Dear Miscers Seeking Wives

[katya422]

Resident misc granny here bored of another "female body count" thread.

There isn't one single reliable factor to find the right wifey for you. Yeah, there are "red flags" to watch out for and you may absolutely have your own personal preferences.

But by putting up more and more "gates" to filter your choices you may reduce your pool of likely candidates down to a point where you can't find anyone at all either due to chance or your own personal value vs. the value of the women you are pursuing.

There are still some good ones out there. I think there must be since good parents mostly raise good kids.

If you are serious about wanting to have a family the common factors I've seen in relationships that last are:

Attraction: Doesn't matter if other people think your choice is hot, just if you think she is attractive. Attraction can start with face + body, but it can also be things like sound of her voice, how she moves, a sparkle in her eyes, the way she dresses, etc. etc. etc.

Good Character: Does she have integrity? Loyalty? Kindness? Perseverance? Bravery? Openness? You may have some others that matter to you. Those first few matter quite a bit though. If she keeps her word, isn't two-faced, wouldn't intentionally lash out at someone who is down, and doesn't quit at the first hard situation, or the second, then you have a better chance of making it.

Shared Vision: Do you want the same thing? Share the way that you prioritize? This is big.

If you can't imagine a life with kids or a life without them then you want to know if you are on the same page early. Is religion important to you and are your partners desires around faith compatible? Do you want to always live near your family or do you want to tramp around until something clicks? Maybe there is someplace that you have always wanted to live. Do you expect to share all of the work (earning money, keeping house, childcare, money management) or are there areas that you want primary control of, or want minimal involvement with? Talk that out. Maybe you both want children, but neither one wants to be a stay home parent. Could be that you can arrange your jobs/work schedules so that you both share in child rearing, or maybe you hire someone or use outside childcare.

That's it. It might be nice to think that her education level, number of previous partners, parents' marriage, or size of her arms will guarantee your "happily ever after" marriage. Real life doesn't work like that.

Pics of a woman I found on Insta while looking at pics of RVs.

About 5 years ago:



She met a man (fellow outdoor enthusiast/hiker), fell in love, got married.

He is a welder and travels to jobsites. They wanted to keep their family together, so they bought a toyhauler and took to the road:



Over the years they have had 3 children (which has to be very challenging under the circumstances) and they seem happy together:



Don't trip yourself up with a bunch of superficial BS.

[mikebadg3]

I am more set on smashing and less about a committed relationship. Nothing uber serious

I am 25

Your window theory makes sense tho i been smashing fatties and it feel just as good

[ByAssociation]

Nice post you can apply to be my second wife if you want

[ChangeOfStyle]

Misc granny? Groce

[kimm4]

Misc granny? Groce

Careful...

[bfdehewdbyywhn]

would rather beat my meat OP

[prbrah]

Great advice from the OP. I was part of the "no hymen no diamond" crew a few years back. Against all the odds, I met a 25 year old girl who checked all the misc boxes. Virgin, sweet, caring, got up at 5am to workout most days (srs), came from a good family, had money (over 2mil in her stock account), everything. Figured I hit the jackpot. After two years of dating and living with each other for a year, I realized we just weren't the best match. She would do anything for me, and I would do (almost) anything for her, but I just wasn't feeling it anymore. Had to cut it off. Sucks but like OP said, there's no formula for a perfect match.

I think we could have made it work, but that's what it would have been on my part. Work. I'm currently at a stage in my life where I have too much on my plate to have a 3rd full time job of maintaining a relationship. Unfortunate, but I think it was for the best.

[DesiredUserphag]

How old are you OP?

Concubines Only Crew

[eatmycrackers]

Thanks for sharing. I have been in a LTR for many years with my girl but I find some of my friends struggle to connect initially with girls which leads to this round robin of dating. One in particular wants nothing more than a LTR but can't seem to connect with anyone. I suggested he get feedback because after enough people disconnecting you need to look inwards. I feel this is the problem a lot of miscers may have too.

Katya, any advice on how to better connect with someone? Lots of introspection needed, IMO.

[Muzzlrpress]

Show us your tits

[-JR]

Great advice from the OP. I was part of the "no hymen no diamond" crew a few years back. Against all the odds, I met a 25 year old girl who checked all the misc boxes. Virgin, sweet, caring, got up at 5am to workout most days (srs), came from a good family, had money (over 2mil in her stock account), everything. Figured I hit the jackpot. After two years of dating and living with each other for a year, I realized we just weren't the best match. She would do anything for me, and I would do (almost) anything for her, but I just wasn't feeling it anymore. Had to cut it off. Sucks but like OP said, there's no formula for a perfect match.

I think we could have made it work, but that's what it would have been on my part. Work. I'm currently at a stage in my life where I have too much on my plate to have a 3rd full time job of maintaining a relationship. Unfortunate, but I think it was for the best.

Damn. I hope in 20 years you're not regretting this decision.

[-JR]

Show us your tits

Straight to the point, lol.

[hoganrulz]

Show us your tits

I'm here for this

[Fang2]

Tldr post pics of ass

[Kiop]

dont think so
SRS

[katya422]

Agree 100% and you're very wise but in general miscers don't like to read this chit.


That's why they are all incels.

Have you heard the saying "When you point your finger at someone there are 4 fingers pointing back at you"?

There seems to have been a real cultural change and I wouldn't say that crew doesn't have a point on some things. You still have to adapt to reality which means changing the things you can change, not wasting time being mad because life isn't fair.

Great advice from the OP. I was part of the "no hymen no diamond" crew a few years back. Against all the odds, I met a 25 year old girl who checked all the misc boxes. Virgin, sweet, caring, got up at 5am to workout most days (srs), came from a good family, had money (over 2mil in her stock account), everything. Figured I hit the jackpot. After two years of dating and living with each other for a year, I realized we just weren't the best match. She would do anything for me, and I would do (almost) anything for her, but I just wasn't feeling it anymore. Had to cut it off. Sucks but like OP said, there's no formula for a perfect match.

I think we could have made it work, but that's what it would have been on my part. Work. I'm currently at a stage in my life where I have too much on my plate to have a 3rd full time job of maintaining a relationship. Unfortunate, but I think it was for the best.

A good relationship does take work. Good to recognize it. Any idea when you might drop that 2nd full time job? Something to think on if you want a family.

[Aristotelian]

OP, we have quoted each other before, so I hope you'll permit me here to ask a reasonably sharp question:

Why should the average Miscer take relationship advice from someone who has been divorced twice?

More generally: I find it quite strange on this forum that the "divorced" or "pay prostitutes" crews seem to be the biggest experts on relationships (from their own posts). Members of this crew often call happily married Miscers part of a "humble brag" group.

On the substance of your post: "body count" is not actually about a number, it is about a behavioral trait. If a man or woman has triple digit body counts, it may be very difficult to imagine how s/he can "settle for one", assuming we are talking about monogamous marriage (the only kind worth talking about). And anyone looking to get into a serious relationship may be very justified in assessing a large number of behavioral traits: plenty of people get married to the wrong person or for the wrong reason...hence the divorce rate I mention above.

[katya422]

Show us your tits

Tldr post pics of ass

Why? You two are experienced miscers. Surely you have them saved someplace.

[SoutheastBeast1]

Doubt all 3 of those kids are his.

Probably the first is his, she got bored somewhere after that and the second one isn't his. Then "got it out of her system" and went back and the third child is his.

Sadly this isn't baseball and a .667 batting average sucks

[kcadrenalin]

Wait....So you re saying there is hope for tradies?

[KathleenRyan]

Would be surprised if I don't end up marrying my current GF. Moving into a house next month with her.

Main reason we aren't getting married now/near future is tax reasons, she was late getting into school, etc. We don't "click" on absolutely everything, but she has integrity and is honest, we care about each other, put effort into communication, and she's hot. Have lived together for about 2 years with no real issues.

[Muzzlrpress]

Why? You two are experienced miscers. Surely you have them saved someplace.

Just the pic of you poppin a squat. It's time for updates.

In short, tits or gtfo.

[six2mogger]

this is a cry for help. any single 0V35 male miscers?

[ChangeOfStyle]

Careful...

Im Intrigued now. If I continue, whats the punishment?

[jeshelton]

just lol at thinking miscers plan anything in their lives

[XPmpnII]

If you are serious about wanting to have a family the common factors I've seen in relationships that last are:

Attraction: Doesn't matter if other people think your choice is hot, just if you think she is attractive. Attraction can start with face + body, but it can also be things like sound of her voice, how she moves, a sparkle in her eyes, the way she dresses, etc. etc. etc.

Good Character: Does she have integrity? Loyalty? Kindness? Perseverance? Bravery? Openness? You may have some others that matter to you. Those first few matter quite a bit though. If she keeps her word, isn't two-faced, wouldn't intentionally lash out at someone who is down, and doesn't quit at the first hard situation, or the second, then you have a better chance of making it.

Shared Vision: Do you want the same thing? Share the way that you prioritize? This is big.

If you can't imagine a life with kids or a life without them then you want to know if you are on the same page early. Is religion important to you and are your partners desires around faith compatible? Do you want to always live near your family or do you want to tramp around until something clicks? Maybe there is someplace that you have always wanted to live. Do you expect to share all of the work (earning money, keeping house, childcare, money management) or are there areas that you want primary control of, or want minimal involvement with? Talk that out. Maybe you both want children, but neither one wants to be a stay home parent. Could be that you can arrange your jobs/work schedules so that you both share in child rearing, or maybe you hire someone or use outside childcare.

I'd say I agree with all of this.

I've been married and was for several years... got cheated on (unfortunately), divorced now... ex is already married again to someone else. And I'd like to meet someone else at some point, but I'm in no rush.... granted, it's hard to not be a little impatient at times because I genuinely enjoyed being married... when you truly find someone that is literally your best friend, your partner, your lover.... all of that... the mental and emotional connection you have with someone when you find that is truly amazing and it honestly can't be beat. But like I said, it's not like wanting some brand new sports car or something like that... you can't just go out here and get it whenever you want. I think it'll come when the time is right....

Honestly, in a way.... I kinda look at it like this. Since part of it is having a best friend, what would you look for in that? Don't even think about it being someone of the opposite sex for a min.... a best friend for me is someone I know I can count on, someone that's gonna be my biggest supporter, loyalty, trust.... someone you genuinely enjoy spending time with and you guys get along, have stuff in common.... like someone I could be around all the time and I enjoy being around them and look forward to it.... someone whose company you enjoy so much to where when you're with them, it seems like time just flies by.... it's not dragging. You could talk with them for hours, etc.... I dunno, that's just me. I think that's what makes the best relationships and marriages. A lot of the ones that have issues or fail are the ones where people are paying more attention IMO to things that just don't really matter all that much.... or shouldn't.

But, ya know, things are a little harder now with all this coronavirus crap going on with stuff being shut down, mask mandates in a lot of places, etc.... it's really hurt going out and meeting people, etc.

Plus when you don't have a social circle or at least not much of one, it makes it a lot harder too. Something that I'm gonna start doing that I would advise others to do, as well, if you're genuinely looking for something.... you don't have to be actively seeking it out to the point of obsession, but I think part of the key is growing your social circle which will inevitably get you more exposure to more women that otherwise may not even know you exist. Get involved in things.... if your own personal faith is important to you and your beliefs (which it is for me), I would encourage people to seek out a church or a place of worship to get involved in. That shouldn't be the reason for you getting involved, but I think a byproduct of it will get you around more people.... thus more exposure to women. I mean, that's just a fact.

What hobbies do you have? What things do you enjoy or what would you do in your free time if it were just you by yourself that brings you happiness and joy? And then maybe find things you could join where you can meet other people that have similar interests.... this is how you build that stuff up. And in all honesty, if you quit focusing so much on finding people of the opposite sex and just look at making friends.... like if you're a guy, even just guy friends that you vibe with and whatnot as a result of doing some of this stuff.... that can get you around more women.


But a big thing that I also wanted to say something about that OP mentioned is the attraction.... don't worry about how other people view who you're eyeing up or maybe going for. What matters is how YOU see them and YOUR attraction to them. Quit worrying about satisfying other people or making sure you get with someone that other people think is hot or attractive.... why should that even matter to you? Stop caring about what others think. That type of chit is a toxic ass mindset that will do nothing but destroy anything that you're potentially trying to build with someone.

[AlBHappy]

OP, we have quoted each other before, so I hope you'll permit me here to ask a reasonably sharp question:

Why should the average Miscer take relationship advice from someone who has been divorced twice?

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^DAS IT MANE^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

First thing I thought.

Marry someone you like and LIKES you.

We all get stuck in our ways as we age. Find someone whose company you enjoy. Needs to be hot too.

Married 24 years crew.

[Kev1972]

Marriagemax goals 2020

[KathleenRyan]

Honestly, in a way.... I kinda look at it like this. Since part of it is having a best friend, what would you look for in that? Don't even think about it being someone of the opposite sex for a min.... a best friend for me is someone I know I can count on, someone that's gonna be my biggest supporter, loyalty, trust.... someone you genuinely enjoy spending time with and you guys get along, have stuff in common.... like someone I could be around all the time and I enjoy being around them and look forward to it.... someone whose company you enjoy so much to where when you're with them, it seems like time just flies by.... it's not dragging. You could talk with them for hours, etc.... I dunno, that's just me. I think that's what makes the best relationships and marriages. A lot of the ones that have issues or fail are the ones where people are paying more attention IMO to things that just don't really matter all that much.... or shouldn't.

Wisdom/10

[DesiredUserphag]

Just the pic of you poppin a squat. It's time for updates.

In short, tits or gtfo.

Awaiting Prime Minister