I 100% agree with you. Some stuff is common sense. I know this girl (not very close friend) that used to jog around 10pm in our ghetto neighborhood (lots of drive by shootings and robberies). Luckily nothing happened to her.
I understand that people have different upbringings. That is why we have many different groups of people out there with different views. I gave my views and you gave yours. I don't go out and tell people not to do it. I just stick to my own group of people. This thread is just something that I can let people know that there are still people out there that are traditional. And yes I would raise the kids, clean and cook if I have to take on the role.
Here's a scenario. If you had a daughter (middle school or high school) would you tell her to go out, have fun and have sex with as many people as she meets? Maybe we should not set boundaries on kids and let them explore all the way to adulthood.
Agree. Shaming can be good in some ways.
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02-21-2021, 02:24 PM #1651
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02-21-2021, 02:41 PM #1652
I never said anything about a daughter in middle or high school going to have sex with as many people as possible. That’s a far stretch to anything I said. Odd response actually.
And no, shaming is not good in any way. Teaching and mentoring is much better. Shaming is terrible. Kids grow up with issues this way.Woke
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02-21-2021, 03:10 PM #1653
Well yes I do suffer from mental illness. Part of it is genetic and part of it is environmental as I chose a stressful career and live with my ex. It's really upsetting when people just call you "crazy" and disregard you.
I've been in group therapy and there were many who were worse off than me, unable to work and on disability, yet they still had supportive spouses and partners. I need to find someone like that. Obviously when I'm taking medication 6x a day and going to therapy each week, it's hard to hide what's going on.
And you calling me "crazy" is really not supportive and not helpful at all, which shows the empathy of most men out there.
At least I'm getting treatment. There are a lot of people with mental illness out there who aren't in treatment and just create chaos and misery for those around them.
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02-21-2021, 03:22 PM #1654
1. If a woman goes to a strange guys place as an initial meet, it's highly irresponsible and wreckless behavior. Literally going 1:1 to a dude who can physically overpower and sexually assault you. Do you think that's responsible behavior?
2. If a woman exhibits promiscuous or hyper-sexual behavior, it's a strong indicator towards her views on sex. i.e. sex is merely a act for pleasure. Thus, I can with some confidence, derive a higher probability of cheating on me. That said, I think establishing her principals and values trumps this rule-of-thumb. It is obviously possible that she has high integrity and would not cheat, even if she diminishes sex to mere pleasure.
So rather than dismissing these views as "prudish" (rolls eyes, because I've heard this blind rhetoric from 22yo sluts), let's engage on the logical consistency of the positions.𝕮𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖈𝖍𝖊𝖈𝕶, 𝖓𝖊𝖛𝖊𝖗 𝖈𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖇𝖎𝖙𝖈𝖍
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02-21-2021, 03:22 PM #1655
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02-21-2021, 03:36 PM #1656
I'm not getting any younger and losing my looks, so it's now or never really to find a man I'm attracted to. Once you get older you're competing with a limited pool of men with other widows. After having a very unhappy marriage, I would like to meet a supportive partner at one point in my life. I have white knights and orbiters around my age that I'm not attracted to for seem to be FA, but worst case scenario I could settle with them. I think they would be supportive and eventually who cares about looks when you're both grey and wrinkly.
Now granted many who are understanding are addicts, like the former ******* dealer, who is thankfully 2 years clean, and meth user, who is 4 years clean, who went to high school with me. They would block and unblock me and created so much drama and chaos because they still had addictive personalities, even though they are clean and in NA.
I also crave physical touch and sex, so why should I be celibate? That's even more depressing when you suffer from depression.
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02-21-2021, 05:36 PM #1657
update for those wondering about the girl ive mentioned dating over the last two pages: we have a date scheduled for thursday. it's our third date and she likes plants and gardens and stuff so i found an indoor botanical garden that does a light show/display at night so we are going to do that later this week, have a few drinks and dinner and hang. looking forward to it, guess she really is just a slow mover.
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02-21-2021, 05:50 PM #1658
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02-21-2021, 08:04 PM #1665
I mean it depends what region of California. I'm in the most liberal area I think.
Pretty much every profile says liberal and atheist. Ugh. It's the agnostic and atheists who try to change my mind about Christianity on the first date. I know I talked to Skinnyfat about this ITT, but it happened again during my date yesterday. That happens with every first date with an older guy, whereas the younger guys don't even care of course as they just want sex.
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02-21-2021, 08:17 PM #1666
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02-21-2021, 08:19 PM #1667
Yes I have been doing intensive Bible study for years now. I know my lifestyle doesn't match traditional Christian values though before Miscers come at me. I talked with my minister about my lifestyle. He of course said that my staying living with my husband would create a lot of depression, which it has. But when I moved out I had a ton of anxiety and bulimia, so the mental illness didn't just disappear.
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02-21-2021, 08:33 PM #1668
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02-21-2021, 10:12 PM #1675
He said did the same with his ex so he understands.
Hell he slept over at his exes house last night and went skiing with her today. It's not like I can say anything.
It's very expensive to live in my area, so many people live with their ex until they can sell the house. And then you really have nowhere to go except a condo that would cost you $800K. It's really bad.
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02-21-2021, 10:17 PM #1676
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02-21-2021, 10:21 PM #1677
Mostly the northern part of Cali but I will probably venture out lol
Yeah. Most liberals are that way. One of the reasons why I shut it down right away. Luckily most liberal men are push overs and stop right away. Sad tbh. They really don’t understand that it is so unattractive for a man to allow a woman to walk over them. Well. Anyone lol-SS is jealous of me crew-
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02-21-2021, 10:23 PM #1678
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02-21-2021, 10:34 PM #1679
1. You literally gave an example of going to a woman's place on a first meet, and the context was also about initial meets.
2. It's all related. You asked why I'd lose respect for her, or for allowing her boobs to be groped. Going to a guy's place on a first date is inviting sex. Let's not beat around the bush here, we're talking about sexual activity with someone you barely know.𝕮𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖈𝖍𝖊𝖈𝕶, 𝖓𝖊𝖛𝖊𝖗 𝖈𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖇𝖎𝖙𝖈𝖍
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02-21-2021, 10:40 PM #1680
1: yes I’ve gone to a woman’s place I don’t really know. This happens thousands of times a day in the world, and what’s happening? Not much. More people are harmed in relationships than one nights stands or hookups or blind dates combined I bet.
2: sex, sure. Some people like to have it and don’t need to be in a relationship to do so.
I don’t spend any time thinking about this stuff dude. People can do whatever they want as I don’t make the rules. There is no rules.Woke
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