There was a guy I was kinda suspicious about, some comments on her social media etc. I also know they had some sexual history.
I confronted her last night and point blank asked her if she had met up with him since we started in the relationship. She denied it. Repeatedly. Over and over. Very convincing.
I demanded she open her messages if she was being honest and she actually showed me. His first name wasn't correct in the contact list; she had some stupid explanation. I scrolled and saw some back and forths a couple of months after we were exclusive; I saw that she had asked to meet for drinks and they met.
She then claimed that she had forgot they met.
In March, I saw another back and forth about plans to go to a restaurant. She had just started living with me at this point (coronavirus lockdowns). The plans fell through because she was sick.
That's the end of their messages.
She then kinda admitted to meeting him, but said there was no sex. They had only had sex twice years ago. They were just friends.
I told her it was done and she has to move out immediately. It's happening now.
We were due to move into an apartment together next week; I will now be moving alone and fronting the full rent which sucks.
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Thread: Ended it w/ girlfriend of 1 year
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09-01-2020, 02:27 PM #1
Ended it w/ girlfriend of 1 year
𝕮𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖈𝖍𝖊𝖈𝕶, 𝖓𝖊𝖛𝖊𝖗 𝖈𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖇𝖎𝖙𝖈𝖍
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09-01-2020, 02:37 PM #2
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09-01-2020, 02:49 PM #4
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09-01-2020, 02:56 PM #5
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09-01-2020, 02:58 PM #6
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09-01-2020, 03:03 PM #7
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09-01-2020, 03:04 PM #8
Sorry it went down like that. Respect for making the hard choices.
How did she respond, tears and gaslighting or resignation? Also where's she going? I know it's not your problem but I assume she's not sleeping on the streets tonight?"A stupid man's report of what a clever man says can never be accurate, because he unconsciously translates what he hears into something he can understand."
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09-01-2020, 03:08 PM #9
This guy seems like an old FWB type thing. But I think my instinct was on point, just directed at the wrong guy if that makes sense.
It's difficult/painful for sure. But this one is at least pretty clear cut I think.
She gaslighted a bit at first and I called her out on it. Then did it again this morning by remarking on my timing and had messaged friends saying how I was untrusting.
Now, it's more just tears and resignation. I'm sure they'll all make me out to be the bad guy, that's how it goes down. She will stay with friends.𝕮𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖈𝖍𝖊𝖈𝕶, 𝖓𝖊𝖛𝖊𝖗 𝖈𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖇𝖎𝖙𝖈𝖍
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09-01-2020, 03:10 PM #10
I've been there, sadly, and you did the right thing. Nobody, man or woman, should be hanging out one-on-one with someone they've had history with while in a relationship. Also, if she had sex with him in the past and is still interested in seeing him, then it must not have been so bad. Even if she didn't cheat, she was definitely tempted.
Though I'm curious as to why you think she was dating you instead of him in the first place. Does it seem like he's not a relationship type of guy?*Natural Calves Crew*
Short, stubby limbs, chest gap, narrow shoulders, wide hips, balding, but all that and I've still got those Natural Calves Crew ^^
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09-01-2020, 03:11 PM #11
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09-01-2020, 03:15 PM #12
I honestly don't know, could be a lot of reasons. She said they were friends for years, then eventually had sex... seems like FWB type deal.
I don't believe anything she says now regardless so it doesn't matter, because she's proven she can lie well to me. So even on that basis, it has to end.𝕮𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖈𝖍𝖊𝖈𝕶, 𝖓𝖊𝖛𝖊𝖗 𝖈𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖇𝖎𝖙𝖈𝖍
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09-01-2020, 03:18 PM #13
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09-01-2020, 03:22 PM #17
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09-01-2020, 03:23 PM #19
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09-01-2020, 03:26 PM #20
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09-01-2020, 03:26 PM #21
It was a FWB type thing when it happened to me too. Basically the type of guy that's always getting girls and doesn't want to settle down, but the girls keep in contact while dating other guys in the hope that he eventually changes his mind. Seems to be pretty common now, due to people being so well-connected in this age (phones + social media).
Anyway, really sorry to hear about this. Keep your chin up, stay positive, and keep on searching for the right girl.*Natural Calves Crew*
Short, stubby limbs, chest gap, narrow shoulders, wide hips, balding, but all that and I've still got those Natural Calves Crew ^^
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09-01-2020, 03:50 PM #22
I think some people "stay friends" with casual flings to make themselves feel better about having them ie "oh he legit values me as a friend and we just so happened to also hook up but I'm not just some booty call and I will prove it by staying friends with him after I stop putting out."
But it's a poor excuse and not worth jeopardizing relationships over.
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09-01-2020, 04:29 PM #23
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09-01-2020, 04:34 PM #24
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That sucks man but keep your head up bro, hopefully you'll find a chick that's compatible with ya in every way mate. ****ing cheaters mate, bunch of degeenerate ****s.
All for the best tho man, better off it happening now then if you were married and had kidsif you need someone to chat with, don't hesitate to shoot me a PM.
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09-01-2020, 04:42 PM #25
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09-01-2020, 04:49 PM #26
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09-01-2020, 04:55 PM #27
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09-01-2020, 05:54 PM #28
You did the right thing with strongly confronting her even though she was manipulating while acting like you were controlling. Cheaters or manipulators almost always behave that way, and try to turn things on you as if you're in the wrong. That's some teenage type of behavior there.
Keep your head up high. She can try to say whatever but deep down she will feel like sh!t that she did this, and lost someone great. Maybe not now but eventually. Not the type of girl you want in your life, so you made a great decision and will walk away with self respect intact. She was betraying you with those messages and contact with him..really low stuff there, weak integrity etc. You'll find better man!
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09-01-2020, 05:57 PM #29
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