Low-Self esteem, Co-Dependency, NPD and attraction to BPD women [Serious Discussion]

[sandman2019]

Hi Guys,

I was reading through this thread https://forum.bodybuilding.com/showt...5447541&page=1 and it really resonated with me.

I strongly believe my ex had BPD. In this thread people said how men have killed themselves after dealing with BPD women. I think I understand this now.

Here are some traits I believe that make me think my ex had BPD:

- Was talking to me about babies and moving in with me in the first few months of dating
- Would start crying if i told her i couldn't see her and post on social media saying things such as "i hate men" "i'm no second option"
- extremely physically affectionate and cuddly.
- Extremely clingy, constantly texting and would get really angry / start calling me i i don't respond after an hour.
- Love bombed me at the start, was extremely affectionate, always asking if i'm ok, if i'm feeling ok, etc Then over time, she started devaluing me, showing me 0 empathy and being hype critical of me, like this time I hurt my arm real bad and she didn't even care or I had really bad stomach cramps after sex (i was in agony) and she literally didn't give a **** at all as i was next to her in agony.
- Her ex was "abusive and narcissistic"
- She engages in reckless behavior (high sex count sleeps with anyone and anything)
- Always has a man, is never "single"
- Daddy issues.
- The man she left me for she was "in love with him" within the first few dates of meeting him



Anyway, I remember when i was with her feeling like i was 'Brad Pitt' . Having NPD (narcissism), Low self esteem and co dependency issues myself... she gave me so much fuel and such a high when she left/cheated i was absolutely crushed.



Since her, i've dated a few girls and found all of them boring except one. This one particular women.. had had 4 boyfriends by 21, an abortion and had clear issues (her ******** has a tonne of statuses saying things like "does any guy want to get to know me and call all night") When i dated this women briefly I instantly felt attracted to her.


Upon further reflection i'm starting to see a common pattern here. It seems, that I am attracted to co-dependent, BPD women. I think their clingy behaviour and low self esteem fuels my NPD and my own co dependency.


Has anyone with these issues been able to recover themselves and thus able to attract a normal female with normal self esteem and no issues.

[Imnew1]

Time for you to do 100 pushups right now vs posting this pathetic bs and whatever nonsense is coming from your Huramby alt.

I hate to side with a cheater but I side with your ex for leaving you for another guy. You’re clearly a troll or a huge loser.

If you’re somehow not an annoying troll and just a pathetic loser, then you’re just pissed she’s with another guy more than anything. If she was single and just living her life happy without you then you wouldn’t really care. Your precious Samantha is getting it raw and probably swallowing cum and every dirty intimate thing you can think of, and he can kick your ass too. You’ve let this determine your value bc tinder hoes don’t measure up to this affectionate tinder hoe you dated for a short while. You’re pathetic. You should be happy you had fun while you did and quit worrying about wtf she’s doing. Your problem is you’re miserable by yourself and you’re a loser.

Now go log onto your stupid Huramby alt and post 3 more threads tonight whining and crying about this stupid 5/10 Indian chick bc that’s what you’ll do anyways you troll.

[iloveus]

I wrote her off for the tenth time today
And practiced all the things I would say
But she came over, I lost my nerve
I took her back and made her dessert

Now I know I'm being used
That's okay, man, 'cause I like the abuse
I know she's playing with me
That's okay 'cause I got no self-esteem

We make plans to go out at night
I wait 'til 2 then I turn out the light
This rejection's got me so low
If she keeps it up I just might tell her so

When she's saying that she wants only me
Then I wonder why she sleeps with my friends
When she's saying that I'm like a disease
Then I wonder how much more I can spend
Well, I guess I should stick up for myself
But I really think it's better this way
The more you suffer
The more it shows you really care
Right? Yeah, yeah, yeah

Now I'll relate this little bit
That happens more than I'd like to admit
Late at night she knocks on my door
She's drunk again and looking to score

Now I know I should say "No"
But it's kind of hard when she's ready to go
I may be dumb but I'm not a dweeb
I'm just a sucker with no self-esteem

When she's saying that she wants only me
Then I wonder why she sleeps with my friends
When she's saying that I'm like a disease
Then I wonder how much more I can spend
Well, I guess I should stick up for myself
But I really think it's better this way
The more you suffer
The more it shows you really care
Right? Yeah, yeah, yeah

[Leaf12]

Wtf is with all these BPD threads.

Yes that sounds like a Borderline.

[snailsrus]

Go read about bpd and decide I ain’t scrolling through it, but she’s missing attempting suicide or treat of which is a huge piece

https://cdn.website-editor.net/30f11.../DSM%2520V.pdf

[SteadyFlexOnU]

Dont stikk ur dik in crazay

[smashedurgfx10]

craziness loves craziness

disagree. crazy people hide their craziness until you're sucked in and in fact the more 'normal' you are the more easily you're susceptible to it

the only thing which combats crazy girls is experience and strong willpower

[1320it]

Have you ever considered OP that you are the one who is BPD?

[sandman2019]

Time for you to do 100 pushups right now vs posting this pathetic bs and whatever nonsense is coming from your Huramby alt.

I hate to side with a cheater but I side with your ex for leaving you for another guy. You’re clearly a troll or a huge loser.

If you’re somehow not an annoying troll and just a pathetic loser, then you’re just pissed she’s with another guy more than anything. If she was single and just living her life happy without you then you wouldn’t really care. Your precious Samantha is getting it raw and probably swallowing cum and every dirty intimate thing you can think of, and he can kick your ass too. You’ve let this determine your value bc tinder hoes don’t measure up to this affectionate tinder hoe you dated for a short while. You’re pathetic. You should be happy you had fun while you did and quit worrying about wtf she’s doing. Your problem is you’re miserable by yourself and you’re a loser.

Now go log onto your stupid Huramby alt and post 3 more threads tonight whining and crying about this stupid 5/10 Indian chick bc that’s what you’ll do anyways you troll.

5/10? even u said she was hot man i miss her.

I'm not a loser. i just have low self esteem

I have a degree, a job at a bank, i have a few friends, i workout, eat well etc on face value i'm nt a loser but inside i'm broken and i miss her

[elterrible987]

You guys bring that chit on yourselves, you tolerate that chit. Look at the list below you posted, that is a batchit crazy woman. That is a person with such major damage to their core being that you cannot fix them. Only some desperate idiot would stay around that. That chit would have me running for the hills. Like some sloot that has all these problems, there is nothing you can do, you cant fix them, you cant just "be more alpha" or do this or that, there is nothing you can do on your end to make it work with a damaged manipulative woman. You stay because youre desperate even when in the back of your mind you know you should be leaving and going no contact you stay and hope she would somehow magically change. You have to cut that chit out.



"Here are some traits I believe that make me think my ex had BPD:

- Was talking to me about babies and moving in with me in the first few months of dating
- Would start crying if i told her i couldn't see her and post on social media saying things such as "i hate men" "i'm no second option"
- extremely physically affectionate and cuddly.
- Extremely clingy, constantly texting and would get really angry / start calling me i i don't respond after an hour.
- Love bombed me at the start, was extremely affectionate, always asking if i'm ok, if i'm feeling ok, etc Then over time, she started devaluing me, showing me 0 empathy and being hype critical of me, like this time I hurt my arm real bad and she didn't even care or I had really bad stomach cramps after sex (i was in agony) and she literally didn't give a **** at all as i was next to her in agony.
- Her ex was "abusive and narcissistic"
- She engages in reckless behavior (high sex count sleeps with anyone and anything)
- Always has a man, is never "single"
- Daddy issues.
- The man she left me for she was "in love with him" within the first few dates of meeting him"

[Imnew1]

5/10? even u said she was hot man i miss her.

I'm not a loser. i just have low self esteem

I have a degree, a job at a bank, i have a few friends, i workout, eat well etc on face value i'm nt a loser but inside i'm broken and i miss her

I’ve never even seen her minus one picture you posted of her booty in workout pants and it was nothing amazing, so I never said she was hot.

Go bump your Huramby thread yesterday announcing that you were finally over her, then come back to this to talk about her more. Or do 100 pushups and get out and enjoy a nice day. The choice is yours.

[Dale1988]

Have same problem op. You likely have some sort of personality or social disorder to some degree.

You just have to look offline for girls and be aware of the red flags