Moved in together and now I feel trapped

[Poodleman]

To keep it short here are the cliffs:
- Moved in with my gf 2 months ago
- First we both were super busy so we were not very sexually active
-Started wanting other girls and wanting my gf less
- At this point I have no sexual desire for my gf anymore
- Sexually frustrated and also don't feel the romance/ excitement like I used to

Before we moved in, I definetely was attracted to her and we were having sex often
Now its like shes just a living partner, I still care about her and can't break up
I just don't know what the sollution is to this
Tried talking about it with her but thats definetely not the way.. she gets super personal and offended by it
Any advice?

[soberchuck]

There's gotta be more to this.

Quit porn and you should want her plenty.

[bishdipbrah]

Wow poodle man thats tragic!

Some times really really bad things happen to good people ya know?


Go cry elsewhere feg

[Poodleman]

There's gotta be more to this.

Quit porn and you should want her plenty.

I've been doing no fap for 8 days now. I watched much more porn and fapped daily before we moved in as well
One thing is that I have been noticing a lot of hot girls in my class and this was also a problem at first.
I've also cheated in the past tbh, but I felt bad about it and definetely don't want to do that again

[soberchuck]

I was in the same boat at your age tbh. Liked a girl, moved in together but gradually felt like it was getting too serious and I had missed out.

Eventually broke up, which will probably happen here unless you can pull off some poly setup.

Don't cheat, that kills dat dere soul.

[dolvioblue]

Why are you already living with someone at 23?

[hely26]

I think you moved in together too quickly.
If you have lost the desire for a girl in 2 months, then you definitely have no common future.
I understand that you are afraid to tell truth to your girlfriend because you do not want to offend her, but you will still have to do it someday because sooner or later you will get tired of such a life.
And at this time she will think that everything is all right in your relationship, and will think about a common future with you, or maybe will fall in love with you. Therefore, for her and for you it will be better to tell everything now and break up than to wait until you get used to each other, and then it will hurt more

[skinnyfat88]

If you legit don't find her attractive anymore (& she hasn't gained a bunch of weight or anything) then it's game over.

If the sex has just gotten a bit stale then it might be salvageable if you want to work through it and come up with ideas that might turn it around.

[Lastrepbrah]

Moving in with someone before marriage at 23? U don goofed, boyo.


Tell her the truth and move on. You'll thank yourself for this in the long run

[Zackad]

If you legit don't find her attractive anymore (& she hasn't gained a bunch of weight or anything) then it's game over.

If the sex has just gotten a bit stale then it might be salvageable if you want to work through it and come up with ideas that might turn it around.

this

you either need to break up, or find a way to spice things up a bit depending on which of the above issues it is.

[the700level]

Same thing happened to me bro and she just moved out

4 year relationship

Another covid casualty

[Murph0408]

Same thing happened to me bro and she just moved out

4 year relationship

Another covid casualty

well i don't know if i can compare your situation - 4 years - to OP's where it seems like they immediately lost the spark. but a covid casualty is happening everywhere this year when it comes to dating. it is honestly not fair to be stuck with somebody this much day in and day out. it is very difficult to say with a straight face that you're completely cool with seeing eachother every single day, all day, working from home together etc.

my lady and i are going through it and it's not as fun as it was when i was gone all day at the office and we'd meet up after work and catch up with eachother. you need to have your own lives.

[MeFromG]

About what exactly do you try to talk with your gf? That you lost attraction, that you don't have / have barely sex anymore, that you think there is a problem in your relationship? What exactly do you try to communicate to her and "it's not working" then?

If you try to talk to her about all the issues you mentioned and feel you have - then why don't you suggest going to couple's therapy?
Maybe you two could sort it out with help of a neutral, third one, a professional.

If you two do / she does nothing however, it's not difficult to figure out where your rs is probably heading towards.