Matches have pretty much died ³

[DustinTheHuss]

This 50 year old guy who plays tennis kept pushing to play tennis "and then have fun after". He had that stupid 'Sex Positivity' in his profile so I said look, if I want a FWB I'll get a young dude but any guy over 40 is LTR territory.

He said, "maybe we shouldn't meet". LOL.

I do have a 31 year old Dr. in SF who wants to meet on Friday so we'll see how that goes.

[imbored21]

This 50 year old guy who plays tennis kept pushing to play tennis "and then have fun after". He had that stupid 'Sex Positivity' in his profile so I said look, if I want a FWB I'll get a young dude but any guy over 40 is LTR territory.

He said, "maybe we shouldn't meet". LOL.

I do have a 31 year old Dr. in SF who wants to meet on Friday so we'll see how that goes.

Do you have pics of these guys? Genuinely curious. No offense but you're ugly as hell. I wouldn't touch you with a 10 foot pole. I can't believe you get more action than me tbh.

[DustinTheHuss]

Do you have pics of these guys? Genuinely curious. No offense but you're ugly as hell. I wouldn't touch you with a 10 foot pole. I can't believe you get more action than me tbh.

Why would you say something so cruel to someone, online or not? I never would say that to anyone in a million years.

Obviously I looked better in my 20s. I’m in my 50s.



If you don’t think that looks good for 52 then I don’t know when to tell you

[Eggiesinabasket]

Thanks! We got some Mexican food and drinks. It went decent although she spent a lot of time talking about how she’s about to quit her job, and how supposedly all these girls are starting gossip about her etc etc, saying she ‘dresses too nice’ and only cares about money. I kind of gave her a pass about the complaining because I could tell she’s been stressed. Towards the end we went for a walk and I kissed her. Thought that went well and I suggested over text to see her soon. She ended up saying she didn’t feel a romantic connection, she was nice about it. It stung for a minute but I don’t think we were right for each other long term.

I hear you. I’ve met a few girls on hinge I’ve enjoyed talking to for a while, but nothing lasting. I agree it’s tough on there to find the right person. I’ve often blamed myself for that but it’s hard.

I guess she made you into her therapist by the sounds of it. But at least she was straight forward, kind (like you said) and respected you enough to give you closure/a reason instead of just ghosting.

It’ll work out in the end, rejection is a way of filtration on both ends. And hmmm, a relationship is like a machine that takes two parts to work: yourself AND your partner. If one just one part is broken (you or her), doesn’t fit, or both are broken… the machine can’t work. The machine only works if both parts work.

So it could be a mismatch of parts not fitting…. Or dysfunctional parts on their end. Or if can be yourself too—which is a hard way look at it. It never hurts to check in with yourself in some self reflection too to see if you’re seeking connection in a healthy way. Dating is just hard, brings out the worst in people, and can also bring out the shadows in yourself too

[InsanePain11]

I guess she made you into her therapist by the sounds of it. But at least she was straight forward, kind (like you said) and respected you enough to give you closure/a reason instead of just ghosting.

It’ll work out in the end, rejection is a way of filtration on both ends. And hmmm, a relationship is like a machine that takes two parts to work: yourself AND your partner. If one just one part is broken (you or her), doesn’t fit, or both are broken… the machine can’t work. The machine only works if both parts work.

So it could be a mismatch of parts not fitting…. Or dysfunctional parts on their end. Or if can be yourself too—which is a hard way look at it. It never hurts to check in with yourself in some self reflection too to see if you’re seeking connection in a healthy way. Dating is just hard, brings out the worst in people, and can also bring out the shadows in yourself too

Yea, a bit of a mismatch. She was just stressed leaving her job. She didn’t have the best attitude tbh during the date but I understand. I think the attraction lured me to asking her out again but I had second thoughts before. Not sweating that one. I couldn’t picture us together long term, not a lot in common either. But I wish her well.

[imbored21]

Why would you say something so cruel to someone, online or not? I never would say that to anyone in a million years.

Obviously I looked better in my 20s. I’m in my 50s.



If you don’t think that looks good for 52 then I don’t know when to tell you

[4North1Side2]

My Hinge is full of pretty model like women but I don't even bother talking to thrm