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09-20-2020, 08:54 AM #61
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09-20-2020, 08:56 AM #62
mate you sound extremely naive. No one is saying that once you get into a relationship do not pay attention to your woman. It just so happens that in the age of 24/7 social media, simping and endless attention that NOT being controlling and having a chill non-chalant attitude is the way to get the girl in the first place. After that; do as you please.
The only time being truly open-and-honest works is when both parties are mature (>25+) or there is a huge looks discrepancy between the dude and the chick. OP sounds like a young dude so he's almost certainly dating a young chick. They don't respond well to good intentions and honesty.6'2",220 currently
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09-20-2020, 09:05 AM #63
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09-20-2020, 09:06 AM #64
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09-20-2020, 09:13 AM #65
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09-20-2020, 09:43 AM #66
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09-20-2020, 09:48 AM #67
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09-20-2020, 10:11 AM #68
She's not a lawyer then - she's going into law school, right?
You know her more than we do so you may know more than us if you think she genuinely wants to be exclusive or not.
My advice would be to do what you want in terms of stopping to talk to other girls or w/e but preoccupy yourself with a lot of other things to keep your mind off if she's doing the same or not. You also need to do this to slow down your attachment so you don't become blinded by your emotions and can still view her with a clear mind.
IMO a lot of quality people naturally become monogamous before the "official talk."
If you do have a serious talk, I wouldn't focus on deleting tinder or using bf/gf labels, I would just want to confirm y'all ain't sleeping with anyone else while you get to know each other and see where this may go.
"Locking her down" with labels and making sure she deletes the apps to soon can come off a bit needy/insecure/controlling.
From my experience though, if a woman doesn't want you sleeping with anyone else she will bring it up one way or another.Last edited by skinnyfat88; 09-20-2020 at 10:29 AM.
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09-20-2020, 10:12 AM #69
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09-20-2020, 10:12 AM #70
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09-20-2020, 10:25 AM #71
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09-20-2020, 10:29 AM #72
3 dates is way too early to start talking about things like telling the other person to get off tinder or whatever. Even if you dated her for months and you both agreed to be exclusive, it's not the sort of thing you want to have to convince someone to do. If a woman doesn't voluntarily decide to stop using dating aps like tinder of her own volition, then don't expect it to go well if you try telling her to. Even if she agreed and followed through, it's just going to build up resentment in her mind down the road.
Honestly, that logic applies to most things about relationships. You never want to be trying to convince someone you're in a relationship with to change their behaviors in a significant way. Because again, even if they listen and change whatever it is you didn't like, it will make them resentful eventually and cause issues in the relationship. If they don't change something like the tinder thing automatically on their own, you can try bringing it up as a mild discussion where you explain your thoughts on it, but without asking them to change it just because you want them to. If you feel like you have to convince someone to change something about their behavior significantly, then you're probably not as good of a fit as you think you are.
Cliffs:
- 3 dates is way too soon to talk about things like that
- Don't waste your time trying to convince someone to change their behavior for a relationship with you
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09-20-2020, 10:49 AM #73
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09-20-2020, 10:55 AM #74
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09-20-2020, 10:59 AM #75
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09-20-2020, 11:01 AM #76
op, the best advice i can give you is dont get attached, and certainly dont start acting like a love sick puppy towards her. it will backfire on you.
if you must try to turn this into a relationship then at least wait until you fuk her, then put it to her in a more dominant way. dont say "i like you and want to be exclusive"
it might also be wise to ask her what her intentions are, see if shes even looking for a relationship, or if she just wants to screw around. but again, i emphasize the point, dont act like a sprung sissy towards her, shel go NC on you immediately if you do that.
this. the vast majority of girls on tinder (possibly 100% of them) are not looking for exclusive relationships.Merica
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09-20-2020, 11:24 AM #77
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09-20-2020, 11:25 AM #78
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09-20-2020, 11:34 AM #79
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09-20-2020, 11:36 AM #80
this. be very careful.
i almost f*cked up my situation by doing exactly the same
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09-20-2020, 11:40 AM #81
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