Reply
Page 7 of 7 FirstFirst ... 5 6 7
Results 181 to 193 of 193
  1. #181
    Registered User 1320it's Avatar
    Join Date: Dec 2019
    Age: 50
    Posts: 121
    Rep Power: 2395
    1320it is just really nice. (+1000) 1320it is just really nice. (+1000) 1320it is just really nice. (+1000) 1320it is just really nice. (+1000) 1320it is just really nice. (+1000) 1320it is just really nice. (+1000) 1320it is just really nice. (+1000) 1320it is just really nice. (+1000) 1320it is just really nice. (+1000) 1320it is just really nice. (+1000) 1320it is just really nice. (+1000)
    1320it is offline
    Originally Posted by skinnyfat88 View Post
    That just proves you made the right decision.

    Blocking you may be to help get over you though, not to be purposely "cold."
    I blocked all my exes for that reason. It makes it easier to go to North Carolina
    Reply With Quote

  2. #182
    ๐Ÿ…ณ๐Ÿ…ฐ๐Ÿ†‚ ๐Ÿ…ธ๐Ÿ†ƒ Luc1fer's Avatar
    Join Date: Jun 2014
    Posts: 26,097
    Rep Power: 398250
    Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000)
    Luc1fer is online now
    Originally Posted by MediocreGains View Post
    I think it's useful to have clear boundaries. Some girls are for fuking. Some girls are for dating. And some girls are for marrying.
    This is key here. I knew this girl was not marriage material at the beginning; I overcorrected from the strict set of criteria I typically have (which I've been criticized on) and went too far the other direction. Started to develop some feelings.

    This girl was a slut, and her friends were. Sluts gon' slut.

    Should've kept her in fuk zone. Lesson learned.
    ๐•ฎ๐–๐–†๐–˜๐–Š ๐–† ๐–ˆ๐–๐–Š๐–ˆ๐•ถ, ๐–“๐–Š๐–›๐–Š๐–— ๐–ˆ๐–๐–†๐–˜๐–Š ๐–† ๐–‡๐–Ž๐–™๐–ˆ๐–
    Reply With Quote

  3. #183
    Registered User Rebel012's Avatar
    Join Date: May 2018
    Location: Canada
    Age: 37
    Posts: 1,817
    Rep Power: 16850
    Rebel012 is a splendid one to behold. (+10000) Rebel012 is a splendid one to behold. (+10000) Rebel012 is a splendid one to behold. (+10000) Rebel012 is a splendid one to behold. (+10000) Rebel012 is a splendid one to behold. (+10000) Rebel012 is a splendid one to behold. (+10000) Rebel012 is a splendid one to behold. (+10000) Rebel012 is a splendid one to behold. (+10000) Rebel012 is a splendid one to behold. (+10000) Rebel012 is a splendid one to behold. (+10000) Rebel012 is a splendid one to behold. (+10000)
    Rebel012 is offline
    Originally Posted by Rabbitjb View Post
    Isn't that a bit overboard? How does that reframing help you?

    She met up with a male friend for dinner didnโ€™t she? Without telling you and you found out later. Yes absolutely in the context of your relationship and ground rules that was not ok and sufficient to end the relationship

    But doesnโ€™t make her a slut
    This. OP, in all honesty, I like you as a poster, but you tend to throw that word around as a pejorative term far too often. At times you use it just to describe a girl whose values deviate slightly from your own, and the slur actually loses force when applied with abandon.
    Reply With Quote

  4. #184
    ๐Ÿ…ณ๐Ÿ…ฐ๐Ÿ†‚ ๐Ÿ…ธ๐Ÿ†ƒ Luc1fer's Avatar
    Join Date: Jun 2014
    Posts: 26,097
    Rep Power: 398250
    Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000)
    Luc1fer is online now
    Originally Posted by Rebel012 View Post
    This. OP, in all honesty, I like you as a poster, but you tend to throw that word around as a pejorative term far too often. At times you use it just to describe a girl whose values deviate slightly from your own, and the slur actually loses force when applied with abandon.
    I'm not applying it in abandon here. There were clear flags early and then continuous flags for how slutty these girls were and are, and actually it turned out she was dishonest and shady about multiple guys.

    She is a slut Rabbitjb; her and her friends are almost as slutty as they come. I can give you specific examples.

    I will apply this criteria next time and categorize her appropriately.

    Edit: I obviously agree that values are most important, but high promiscuity doesn't sit well with me. In this situation her "guy friend" was a guy she also fukked at least twice and had a history with.

    Edit2: Rebel I will concede I was too judgemental in my other LTR, she wasnโ€™t a slut. I was just uncomfortable because my own count was so low. So Iโ€™ve definitely shifted on that, but overcorrected this time.
    Last edited by Luc1fer; 09-28-2020 at 12:12 AM.
    ๐•ฎ๐–๐–†๐–˜๐–Š ๐–† ๐–ˆ๐–๐–Š๐–ˆ๐•ถ, ๐–“๐–Š๐–›๐–Š๐–— ๐–ˆ๐–๐–†๐–˜๐–Š ๐–† ๐–‡๐–Ž๐–™๐–ˆ๐–
    Reply With Quote

  5. #185
    ๐Ÿ…ณ๐Ÿ…ฐ๐Ÿ†‚ ๐Ÿ…ธ๐Ÿ†ƒ Luc1fer's Avatar
    Join Date: Jun 2014
    Posts: 26,097
    Rep Power: 398250
    Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000)
    Luc1fer is online now
    Originally Posted by MediocreGains View Post
    This is just my opinion, but you don't need a big reason to end a relationship. I remember you mentioning several times that you didn't really see her as future wife material, and I think that's more than enough reason to end things before things get too serious. When you're young you can let relationships just go on and on, but at our age I think it's pointless unless you see real potential with her. Maybe that's cold, but it's better than wasting each other's time. Better for the woman too.

    I think it's useful to have clear boundaries. Some girls are for fuking. Some girls are for dating. And some girls are for marrying. I know that there's more nuance to this and it's not always cut and clear, but at the end of the day, your head probably knows what's good for you better than your heart or your dick.

    I often ended things at the drop of a hat, and it worked out for me eventually. And I wasn't even looking for marriage. That said, it could've been just dumb luck on my part, so I don't really know if that is the right answer.
    Quoting this again. This resonated hard with me and this situation. Nailed it.
    ๐•ฎ๐–๐–†๐–˜๐–Š ๐–† ๐–ˆ๐–๐–Š๐–ˆ๐•ถ, ๐–“๐–Š๐–›๐–Š๐–— ๐–ˆ๐–๐–†๐–˜๐–Š ๐–† ๐–‡๐–Ž๐–™๐–ˆ๐–
    Reply With Quote

  6. #186
    Banned LtGoose's Avatar
    Join Date: Jan 2014
    Location: Dallas, Texas, United States
    Age: 29
    Posts: 16,183
    Rep Power: 0
    LtGoose has a brilliant future. Third best rank! (+40000) LtGoose has a brilliant future. Third best rank! (+40000) LtGoose has a brilliant future. Third best rank! (+40000) LtGoose has a brilliant future. Third best rank! (+40000) LtGoose has a brilliant future. Third best rank! (+40000) LtGoose has a brilliant future. Third best rank! (+40000) LtGoose has a brilliant future. Third best rank! (+40000) LtGoose has a brilliant future. Third best rank! (+40000) LtGoose has a brilliant future. Third best rank! (+40000) LtGoose has a brilliant future. Third best rank! (+40000) LtGoose has a brilliant future. Third best rank! (+40000)
    LtGoose is offline
    Looking forward to Tindr threads , gotta get back up on the ONS horse
    Reply With Quote

  7. #187
    Registered User Legz422's Avatar
    Join Date: Sep 2017
    Age: 51
    Posts: 23,563
    Rep Power: 271470
    Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000)
    Legz422 is offline
    Originally Posted by Luc1fer View Post
    I'm not applying it in abandon here. There were clear flags early and then continuous flags for how slutty these girls were and are, and actually it turned out she was dishonest and shady about multiple guys.

    She is a slut Rabbitjb; her and her friends are almost as slutty as they come. I can give you specific examples.

    I will apply this criteria next time and categorize her appropriately.

    Edit: I obviously agree that values are most important, but high promiscuity doesn't sit well with me. In this situation her "guy friend" was a guy she also fukked at least twice and had a history with.

    Edit2: Rebel I will concede I was too judgemental in my other LTR, she wasnโ€™t a slut. I was just uncomfortable because my own count was so low. So Iโ€™ve definitely shifted on that, but overcorrected this time.
    How did you find that out? Do you think she was physically cheating?
    Unapproved sig line
    Reply With Quote

  8. #188
    ๐Ÿ…ณ๐Ÿ…ฐ๐Ÿ†‚ ๐Ÿ…ธ๐Ÿ†ƒ Luc1fer's Avatar
    Join Date: Jun 2014
    Posts: 26,097
    Rep Power: 398250
    Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000)
    Luc1fer is online now
    Originally Posted by Legz422 View Post
    How did you find that out? Do you think she was physically cheating?
    She gave me her phone. I read through her messages, searching for the guys names I had suspicions about.

    One was that work guy #1 who she described as her arch-nemesis (you may remember my skepticism about him). She had texts to friends about him being annoyingly cute at work events and strong hints that she wanted to fuk him.
    Another was a work guy #2 I actually met, he was cool. He had a gf, but she had messages to her girlfriend saying he asked her out to boba and it was so HOT that he took initiative.

    There was no mention of her physically cheating with any of them, and the msgs to her close friends suggested otherwise too.

    But that's disrespectful and shady as hell. My intuition was absolutely correct on the first work guy. I didn't pick up on the second at all and didn't realize she saw him that way.

    Slut.
    ๐•ฎ๐–๐–†๐–˜๐–Š ๐–† ๐–ˆ๐–๐–Š๐–ˆ๐•ถ, ๐–“๐–Š๐–›๐–Š๐–— ๐–ˆ๐–๐–†๐–˜๐–Š ๐–† ๐–‡๐–Ž๐–™๐–ˆ๐–
    Reply With Quote

  9. #189
    Registered User Legz422's Avatar
    Join Date: Sep 2017
    Age: 51
    Posts: 23,563
    Rep Power: 271470
    Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000)
    Legz422 is offline
    Originally Posted by Luc1fer View Post
    She gave me her phone. I read through her messages, searching for the guys names I had suspicions about.

    One was that work guy #1 who she described as her arch-nemesis (you may remember my skepticism about him). She had texts to friends about him being annoyingly cute at work events and strong hints that she wanted to fuk him.
    Another was a work guy #2 I actually met, he was cool. He had a gf, but she had messages to her girlfriend saying he asked her out to boba and it was so HOT that he took initiative.

    There was no mention of her physically cheating with any of them, and the msgs to her close friends suggested otherwise too.

    But that's disrespectful and shady as hell. My intuition was absolutely correct on the first work guy. I didn't pick up on the second at all and didn't realize she saw him that way.

    Slut.
    Ohhhh I see. So those texts where she was telling her friends how hot those co workers were, was that while she was with you?
    Unapproved sig line
    Reply With Quote

  10. #190
    ๐Ÿ…ณ๐Ÿ…ฐ๐Ÿ†‚ ๐Ÿ…ธ๐Ÿ†ƒ Luc1fer's Avatar
    Join Date: Jun 2014
    Posts: 26,097
    Rep Power: 398250
    Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000)
    Luc1fer is online now
    Originally Posted by Legz422 View Post
    Ohhhh I see. So those texts where she was telling her friends how hot those co workers were, was that while she was with you?
    It was around the time we met, I know the second was after we met but maybe a month in (?) So not terrible in that aspect.

    But both of these guys, she was insistent that nothing would or could ever happen. She even made that puke face about the first guy.

    Just a liar in general. Really persistent and believable liar too, it's kinda disturbing.

    Regardless though, it wasn't because of those guys I ended it.
    ๐•ฎ๐–๐–†๐–˜๐–Š ๐–† ๐–ˆ๐–๐–Š๐–ˆ๐•ถ, ๐–“๐–Š๐–›๐–Š๐–— ๐–ˆ๐–๐–†๐–˜๐–Š ๐–† ๐–‡๐–Ž๐–™๐–ˆ๐–
    Reply With Quote

  11. #191
    Registered User Legz422's Avatar
    Join Date: Sep 2017
    Age: 51
    Posts: 23,563
    Rep Power: 271470
    Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000)
    Legz422 is offline
    Originally Posted by Luc1fer View Post
    It was around the time we met, I know the second was after we met but maybe a month in (?) So not terrible in that aspect.

    But both of these guys, she was insistent that nothing would or could ever happen. She even made that puke face about the first guy.

    Just a liar in general. Really persistent and believable liar too, it's kinda disturbing.

    Regardless though, it wasn't because of those guys I ended it.
    That just makes you doubt everything. :/ It sucks finding out someone you cared bout lied to you.
    Unapproved sig line
    Reply With Quote

  12. #192
    ๐Ÿ…ณ๐Ÿ…ฐ๐Ÿ†‚ ๐Ÿ…ธ๐Ÿ†ƒ Luc1fer's Avatar
    Join Date: Jun 2014
    Posts: 26,097
    Rep Power: 398250
    Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Luc1fer has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000)
    Luc1fer is online now
    Originally Posted by Legz422 View Post
    That just makes you doubt everything. :/ It sucks finding out someone you cared bout lied to you.
    I mean it sucks when you behave in a respectful way, and respect the relationship, but then find out that they weren't.

    Behaving appropriately means making certain sacrifices for the relationship. If I did what she did, the guilt would eat me up inside, clearly it didn't for her.

    My friend explained that's just a core value difference; her values dictate that as long as I didn't know, it's okay. And that value system cannot work in a healthy relationship, because they aren't universally shared values.
    ๐•ฎ๐–๐–†๐–˜๐–Š ๐–† ๐–ˆ๐–๐–Š๐–ˆ๐•ถ, ๐–“๐–Š๐–›๐–Š๐–— ๐–ˆ๐–๐–†๐–˜๐–Š ๐–† ๐–‡๐–Ž๐–™๐–ˆ๐–
    Reply With Quote

  13. #193
    Registered User Legz422's Avatar
    Join Date: Sep 2017
    Age: 51
    Posts: 23,563
    Rep Power: 271470
    Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000) Legz422 has a reputation beyond repute. Second best rank possible! (+100000)
    Legz422 is offline
    Originally Posted by Luc1fer View Post
    I mean it sucks when you behave in a respectful way, and respect the relationship, but then find out that they weren't.

    Behaving appropriately means making certain sacrifices for the relationship. If I did what she did, the guilt would eat me up inside, clearly it didn't for her.

    My friend explained that's just a core value difference; her values dictate that as long as I didn't know, it's okay. And that value system cannot work in a healthy relationship, because they aren't universally shared values.
    Absolutely agree.
    Unapproved sig line
    Reply With Quote

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts