree I have some time. It’s not helpful to rush things or panic, and to lament over not being at a certain stage at this part of my life (sometimes I find myself falling in that mental trap). We all have our own journey. I do like introverts I just usually tend to attract the outgoing girls. Open to either type as long as we have enough in common.
So I thought the hinge date younger girl date went well..then I thought she was ghosting me. I texted her Sat afternoon and she didn’t reply until today. I was going to write her off but she says she’s down to meet again and seems enthusiastic. I know she’s a self proclaimed “bad texter” but I’m not a fan of that. Still I would like to see her as overall she seems like a cool person and we had a fun time. But not texting back for two days is not great. Haven’t replied back yet.
Restaurant girl replied to my dm at first. I wrote back to suggest a meetup day and she hasn’t looked for a few days so I’m not really thinking she’s down. Or maybe she’s just too busy. Not too worried about it tbh.
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12-13-2022, 05:48 AM #6440
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12-13-2022, 08:24 AM #6441
To be honest. Girls gets so many requests and texts on socials that it can get crowded or she just don't notice. I myself don't put notifications on for any app that I use. I find it annoying. She could have legitimately just didn't even know you messaged her.
Matching the energy in the circumstance could be a mistake. Text her back and confirm the plans.
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12-13-2022, 09:33 AM #6442
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12-13-2022, 12:48 PM #6443
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12-13-2022, 03:09 PM #6444
This. I wouldn't necessarily give up completely based on this one time, but if it becomes a pattern in the near term, then bail. I definitely know girls who have hundreds of unread texts at any given time, not because they're juggling tons of guys but because they're texting a dozen friends and have a bunch of group chats going, etc. Things are bound to slip through the cracks (I know they do for me and I don't have anywhere near that number of texts at a time). If she's truly interested after another date, she'll make sure things don't fall through the cracks.
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12-14-2022, 09:55 AM #6445
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12-14-2022, 12:06 PM #6446
I reassessed things and decided to text her back the day after she replied. I mentioned a plan and a couple options of times for this weekend. We’ll see what she comes back with (texted her last night)
She seems like a cool person. At the least she’s someone I can have some drinks with and get to know. I’m willing to see where it goes.
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12-26-2022, 09:13 PM #6447
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12-27-2022, 06:37 AM #6448
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12-29-2022, 01:44 PM #6449
InsanePain11, you're a big overthinker. So am I.
It's a trait that helps in certain aspects of life, but it's detrimental in others -- notably relationships.
You have to recognize it and consciously let go to a large extent.
I tend to overthink decisions, but seems like you overanalyze intent more.𝕮𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖈𝖍𝖊𝖈𝕶, 𝖓𝖊𝖛𝖊𝖗 𝖈𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖇𝖎𝖙𝖈𝖍
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12-29-2022, 03:11 PM #6450
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